Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[Tasha]

i just find it weird how people cannot care if theyre making others uncomfortable? yes nursing is beautiful and natural, but not to people who have no children or teenage boys etc. if there is a proper alternative to nursing RIGHT next to a complete stranger, why wouldnt you take it? why would you want to share such a beautiful moment with strangers?

See this is what I mean about wording, to say proper alternative suggests NIP isnt proper. I am not saying that is what you meant but it is how it can be read.

I have said so many times, there are not alternatives for me here. Given that many of the girls are replying from the UK then they will probably be the same.

it didnt mean staying at home.

I am sorry, what does that mean? It did mean staying home for me, as i have previously said in this thread.

 

[meli1981]

and that is what im saying. just because im on the opposite fence doesnt mean im pushing anything on anyone. i didnt say not to nip, nursing in a more private place in public is still nip, no?

 

[meli1981]

i just find it weird how people cannot care if theyre making others uncomfortable? yes nursing is beautiful and natural, but not to people who have no children or teenage boys etc. if there is a proper alternative to nursing RIGHT next to a complete stranger, why wouldnt you take it? why would you want to share such a beautiful moment with strangers?

See this is what I mean about wording, to say proper alternative suggests NIP isnt proper. I am not saying that is what you meant but it is how it can be read.

I have said so many times, there are not alternatives for me here. Given that many of the girls are replying from the UK then they will probably be the same.

it didnt mean staying at home.

I am sorry, what does that mean? It did mean staying home for me, as i have previously said in this thread.

finding an alternate place to nurse instead of RIGHT next to a stranger diesnt mean staying at home only to nurse.

 

[meli1981]

am i not nip, unless i have a naked breast exposed? because that is what is coming across.

 

[Pearls18]

and that is what im saying. just because im on the opposite fence doesnt mean im pushing anything on anyone. i didnt say not to nip, nursing in a more private place in public is still nip, no?

Well your opinion makes me feel guilty for wanting to nip, makes me feel like I should be trying to be more discrete like you do so to me that is pushing something.

 

[Tasha]

and that is what im saying. just because im on the opposite fence doesnt mean im pushing anything on anyone. i didnt say not to nip, nursing in a more private place in public is still nip, no?

But saying where to NIP is putting your opinion on it. It is your rules. And where does that end, perhaps a Mum or Dad doesnt want me to use the nappy changing area, that is her/his rule and I am making her uncomfortable, so should I stop there too?

Where the line is 'okay' will be different for everyone, so its best that we all just find the line we are okay and do that.

 

[Natsku]

The only proper place to NIP is where you feel comfortable, whether thats right next to a stranger or in a dressing room or in a corner or in open view.

 

[Tasha]

finding an alternate place to nurse instead of RIGHT next to a stranger diesnt mean staying at home only to nurse.

Okay in YOUR experience it doesnt. In MINE it does because I have no where else to go except in a cafe. I will not feed my child in an unhygienic place.

 

[meli1981]

and that is what im saying. just because im on the opposite fence doesnt mean im pushing anything on anyone. i didnt say not to nip, nursing in a more private place in public is still nip, no?

Well your opinion makes me feel guilty for wanting to nip, makes me feel like I should be trying to be more discrete like you do so to me that is pushing something.

i have said all along that I feel bad making others uncomfortable, how does that make you feel guilty? and how is that pushing? if ypure confident in your choices it shouldnt make you feel guilty. im sorry if i made you feel that way, wasnt my intention.

 

[Tasha]

am i not nip, unless i have a naked breast exposed? because that is what is coming across.

No one said you werent NIP. We are saying for us it is impossible to be discrete or find some where else to feed sometimes, and we shouldnt be judged for that.

 

[Natsku]

And here it would be inconsiderate for me to nurse in the disabled toilet/baby change (they are always put together here) because it usually took a fair bit of time to feed Maria and that is totally unfair on someone who might be waiting to use the toilet. I remember waiting for about half an hour to get into a change room once when Maria had done a poo so I needed to change her but I ended up almost missing my bus because I had to wait so long and the only thing that I would imagine taking half an hour would be feeding a baby.

 

[meli1981]

finding an alternate place to nurse instead of RIGHT next to a stranger diesnt mean staying at home only to nurse.

Okay in YOUR experience it doesnt. In MINE it does because I have no where else to go except in a cafe. I will not feed my child in an unhygienic place.

i guess im a crap mom for feeding in public bathroom.

 

[meli1981]

am i not nip, unless i have a naked breast exposed? because that is what is coming across.

No one said you werent NIP. We are saying for us it is impossible to be discrete or find some where else to feed sometimes, and we shouldnt be judged for that.

how is it impossible? nothings impossible!

 

[Tasha]

And here it would be inconsiderate for me to nurse in the disabled toilet/baby change (they are always put together here) because it usually took a fair bit of time to feed Maria and that is totally unfair on someone who might be waiting to use the toilet. I remember waiting for about half an hour to get into a change room once when Maria had done a poo so I needed to change her but I ended up almost missing my bus because I had to wait so long and the only thing that I would imagine taking half an hour would be feeding a baby.

Agree with this, many of the baby change and disabled toilets are mixed and it would be unfair to make a parent needing to change a nappy wait but also (more importantly) a disabled person waint, because I know someone who's disablity means they have bladder and bowel problems, someone else who has to change his catheta when out etc. They need that room more than I do.

 

[Natsku]

And here it would be inconsiderate for me to nurse in the disabled toilet/baby change (they are always put together here) because it usually took a fair bit of time to feed Maria and that is totally unfair on someone who might be waiting to use the toilet. I remember waiting for about half an hour to get into a change room once when Maria had done a poo so I needed to change her but I ended up almost missing my bus because I had to wait so long and the only thing that I would imagine taking half an hour would be feeding a baby.

Agree with this, many of the baby change and disabled toilets are mixed and it would be unfair to make a parent needing to change a nappy wait but also (more importantly) a disabled person waint, because I know someone who's disablity means they have bladder and bowel problems, someone else who has to change his catheta when out etc. They need that room more than I do.

Exactly, completely unfair on disabled people.

 

[meli1981]

And here it would be inconsiderate for me to nurse in the disabled toilet/baby change (they are always put together here) because it usually took a fair bit of time to feed Maria and that is totally unfair on someone who might be waiting to use the toilet. I remember waiting for about half an hour to get into a change room once when Maria had done a poo so I needed to change her but I ended up almost missing my bus because I had to wait so long and the only thing that I would imagine taking half an hour would be feeding a baby.

Agree with this, many of the baby change and disabled toilets are mixed and it would be unfair to make a parent needing to change a nappy wait but also (more importantly) a disabled person waint, because I know someone who's disablity means they have bladder and bowel problems, someone else who has to change his catheta when out etc. They need that room more than I do.

to be honest, ive never even seen a disabled person using a handicapped bathroom. but way to make me feel even worse! i could nurse my babies in like ten min, i had a lot of milk so wasnt a prob for me.

 

[Tasha]

i guess im a crap mom for feeding in public bathroom.

Are you actually reading what I wrote? I never mentioned crap mum any where, I said my experience is that I had to stay home because there is no alternative as I wont feed in an unhygeinic place. MY EXPERIENCE, nothing to do with yours.

You can feed your baby in the toilet, in the car, on the middle of the stage in front of 150,000 or even on the moon. I dont mind as long as you and your baby are happy.

how is it impossible? nothings impossible!

Did you read the whole thread meli? Cos I already explained numerous times why it is impossible for ME. Again me and MY experience.

I dont get what is so difficult for you to understand that we have different experiences and just because its not impossible for you, doesnt mean its not impossible for me.

 

[Pearls18]

and that is what im saying. just because im on the opposite fence doesnt mean im pushing anything on anyone. i didnt say not to nip, nursing in a more private place in public is still nip, no?

Well your opinion makes me feel guilty for wanting to nip, makes me feel like I should be trying to be more discrete like you do so to me that is pushing something.

i have said all along that I feel bad making others uncomfortable, how does that make you feel guilty? and how is that pushing? if ypure confident in your choices it shouldnt make you feel guilty. im sorry if i made you feel that way, wasnt my intention.

That's the problem I'm not confident in my choices when it comes to nip, nor are lots of women, we should all be proud to be BF mothers and support each other to help us BF for as long as we want to. Oh and DS took 30 mins to feed (praying to god the next will be quicker!) this is what everyone is trying to say not everybody has the same circumstances I found it incredibly difficult to nurse discreetly in public and my version of nip might not be as discrete the next.

 

[meli1981]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

 

[Tasha]

to be honest, ive never even seen a disabled person using a handicapped bathroom. but way to make me feel even worse! i could nurse my babies in like ten min, i had a lot of milk so wasnt a prob for me.

Again said I would not do something, nothing to do with what you should of shouldnt do.

Just as you have said you wouldnt sit near a stranger and nurse because it would make them uncomfortable, I didnt then say oh way to make me feel worse did I???