Thank you! That's all I'm saying the shock factor just doesn't do anything good for nip!
And as has been said numerous times, that there is a massive difference between someone purposely showing someone their breast and someone's breast being able to be seen whilst they are in the process of feeding. And these instances are rare and often the stuff of urban legend rather than actual representation. The problem is, your insistence that "accidental" flashing is somehow OK, as long as you are trying hard not to and "intentional" flashing is totally wrong makes absolutely no sense as the observer cannot possibly differentiate between the two. Given the latter sort of flashing will apparently only harm the cause of normalising breastfeeding, it is fair to assume the "accidental" type will do the same and therefore its probably better just to feed totally in private. That is basically what your argument extrapolates to.
I don't think choosing not to show your whole breast is secretive. If you wanna see my boob that bad then that isn't you being offended that's you being odd.
So it all comes down to whether or not
you think I should or would actually be offended? And if the things that offend me don't fit in with what you think is offensive, then I would be odd and there is no reason for you to accommodate them?
So when you set out "not to offend anyone" you are doing so based on your own set of values. I think you'll find this is pretty much human nature and what the majority of people do. This is exactly what I, and others choose to do also. It doesn't make us selfish or self centred, it makes us human. You absolutely cannot avoid offending everyone. There will be people out there who don't want to be anywhere near your children when they are eating. Who find children in restaurants abhorrent, especially when they are eating. Let's face it, it can be rather unpleasant to watch a weaning baby gum a potato wedge. Then they puke. Not the sort of thing a non parent wants to see. But I'm guessing you wouldn't avoid taking your baby or toddler to a restaurant. Life is about making the choice you feel comfortable with, and that is always grounded in your own code of conduct.
Can you not see how that would come off as kind of self centered or selfish to someone?
It comes off as self centred or selfish to you. It didn't seem to come off that way to others. It's all subjective. Either way, it's an offensive thing to say, but as I said, clearly your need not to offend people doesn't extend to those who disagree with your own moral code.
I was usually concentrating on ensuring the latch was ok, how to get comfortable without getting cramp, how to make sure my daughter was comfortable and watching for signs she needed winding or was ready to switch, being careful not to squirt her in the eye and sometimes just gazing at the beauty that is a breastfeeding child. In short, I was getting on with my own life, minding my own business. I wasn't going to worry about others who were ignoring their own companions/children/meals and were getting in my business and feeling offended. Someone has to be making the choice to look over in my direction, look again and look pretty hard, before they decide they are offended. Those sorts of people probably spend their entire life being offended by pretty much everything and I'm not about to waste my time working out which part of my life I need to adjust to accommodate them. As I said before, the majority of people I came across whilst NIP either didn't notice or didn't care. "Mr Angry from Bognor" isn't worth getting upset about. I don't think it is selfish not to want to spend my entire life being sure I upset nobody, which would be an impossible task.
