Sweetmama--Sorry the witch got you! On to next cycle!
Chia--Good luck next cycle!
Nicole--Yay! Happy to hear you're done with throwing up! Good luck with the house and job.
Joli--4-D scans are awesome! I'm sure you'll see a beautiful face! How neat that you and chia met, face to face. I really hope your pain subsides! You asked about my heart: it's doing great! I haven't had a single episode while working out, and I've been doing some very strenuous workouts. Praise God!
Nevertogether--Sexy outfits are so fun! I can't remember when your visit with hubby is?? Good luck!!
Shey--I just want to say that I totally agree with Joli about putting TTC on hold until you're in a committed relationship with a man who deserves to have you and that adorable little boy. I think you have such an intense desire to have another cutie (I can soooo relate), that your main focus isn't on the goodness of the man, but just on his willingness to provide some swimmers. I hope you won't take what I'm saying the wrong way, because I have been in a similar situation and can relate. I was once a single mom and was okay with just focusing on him...until my son was approaching his 2nd birthday. Up until that point I hadn't dated since his father (who I left early in the pregnancy because he had become abusive). Suddenly, I was READY to find a man to share my life with. Thankfully, having my son really made me up my standards. I was out to find a man who was worthy to be in my son's life. I dated my son's neurologist (my son was born with Hydrocephalus, but he is fine!) and even he didn't measure up. In the past, I would have ignored the flags and just continued on with that good-looking man and hope he would "Change" later on.
I prayed for God to send me a GOOD man. A couple days later an old friend called me. We had grown up together. I met him when I was 8 and he was 12. We dated when I was 18, but he was in the military and stationed in another state. So we wrote a lot of letters and he visited as often as he could. But at 18, I wanted a guy who was around. So I ended the relationship. Here he was, 5 years later, calling me and he was IN TOWN and wanted to see ME!! To make a long story short, we were engaged pretty fast! LOL. Then during a visit with my gynecologist, I learned that I might need an additional surgery in the future that could make me unable to carry a pregnancy to term. So in a
RUSH to have a baby before the opportunity was gone, I convinced my fiance to TTC before the wedding. So he came into town and we sort of did the deed--it's a bit of a story, but let's just say you wouldn't expect to conceive. Anyway, when he got back into town he called me and broke up with me. I was stunned! This was the sweetest guy in the world. He just had sex with me and he was breaking up with me? Needless to say, a couple weeks later I discovered I was pregnant. I believe he just got scared because things were moving so fast. I didn't tell the jerk I was pregnant until I was about 4 months along. This was such a painful time in my life. And I put myself there! And I was putting 2 kids through it because of
my bad choices. I felt terrible!
I eventually did get back with the father, and when our baby was 6 months old we got married. We've been married for 13 years. He has turned out to be a terrific husband and father.
BUT this isn't usually how these stories turn out! I spent much of my pregnancy crying. I hated the idea of having 2 kids without a father. But during the couple of weeks after DF had broken up with me, and before I knew I was pregnant, I had mentioned to friends that I should just go to a sperm bank. But when I found out I was pregnant, the reality of it set in. It's really not a good idea to purposely create a child who will be without one of his/her parents. I then couldn't believe that I had so frivolously thrown out the idea of getting donor sperm (not that I would have done that, but my desperation made me say it...and who knows where that desperation may have led me).
Shey, if you make a child with someone who doesn't love you, isn't committed to you, chances are he'll leave you once you're pregnant. Please want better for yourself than that! You deserve better, and so does that boy of yours.
By the way, I never needed that additional surgery--so the RUSH was for nothing. Wow, I didn't realize I was going to tell such a long story!
Ladies, please pray for my sister. She is 12 weeks pregnant and she started bleeding last night. We spent the day together yesterday. I feel bad because we did a lot of walking. Today, the bleeding has picked up some, but it's not heavy. She is a nervous wreck!
Blessings to all!