Thanks for all your feedback girls ... it makes me feel stronger to hear all your comments and i know that i am doing the right thing in trying to plan a life without him. I said to him why did you agree to this then if you didnt want to and he made up some reason that he was coming off really strong painkillers for a few months at that time (he was) and that he didnt know where his head was at ... i am sorry but is that a side effect of painkillers ... telling your girlfriend you want a baby ...???
he also put me down and said that i can barely look after myself, let alone a baby ... I am a 38 year old woman who holds down a job and runs a house, which part do i not look after myself.
his options seem to be that i either get rid of the baby or if i dont then, we should get back together. I said i am not having an abortion and i dont want to get back together under these circumstances ! I asked him if he intended being in the babies life and he said either he is completely out and doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby or he is in and i have to go back to him .... i felt like i was being blackmailed. like one of you girls said - i need to feel like i am in the driving seat of my life and not the passenger.
its unbelievable that this horrible man is the man i have loved and been in a relationship with for the last 14 years ... the last 2 weeks (since telling him i was pregnant) have been a nightmare and the man i have known all those years has vanished and this is what is left ...........
he also put me down and said that i can barely look after myself, let alone a baby ... I am a 38 year old woman who holds down a job and runs a house, which part do i not look after myself.
his options seem to be that i either get rid of the baby or if i dont then, we should get back together. I said i am not having an abortion and i dont want to get back together under these circumstances ! I asked him if he intended being in the babies life and he said either he is completely out and doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby or he is in and i have to go back to him .... i felt like i was being blackmailed. like one of you girls said - i need to feel like i am in the driving seat of my life and not the passenger.
its unbelievable that this horrible man is the man i have loved and been in a relationship with for the last 14 years ... the last 2 weeks (since telling him i was pregnant) have been a nightmare and the man i have known all those years has vanished and this is what is left ...........