Bellys to Bumps

[twinkle1975]

I'm afraid i've never been pregnant so I wouldn't know if that was a symptom or not. It could be. If you think you might be pg then it might be worth doing a test!

Good luck x

Ditto - I'm sure someone else on another thread could help - or start a thread & someone will know!

 

[twinkle1975]

I'm not sure if they mind about bmi over there hun you're doing so well with the weight loss and your hard work is definitely going to pay off

I'M SHRINKING!!!! Had weigh in this afternoon and I'm now 166.6 kg, think I've lost something like 2lbs compared to last time I had weigh in at the drs, which is something like 9lbs lighter than I was this time last year (considering all the weight I put on in the past few months)

Well done honey!!!! Really proud of you!!!

 

[EmmyReece]

awwww thanks hun

how are things with you?

 

[cranberry987]

It is a Preg symptom but could also be loads of other things.

 

[twinkle1975]

Had a really nice day - catch up meeting & coffee with my boss this morning, lunch with a friend for her birthday, watched Moulin Rouge & then drinks with friends this evening. Really struggled with that bit though as the girl who started TTC at the same time as me & got her BFP first cycle was there & she was complaining about how broke & tired they are since the baby arrived. Had to grit my teeth!!

 

[Rachel123]

Had a really nice day - catch up meeting & coffee with my boss this morning, lunch with a friend for her birthday, watched Moulin Rouge & then drinks with friends this evening. Really struggled with that bit though as the girl who started TTC at the same time as me & got her BFP first cycle was there & she was complaining about how broke & tired they are since the baby arrived. Had to grit my teeth!!

I’m sorry you feel this way. In relation to this comment, the conversation about being tired and skint came in response to a direct question about these things from another person, so it’s not as if I launched into complaining out of nowhere.

I think it’s all too easy with internet forums to forget you can be identified by the details you include – you even told me about this website, which made me wonder if you wanted me to read your thoughts.

I’ve been really hurt by some of the things you’ve said about me on here. I’ve tried to ignore them because I thought you needed some kind of outlet to vent your feelings, but this has been going on since I told you I was pregnant over a year ago and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better.

I know you really want a baby, I’ve tried so hard to be sensitive to your feelings, both while pregnant and since my baby was born. You’re right in that I don’t fully understand how it is to be desperately TTC and not being successful, I’ve been very lucky. But with all my underlying medical conditions, getting pregnant and carrying to term was a major achievement for me – something I think you forget.

I feel that your constant sniping on here is almost “wishing away” my baby, the most important person in my life. That’s what hurts the most.

I’ve chosen to reply now because enough is enough. I hope you continue to get the support you need from these forums. I’m not going to visit this website again because I feel it’s destroying our friendship. I hope that we can rebuild it one day.

 

[cranberry987]

Rly theres a place for this reply and it aint here. twinkle was venting frustrations which we all have. every pregnancy is hard and stressful for many reasons so its not like youre the only person to ever have problems. Id imagine you should be grateful if you had so many terribly problems, feel lucky that you have a healthy child rather than complain about the fallout.

She was polite and didnt say anything to your face, she was upset and shared with ppl who know what shes going through. Dont begrudge her this, Im sure we've all thought much worse in our dark moments, we all have wished bad on ppl who we rly care about, its just because things are so hurtful.

If you were reading her posts and not telling her then thats pretty sly tbh. How would you feel if you thought you were in a safe place to share feelings then got sniped by the person you were talking about.

Youre totally out of order and if you were my friend Id be telling you to shove your friendship. Be a bit more sensitive about things, if you were upset about this then the time to bring it up was in private a year ago, not after a year of stalking then having a go on here.

 

[EmmyReece]

I'm sorry, but if you have such a problem with what twinkle has said then why don't you try and speak to her rather than secretly reading her posts on here until now? Also, it seems to me that you've been blatantly come on here searching for her!!

She is trying so hard to get that much longed for bfp and is working hard to lose the weight, and considering the length of time she has been trying for, she is entitled to feel the way she does, and is entitled to explain how she's feeling on here. We're a close group of ladies who support each other through the good times and bad times because we all UNDERSTAND what it feels like to be in each others' situations.

And I'm sorry to say, but, why on earth would she wish away your baby???

Maybe you should have a bit of compassion for her situation rather than jumping on her on a public forum! Some people really don't realise how lucky they are to get a quick bfp rather than having to work so hard to get it.

Grow a backbone and if you have something to say to her, say it to her face rather than putting it in a particular group where she has made friends and she considers a safe place to post her feelings etc. Are you overweight? Are you trying to lose weight to get pregnant again? If not then what on earth are you doing posting in this thread other than to try and cause embarassment to Twinkle???

And I'm sorry to say, but I'm another one who thinks you're out of order for your actions on here.

 

[Traskey]

Twinkle

Rachel, this is not an appropriate place for the comments that you have posted today. You are entitled to your opinions but for the sake of your friendship would it have not been better to have this conversation in private?

As the girls have said this thread is for ladies who have been trying to conceive for a long time and are trying to lose weight. It's a safe place for us to talk about our difficulties with trying to have a child and Twinkle was expressing how frustrating it was for her to hear some of your thoughts. I understand what you are saying but honestly, only people that have waited so long for a desperately wanted baby would understand how upsetting that can be.

I'm sure Twinks doesn't wish your baby away at all, just appreciate how blessed you are.

 

[Tarkwa]

Well said Trask - my sentiments EXACTLY!!!
I do hope that they can both sort it out though.
Big hugs Twinks - we're all here for you.
xxx

 

[twinkle1975]

shit

 

[twinkle1975]

Thanks ladies - I've texted her trying to explain what its like & that I would never wish her baby away

 

[cranberry987]

Hope youll be ok. I know that Ive said a LOT worse on here about my friends. Its not that we wish them harm, its just like... why them not me!

 

[Traskey]

I hope it works out for you Twinks and the two of you can talk about it.

 

[Tarkwa]

FFS - 'wishing your baby away' is a load of bollox. Yeah, we've all been pissed we weren't preggers when everyone around us was but her saying something like that was just pathetic. She's clearly upset by it all (blame her hormones!) but I'm sure things will smooth over in time - everything will still be a bit raw today.
I haven't told anyone I know about BnB in case of someone reading something I've said and taking it the wrong way - I just say I've joined a forum about TTC/pregnancy and leave it at that. Good plan taking your photo down chick !
xxx

 

[StrawberryTTC]

I just saw this now and have to say I'm also upset for twinkle. I think it's so unfair of someone to come on here and in fact take away an important outlet for your feelings! If she does not come back and read these comments for herself, perhaps there's some way of conveying to her that since we all have kept our hurt to ourselves and tried to be happy for our friends, we sometimes need an outlet to pour out the hurt and have someone who understands listen.

Hope it all works out!

 

[lauraclili]

Exactly. I agree with all that the others have said.

Sending you some positive vibes and a hug.

xx

 

[babyerin]

To suggest somebody who is lttc would ever 'wish away' anybodys, especially a friends baby is downright offensive!

Fundamentally, Rachel, you're in the wrong for stalking Twinkle on here, why not introduce yourself earlier or bring this up in private? You've obviously searched her and come onto the lttc boards to confront her.

Its a shame you feel that way about Twinkle, its a shame you begrudge her a little hidey place to vent about how she feels on here cos she DOES NOT want it to affect your friendship. It really is.

The only thing Twinks guilty of is being a human and having normal human feelings about wanting a baby, certainly NOT wishing yours away.

I hope you can sort this out, cos she really is a great friend to have.

 

[lovie]

big hugs twinkle

I cant see that what you said could be seen as offensive, you said its hard to here people moan about money troubles and being tired when they have the 1 thing you want most in the world... thats compleatly natural hun, no matter what you want in life, those of us who are unemployed will find it hard listening to our friends moaning that they are so busy at work... those of us who are skinny will find it hard to listen to our curvy friends moaning about big boobs, those of us who are chubby will find it hard listening to our skinny friends moaning about their mini bums looking big in their new jeans.... so naturally those of us still waiting to get our bfp's will find it hard to listen to the moans most new parents make...

being a good friend is biting your lip and smiling and saying all the right helpfull things and then going home and crying, moaning to your friends in a simalar situation.... never on this thread have i ever seen anyone wish a baby away, the ladies here are caring, rational, and supportive. All we are working towards is having a baby of our own, there is no way we would ever wish any one anything but good things, sure we will have a lump in our throught and sure we would wish it could be us, but never ever wish ill on a tiny baby.

I hope this all sorts itself out, we are here for you twinks xxx

 

[twinkle1975]

Thanks ladies. I love you all. (Its fine to talk about other stuff now, I've stopped crying for today!) How is everyone else doing? Xxx