Assisted conception success - due 2018 xx

[Juliet11]

thank you!! i need it. it's been a rough day

 

[HopeBT]

Hi lovely ladies!
Hope everyone is doing well.
I dont post much, but always stalking the thread
So Im little over 14wks now, and got an early scan today. We are having a boy (90% sure)!
My due date is 25th May

Juliet-so sorry that you are having a rough time, hope things get better soon

I cannot believe how close some of the ladies are already!!! So exciting

 

[Juliet11]

Hope, yay another boy in the group!!
Thanks, it's been a rough day!!!
but I decided to try and stay positive and not get so down. I keep realizing that I don't have much control... like they can't do anything for my issue now. Just wait and see. Frustrating but need to stay positive for my sweet little boy!

 

[Wish2BMom]

oh juliet - so much to think about! I am sending you all my positive thoughts too. I hope you get your answers today. Please keep us posted!
And I love the turn to positivity - you can't control it but you have a lot of professionals around you that can manage it for you. Trust in them and then you'll be able to be there fully for baby boy!

hope - congrats on baby blue!! another one in the group!! it's the boy wave right now, crazy!

is anyone willing to share names that hasn't already? We told our names to people and one is an easy pass and the other is reacted to oddly. That's what I didn't want but quite honestly, it's taken me a bit to get used to as well. DH came up with it though, which warms my heart. My DH is the type to kinda take most of these pregnancy things with a grain of salt, or go with the most common choice, or whatever makes the most sense. Not a ton of opinion either way with most things. So for the names, I was coming up with them and he'd either way 'not terrible' or 'no'. So when this one came up, from HIM, and it wasn't a jokey name, I stuck with it.

 

[dancingnurse2]

Luna Reagan
Arlo Columbus
Both different names but family as well.

 

[koj518]

hope - awww!!! congrats!!! so many boys here!!

juliet - oh boy.. you have so much going on!! I hope you get some answers! sending big hugs

wish - I'd share if I had one picked out!! my goal is to not leave the hospital without a name.. haha

dancing - love the names!!

 

[Wish2BMom]

dancing - thank you for sharing! I love them!

koj - that's a good goal to have!

ours are Timothy and Malcolm (aka "Mac")
middle names aren't solidified yet but I'm hoping they'll be each of our father's middles names - Martin and Lee. I don't know which will go with which. I'm not opposed to 2 M names together (Malcolm Martin) so it doesn't much matter to me!

 

[dancingnurse2]

Love those Wish!

 

[Juliet11]

wish and koj, thanks! been seriously waiting by the phone, ringer actually on haha. but no word yet.

dancing and wish, loving the names!!!!
we like unquie... so we are thinking Maverick..... Mav or Mak for short. other contenders currently are Maxwell, Sawyer, Hunter

thankfully the 4 year olds had preschool today, so i could catch up on the house chores a bit with just the little one running around. always feeling behind though.
i told my mom about the issues, and she is going nuts with worry. wants me to get a second opinion, and wishes my doctors would do this or that. she is very stubborn and verbal. but honestly, they can't make this stuff up. If the two membranes haven't fused yet, then they haven't.
I will ask my doctor if I should make any other precautions, and what to expect if it doesn't completely fuse at the next appt 12/28. Stuff like that, but I think i'll just have to wait and see what happens.

 

[Wish2BMom]

love your name choices too, juliet! my cousin named her son Maverick - I think it's gaining in popularity. I LOVE Maxwell the most out of yours!

those sound like good questions to go in with. I understand your Mom's worry but I agree with you - unless maybe they saw something that wasn't there but I doubt it. Hopefully things will fuse together in the next month and worries will be gone. What did they say could happen if they don't?

 

[scoobybeans]

wish- I'm so glad your checkup went well and the boys are doing great. Looks like I'm not the only one who grows them big lol. I really hope Baby B turns so you have the option of a vaginal delivery. Stubborn little bear! I need to pay more attention to my belly to see if I'm having BH contractions. I suspect I am too. I got a couple of prints on Amazon and they're super cute if you want to check there! (Mine actually have elephants on them, I wonder if you'll pick the same ones? ) I love both of your names! I think Timothy Martin & Malcolm Lee sounds great.

3chords- Yeah I use my SUV a lot for carting around stuff for work to different job sites so I don't want to put the seats in too soon. On the other hand, I want those boxes out of my house lol.

Juliet- Aww, a boy! Congratulations! Wow, I've never heard of the membrane thing. I really hope it's not serious! Have they gotten back to you yet? I would seriously start harassing them at this point! Aww, Maverick is cute! I like Sawyer & Maxwell too!

koj- Honestly I think you're fine and I'm just doing things on the earlier side. It's mostly because we've got my dad's birthday, Christmas, New Year's and my 40th birthday all coming up and I know I'll be too busy to think about all of this stuff soon!

hope- It's great to hear from you! So glad everything is going well. Congrats on your baby boy!

dancing- Beautiful names! How are you feeling??

Ordered my breast pump yesterday! No idea how to use it lol but glad I got it & it was free. I picked the Spectra S2 Plus.

 

[3chords]

Hope & Juliet - congrats on team blue! Little boys are so much fun. I love when they look like little old men.

Juliet - always something to worry about...but nothing you can do about the membranes not fusing. Not the most ideal thing for your Mom to be adding to the anxiety.

dancing - love those names. Unique but not weird, will suit them well.

We have a name picked but we didn't tell anybody last time so we are doing the same. I had my 28 week scan today and baby is doing great and measuring 2 lb 8 oz so everybody is happy for now and I go back in 2 weeks.

 

[Wish2BMom]

oohhh thanks for the amazon tip! I'll hunt this afternoon.

Yeah I sorta hope he flips, sorta not. I am so on the fence about which way I prefer. Whichever is best for the 3 of us, really. But I think he's already out of room.

I bet you have had BH and didn't know it! well done on getting your pump ordered! I have to remember to change my delivery date if I get a c-sec scheduled...so much to remember! When is your bday? I'm turning 42 on 12/7!

 

[star25]

Juliet, congestion your little boy! Sorry to hear about the membranes, I hope your dr can give you more info soon so you’re not worrying

Hope, glad you are well and congratulations on your boy too!

Dancing and wish, love he names! And your choices too Juliet

Scooby, you sound so organised! I’ve only just got a few newborn sleep suits the other day, although the only thing I need is a double pushchair, all other bigger things we got in neutral for dd in case we ever had a boy so that’s a relief! Just need a few more clothes but not a lot, most of her vests, socks, bibs and sleeping bags were neutral too and hats so not buying much more til he’s out of sleep suits and in more outfits which won’t be for a while cos I think sleep suits are easier and cuter

Talking of the pushchair I’m looking at a bugaboo donkey tomorrow, Its less than a year old and so lovely, it’s £650 but I didn’t want to buy one new as dd probably won’t be in on too much longer, miss independent likes to walk wherever possible but we will need a double for longer walks and when I’m on my own
I’ve been debating about a tandem or side by side, I’ve got a cheapie tandem I use with my niece and it gets heavy at the front, especially going up kerbs so decided on a side by side that can also go to a single, I just worry about getting through doorways but I asked on the baby fb group where I live and a lot of ppl have the donkey and recommended a donkey
I considered a mountain buggy duet but some of the reviews on its quality weren’t great and a lot of people said how heavy the icandys are so that’s put me off lol

Anyway hope you’re all well, nothing to report here, just the usual horrrendous heartburn!

 

[Juliet11]

thanks everyone for the conern. i have a call from my doctor coming in 15 mins, so

wish, funny your cousins boy has the same name! i am not sure i have heard of anyone else having it but i figured plenty do!
i am going to ask what will happen if they don't fuse... i am guessing bed rest and steroid shots whenever they can start those up.

scooby, i think it is rare and serious
3chords, had you heard of the membrane issue before?
star, thanks!!!

i am so excited some of you are getting so far along!! wish i was there too!!!

star, i have the bugaboo donkey! are they all a double? mine is a double that can go down to a single with a basket. its pretty neat.

 

[star25]

This one is the same Juliet, double to single I love the look of them and flexibility
Hope the phone call goes ok

 

[3chords]

star - we are also getting the Donkey, but I think I'll get the Donkey 2 new and then re-sell it for a good price as they really maintain their value. I like how versatile it is and I already have the Cameleon 3 and the Bee so I am generally a fan of the brand (though I don't actually really like the Bee that much). I hate tandem strollers as they are super hard to push with a bigger kid and Henry is pretty big. I went back and forth on whether I need a double stroller, but I want to get it so that we can walk Henry to his daycare and pick him up with the stroller once the spring weather arrives. It's about a 20 minute walk, which for him would be like an hour lol. And I would love to have that ability to go on long walks twice a day and work off some of the post-pregnancy weight. We also go to the park almost every day and we like to go to the one a bit further away from us so the Donkey will be useful.

 

[Juliet11]

hi everyone, so finally heard from my doctor!
it was reassuring... BUT i must note she has not had a patient with this before! It is rare.

main thing is i will be monitored pretty closely.
DD had a heart condition at birth that was fixed, so i get a fetal echo cardiogram in 2 weeks. they may do a look then at this issue. i also go in at the end of dec to look at the issue and hopefully it has resolved. if not, it would mean more monitoring of baby growth, possible NST, and maybe steroid shots. depends. there is nothing i can do but continue no strenuous activity and pelvic rest (no sex).
I feel like some questions were answered, but a lot of it is a wait and see... and that's not fun at all. But my membranes are partially fused which I think is way better then not at all. She mentioned a sub amniotic hematoma, which i think is preventing the full fuse. so that hopefully dissolves. She also got me in the system with the specialist that popped into my Monday appointment, so that means I can contact her with more questions.
I have to admit, i cried off and on for an hour last night. Reading others experiences was so sad and painful! But they were extreme cases.

So for now, continue the plan. Any red bleeding I need to go in. But I don't need bed rest or change trip plans for now.

Hope everyone else is having a good week and not eventful like mine!

 

[3chords]

Juliet, that is the hard thing about reading people's stories online - in reality people who had terrible experiences are much more likely to write/talk about it than ones who had an issue that ended up turning out ok. I did the same thing with the low PAPP-A, was so depressed about the outcomes and for me so far it has not played out badly so I just need to keep plugging along.

 

[Juliet11]

3chords, Yes you are exactly right! People post about their terrible times, and not always the successes of getting through an issue. So skewed info.

It is very likely things will be totally fine. So I am just hoping for that.
And glad things are going okay so far for you too!!