Hello Everyone! I just spent some time going through the last few pages I've missed over a couple of days. I have been so busy here (and exhausted) that I finally had some energy this morning to jump on my computer. Company is gone now and it's just my parents and us (so nice and quiet and calm).
Amelie- Great bump picture! And you also have such awesome hair! Love it!
Christina- I found a really useful link last week that explains pregnancy weight gain. It really helped me because I'm trying to gain just as much weight as I need and not much at all. This page actually breaks down how much everything weighs. So that you can understand weight gain and why gaining a lot of weight is not necessary. It also gives you the amount of weight gain that is appropriate based on your pre pregnancy weight. My doctor's office does not say a word to me even though I have gained a total of 1 lb in the past 2 months. They just measure the fundal height. They can see my belly is growing. And they listen to the HB. They don't even worry about scanning. I tell them I've been exercising and monitoring my diet so as not to gain much weight. It's amazing how much your body will give to the baby and you will be okay. The baby also does not need a ton of calories to grow. Right now, I get anywhere from 1800-2000 calories a day. And I am going to go up by maybe about 300 calories in the third trimester as that is what my fit pregnancy magazine said is all that is necessary.
https://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-health/pregnancy-weight-gain/
Northern- Sorry to hear that about your daughter. That must be maddening! I have to also admit that it sounds a little bit funny, but I know that ruined clothes (especially brand new) is a stressful thing.
Beanonorder- Have fun on your vacation. I feel the same as you about fitness. That's one of the main reasons I am exercising. When my midwife found out on Friday that I am exercising, she said that I will have a quick and easy delivery. She said about 3% of her patients exercise regularly during pregnancy and they all feel great the whole time and also have quick easy deliveries. She asked me if that was why I was doing it. I said the feeling great part definitely helps but that I am doing it because I don't want to spend 9 months of my life being out of shape and then try to go just back to it. I'd rather be doing it this whole time and hopefully make it easier for myself after the baby comes. I think going through the difficulty of it the first time definitely gives you more motivation the second time!
My grandmother's funeral went very well and also the burial. My son found a green rose (her favorite color was green) and placed it on the casket. The pastor took a very nice picture of it. It is so meaningful to me. I definitely started crying a lot at the funeral when my mom got up to speak because, even though she tries to carry on like she is fine with it because her mom was ready to go, I could see she is hurting and misses her mom. That just tore me apart. And the tears just came flooding down my face. And I hate crying in front of people because I do NOT want attention on me during a time like that. In the end it was very nice though and most people focused on the pregnancy and told me I look fantastic. My uncle had a foot-in-mouth moment, though. At the end of the funeral, he made a comment about how I was doing so good about being fit and in shape and I went and got pregnant. To which I retorted that I am staying in shape during pregnancy and I'm very driven by it all. I said I work out 6 days a week and I am very carefully monitoring what I eat. And then he said, "Well that's great because you really got out of control last time." The only reason I didn't get angry with him was because he is known to say weird things at funerals. He confused my sister with my cousin at one a few years ago (and they look nothing alike). I think he just feels awkward so he spouts out crazy stuff.
In some sort of good news, we stayed with my in-laws on Friday on our way up. We broke up the trip so it wouldn't be so long. So, I was exhausted because I hadn't slept but about 5 hours the night before and then we traveled 8 hours in the car and I wasn't even able to sleep in the car. I fell asleep fast and hard that night. But my husband woke up very angry at about 3 AM. He would not tell me what was wrong but he was huffing and puffing and saying, "I can't take this." I asked him what was the problem and he just said, "I don't want to talk about it." I was so exhausted that I didn't notice but his dad had gotten up and started smoking in the house. He was fed up by it all. He was fed up that they always just wait usually until I go to bed and then they light up in the kitchen thinking that since I'm in bed there's no smoke in the room, which is completely false. He confronted his parents the next morning! He took it on himself (I guess because he feels they might level with him more and think I'm just being a diva if they think it's me) and he said the smoke is bothering his sinuses too much and he will get sick if he stays there. So he said, "I really need you to stop smoking in the house while we're here. I know it's your house. So, if you are uncomfortable with that, we will just stay somewhere else." His mom got very sad at that and said she definitely didn't want us staying in a motel. But he told me in the car leaving that we cannot live through that for 6 days. It's too much. So, I'm really glad he confronted them. And he doesn't want them to think he's being overly dramatic about it and I said, "Your health is at risk! That is NOT being dramatic. It's being realistic." I guess it works out kind of nice in the end that we had to reverse our trip because they now have time to figure out what they are going to do. And if they decide they really can't give up smoking in the house, we will just stay elsewhere and they will have to be okay with it. But I'm SO PROUD of my husband for stepping up and saying something. I guess being away from it for so long has helped him see what a huge problem it really is.
Now that I've gone on long enough, I hope to be back on here a couple of times and keep in touch. I can't believe the 3rd trimester is almost here! Time is certainly flying!
Oh and I also wanted to add that my husband is talking about middle names a lot now. So we will probably have one picked out by January.
it is only my second since it started.
It seems that many health care facilities are understaffed though, I don't get it! Every other person I meet are going for nursing (at the school I'm at) it seems like. Really hope it gets better for you. Can you make it easier on yourself and pack a lunch to take with you, so you know that you have something at least semi-healthy and nutritious waiting for you on your breaks?
