April Mummies 2011

[gertrude]

Well I think we might be through the 12week gribbles, just in time for her jabs tomorrow!
She slept 7 till 1 till 5 till now (8). She took a full 5oz at 1, but only 1oz at 5 (boobs first for both)

She's now happily watching her mobile whilst I try to wake up. I hate mornings! My oh is still asleep of course, never gives me a break first thing but she's full of smiles so he misses out loads!

 

[babybefore30]

Hi ladies my computer has been on the blink. Thanks for the advice on the expressed milk.

I can't believe some of the babies are in number 1 nappies Daniel is on his last pack of number 2 and then will be in number 3 - my little chubster.

It was mine and OH 3 year wedding anniversary yesterday, we had a lovely dinner that I cooked and I got some beautiful flowers. Expressed a bottle of milk as we had a few glasses of champagne and gave it to Daniel at midnight as he slept from 7 till 12 but my god my boobs were sore this morning.

 

[gertrude]

I was thinking the same bb30! We use sainsburys own brand nappies and she's git 1 pack of size 2 to go then shell be in size 3! I don't think she's even that big!

Were having real battles at nap time. We need to swaddle and put get in her crib now. She's so alert she doesnt want to nap instead she wants to play!

She's also stupidly strong. With me putting my hands behind her feet so she has something to push against she can crawl. Yikes!

 

[CottlestonPie]

Tobys determined to upset me today. I know it's not his fault but this PND is destroying me.

 

[gertrude]

oh hun if I was closer I'd come over with cake and hugs x

 

[Tasha360]

My twinnies are in size 3 nappies too x

 

[Mrs-C]

to those feeling down.

My LO has been in size 3s for weeks. I couldn't find size 2s that didn't leak for her so swapped to the size 3s as they are in the next range. It's worked to contain the pee and poop! for Little Angels!

My LO rolled onto her side for the first time today! She did it three times, going onto both sides. She couldn't hold herself there, but went back onto her back. She's very cheery so far today and is making lots of cute noises. Her teeth were hurting her in the night and she had us up every 20 mins for about 3 hours! Then I had to wake her before she threw her whole schedule off

 

[DanaBump]

thought i'd let everyone know that yesterday we had a little scare with abby. her nanny noticed her eyes drooping in opposite directions and her head laying to one side. she's not normally one to worry as she has 2 small children of her own, but this worried her. so, i left work and took her to the walk in clinic where they too were worried about the eye movement. from there we were transported to milwaukee (1.5 hrs away) childrens' hospital by ambulance for a cat scan as the drs were all worried she was having seizures, brain tumor or possibly worse.

long story short, drs said abby is perfect. apparently she's a very smart little girl and her brain is trying to do things her muscles aren't ready to do. drs said she's doing things a 4 month old would be doing but her body is right on with 2 months.

it was a very long day, but glad everything turned out fine. must've really wiped her out as she's still sleeping at 730 after being put down at 10 last night.

 

[AmethystDream]

Oh Dana, that must have been so scary, I'm glad that little Abby is fine... she's better than fine, in fact!

CottlestonPie - Just like Gertrude, I'd be there like a shot, muffins in hand. Hope you are OK, sweety, we are all here for you

 

[gertrude]

oh dana how scary glad she's ok though to you both x

well I'm in fucking tears again went to get pickle weighed with the HV team and she asked how she was fed - I said we were still combi feeding to an extent but that I thought the end was coming and we were going to move to FF. Well she went on about how breast was better, that I could up my supply if I just put baby to breast more often but "it's what works for you isn't it". Fucking bitch. She should fucking know our battles with pickles weight as she was the one who triggered all the weighing off in the first place. She made me cry as I felt i had to defend myself and how hard we had been trying. I said I had been seeing the BFing woman at my hospital but even she yesterday said pickle wasn't good at the sucking (hence the problem in the first place). AS soon as I cried she just changed the subject and weighed her. Jesus I'd just about come to terms with going completely to FF and now this I feel a total failure all over again

 

[cheese lover]

Dana, that's great she's ok! What a ride that must have been!

Gertrude, I'm sorry that woman was such a bitch to you! You need to do whats best for you and Pickle. Can you express even a little? Pickle will grow up just fine on whatever you feed her.

Cottleston, I hope Toby is a good boy for his mum today! Wish I could bring you some big hugs too!

Had a rough night last night. Isis didn't go down until 10 and then had to sleep with us. I moved her to her own bed at 3 am. My back is killing me! I'm hoping she does better tonight.

 

[gertrude]

one bottle a day is EBM usually although it's going down the less she feeds off me - even when I offer her the boob now she's so shit it just upsets us both

 

[SazzleR]

Aw Gertrude.

I'm struggling with a dilemma about what to do with feeding. Rex has his tongue tie appointment next Tues. If they don't snip it then I'm trying to decide whether to switch to combi or FF. My poor nipples can't take much more of the slipping on & off & generally trauma caused by his tongue. If really like to talk to one of the HVs about it but I know they'll just tell me 'breast is best'. I wish someone could just give you impartial advice & honestly tell you what's best. The thought of BFing to 6 months just upsets me cos of the pain. But I know they'll make me feel guilty. I didn't know until a couple of days ago that you can actually mix formula & EBM in a bottle. I suppose that could be an option for us as I don't get very much when I pump & he needs like 6oz bottles.

I understand the reason behind the 'breast is besr' campaign but I think the NHS workers have gone too far with it now. They advise BFing to the detriment of mums & babies sometimes.

 

[DanaBump]

Aw Gertrude.

I'm struggling with a dilemma about what to do with feeding. Rex has his tongue tie appointment next Tues. If they don't snip it then I'm trying to decide whether to switch to combi or FF. My poor nipples can't take much more of the slipping on & off & generally trauma caused by his tongue. If really like to talk to one of the HVs about it but I know they'll just tell me 'breast is best'. I wish someone could just give you impartial advice & honestly tell you what's best. The thought of BFing to 6 months just upsets me cos of the pain. But I know they'll make me feel guilty. I didn't know until a couple of days ago that you can actually mix formula & EBM in a bottle. I suppose that could be an option for us as I don't get very much when I pump & he needs like 6oz bottles.

I understand the reason behind the 'breast is besr' campaign but I think the NHS workers have gone too far with it now. They advise BFing to the detriment of mums & babies sometimes.

my gyn gave me the best advise (shes a mom of two as well). you do the best you can but if its frustrating to the point of tears and breaking you down, switch to ff and forget the guilt.
youve already given rex the best start you could with bf and he'll still flourish being ff. he may even be happier because YOURE happier. our babies thrive on mommys moods, why not make it a good one?

 

[gertrude]

my gyn gave me the best advise (shes a mom of two as well). you do the best you can but if its frustrating to the point of tears and breaking you down, switch to ff and forget the guilt.

god I wish I could do this I feel so guilty today I've spent most of it in tears

 

[cheese lover]

you both should really do what's best for you and your little ones. Your babies will do great on formula! My niece, nephew, DH and SIL were all FF and all are healthy. It's not good for any of you to be this distraught over something as small as this. You both have given your LO's a great start on breastmilk and they will thrive on whatever you feed them. Formula companies spend tons of money each year trying to match formula to breastmilk, it's a great approximation.
People will have many opinions about all the decisions any of us make while parenting. You just have to make the best decision for you and tell everyone else to shove off.

 

[caro103]

i'll 2nd what cheeselover said! it's got to be better for LO's having less stressed mummy's and FF than stressed out but BF xx

ooh Alex sat today propped up with his arms for about 40secs! lol, I'm not going to say he's 'sitting' as he needs his arms but still not bad for 12weeks old!

 

[gertrude]

christ you two just made me cry again

I know you're right, and I know if a friend of mine was in the same position I'd be saying the same but I just can't shake the feeling of being a failure and letting my LO down. I've gone over and over what I did wrong in the beginning and there's so much I feel like I'm the most stupid Mum in the world

I never thought letting go of BFing would be this hard tbh.

 

[DanaBump]

if it helps, i've exclusively ff abby since she was 6 weeks and in the scare yesterday we had not 1 but 2 dr's say she's absolutely perfect.
you just have to make up your mind that you're no longer going to feel that way, that there's no reason for you to do that and it's nothing but a waste of energy. you're missing all the great times you could be having with your LO because of what? someone that probably didn't bf themselves is making you feel like a shmuck? that's just silly.

 

[cheese lover]

^^ agreed!
Gertrude, if you have another baby and breastfeed it then think of all the experience you bring with you. Don't think of it as failure, think of it as an experience. That's what everything in life is. When you make your decision to quit Bf and expressing then make your decision for you and Pickle not for anyone else. And don't apologize for your decision. You're living your life no one else knows better than you.