Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[Tasha]

Oh and because I live in London, many people dont have cars as there is no need for them to have one.

 

[Tasha]

Oh and also (sorry) if the children are eating popping off to the toilet or the car whilst you go feed isnt an oprion, because who looks after the others?

 

[Pearls18]

why are we only sitting on toilets to nurse? you could move to a quiet part of the restaurant, or a family or handicapped bathroom where it cleaner and larger then the average stall. there are often couches or chairs in the bathroom where you can sit. i have no problem nursing in our car either where i live we have several other options. i understand you might not have as many options, but i do believe if you were to talk to a staff member of a restaurant or whatever they could accommodate you with a nice quiet hygenique place to nurse.

Because we shouldn't have to move, we're feeding our babies, not deficating, not having sex, not taking a shower- those things should be done privately feeding a baby shouldn't be shameful in public.

 

[meli1981]

i live in canada. and i dont go out to eat very often with the kids without my husband. its too much work! especially after the baby comes. theres no way im going out to eat with a newborn, a two year old, and a seven year old! depending on where you are, the bathrooms, especally in restarants are very clean, just as clean as the dining room. hell ive even nursed on the toilet at home!

 

[meli1981]

why are we only sitting on toilets to nurse? you could move to a quiet part of the restaurant, or a family or handicapped bathroom where it cleaner and larger then the average stall. there are often couches or chairs in the bathroom where you can sit. i have no problem nursing in our car either where i live we have several other options. i understand you might not have as many options, but i do believe if you were to talk to a staff member of a restaurant or whatever they could accommodate you with a nice quiet hygenique place to nurse.

Because we shouldn't have to move, we're feeding our babies, not deficating, not having sex, not taking a shower- those things should be done privately feeding a baby shouldn't be shameful in public.

what does sex have to do with it? so you have sex in a bathroom but not nurse your baby? i would think both of those actions need some kind of sanitization!

 

[Pearls18]

why are we only sitting on toilets to nurse? you could move to a quiet part of the restaurant, or a family or handicapped bathroom where it cleaner and larger then the average stall. there are often couches or chairs in the bathroom where you can sit. i have no problem nursing in our car either where i live we have several other options. i understand you might not have as many options, but i do believe if you were to talk to a staff member of a restaurant or whatever they could accommodate you with a nice quiet hygenique place to nurse.

Because we shouldn't have to move, we're feeding our babies, not deficating, not having sex, not taking a shower- those things should be done privately feeding a baby shouldn't be shameful in public.

what does sex have to do with it? so you have sex in a bathroom but not nurse your baby? i would think both of those actions need some kind of sanitization!

Lol I just mean those are the kinds of things that aren't acceptable in public, if I am allowed to eat in public then why can't my baby, the issue here is your attitude and others because I am sure you're probably the majority unfortunately, why should we have to go sit in a car?? Just because YOU don't like to eat out to dinner because it's too much work doesn't mean everyone else feels like that way this is my point. I fed in private because I was embarrassed, i shouldn't have been but I was, but I accept not everyone should do as I do, in fact I hope they don't!!

 

[Tasha]

i live in canada. and i dont go out to eat very often with the kids without my husband. its too much work! especially after the baby comes. theres no way im going out to eat with a newborn, a two year old, and a seven year old! depending on where you are, the bathrooms, especally in restarants are very clean, just as clean as the dining room. hell ive even nursed on the toilet at home!

It is different here or at least where I am. Toilets are not great unless some where expensive. I would nurse on the toilet in my home if I needed cos I know it is clean.

I had a baby, a two and three year old, and when I have another I will have a 5, 8 and 9 year old, if I dont go out alone with them we would never go out as DH works a lot.

 

[meli1981]

why are we only sitting on toilets to nurse? you could move to a quiet part of the restaurant, or a family or handicapped bathroom where it cleaner and larger then the average stall. there are often couches or chairs in the bathroom where you can sit. i have no problem nursing in our car either where i live we have several other options. i understand you might not have as many options, but i do believe if you were to talk to a staff member of a restaurant or whatever they could accommodate you with a nice quiet hygenique place to nurse.

Because we shouldn't have to move, we're feeding our babies, not deficating, not having sex, not taking a shower- those things should be done privately feeding a baby shouldn't be shameful in public.

what does sex have to do with it? so you have sex in a bathroom but not nurse your baby? i would think both of those actions need some kind of sanitization!

Lol I just mean those are the kinds of things that aren't acceptable in public, if I am allowed to eat in public then why can't my baby, the issue here is your attitude and others because I am sure you're probably the majority unfortunately, why should we have to go sit in a car?? Just because YOU don't like to eat out to dinner because it's too much work doesn't mean everyone else feels like that way this is my point. I fed in private because I was embarrassed, i shouldn't have been but I was, but I accept not everyone should do as I do, in fact I hope they don't!!

you are kinda putting words in my mouth. i never said everybody has to stay home or anything like that. and yes taking out three young kids is alot of work, and sometimes I dont have the energy. please forgive me. i dont feed in private because im embarrased, i feed in private to be considerate of others.

 

[meli1981]

i live in canada. and i dont go out to eat very often with the kids without my husband. its too much work! especially after the baby comes. theres no way im going out to eat with a newborn, a two year old, and a seven year old! depending on where you are, the bathrooms, especally in restarants are very clean, just as clean as the dining room. hell ive even nursed on the toilet at home!

It is different here or at least where I am. Toilets are not great unless some where expensive. I would nurse on the toilet in my home if I needed cos I know it is clean.

I had a baby, a two and three year old, and when I have another I will have a 5, 8 and 9 year old, if I dont go out alone with them we would never go out as DH works a lot.

when theyre a bit older it gets easier. i just dont have any help really and am often tired, so dont really want to tackle taking all the kids out by myself.

 

[Tasha]

And that is fine for you Meli, just as its fine for those that want to NIP to do so too.

 

[Tasha]

when theyre a bit older it gets easier. i just dont have any help really and am often tired, so dont really want to tackle taking all the kids out by myself.

Agreed much easier, as I said I had two very young children when I had my youngest but I needed to go out because we dont have a garden. It isnt a judgemnet on you at all, just saying what we did.

 

[meli1981]

i just find it weird how people cannot care if theyre making others uncomfortable? yes nursing is beautiful and natural, but not to people who have no children or teenage boys etc. if there is a proper alternative to nursing RIGHT next to a complete stranger, why wouldnt you take it? why would you want to share such a beautiful moment with strangers?

 

[meli1981]

when theyre a bit older it gets easier. i just dont have any help really and am often tired, so dont really want to tackle taking all the kids out by myself.

Agreed much easier, as I said I had two very young children when I had my youngest but I needed to go out because we dont have a garden. It isnt a judgemnet on you at all, just saying what we did.

it might be the fact im 20 weeks pregnant as well!;-)

 

[xsadiex]

I think there is an obvious problem with society if people get offending by nursing in public, I couldn't give a shit if someone gets offended by seeig my boob, it's not my problem - it's there problem and they need to get over it. We shouldn't have to cover up, hide away or feel like we're doing something wrong.

 

[Pearls18]

Sorry I wasn't making any judgement and sorry to assume you were embarrassed ai just mean, and I feel like a flipping broken record, that is how you feel, that isn't how everyone feels. Lots of women don't care because they see their breasts as feeding tools, they don't see it as nudity they think of it as no different to a bottle and I guess they figure if they're not embarrassed why should anyone else be. I think you will find it's not because they are deliberately wishing to cause embarrassment. I wish I could feel like that I don't, but the difference between your argument and mine is I respect that view point which is why is I would never tell a woman what I think she needs to be more discrete.

 

[meli1981]

I think there is an obvious problem with society if people get offending by nursing in public, I couldn't give a shit if someone gets offended by seeig my boob, it's not my problem - it's there problem and they need to get over it. We shouldn't have to cover up, hide away or feel like we're doing something wrong.

that was just lovely!

 

[Tasha]

i just find it weird how people cannot care if theyre making others uncomfortable? yes nursing is beautiful and natural, but not to people who have no children or teenage boys etc. if there is a proper alternative to nursing RIGHT next to a complete stranger, why wouldnt you take it? why would you want to share such a beautiful moment with strangers?

See this is what I mean about wording, to say proper alternative suggests NIP isnt proper. I am not saying that is what you meant but it is how it can be read.

I have said so many times, there are not alternatives for me here. Given that many of the girls are replying from the UK then they will probably be the same.

 

[meli1981]

Sorry I wasn't making any judgement and sorry to assume you were embarrassed ai just mean, and I feel like a flipping broken record, that is how you feel, that isn't how everyone feels. Lots of women don't care because they see their breasts as feeding tools, they don't see it as nudity they think of it as no different to a bottle and I guess they figure if they're not embarrassed why should anyone else be. I think you will find it's not because they are deliberately wishing to cause embarrassment. I wish I could feel like that I don't, but the difference between your argument and mine is I respect that view point which is why is I would never tell a woman what I think she needs to be more discrete.

at the same time, that is how YOU feel. not everyone feels like that.

 

[meli1981]

i just find it weird how people cannot care if theyre making others uncomfortable? yes nursing is beautiful and natural, but not to people who have no children or teenage boys etc. if there is a proper alternative to nursing RIGHT next to a complete stranger, why wouldnt you take it? why would you want to share such a beautiful moment with strangers?

See this is what I mean about wording, to say proper alternative suggests NIP isnt proper. I am not saying that is what you meant but it is how it can be read.

I have said so many times, there are not alternatives for me here. Given that many of the girls are replying from the UK then they will probably be the same.

it didnt mean staying at home.

 

[Tasha]

Sorry I wasn't making any judgement and sorry to assume you were embarrassed ai just mean, and I feel like a flipping broken record, that is how you feel, that isn't how everyone feels. Lots of women don't care because they see their breasts as feeding tools, they don't see it as nudity they think of it as no different to a bottle and I guess they figure if they're not embarrassed why should anyone else be. I think you will find it's not because they are deliberately wishing to cause embarrassment. I wish I could feel like that I don't, but the difference between your argument and mine is I respect that view point which is why is I would never tell a woman what I think she needs to be more discrete.

at the same time, that is how YOU feel. not everyone feels like that.

Yes but she isnt trying to push how she feels on anyone. She isnt saying people should be more discrete nor is saying they should be less discrete. She is saying you do as you want, and I will do as I want.