My husband had a vasectomy when our son was 5 weeks old. I wanted one more child, and he did it behind my back fully knowing this. I love him, so I fought to make the marriage work. In the end, we (thought) we realized that being apart was better, so we signed a separation agreement and divorce papers in July but never handed them in. I, stupidly, in desperation, used a sperm donor at a clinic to conceive my third child. I didn't expect the insemination to take on the first try, but it did, and here I sit, 10 1/2 weeks pregnant. The thing is though, I had sex with my husband on the night I ovulated, and was inseminated the morning after I ovulated, and recent sperm analysis has revealed that my husband had a low sperm count of 20 000. The procedure I used at the clinic has only a 10% success rate.
I went forward with this because, according to a separation agreement and divorce papers, we had the intent to discontinue our marriage and I thought it was time to move on. I should have though much harder about this. I should have at least waited until I was out of the house, and out of school, and until my marriage was officially over. With how he constantly turned away from me when I offered affection, with the lack of "I love you"'s, with the lack of time spent together, I never expected him to admit to me that he didn't want our marriage to actually end. Had I known, had I seen it, I never would have gon through with what I did, at least not now.
I only wish I realized sooner that he doesn't have to tell me he loves me every day, or give me a hug and kiss every 30 minutes to actually love me. I'm just not sure what I want more...this baby or my marriage and family.
I hope that you can see the options you have in front of you with an clear and open mind. Certainly all your options have pros and cons. Though weighing them and figuring out which is the lesser of two evils is the hardest part. 
