Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[LegoHouse]

Don't like it, don't look.

Honestly if people know my son is feeding, and not sleeping, they are paying far too much attention to my chest area. And that offends ME!

 

[LegoHouse]

If you have another child you can't just keep dragging them to the bathroom.

 

[Tasha]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

You told me it wasnt impossible, that isnt a POV that is telling me about my experience, when I am the only one that knows about my experience. It was impossible for me.

I do understand other peoples points of view, they dont want to nurse in front of others, fair enough that is their choice but it is also the choice who dont mind.

Like for instance (lame example here but hey ho) if I didnt want to eat in front of strangers, I wouldnt then expect no one to do that. It is our own choice.

 

[meli1981]

to be honest, ive never even seen a disabled person using a handicapped bathroom. but way to make me feel even worse! i could nurse my babies in like ten min, i had a lot of milk so wasnt a prob for me.

Again said I would not do something, nothing to do with what you should of shouldnt do.

Just as you have said you wouldnt sit near a stranger and nurse because it would make them uncomfortable, I didnt then say oh way to make me feel worse did I???

yes, but i wasnt talking about disabled people, or being unfair to disabled people was I?

 

[meli1981]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

You told me it wasnt impossible, that isnt a POV that is telling me about my experience, when I am the only one that knows about my experience. It was impossible for me.

I do understand other peoples points of view, they dont want to nurse in front of others, fair enough that is their choice but it is also the choice who dont mind.

Like for instance (lame example here but hey ho) if I didnt want to eat in front of strangers, I wouldnt then expect no one to do that. It is our own choice.

where did i say nobody should be allowed to nip?

 

[Tasha]

yes, but i wasnt talking about disabled people, or being unfair to disabled people was I?

Nope but you were talking about making people uncomfortable, which isnt nice either is it?

It would be unfair of me to sit in a disabled toilet for as long as I need to take to BF. Again it is my experience which is that disabled toilets are often few and far between, and I regularly see people using them and as I said my experience with disabled friend is they often need the toilet for a specific reason and can not wait.

Your experience is clearly different and so therefore be confident in your choice to nurse there.

 

[Pearls18]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

 

[meli1981]

yes, but i wasnt talking about disabled people, or being unfair to disabled people was I?

Nope but you were talking about making people uncomfortable, which isnt nice either is it?

It would be unfair of me to sit in a disabled toilet for as long as I need to take to BF. Again it is my experience which is that disabled toilets are often few and far between, and I regularly see people using them and as I said my experience with disabled friend is they often need the toilet for a specific reason and can not wait.

Your experience is clearly different and so therefore be confident in your choice to nurse there.

again, it was how it makes ME feel bad to make others feel uncomfortable! how is this not getting through!

 

[Tasha]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

You told me it wasnt impossible, that isnt a POV that is telling me about my experience, when I am the only one that knows about my experience. It was impossible for me.

I do understand other peoples points of view, they dont want to nurse in front of others, fair enough that is their choice but it is also the choice who dont mind.

Like for instance (lame example here but hey ho) if I didnt want to eat in front of strangers, I wouldnt then expect no one to do that. It is our own choice.

where did i say nobody should be allowed to nip?

OMG. You really are reading things that arent there. I didnt say you said that, if I said you did then point out where.

 

[Pearls18]

Also in this country disabled toilets often have a special lock with a universal key only held by qualifying people, because that is what disabled toilets are for, disabled people who need the toilet.

 

[LegoHouse]

My personal opinion on it is, if BFing in public offends you that much, you can online shop

 

[Tasha]

again, it was how it makes ME feel bad to make others feel uncomfortable! how is this not getting through!

It is and that is exactly my point. I wouldnt nurse in a disabled toilet because of how it makes ME feel.

 

[LegoHouse]

And disabled toilets are for disabled people, unless they are also a baby change facility. In which case, babies have a right to be there for their needs too.

 

[meli1981]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

 

[meli1981]

again, it was how it makes ME feel bad to make others feel uncomfortable! how is this not getting through!

It is and that is exactly my point. I wouldnt nurse in a disabled toilet because of how it makes ME feel.

and i NEVER said you HAD to. just making suggestions, ones i knew you wouldnt take anyway. just trying to be helpful.

 

[meli1981]

My personal opinion on it is, if BFing in public offends you that much, you can online shop

i never said it offended me.

 

[LegoHouse]

In my list of concerns, my son being fed comes way higher than a strangers comfortability lol

 

[Tasha]

Meli, I am sorry if you feel jumped on and sorry if you feel worse.

I am feeling pretty shit too tbh, you told me something I found impossible wasnt impossible when for ME it was.

 

[LegoHouse]

My personal opinion on it is, if BFing in public offends you that much, you can online shop

i never said it offended me.

I don't believe there is any reason for you to believe that is aimed at you lol

 

[Tasha]

and i NEVER said you HAD to. just making suggestions, ones i knew you wouldnt take anyway. just trying to be helpful.

cos you know so much about me dont you? You do realise I have never NIP dont you?

And the suggestions you offered arent okay for us, but that is fine, we are all different.