April Mummies 2011

[caro103]

gertrude and miss fox!

missfox have you tried literally seeing to you and rosie? like only do your laundry and buy food for yourself? be a bit petty for a while and see if he gets the message. For a while ages ago i literally picked my laundry out the bin and just let DH's build up. He finally clicked he needed to help more when he had nothing clean to wear . I also tried sitting there for hours and hours once not offering to cook dinner so eventually he was so hungry he offered, we didn't get anything special but i made my point!

sazzle, alex has been down since 9! last night was 8, was sooo nice to have a couple of evenings just DH and me! fx;ed for a great night for you! alex was up once last night at 4, then slept again until 9! amazing . better get to bed now to make the most of it as no doubt he won't repeat that much sleep! xx

 

[cheese lover]

Gertrude and MissFox!! Sorry you both are having problems with your OH's.
This weekend has been physically tough. We got a ton of mulch yesterday and we spent part of yesterday and today spreading it around our yard. I am so sore! This is the first real physically challenging work I've done since Isis' birth.
We had friends come over yesterday. They're the ones that are moving to Hawaii next month. I'm sad because they really are our last friends left in the area.
Once again I have a short week at work. We're taking Thursday and Friday off and driving to Indiana to visit my IL's. It's going to be crazy because they have a 3 bedroom house but to get to the 3rd bedroom you have to go through the second one. Usually we're in the front bedroom but if we are this time then Isis will likely wake up when everyone goes to bed. Also I'm not sure there's enough space in that room for our stuff and a pack and play. I guess we'll figure it out when we get there. I'm hoping that Isis goes through her 3 month growth spurt before or after we're there. I really don't want to hear about how I should start putting cereal in her bottles so she'll go longer between feeds.

 

[CottlestonPie]

to the ladies that need them. It took me breaking down in front of df for him to realise I needed help. But his realisations only last about 3 days then we start all over again.

I think Toby is going through a growth spurt. He's grizzly crying loads, almost having mood swings, sleeping loads and finishing off bottles at times of the day when he'd usually only have a couple of ounces. I hole it passes soon. It's exhausting.
On the upside, as well as giggling, he's now discovered that he can grab/play with his feet. Keeps him occupied for a while!

 

[DanaBump]

gertrude and miss fox!

missfox have you tried literally seeing to you and rosie? like only do your laundry and buy food for yourself? be a bit petty for a while and see if he gets the message. For a while ages ago i literally picked my laundry out the bin and just let DH's build up. He finally clicked he needed to help more when he had nothing clean to wear . I also tried sitting there for hours and hours once not offering to cook dinner so eventually he was so hungry he offered, we didn't get anything special but i made my point!

i did the same thing with my dh. his excuse for not helping was that i never asked. well, i stopped doing dishes, HIS laundry as well as my step son's. he got all upset about it and i replied with "well, you didn't ask". i have to do it ever so often, but it does work!

 

[MissFox]

I was just so frustrated with him. I'm looking forward to our time apart where I am doing NOTHING for him. There will be hell o pay too if I come home to a sink fill of dirty dishes. This afternoon has been a lot better than when dh. Was leaving. Thanks for the support. It really helps me to vent.
Cottles Rosie has also found her feet! She loves them and even saw a shadow of them earlier today. She wiggled her toes and for excited when she saw the shadow move

 

[caro103]

thats so cute missfox with the shadow! bless.

we went for alex's 3month check today (where has the time gone!?!), hes 15lb1oz and 66cm long! health visitor was very pleased with his development and reckons i'm def going to have an early walker etc as he's so strong already

 

[CrazyBird]

Gem hope you get better soon, it's one thing after another

gertrude and miss fox, these men need kicking into shape. Me an my oh had a rocky patch a couple of weeks after George was born, OH was amazing when i was giving birth but a couple of weeks later it went down hill a bit, i dont think my baby blues helped much as everything he did annoyed me and he couldnt do anything to please me. I ended up living with my mum for 2 weeks as i thought i would be better off on my own, it was the best thing i did as things are great between us now and we appreciate each other so much more. Relationships can be hard work but we are both making a big effort with each other plus my oh is an amazing dad. But if i wasnt happy then i would end it, it shouldnt just be about the women doing all the house work and looking after the baby, it should be the both of you.

 

[Emmy'sMommy]

13 weeks postpartum and AF finally shows! Its very light though so im not complaining! I go tomorrow to get my depo injection!

 

[cheese lover]

Lucky you! BC is one area I'm still working on. My midwife recommended Mirena but I have to be careful with hormones. I changed my pill brand once and I was completely unbearable to be around. Even I didn't want to be around me! Right now we're basically using the abstinence method

 

[Emmy'sMommy]

Lucky you! BC is one area I'm still working on. My midwife recommended Mirena but I have to be careful with hormones. I changed my pill brand once and I was completely unbearable to be around. Even I didn't want to be around me! Right now we're basically using the abstinence method

I wanted the Mirena but my insurance wouldn't cover it so unfortunately i chose to go back on the depo shot. Me and DH decided together that we didnt want any more kids or i wouldn't have went back on the depo since it took 18 months to conceive Ava.

 

[gertrude]

well things might be a bit better than I thought. Who knew how much better some sleep and a less cranky child could make things.

So we're working on it - yes it kept something from me and was a twat but I hope it's fixable. He's such a great bloke that it's always such a let down when he's anything other

As for pickle - this growth spurt sucks doesn't it She's so fed up with everything and seems to be SO frustrated with not being able to do more. She can crawl if you put your hands against her feet so she can push against them, she can hold things if you help - but she can't do anything for herself. You can hear the frustration in her cry

She is so gorgeous though and I now understand those that say they love their kids more each day

Caro - pickle was only 11lb 15oz at 3 months, what the hell are you feeding yours

 

[caro103]

well things might be a bit better than I thought. Who knew how much better some sleep and a less cranky child could make things.

So we're working on it - yes it kept something from me and was a twat but I hope it's fixable. He's such a great bloke that it's always such a let down when he's anything other

As for pickle - this growth spurt sucks doesn't it She's so fed up with everything and seems to be SO frustrated with not being able to do more. She can crawl if you put your hands against her feet so she can push against them, she can hold things if you help - but she can't do anything for herself. You can hear the frustration in her cry

She is so gorgeous though and I now understand those that say they love their kids more each day

Caro - pickle was only 11lb 15oz at 3 months, what the hell are you feeding yours

so glad things are better gertrude! amazing what a little sleep does

errrm...what can i say about alex's weight , he's purely bf , he is v v tall though! 98th percentile for height and only 75th for weight so is actually quite skinny , my arm muscles are lovely and strong these days though!

 

[gertrude]

oh I'm jealous of you BFing

we've stopped BFing now, she's got so lazy with her latch it was making me really upset so she's a FF baby now (which breaks my heart) but 1 feed a day is EBM as long as I still have it - happy she gets something still

pickle is on the 25th centile for everything

 

[caro103]

oh I'm jealous of you BFing

we've stopped BFing now, she's got so lazy with her latch it was making me really upset so she's a FF baby now (which breaks my heart) but 1 feed a day is EBM as long as I still have it - happy she gets something still

pickle is on the 25th centile for everything

aww sorry hun, but you def gave it your all! for some reason pickle lived up to her name . She will do just as well on FF and shes always been a petite little thing hasn't she?

Alex's latch is still shockingly bad but he hurt me so much in the first few weeks i think my boobs have toughened up to anything now so however he latches it rarely hurts but somehow he still gets milk out way way better than the machine ever does! and i've been lucky with supply xx

 

[gertrude]

I think if I had to do it again I'd do some things differently but I can't change her lack of suck

mmmmm pink wine, if I can't breastfeed exclusively I'm going to enjoy the perks

 

[cheese lover]

Isis is such a peanut too. We won't get her weighed at 3 months but I'm going to weigh her tonight on our scale. My best guess is around 12 pounds. She's just starting to grow out of 3 month clothing. At her 2 month appt. she was 75th percentile for length and 50th for weight so skinny too.

Have any of you weaned your babies from being swaddled? Isis is fighting me more and more when I swaddle her but I'm really afraid to not swaddle her. She sleeps so well I hate to lose that. Every morning she has at least one arm out of the swaddle and the other night she rolled onto her side and slept like that all night. I really don't know what to do.

Gertrude, I hear you on the sleep. My DH is such a wonderful guy but the other day I just lashed out at him. I figured out that I was just tired. I took a nice long nap and things were so much better.

 

[Lilly12]

Aleena is 13lbs6oz @ 3 months.
She was never swaddled so can't help you with that!

 

[JakesMummy]

Ah I'm meeting another mummy through netmums meet a mum board and I'm nervous!!! Lol shouldn't be but I'm shy at first, but after the first meet I'm ok!

 

[caro103]

gertrude def enjoy the perks! , glad you sound more at peace with it now, you can't change the past and you def sound like you gave it your all! plus shes over 3mths now and still getting some milk!

cheeselover we never really swaddled alex, most night he goes down quite well now in a sleeping bag. Maybe that might be a good inbetween ground rather than going straight to blankets she can completely kick off?

 

[gertrude]

ah swaddling - yeah we're considering weaning her off it as she can break out of every swaddle we've used but without it she just smacks herself in the head or wakes herself up chewing her hands

I figure she'll grow out of it herself - probably when she has better control of her arms

if you want to try the knack apparantly is to do it one arm at a time swaddle the same but leave 1 arm out for a few nights, then leave both arms out (but still swaddled so they have the same feeling on their tummy) then stop swaddling altogether x