Aussies trying to get duffered aged 20+ !!!

[Trying2b2mums]

kiwi

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

Amber, so glad she's doing better! fingers crossed you are able to see her at christmas!

Kiwi - so sorry that you're feeling bad today. poor thing! You know, I have read heaps of things about people saying that everyone always says not to stress, and that they disagree cos they were so stressed and trying everything and it happened for them! I say stress away if it's what you wanna do this month! I would be the same, give it one last ditch effort! I believe your body will concieve when it wants to. Obviously its ideal not to stress, but plenty of people have conceived when they are under a lot of pressure from various things! I have a feeling for you this month!

In fact, I think everyone is going to have a killer month! I think AT LEAST 5 this month!

Pammy, can't help with the CM - sorry! re not knowing if your hubby is joking or not about not being duffered, why don't you just ask him? From what you've said, it sounds like he doesn't want a baby right now, but that's purely based on what you've said. It's different when you're the one having the conversations & know what context it's all in....if that makes sense? Just ask...communication is key!

hi everyone!!

 

[Pammy31]

i think he will be fine... i know my limits with the baby talk with him. i talk as much as i can with him.

 

[Abby27]

Pammy ive read on other forums that big clumps of yellow CM is a good duffered sign!

Kiwi: ive been going through a rough time too, hoping that i would ovulate during my holiday so we could have stress free BDing, and now im stressing out cause im fairly certain i havent yet, and FF has me confused, and now DH is feeling sick...so im going to have to bust some serious move to get more BDing...but what is the point if no smiley face! Three women today on FB announced they were preggers! and i cried! so...yes the stress! I completely understand and right there with you!
ive been trying to break it down into bits i can manage, may be that will help you to?

At this point all you can really do is have sex and hope for the best! the rest is out of our hands. Ultimately, we can take all the tests, and take our temp, but it really comes down to having well timed sex and fate. if we break it down to that then its easier to focus on right now. Go make love to your DH!
Fertility treatment isnt so bad... i have sisters, aunts and cousins all with houses filled with babies from fertility treatment! so enjoy the BDing with your DH, talk to your baby, tell Ethan you cant wait to love him and give him life so he can live it
I truely believe you will get your BFP soon enough, but right now focus on some love making!
(we also arent so old...those ladies who announced on FB they were duffered were older than both of us....so dont stress about that)
I wish i could help more! You might have some post holiday blues mixed in with some Pre Ovulation Stress!
hugs to you hun!

 

[Lisasmith]

for all you beautiful girls

 

[Melainey]

Kiwi - I think Abby and Squigleypants said it beautifuly I hope that you feel better soon x

 

[cossime]

You girls are so sweet and so great with your words. Kiwi I'm sending you and all the other lovelies lots and lots of cyber xox

 

[kiwipauagirl]

Ah thank you so much girls for all of your beautiful words and yep they made me cry but happy lovely tears not stressed out frustrated tears.
It is just so great to have people on here to help you out of your difficult times. I know there are people worse off then me and I know even some of you girls are dealing with your own personal troubles but I appreciate all the thank you.
But Abby your right. Tonight is the first night in over 2wk DH and myself are alone so quality time will be spent with him. And I know there is nothing wrong with fert treatment, I am just being silly.

THANKS AGAIN LADIES

 

[kiwipauagirl]

Well girls,

I know my second line isn't quite as dark as the first but it is clear enough so going to take it as a OPK positive I have no smiley face digital ones left so quickly grabbed a normal packet, its been ages since I have used these but going to go with a yes!
(hope the picture attached now LOL).

So look out DH tonight is your lucky night LOL. Now to get through the next 6hrs of work
At least there is a nice smile on my face and no tears now!!!

 

[Pammy31]

i caved... i used a frer... BFN.

 

[Trying2b2mums]

fx for that eggy Kiwi!!

 

[Pauls_angel]

Hi lovelies sorry I haven't had much of a chance to jump I today and am super tired now - but i have caught up and am sending big hugs out to you all! Great to see you back online kiwi, and amber I'm so glad to hear your aunt is a little better - still praying for her lots! Last day of term tomorrow then 2 weeks off - looking fwd to having more time to chat! Bedtime now though - night x

 

[Rosie_PA]

Pammy- it's still early, you still have hope! Fx'd!

Angel- enjoy your time off! Xx

Story to share that had me in tears at work....

Lady at work today came in for cough and cold symptoms and happened to notice in her chart her last period was "2-3 months ago" so I asked if she was pregnant. She said no, she is on birth control, but has irregular cycles. So after the exam I said that I wanted to give her antibiotics but I really should make sure you aren't UTD. She agreed to POAS and of course, BFP. When I went in to tell her she burst into tears, absolutely devastated! It took everything I had to hold it together. I just have such a hard time dealing with how many people can get pregnant when they are actively preventing it and we can't when that's all we want! Ugh, very rough day....

 

[Pammy31]

that sucks

 

[kiwipauagirl]

Ah Rosie mega coming Ur way. It is so hard. I get it in my job to. I have one girl who is 22 yr is pregnant with 3rd child to another different father having a third girl and admitted to keep going till she gets a boy! How unfair is that. Didn't graduate school, living on welfare, no contact with the dads but can get pregnant just by thinking about it. Hugs to u

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

Yeah, it's bullshit that that can happen. so sorry rosie! hope you are ok! that would have been such a tough day at work! when something liek that comes up, it's hard to take an objective view to the case.

Kiwi - that's nuts! I just turned 23 & while ive always wanted childern, coudn't imagine having more than 1 at this stage of my life, given that I have only been with DH 3 years. it's always the dedbeats that can get knocked up!

I believe you need a licence to breed. you need one for any other bloody thing, but you can have kids at the drop of a hat

pammy - sorry for bfn

 

[Lisasmith]

Oh, Rosie that's awful. I had 2 kids at 23 but they were very much wanted. It makes me incredibly sad that people who don't want babies can get duffed so easily

 

[Maddy40]

Morning ladies!

2Mums, hope your aunt has a little rally when she hears the news. Sounds like you have a really close family.

Rosie, Piece of Sh*t chart - love it! FF moved my crosshairs today when I put in CD28 temps. WTF!

Lainey, are you feeling a bit less frustrated now you have a little bit of work? Must be great to have your own pocketmoney and to get out and meet some new people. Good on you!

Angel, hope you woke up refreshed. I have a medical condition that, if not medicated properly, means I wake up feeling just as tired which is awful.

Pam, sorry you got a BFN and your temps are down, but it ain't over till the red lady shows. Hope DH was just joking with his comment...what would have have done if you'd turned around and showed him a BFP?

Kiwi, sorry ur a bit down today. I have lived overseas for several stints totalling 12 of the past 19 years - I know well that bereft feeling when visitors leave. Tomorrow will be CD1 for me - our last cycle before the Fertility Specialist. I kind of feel relieved and looking forward to "maybe" some answers.

Abby, Sex and Fate. Sounds like the name of a 50 Shades type series. But so true, of course.

Hi to everyone else....

 

[Pammy31]

Morning ladies!

2Mums, hope your aunt has a little rally when she hears the news. Sounds like you have a really close family.

Rosie, Piece of Sh*t chart - love it! FF moved my crosshairs today when I put in CD28 temps. WTF!

Lainey, are you feeling a bit less frustrated now you have a little bit of work? Must be great to have your own pocketmoney and to get out and meet some new people. Good on you!

Angel, hope you woke up refreshed. I have a medical condition that, if not medicated properly, means I wake up feeling just as tired which is awful.

Pam, sorry you got a BFN and your temps are down, but it ain't over till the red lady shows. Hope DH was just joking with his comment...what would have have done if you'd turned around and showed him a BFP?

Kiwi, sorry ur a bit down today. I have lived overseas for several stints totalling 12 of the past 19 years - I know well that bereft feeling when visitors leave. Tomorrow will be CD1 for me - our last cycle before the Fertility Specialist. I kind of feel relieved and looking forward to "maybe" some answers.

Abby, Sex and Fate. Sounds like the name of a 50 Shades type series. But so true, of course.

Hi to everyone else....

Umm yeah thats what I am worried about too Maddy... (sigh)

 

[Pammy31]

no cramping atm i went down in temps real fast last month... bbs still sore and full belly still hard... I don't "feel" preggers.... oh well.

So my temps are down... I have noticed 2 months of charting I believe if I don't have a down temp after 9dpo then that will be the month I concieve. both charts show high temp on 9dpo then downturn as of 10dpo onwards..