April Munchkins 2013- enjoying our wonderful babies!

[LittleSpy]

ukgirl -- Great news on the new apartment! Fx it's awesome and you get it!

doggylover -- I can only assume it's from the tear. I guess it was at a weird angle or stitched poorly or something. It seems a lot of women tear and heal really well and don't have problems at all. At my 6 week pp visit, I wasn't cleared for sex like most people are. She said to wait at least 2 more weeks (ha, yeah, no problemo, doc!). I apparently had a shit ton of stitches and they hadn't fully dissolved at 6 weeks. Sadly, the missionary position is the one that hurts the most now. And the least painful is me on top. Ugh.

 

[nimbec]

Hey girls sorry i've been quiet today i've over done it over last fews days and am utterly exhausted today (worked ie taught for 6hrs drove 3!)

hehe thankyou so much to all of you on advice i think im now going for the clip on and a cheap ish monitor as well

hmmm sex is an odd one for me atm, we have only dtd 3 times since pg as we where on a ban which to be honest suited us!! However i became very horny and resorted to self satisfication which seemed to work well untill the last few weeks and now its HORRID my tummy goea all hard and i'm not relieved at all grrrr so thats well and truly finished it all for me. Oh isn't keen anymore as bump is large so i think we are on a no sex until after thing and even then i think it will only be occassionally untill we try for #2. We atre not adventerous either....no swinging from shandeleers for me i'm afraid!!

Candy the flat sounds great fx for you!!! whe wpould you be able to move? is it still close to the shcool?

vagina repair service hahahahahahah i'd sign up!!!

Glad u enjoyed xmas readytomum - i think all the babies are sugared up atm - i've had WAY WAY too much ooooooops!!

Well i'm falling asleep typing ...i'll pop in and read tonight but may not post as shattered and a bit concerned that i really have overdone it....nearly fainted ion the loo earlier

Ouch littlespy that sounds painfull and hard work u on top hehe!

 

[ukgirl23]

thanks Ladies, hopefully we can move in, in early feb. It's about 5 minutes up the road so we would have to leave for school a bit earlier but it's still close so tht's great.

My tummy goes hard too after sex and eases off after a few moments, The orgasms set off a contraction x

 

[doggylover]

Nimbec glad to hear another person saying they are unadventurous in the bedroom - I hear all these people telling stories about all sorts and just think "that will never be us. Thank god"!!

Steph lol at that link- I was thinking recently how much different it must be when you are onto #2 (or more!) definitely won't have the amount of time to sit around googling and researching like I do now!!

Littlespy I would simply refuse to be on top all the time...too much like hard work

My LO is enjoying the new found sensation of jabbing me in the ladder when it's full. W had some serious words earlier...........to no avail. Little git!!!

 

[ukgirl23]

I feel like me and Aaron are the only ones still going for it now! haha! xx

 

[doggylover]

Power to you!! You make sure you let Aaron know how lucky he is! Tell him about all our poor oh's who are getting none!!

Honestly, I am 1 day into the 3rd tri and whatever way baby is lying, everything feels so DIFFERENT. The movements are different, and I can actually feel baby putting pressure on various bits of me, in a not pleasant way. Next 13 weeks shall be fun....

 

[ukgirl23]

omg doggylover I didn't know you were in the third tri!!! CONGRATULATIONS!! home stretch!! xxx

 

[Steph82]

LMAO Doggylover i'm with you... LO is constantly changing positions... none of which seem comfortable for sex lol. Candy, you let Aaron know he's lucky
We have tried various positions and nothing feels right. OH and I havnt discussed it because I think we both don't want to upset the other one ahaha... but deep down, I don't think I could happier with him not being home most of the time and I don't think he minds either

 

[doggylover]

steph, at least with dh away you have an amazing excuse not to be dtd!! I know what you mean about upsetting one another. I am happy as anything being sexless right now, but i suggest it to dh every so often just in case he misses it! He clearly doesn't know what to say that is the 'right' thing, so mainly stays quiet!!

Thanks Candy, just arrived in third tri today! And tomorrow it's 3 months exactly until my due date! Praying it all goes quickly!

In other news, just had a braxton hicks! I think...my whole abdomen definitely went rock hard, but it wasn't sore at all. Honestly, third tri is already so different

 

[Mommabrown]

Ladies I am sorry i have been gone for awhile. DH and i have separated and we also found out there is something wrong with Emmaleigh. Her nuchal fold is measuring to small which is an indicator of Congenital heart defects. We have to go to a specialist but because the Holidays can't get in. They have kicked her due date back because she is measuring small also. That is on top of all of our other stress of the custody and financial problems. I really hate busting in here with my bad drama news while you all are so happy. I am just so heart broken and alone and really can't take anymore.

 

[ukgirl23]

I've told him he's lucky and that most of you aren't having sex haha. He looked a bit surprised. I did go through a phase of not wanting it around the beginning of the second tri but lately I want it all the time! lol.

aww doggylover, I can't wait to join you in 3rd tri, I pop over to the boards there often as I'm kinda ready to be done with second tri now lol.

steph l was trying to get OH to go out one night with his friends just so I can watch romance movies and read magazines and eat junk without him farting away in the background or calling my movies ''gay'' and ''cheesy'' haha. He's always home! x

 

[Steph82]

Mommabrown I am soo sorry to hear this! I truly hope that things turn around and the Emmaleighs measurements were just off! Did they not see anything in prior scans? Could it have been a bad scan? I'm just so sorry and have everything crossed that it will be ok.
With the stress of the situation you are going through, I can see how that would influence your relationship with DH... but again... I hope time will sort everything out!

lease let us know if there is anything we can do

 

[ukgirl23]

Mommabrown that is so sad about you and DH I hope that you can work things out if there is a chance or at least be friends for the kids. How did they only just suddenly find this out about Emmaleigh?? did they not know she was small from scans before? I hope she's just a little girl and that they are wrong about her heart. I hope you can get in to the specialist soon. They measured Connie as small and she come out normal size. I really hope they are wrong xxx

 

[Steph82]

I've told him he's lucky and that most of you aren't having sex haha. He looked a bit surprised. I did go through a phase of not wanting it around the beginning of the second tri but lately I want it all the time! lol.

aww doggylover, I can't wait to join you in 3rd tri, I pop over to the boards there often as I'm kinda ready to be done with second tri now lol.

steph l was trying to get OH to go out one night with his friends just so I can watch romance movies and read magazines and eat junk without him farting away in the background or calling my movies ''gay'' and ''cheesy'' haha. He's always home! x

LOL I LOVE having him home, but I also enjoy watching my girly shows, walking around like a complete mess and going to bed at 7.30pm. oh... and i like not feeling bad about not having sex since hes not here ahahaha

 

[doggylover]

Ladies I am sorry i have been gone for awhile. DH and i have separated and we also found out there is something wrong with Emmaleigh. Her nuchal fold is measuring to small which is an indicator of Congenital heart defects. We have to go to a specialist but because the Holidays can't get in. They have kicked her due date back because she is measuring small also. That is on top of all of our other stress of the custody and financial problems. I really hate busting in here with my bad drama news while you all are so happy. I am just so heart broken and alone and really can't take anymore.

a million hugs for you. I am so sorry to hear about you and dh, and I hope that it is simply the stress of this super crappy time you have been having and you guys are able to resolve and be a family again soon if that's what you both want. And in terms of Emmaleigh, I am praying that she is just a little munchkin, and that all previous measurements have been correct and she is perfectly healthy. And if not, I know that you will still be the best mom in the world in helping her deal with any medical issues she has. You know we are all here for you whenever you need us.

Candy, 3rd tri boards are a bit scary though, all "I'm in labour" and such the like!

 

[Mommabrown]

Thanks y'all! She was very uncooperative in her previous scan to this one and they blame that for just now finding it. DH and his 8 brothers and sisters were 4-6 lb babies and DS was only 6 lbs when he was born also. I am not sure they asked a bunch of scary questions about being dizzy, if i had been bleeding, and if i felt her moving normally still. I was really in shock by all of this and it didn't help that DH and I are trying to be civil for DS.

I do want to be a family and he doesn't at this point. I have done everything i know from letting him express his feelings of hurt to telling him that i love him and know that we will get through this. He just doesn't want it. I try to talk to him but as soon as i get emotional he flips out. My mom thinks maybe he needs a breather from it all and will be back. I just don't know if we can fix us after all of this.

 

[doggylover]

Maybe your mom is right...but then again when you have a family, you don't GET a break. You signed up for a family, and you don't get to take a break just because it all gets too much for you. Especially when your wife is 6 months pregnant!! Sounds like you are doing your best, and there is only going to be so much you can do I'm so sorry that so much shit has come your way all at once.

 

[nimbec]

Mommabrown I'm so so sorry you are having to go through all this!! Hopefully oh will come around in time - sometimes men are just utterly crap with stress and emotion and once things calm down he may remember what you had and want to be a family again - I hope so! I'm sending huge hugs to you!!! Also I hope emmeleiagh is jut a tiny baby sounds as if this is definately possible! Also even if there was a defect (fx not) they have amazing technology these days an she could prob lead a totally normal life. I've had heart probs myself and work as a ccu/ cardiac intensive care nurse (although I'm on a break at moment and teaching horses lol!) it's amazing what can be done. As the others have said WE are all here for you all the time and if we can do anything please say - please talk as much as you need too!! (((((Hugs))))))

 

[Mommabrown]

That is exactly how i feel doggylover you don't get to decide when you can be in someone's life and not by how much shit you can or can't take. I feel like since i am at rock bottom the only other way is up from here. I just have to pull myself together and keep moving forward for me and the kids.

 

[nimbec]

Oh mommabrown you have so much strength you can do this. I agree he shouldn't get to decide he needs to grow a pair!!!!!