ALI
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Hiya,
As a Father who has been through pretty much the same thing I know how helpless and lost you feel , I did not know what to do to help my partner when our little one was born early. There is no "manual" to tell you what to do or how to feel and it is very stressful and traumatic in the early days. But just take one day at a time ,there is a light at the end of must seem to you, at the moment, to be a very long tunnel.
We never thought back then that our little one would beat the odds with her brain meningitis and be so healthy, albeit delayed in meeting her milestones but we are confident she will get there in the longrun. she is doing very well for a baby given a bare 1% chance of surviving the infection, or being severely disabled if she did. My point is, never forget that the Doctors do tend to give the worst case scenario so whatever happens always try and remain positive however difficult it may be and never give up hope. Other than her moderate hearing loss and needing a bit of physio to help progress her movement she is great and no real problems.
Anyway her needing hearing aids is no worse than my needing glasses due to being as blind as a bat. We got her really cute pink ones.
Anyway, If you do need to chat to another dad, whom went from no grey hair to the George Clooney look over the 15 weeks our Princess was in NICU/SCBU (which my O/h quite likes so maybe not such a bad thing) then please do not hesitate to contact me anytime.
All the best Alasdair
As a Father who has been through pretty much the same thing I know how helpless and lost you feel , I did not know what to do to help my partner when our little one was born early. There is no "manual" to tell you what to do or how to feel and it is very stressful and traumatic in the early days. But just take one day at a time ,there is a light at the end of must seem to you, at the moment, to be a very long tunnel.
We never thought back then that our little one would beat the odds with her brain meningitis and be so healthy, albeit delayed in meeting her milestones but we are confident she will get there in the longrun. she is doing very well for a baby given a bare 1% chance of surviving the infection, or being severely disabled if she did. My point is, never forget that the Doctors do tend to give the worst case scenario so whatever happens always try and remain positive however difficult it may be and never give up hope. Other than her moderate hearing loss and needing a bit of physio to help progress her movement she is great and no real problems.
Anyway her needing hearing aids is no worse than my needing glasses due to being as blind as a bat. We got her really cute pink ones.
Anyway, If you do need to chat to another dad, whom went from no grey hair to the George Clooney look over the 15 weeks our Princess was in NICU/SCBU (which my O/h quite likes so maybe not such a bad thing) then please do not hesitate to contact me anytime.
All the best Alasdair
xx
