April Mummies 2011

[DanaBump]

cottles- i have ppd and am managing with zoloft. i knew i would be at risk and my dr started me on it when i was 36 weeks as it does take a couple weeks for it to kick in. not sure how long i'll need it but i've upped my dosage a couple times. DO NOT feel like you have to suffer alone, there is support out there (need me i'm in FB all the time). PLEASE talk to your dr and get yourself some help.
I do have to warn you that even with medication, it's still really hard but at least i can manage to get myself out of the "funks" quicker and can talk myself thru them.

 

[loopy82]

Ladies... Has anyone seen anyone about baby blues/PND?
I have been suffering in silence because DF just gets annoyed if I'm "in a mood" and that makes it worse, but I'm forever crying on my own, and it's starting to affect my life.. I had a panic attack earlier because he hasn't helped out around the house. I left it thinking he'd feel guilty and do it but that never happened so I had to do everything on
My own before taking Toby to get his jabs.
Then I told DF he had to help so he said he'd spend an hour before we went to MILs tonight tidying up. He took 3 bits of paper, stacked them on the floor and left everything the way it was.
So he's gone to MILs and I stayed home with the intention of tidying up after him, but all I've managed is lying in bed crying.

When I was a teenager I suffered from depression and used to self harm. I stopped that about 5 or 6 years ago but all my thoughts right now lead back to that and I know I can't. I have responsibilities now. I dint want Toby to grow up asking mummy what those scars are. But I never threw away rhe thing i used to use. And now I'm terrified of getting out of bed. I don't know if I can trust myself.

And I feel like am attention seeking neurotic child typing this but I don't know what to do or how to get help. I have Toby 24/7...

I've been taking a low dose of seroxat for three weeks now and can't tell you how much better I feel. Some of it is the medication but I think a lot of it is feeling like I've got some control back. I've suffered from depression on and off since my teens and I know exactly what you mean about feeling like an attention seeking child and not trusting yourself but you've no need to think like that. Get yourself to your GP asap, you'll be glad you did. You can PM me if you want to x

 

[Emmy'sMommy]

cottles! So sorry for what your going thru...PPD isn't something you can just "snap out of" and seeking your doctor for advice or medication is the best option. I suffered with PPD when i was younger...I got pregnant at 15, lost the baby at 15 weeks and had everyone around me criticizing me for getting pregnant instead of being there for me after the miscarriage. I ended up having to deal with it myself and luckily i had great friends to help me.Just remember you dont have to suffer alone, there is support out there

to you as well Dana!

 

[chocojen]

Hugs cottles xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

George had cranio osteopathy today to try and help his stiff neck and wind, anyone else had it? George cried throughout and has been very grizzly since, I got very upset as a result! Nick has been amazing since he got hiome though and has settled him so now I am enjoying a glass of wine x

 

[MissFox]

Working today- nothing like wasting timeon here lol.
to all you ladies with ppd
Cottles- so sorry!! You do not need to suffer in silence. It's real and i'm sorry your DF is not helping!
Dana- I still don't think I could be gone 40+hrs a week! My friend wants me to apply to a cell company he works for and make $10/hr plus commission (his commission checks are about $1500/mo) but it's 40+hr a week and I just don't think I could do it with the 1.5hr commute both ways... UGH
Choco- I haven't actually vaccinated Rosie yet. We'll probably start a little later just because I'm still so torn on what to do about it all and just feel shes too young

I GET TO GO TO MA TO VISIT MY FAMILY! I didn't think I would be able to but my uncle is getting me a ticket!!!! (He's got miles lol) I'm so happy Rosie gets to meet her great gramps and it's for his surprise 75th birthday party. And I get to see my sister and so many other family members!!!

Also- STILL covered in poison oak all over!!! All around my neck, chest, down my arms and on my back. Starting to dry up though.

Soooo I have a yeast infection (treating it) and also have bacterial vaginosis infection and the anti-biotics that they prescribed for me are CRAZY! I can't take them as I don't think it would be wise. It's called Flagyl and has caused cancer (long term use) in mice and rats and also you can't have any alcohol not just ingesting but on your skin (make up or anything like that) and it passes through breast milk. They said that's the only way to "knock it out" but I've been researching holistic ways to get rid of it. Tea Tree supositories sound a hell of a lot better than crazy antibiotics!

 

[DanaBump]

be careful with antibiotics as any birth control won't be any good!

....unless of course you want another right now, lol.

i really don't have any other choice unless nick gets his promotion, then i'll be considering staying home 100%. i'd LOVE to just go part time (4 hours a day, i only live 5 min from work) but i don't think that's an option.

 

[chocojen]

Sam, flagyl other name is metronidazole, it is very commonly used here and although it does pass to through breastmilk it only causes diarrhoea in some babies and no other harm. Bacterial vaginosis can be very dangerous if not treated....not to you but to future babies, one of my friends lost a baby at 22 weeks as a direct result of untreated BV

(sorry dont want to scare you but think it is important that you are aware of all the information before making a decision not to take the antibiotics)

xxxx

 

[babybefore30]

Hugs to everyone suffering.
My little man for the third night in a row has gone down at a reasonable time and am hoping he will sleep through for a few hours, last night and the night before he slept till 1 then had a feed and slept till 5 had a feed and slept till 8. Fingers crossed we have a routine. I have my feet up with a glass of wine after ordering my breast pump as off out with the girls on 9th July excited but nervous at the same time.

 

[MissFox]

Thanks Dana- Besides the fact that I haven't had sex (best form of birthcontrol lol) in a WHILE (probably 3-4 weeks) we're also using condoms. My crazy side wants another baby but my logical side is screaming at it NO N NO NO NO NO!!!!
Thanks Jen. I just can't get a straight answer from anyone on the stuff. The handout they gave me is terrifying and the pharmacist said go ahead and BF and the paper he gave me said HELL NO. THEN I called the Dr office and they said they would call me back but they haven't yet because I need to talk more to someone about it before I decide to take it. I've already started some natural remedies and need to read more about it so I can not be so scared of the handout they gave me.
I think I'm just freaking out with everything that's going on with my body right nwo. Yeast, BV and poison oak ALL OVER THE PLACE... oh and random bleeding that doesn't quite seem like an AF.

 

[CrazyBird]

cottles, you should definatly go to the doctor, it's not good to suffer in silence. I had the baby blues the first 3 weeks and went to the doctor when George was 2 weeks old as i thought i was going mad as i couldnt stop crying. The doctor wouldnt give me anything for it and told me to come back in a few weeks if i still felt the same. Luckily it passed, i still get down days sometimes.
You need to speak to your DF and ask for help as you cant do it all on your own when your DF is there too xx

 

[cheese lover]

Another rough night with Isis. Some jerk is lighting off loud fireworks. I never thought I'd say that. I guess that's what happens when you have kids. So I'm sitting in a dark room woth a glass of wine putting a pacifier back in when Isis spits it out. I know my in-laws think I'm crazy for doing this but I think it gets her to sleep faster. My SIL told me the other night that with their second child they let him CIO from day one. I'm hoping that when we get home she does better. I'm also considering putting her in her crib after we get home. I'd like to be able to put up a mobile and I'm thinking she might sleep better.

I'm going back to work on Monday but might be on restricted duty.

 

[JakesMummy]

Ooh I'm off out tonight for my birthday ( which is in fact tomorrow). We are going up to the west end in London to go to the theatre then drinks afterwards. We are seeing Wicked. Can't wait but anxious of how Lo is going to be as she doesn't like drinking from a bottle. Lol! Oh well, if she's hungry I amsure she will.
We are also having a BBQ tomorrow as it is going to be hot!

Have a great weekend ladies x

 

[caro103]

Hugs cottles xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

George had cranio osteopathy today to try and help his stiff neck and wind, anyone else had it? George cried throughout and has been very grizzly since, I got very upset as a result! Nick has been amazing since he got hiome though and has settled him so now I am enjoying a glass of wine x

yep we had it last week and he was cranky after too, his wind does seem to have improved over the past few days but i'm also using infacol so could also be down to that! got another session next wk, then that should be it hopefully! i don't intend to take him week in week out!

Sam, flagyl other name is metronidazole, it is very commonly used here and although it does pass to through breastmilk it only causes diarrhoea in some babies and no other harm. Bacterial vaginosis can be very dangerous if not treated....not to you but to future babies, one of my friends lost a baby at 22 weeks as a direct result of untreated BV

(sorry dont want to scare you but think it is important that you are aware of all the information before making a decision not to take the antibiotics)

xxxx

Thanks Jen. I just can't get a straight answer from anyone on the stuff. The handout they gave me is terrifying and the pharmacist said go ahead and BF and the paper he gave me said HELL NO. THEN I called the Dr office and they said they would call me back but they haven't yet because I need to talk more to someone about it before I decide to take it. I've already started some natural remedies and need to read more about it so I can not be so scared of the handout they gave me.
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missfox, i had to take exactly that antibiotic soon after i had alex. they gave me the more broad spectrum ones but something grew on my swab that could only be treated by metronidazole, i'd say it did give alex the squits but once i stopped taking it within a week or so he settled back down. xx

Ooh I'm off out tonight for my birthday ( which is in fact tomorrow). We are going up to the west end in London to go to the theatre then drinks afterwards. We are seeing Wicked. Can't wait but anxious of how Lo is going to be as she doesn't like drinking from a bottle. Lol! Oh well, if she's hungry I amsure she will.
We are also having a BBQ tomorrow as it is going to be hot!

Have a great weekend ladies x

happy birthday for tomorrow! enjoy your night out! xx

 

[lilgemsy]

Tasha - aww bless him, hope the chicken pox clear up soon! And happy birthday to Jaimee! x

Cottles - Go see your doc hun. And if youre getting the urge to self harm so bad then maybe try doing something else instead when u get it like err... squeezing your pillow or something! I dont know. Anyway I hope youre feeling better and happier soon sweetie. You know were all here if you need us xx

Sam - Hope you get better soon x

 

[gertrude]

cottles - I think I had very mild PND when I was having the difficulties with feeding LO. Please please go and speak to someone about it It's not your fault you feel like this, you couldn't do anything differently, it just happens to some mums and not others. Please don't feel alone (if posting on here helps then do that!). If your OH isn't being helpful (as mine wasn't all that much) it isn't because they don't care, they just don't understand and can never understand how it affects us, this being a Mum thing. It's crazy and fucked up and that's just the good bits!


In news from here I'm knackered. I'm desperate for LO to be able to grab things as she's getting so frustrated. She did look like she might roll from front to back yesterday though (she got half way). She's always rolled from front to back as she HATES being on her tummy ) It must be so annoying not to be able to say what you want OR be able to get it yourself and have to rely on this "Mum" creature who gets it wrong so much

I'm also have a few days of trying to increase my supply so I can carry on combi feeding It's hard and I don't know if it's helping but I want to get to 3 months at least, ideally longer than that

 

[MissFox]

Helps to know others have taken it but I've been hearing about potential links to childhood cancer and other issues. One friend said she had a cream for it- still pretty upset my Dr haven't called me back too.

Just wanted to show you some recent pictures of miss Rosie.

 

[DanaBump]

my little girl has a cold again and i can tell she's so miserable. makes me feel like crap that i didn't pump more and more often to give her a fighting chance. feel like a bad mom i didnt give her as good of a start as i should have. i would give all i am to this little girl and i feel like i've failed her.

in other news, the nanny she has is a photographer and had some fun with her this past week..

 

[caro103]

gorgeous pics ladies! can't believe how much our LO's are growing up already!

Dana don't beat yourself up hun, you are giving her the best start in life just by loving her as much as you do! fab the nanny is a photographer! really want some nice pics of my little man!

heres a few i took myself

 

[CrazyBird]

Gorgeous pics!!!

You definatly haven't failed Dana, look at her....she is beautiful.

Happy birthday Jakes and Jaimee.

Gertrude you have done great to get to 3 months BF'ing.

 

[MissFox]

Dana- you did what you could and pumping is SO VERY HARD! I can't get enough if I wanted to to feed Rosie with pumped milk. You are doing just fine by her and she will always love you and know that you love her

Happy Birthday Jakes and Jaimee!!!

You know, You'd think that since I went to school for photography and graphic design I would take more pictures of Rosie all dolled up... Maybe I'll make that a goal- it is almost time to do a 3 month photoshoot anyways.