April Mummies 2011

[caro103]

no suggestions gertrude but i could have written that post myself! freaky how identical alex has been lately!

not sure what to do, we had a few fab nights, then terrible ones, last night he woke twice, bbut we had got it down to once. this morning wouldn't go down although had been flat out in car seat cos he kept lifting legs and farting! got him down this afternoon and now managed to wake him when i moved him and he was hungry so fed him and hes now back asleep , i need him to sleep tonight not now!

 

[SazzleR]

Trying to get Rex to sleep is so unpredictable! Why can't babies be consistent?! This week has been way better than last week. He's still napping brilliantly in his swing (big thanks again to all those who suggested it!) and when out & about in the car seat or pram. And the nights have been better this week. Think he may be more used to his room & cot now. However he still won't go down before 10 regardless of what time I start bedtime. Argh! But that's earlier than it was in the beginning so it may keep getting earlier. Earlier in the week he was only waking once but we're back to twice again. God knows why! And this morning he was up at 5 and would not go back to sleep for anything. So I'm knackered today! But he had a lovely long nap this morning so he's fine! Thurs nights always seem to be his worst for some reason. The past 3 have been awful! But it's DH's turn tonight so me & the breast pump will be off to bed nice & early & having a decent kip! x

 

[RiRi]

Poppy is being grizzly today and I can't work out any paticular reason why guess sea having one of those days! The rain here is horrendus and we've got to go out in it layer am not looking forward to it in the slightest!

 

[DanaBump]

sam- you have my number if you ever need to complain (text works better than calling with abby as i'm sure she'd start crying as soon as i'd pick up). in the meantime.

is he getting steady help with all his issues? does he WANT to improve? don't know really want to say, that choice with a baby is really hard and i know exactly how you feel. again!

 

[gertrude]

I did that tonight. I need to get on it more.

Feeling so very depressed tonight. I was hoping things woulD be getting betteR with DH and myself and for a long time they were but I find myself questioning whether or not I can make it last. He's had a lot of Dr appts this last week and has been diagnosed with severe bipolar, intermittant explosive anger disorder (or something) and a handful of other things and his shoulder surgeon says he is WAY overusing his arm- and he doesn't use it much! I feel like the whole financial situation is going to be up to me forever and I don't think I'm capable (or I guess willing) to have it be my life. I feel horrible and disgusting for thinking like this.
Just needed to get it out and can't to my friends very much

oh mate that sounds really tough

My OH works for himself and he'll never earn that much, tbh it annoys the hell out of me as it just falls to me all the time to be the provider - that's OK if it's a choice but I feel very backed into a corner about it atm and I hate it

Whilst I'm off on maternity leave I'm doing 90% of the house tasks plus still bringing in the most money AND doing the laundry, shopping, most cooking etc (as well as the 90% of cleaning etc) - how the FUCK is that fair?

I get periods where I just don't feel willing to carry on like this - although it's not the same as your situation I do get that feeling too, and you know what, it's perfectly legitimate a feeling love x

 

[MissFox]

Thanks everyone. I was just having such a bad night with everything. He does want to get better and want to be able to work but I get so down knowing that it's all on me. I keep thinking that at least she has one parent home with her and that hsould make me happy but i also do the dishes, the laundry and a bunch of other things around the house. It's so rough!! We're working on disability still and really hpoing that now we have a lawyer it will get approved. And don't get me wrong- he helps around the house too (mostly b/c we're still unpacking) and is working on the solar power set up a lot of the time and making sure the water is working and that is a big task in itself but sometiems when I don't want to do something he says he does everything but it's not true. I'm expected to come home from work (or visiting with friends here and there to get Rosie used to me being gone in the daytime- which is NBD) and feed Rosie to catch up on our time we missed, make dinner, put her to bed, do the dishes and any other cleaning I can- it's just stressful. I need to just stick it out. I need to stop being so jealous he gets to spend the day wit hthe baby.

 

[Mrs-C]

Funny to read your LOs had worse nights last night, my DD did too! The night before she went 9.30 - 5 and then down again after a bottle until I woke her at 8.40. Last night she was up at 3 and then again at 6 until 8.30 when I woke her. Then she's been funny with her feeds all day. I'm at a loss, both nights were the same before she went down.

Miss Fox I hope things work themselves out

 

[MissFox]

Oh yea- Rosie was up 5 times in 5.5 hours too! Must be in the air!

 

[gertrude]

must be pickle was the same too! she's been out of sorts for a couple of days now, and we changed her formula and is also constipated

babies need to read their own instruction manual AND STICK TO IT

 

[DanaBump]

sam- i meant as far as his mental issues

 

[MissFox]

He has an appointment with a psychologist in early August to get him started on meds and they will test his blood to make sure he is taking them. They also have a case open on him so any time he feels like he is having an angry episode or anything he is supposed to go in and theycan watch and evaluate him.

 

[cheese lover]

Isis had a rough-ish night too. Mostly a rough morning which turned into a rough afternoon. She is now asleep but hasn't napped since 10 this morning, its now 3! We're supposed to be packing for vacation since we're leaving at 7 tomorrow morning but all I want to do is surf the net! I need some down time! Luckily for me DH is taking care of everything, all I have to do is pack me and Isis. He also did a lot of work in the yard earlier while I was wrangling a very tired/unhappy baby. I don't know what I would do without him!

Miss Fox, sorry so many things are causing you stress! You're right, at least Rosie gets to stay home with one parent. I would be very jealous if DH got to stay home with Isis.

 

[MissFox]

I keep saying at least she's home with one parent... but I AM very jealous it's not me.

 

[cheese lover]

Well we made it! We're on vacation. It took forever to get up here. It took 7.5 hours to get here. Isis slept all morning in the car but has barely napped all afternoon. I'm hoping she sleeps tonight. Btw she slept for 8 hours last night! Man was I engorged this morning!

 

[DanaBump]

Happy Father's Day!!!

i find it strange that you UK ppl have a different mother's day, but same father's day. Have a great day regardless!

 

[gertrude]

Hey ladies

Does anyone else still feel like they haven't got a clue about what you're doing?

I know I'm just making this all up and I haven't a clue if what I'm doing is right

 

[CrazyBird]

Thanks Dana, thats wierd that we have the same fathers day but not mothers day.

Gertrude, i'm sure your doing a great job, what makes you think your not?

 

[lilgemsy]

Yeah happy fathers day
its grandaddy day for ollie since his dad is an ass
hasnt even phoned or text or anything! ah well.

Been to see hangover 2 felt bad leaving ollie though!

 

[Mrs-C]

gertrude - yes! I am totally winging the whole thing! I'm sure you are doing a great job.

How's the new milk going? We have had three poops since we started it yesterday, less sick & she seems to be loving the taste. So far

 

[gertrude]

she's still a bit bunged up but I gave her another oz of water this morning which helped again she laps it up though and seems happy with it - definitely less sick, though a couple of feeds today have been pukey so hope it's not about to change!

I'm glad someone else feels like this - it's a bit like the feeling I have at work, that I'm a fraud and someone will catch me out sooner or later