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Is anyone else still "secretly" pregnant? I am not a fan of the idea of repeating the "un-telling" process once again, so we wanted to wait to announce. I thought that maybe after my ultrasound at 6w3d we might consider telling based on the results, but the more I wait, the better I feel about CONTINUING to wait.
Most of my family and friends will be really supportive and happy, especially with all my losses and them knowing how much I want more children, but at the same time I know a number of them think that after my last 5 consecutive losses (ending with the removal of my tube), that it was my sign to stop getting pregnant. So THAT is something I'm not looking forward to dealing with...you know, people won't say anything, but you can tell when they are thinking it. (at least that one kind of overpowers the number of children I have/want now...)
But at this point (7w3d), especially knowing I will likely lose the bloat in a week or two (as it's happened that way with all my other pregnancies), I'm thinking I could keep going for weeks without telling. It sort of makes me sad that I have no urge to share the news anymore (kinda feel ripped of that it has been ruined for me), but at the same time it's kind of relieving. I would really like to pick up the HB on my doppler first and then may be a week or so after that I'll consider. And it'll be our own children first, obviously, and we'll probably let them share the news. (I have a "Big Brother" shirt for my son that he never got to use with our last 2 babies we lost, so if it still fits him we might try that....only, knowing my family, it might take 5 visits with the shirt on before anyone catches it! LOL)
I know most people want others to know early on for the support if they lose the baby, but I've found it doesn't always work out that way (especially repeatedly, and especially if people around you have never lost a baby), and so I don't want to rely on that. We would likely say something if I lost the baby later on even if we hadn't told anyone yet, but like I said, I do not welcome the opinions that would come with it.
Most of my family and friends will be really supportive and happy, especially with all my losses and them knowing how much I want more children, but at the same time I know a number of them think that after my last 5 consecutive losses (ending with the removal of my tube), that it was my sign to stop getting pregnant. So THAT is something I'm not looking forward to dealing with...you know, people won't say anything, but you can tell when they are thinking it. (at least that one kind of overpowers the number of children I have/want now...)
But at this point (7w3d), especially knowing I will likely lose the bloat in a week or two (as it's happened that way with all my other pregnancies), I'm thinking I could keep going for weeks without telling. It sort of makes me sad that I have no urge to share the news anymore (kinda feel ripped of that it has been ruined for me), but at the same time it's kind of relieving. I would really like to pick up the HB on my doppler first and then may be a week or so after that I'll consider. And it'll be our own children first, obviously, and we'll probably let them share the news. (I have a "Big Brother" shirt for my son that he never got to use with our last 2 babies we lost, so if it still fits him we might try that....only, knowing my family, it might take 5 visits with the shirt on before anyone catches it! LOL)
I know most people want others to know early on for the support if they lose the baby, but I've found it doesn't always work out that way (especially repeatedly, and especially if people around you have never lost a baby), and so I don't want to rely on that. We would likely say something if I lost the baby later on even if we hadn't told anyone yet, but like I said, I do not welcome the opinions that would come with it.
I know words can't help you through the pain you are going through right now, you are in my thoughts and prayers. And I hope to see you back in no time with a sticky little bean. 
I frantically searched for my belly band yesterday morning but I think I probably threw it away after my last pregnancy (which was good judgment as it was very ratty after being worn nearly every day for like 30 weeks 
Baby moves around in your uterus. Sometimes the heartbeat is going to be louder than other times. 
That's my comfort level though. But it's definitely true, the placenta does begin taking over around 9-10 weeks (and has usually put the corpus luteum out of business by 13-14 weeks), so there will be a shift in things. That said, I have always noticed my pregnancy charts (I, too, chart for a while into pregnancy) to be totally whacko, totally "bad" charts compared to my non-pg ones. My temps are all over the place with pg.
