I find what to expect can be the same way if you read all the details of the things that may go wrong. Good for reference, but kinda scary. Would love to find a book that just focuses on developmental stages and skips all the what ifs.... I remember one of my professors showed us this amazing book in a child development class with crazy clear pictures during pregnancy, she even said, "You have to buy this for any of your pregnant friends".... unfortunetly I threw away those notes (no PG friends at the time) and don't remember the name of the book for the life of me. It was all pictures... now I'm bummed.