Attitude to scans - warning rant!

[mordino]

I can understand where Lol78 is coming from. When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I was blissfully ignorant about any possible complications until my triple test which showed a higher risk for Downs. I was very upset....I refused amnio and was so nervous about my 20 week scan. I didn't even think about the baby gender, I was just hoping that the baby was okay.

Now, I am pregnant again for the third time after losing my 2nd baby at 17 weeks. I am nervous about my 20 week scan next month. I am at risk for Downs again and I refused a CVS. Of course I would like to know this baby's gender for shopping purposes but it is the baby's health that is the most important to us. They check everything about the baby, so for me the 20 week scan is a milestone for that reason.

 

[Jox]

With my anomoly scan with kasper we had already decided we werent finding out babys sex so that wasnt 'the point' of the scan for me...I think the point for me was just being able to see my baby again....I dont think the idea of anything being wrong even crossed my mind.... It was a case of 'i know it happens but it wont happen to me'...it didnt but lost kasper at 36 weeks.

I will never be able to walk into a scan room now 'looking forward' to seeing my baby as i will just forever expect them to say 'im sorry...its bad news'

Oh the innocence....

xxx