Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[Mrs W 11]

I am so pleased they were able to make such a sad occasion so special for your munchkin, I understand that it must have made a big difference to you going through so much heartbreak and grief to be treated so delicately and to feel that the midwives and hospital understood. I am sorry that you have had to go through this but I am so happy that you have a special place to go now and think of Rowan and to know your beautiful angel is resting in peace now.

Sending love and hugs to you today xx

 

[Button#]

Sounds like a beautiful service, I'm glad it was so special and you had such a supportive midwife.

 

[Mrs W 11]

As for me, 8dpo today and feeling glad at least that my cycle has been so much more normal this month. No sign of spotting or bleeding all cycle at all (touch wood) and last cycle my af arrived tomorrow so I am praying it stays away, ideally for 9 months but if not at least another 6 days!! No symptoms at all happening!

Feeling a bit down really, I have a work friend who is only 26 but found out suddenly in January that he had a brain tumour. He then found out after they removed the tumour that it was cancerous and today found out he has been told he has around 5 years to live. He is being very positive, it certainly puts my worries into perspective.

Anyway, how is everyone doing today?

x

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks mrs w and button x

Glad your cycles looking more normal mrs w. It's so nice to feel like things are getting back to normal! Fingers crossed AF stays away for the full 9 months!!
So sad about your colleague. I have a colleague who's in his early 30s and he was diagnosed with terminal cancer last year. He's been doing some trial therapies but it looks like they're not working. He's amazing, also presents a breakfast show so he's in work by 5 every mirning around his treatment. He sent me a message after we lost Rowan and yes it puts it into perspective. The bravery of people amazes me x

My opk looked lighter this morning. I'm not doing any more hpts but daily opks are useful. I seem to be having a lot of mucous too but it's often light brown or pink tinged so not sure if it's real cm x

 

[Button#]

Mrs W - I'm so sorry about your friend.

Ashley is being a pickle today with teething. Nothing much to report otherwise but I might take an OPK in a minute.

 

[loribelle]

Munchkin. I was just reading your story. I'm so sorry about Rowan.
DH and I went to the memorial service for our mc at 6 weeks. There were two other couples there. Not that I asked but I got the impression that they had had later losses. I'm pleased we went although it was very upsetting.
Hello mrs w. I saw that you're 8dpo. Me too! I've also been having acupuncture which is definitely doing something. I'm not spotting but I am still having weird cramps/pain. I don't know whether to go back to the doctor again or whether this is just the way I am now and have to get used to it! I'm toying with the idea of asking my go whether I would be suitable for clomid. I got pregnant so easily with ds and this time round it just doesn't seem to be happening. Everyone keeps saying that I'm young(35 almost 36) but we've been trying for 10 months now and it just doesn't feel like I'll ever get pregnant again.
Sorry for the lengthy moan and would it be ok if I joined you all?
L x

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hi loribelle, please do join us!! Tww buddies!! I've had loads of cramping too, dreaded seeing spotting but so far nothing.

I'm 33 and dh is 40 and we'd like 2 more children yet so I understand the clock ticking! I'm sorry for your loss and the time it's taking ttc again, I hope you get your bfp soon x

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi loribelle :wave: how long ago was your miscarriage? I think if you've had a few wierd cycles since and you were 'normal' before, I'd definitely get in touch with your dr. After my last mc I had a bit of spotting first proper cycle but only when I had a horrid tummy bug, and my first Lp (before first AF) was only 11 days, otherwise everything was normal. I'm praying I bounce back as fast this time but it's so much later. Did you have a d and c?
Glad you went to the memorial. I think if this ever happens again, However early the loss, I'll want to go to the memorial.

This weekend I'm going to get all the pics of Rowan together, as well as some scan pics, and pics of the candle and flowers and a picture my dd did when we were in hospital and make a photo book of her memories. It's something I'd love to do for her and I can put in her memory box.

 

[slg76]

Munchkin: I'm so pleased that Rowan's service was a positive experience for you. It sounds lovely.

Hi Loribelle. Welcome! I have had more cramps throughout my cycle since my mc than ever before. I've had 4 cycles now. I use acupuncture too and I love it! I know it's making a big difference for me.

Msw: I'm sorry to hear about your coworker. What sad news.

 

[Munchkin30]

Hey sig. Glad someone's awake! It's quarter to 2 here and I can't sleep. Oh was home from work about midnight and I was awake waiting for him, he's now snoring away and I'm wide awake! Sadly wide awake means dr google and I'm stupidly trying to find out if we could just have a little tiny try when I get my positive opk this month. Would that be really really stupid?? I know a few ladies who've got pregnant first cycle after mc but they've been earlier losses, and I don't know how the misoprostol I took to induce would affect things?? It's been nearly a month now though so surely my body must be healing? I'm so ready to try again! X

 

[slg76]

Hi Munchkin. I know how you feel with hubby snoring next to you. It happens to me all the time since hubby falls asleep in about 30 seconds. Plus Bding knocks him out but wakes me up

I don't know about trying this month. Did you doctor give you a specific reason to wait? Many women take misoprostol to induce their miscarriage, that is all "medical management" means during a mc. I don't know about the pregnancy being so advanced though. I would think you wouldn't cycle until your body was ready to be pregnant again but I'm no expert It must be so frustrating not to try when that's what you want most. My doctor said to go ahead and try as soon as I ovulated after my mc. Maybe you should call your doctor and ask for more information.

I had a great day today. This was my husband's last day in his current position at work (he will now train for a promotion). Me and Emily went to meet him at work for a surprise and brought him a card. He is a pilot so he's gone a lot and Emily was so excited to see him today. I'm so happy for him to be promoted :dance

I think my body is gearing up to O. It feels late but really I've just been early the last several cycles. I'm CD14 now so really right on time. I'm thinking it's a good thing that my follicular phase is getting longer again.

Did I catch on one of your other posts that Charlotte is your dd's name? So cute. What is she into these days? I think it's amazing to watch them change so fast while they are so young. My daughter is quite a character. She talks like she's 16 and it's funny to hear such grown up phrases coming out of her mouth. She says things like "I'd be delighted", "my toy was so annoying", "in the meantime....". hilarious! I think she's an old soul just like her mommy and daddy.

 

[Munchkin30]

Lovely, what a great day sig! Sounds brill. Yes my dd is Charlotte. She's funny at the moment, she's extremely tantrummy and red headed! She's also a very good talker but parrots everything I say which is worrying!! Sometimes it's nice things like she'll drop good on the floor at nursery and say 'don't worry, doesn't matter'. Sometimes it's not so good, like I was chasing her to get her dressed yesterday (which she hates) and she was running away saying 'oh, for heavens sake!' Oops

You know when you say it wouldn't cycle again if my body wasn't ready, do you mean ov again or AF again? I've gone over and over this in my head and I feel like I 'should ' wait and get a fresh start after AF but it feels so terrible not trying for the first time in about 18 months. I don't want to miss a chance and I just want some hope and at the Moment I don't feel like we're doing anything useful I've ordered some fresh (keep it in the fridge type) royal jelly to arrive today. Hope it's magic!!

Dd had a lie in today til 8.10 but I'm still exhausted after not being able to sleep and just trying to decide if I can be bothered to go to the gym

 

[Munchkin30]

Ooh and I accidentally found an hpt with my opks this morning. What do you think? Getting fainter??

 

[Button#]

Munchkin - i took OV and hpt tests yesterday and they looked exactly like yours. We're getting back to normal.

Have you had a look on the miscarriage association website. They have lots of good information on there and you may find something about TTC again after a later loss.

 

[celine]

Hi minchkin i love the photo/memorry idea, one of my huge regrets is i stopped taking photos after my first loss, of anything. I have no photos of my sons birthday (day of loss) and i stopped capturing our memories after that. Did you take some great pics of Rowan? Feet? Hands etc?

How is the potty traning btw?
As for trying, im not going to tell you to try or not as i havent been in your shoes, its one thing trying asap after a early loss, ut i cant imagine after a late loss after the other loss of course you want to try, that might give you a christmas baby? Def speak to docs or someone who can give u conclusive reason why you should or shouldnt. Maybe call the hospital and ask when that post mortem will be, hopefully it will all be timed well enough for you to give it a try if you feel you want to xxx
Also how does oh feel?

 

[Mrs W 11]

I think if you want to try munchkin you should. If there was any reason not to your dr would have told you to wait and I truly believe if your body isn't ready yet you won't get pregnant. I usually get pregnant very easily, just have sex around ov and bam bfp, but since my loss no luck despite perfectly timed bding. Plus think of those women who have babies less than a year apart, they give birth to a full term baby and get pregnant straight away.

I am 9 dpo today but I think I'm out this month. It had all been going very well and I was hopeful but on checking cm/ cp last night and this morning I found brown cm. that's how af started last cycle and I just feel out this time. I'm glad my cycle has been much more normal this month but i was so hoping for my bfp I could cry.

X

 

[Munchkin30]

Mrs w I'm sure you know this you're bang in the middle of implantation time. The brown cm could be a very good sign!!

Thanks for the advice, yes a lot of women do get pregnant quickly after birth, and in nature if we had lost babies we wouldn't be using contraception if we didn't know anything about it.

Celine it's really annoying. They initially said 6 weeks but I emailed the bereavement midwife and she said 10-12 weeks! I'm not waiting that long!!

 

[Mrs W 11]

I know, I thought that last cycle though and it wasnt that and this spotting is exactly the same so I'm pretty sure it's early af spotting. Feeling pretty gutted, usually takes me a while to pick up and dust off ready to get positive for next cycle! X

 

[Munchkin30]

Oh it's so hard isn't it. I find cd1 easier than knowing I'm out. Sometimes it's easier to just have a fresh start than see the bfn. You will get there though hon xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Yeh I can't stand seeing a bfn either! What ever this odd hormonal imbalance is I've got is just cruel. Just before af turns up I have tender boobs, heartburn, nausea, tiredness and spotting. Last two months I was sure I was pregnant! I won't fall for it this time!!

I was with 3 pregnant friends today, 17, 32 and 35 weeks and they were having a few light hearted moans and groans about pregnancy. I know next time I will relish every symptom and sign even if not pleasant, as I know all you ladies will as we all know how suddenly things can be taken away from us.

Anyway back to positivity!! We are going away this wkend to Bournemouth with my in laws to their holiday home. A lovely weekend of time with family, Freya totally adores her nanny and bampy and hubby and I are going out for dinner sat night, whoop whoop.

What's everyone else doing? Xx