Bumpkins & Babies Chat Thread

[littlekitten8]

Ooo florabean James has the same playmat!

 

[Chaos]

Awwww baby overload!!!! SO cute.

I'm just off out the door, we're going away fro the weekend but I wanted to share something that happened to me today ....

I took Autumn to the local craft shop to look at picture frames because at the start of the week they had a collage frame for $3.99 reduced from $15 and I wanted another.

While I was there I saw a 21 picture collage frame and it was 40% off. I wondered how much it would make it so took it up to the till to see. It came out at $25 after the discount. Well I said I couldn't afford that at the moment but I'd take the $3.99 one.

Well I was walking back to my car and I heard someone call "Excuse me" .. I thought I had left my card behind or something, but I turned around to see this lady holding the large collage frame ....

She said "Merry Christmas" ... I was gobsmacked .. totally speechless and near tears. I didn't know what to say ... She said .. that Autumn was so beautiful (she was smiling in the line to the till lol) and she was impressed with how I managed my money and to just call her "Mrs Clause".

How amazing is that? It restores your faith in people .. I mean you hear of these things happening, but I've never experienced it before ... after having the money troubles we have and going bankrupt, this really brightened my day. I simply can't wait to fill it with photos.

Ok girls I'll be back on Monday, Have a FABULOUS weekend!!

 

[florabean1981]

Ooo florabean James has the same playmat!

cool! my boss gave it to me when I went on maternity leave, along with a baby carrier, a light show thingy, a white baby bath & a load of bath stuff for me too. It's nice when you get good stuff for free.
speaking of free, Chaos, that's so awesome about the picture frame

 

[KrisKitten]

Hi bumpkin mummys =],
been a busy few days so not bin on, took me aagggeess to read all the updates since i was last on. Glad to say i think im up to date now but so much seems to have gone on since i was last on icant spereate it all out so
to all
and big well dones to all as well - for generally seeming to be lovely mummys
(lol im such a crawler - and a cheat...motherhood has led me to totally exploit shortcuts as i darent take ne with tommy)
well i may be a bit late but iv gotta jump on the photo bandwagon, i cant get enough of staring at tommy hes so lovely. I thought it woulda worn off by now but i can still throw away a good hour just examing his features.
https://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad235/KrisKitten22/IMG_0389.jpg
https://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad235/KrisKitten22/IMG_0359.jpg
So its been a weird few days. Having some problem with Cav (my OH). Its weird, for the first tim ein ages our relationship seems to be good but i dont know if the novelty has worn off or if hes just a bit lost but he seems to have lost interest in tommy?
Its rlly upsetting me coz i want tommy to have as full and loving a family as possible but while Cav is still around he doesnt hold him nemore and he doesnt even come over to say hello to him wen he comes in from work. I get a kiss but thats it b4 he goes upsatirs to his computer. Im not sure if hes a bit lost as to what to do, his dad ran out on him and his mum when he was a baby and he hasnt rlly got ne other family other than his mum so i think maybe hes not sure how to play daddy?
Im hoping things will get better once tommy starts smiling etc and he feels more like hes getting something back. I think hes struggeling with all the baby talk going on by me and my mum.
On a brighter not breastfeeding is going fantastically and im sooo proud to have got to the 1 month mark! My only problems is im leaking soo badly! Im getting through more breastpads than nappies and im starting to get a little rad rash on the bottom ofmy boobs from constantly wearing my bra. Im soo sick of wearing a bra now - They want freedom! Ah well...only another X months???lol
Have joined a young mums group which is all exciting and fun...tbh im getting on better with the leaders than the young mums. That sounds soo snubby but the couple iv met seem to resent their babies??? I cant phantom that, hes so innocent. Bad timing is not his fault! I like the group on the whole tho, wev had movie afternoons and other convo settings - i just love sitting their with tommy on my lap. Hes so good he just gurgles and stares around the room. Its just nice doing things with him.
A question tho, how r u ladies operating bedtimes? Do you take bub up at a certain time to bed or do you just let him sleep as he wants with you until you go up and take him with you?
Im currently going with the 2nd coz tommys so young but im wondering if i should be getting out of that now?
Hope everyone and their mini-mes r good xxxxxxxx

 

[KrisKitten]

Sorry my pics r so big!!
dnno how to resize :s xx

 

[colsy]

Well I was walking back to my car and I heard someone call "Excuse me" .. I thought I had left my card behind or something, but I turned around to see this lady holding the large collage frame ....

She said "Merry Christmas" ...

Thank you so much for sharing this story. It's lovely Hope you have a great weekend as well.

 

[colsy]

A question tho, how r u ladies operating bedtimes? Do you take bub up at a certain time to bed or do you just let him sleep as he wants with you until you go up and take him with you?
Im currently going with the 2nd coz tommys so young but im wondering if i should be getting out of that now?
Hope everyone and their mini-mes r good xxxxxxxx

WE have no bedtime at all. Just totally going with what Monty does of his own choice at the moment. Quite often we sit in the lounge with him on our laps and he will sleep while we watch a bit of telly in the evening, and then we go up any time between 9pm and midnight. Thing is, we prefer to wait until Monty wakes himself for a feed so then we can feed and change, and then put him to bed. If we put him to bed before that, we know he'll wake up in an hour or something so seems a bit pointless waking him beforehand. I think at this age (Monty is 4weeks) routine is harder to do than not do. But that's only my opinion - I would say at this age there's no right or wrong, you just go with what feels ok for you.

PS Well done on reaching the first BF milestone

 

[xTaylorsMummy]

i have PND. I have never ever felt so low and depressed in all my life. Im really not getting on with OH. I dont even want him in the same room as me, he makes me sick. I cant stand feeling this way and i dont know what to do! I sat crying this morning and OH didnt even look at me. He couldnt give a toss about me imo. He says im a missrable sod who needs to cheer up, and aparntly i have a "dease".

I have not one single person to talk to.

 

[colsy]

i have PND. I have never ever felt so low and depressed in all my life. Im really not getting on with OH. I dont even want him in the same room as me, he makes me sick. I cant stand feeling this way and i dont know what to do! I sat crying this morning and OH didnt even look at me. He couldnt give a toss about me imo. He says im a missrable sod who needs to cheer up, and aparntly i have a "dease".

I have not one single person to talk to.

You MAY just be having a bad day. On the other half, if you really do feel you have PND, make an appointment asap to see your doctor or a nurse at your GP surger. Seriously, the sooner you treat PND, the sooner you will feel better and the more likely the treatment will be effective and long-lasting. You need to be honest with the person treating you - don't let them say "Oh, it's just baby blues". If you feel you need help, then insist on getting in. I really hope you start to feel better soon. xx

 

[xTaylorsMummy]

its not just a bad day, its been going on for a few weeks. I know how i feel in my head. I just dont feel like myself at all, im constantly having ago at OH im trying to convince him to leave. I know he doesnt want to be with me. I cant manage anymore, im so lonley and fed up with everything. I feel really sorry for my two kids, they must be so lonley too. Iv done the questionaire thing with HV and she said i was high risk at it. I had slight PND with DD. Iv just rang my mum crying and all i got was "its because HV has put it in ur head" no its not! im just so hurt and angry that OH couldnt give a crap aswell. I have noone at all.

 

[colsy]

its not just a bad day, its been going on for a few weeks. I know how i feel in my head. I just dont feel like myself at all, im constantly having ago at OH im trying to convince him to leave. I know he doesnt want to be with me. I cant manage anymore, im so lonley and fed up with everything. I feel really sorry for my two kids, they must be so lonley too. Iv done the questionaire thing with HV and she said i was high risk at it. I had slight PND with DD. Iv just rang my mum crying and all i got was "its because HV has put it in ur head" no its not! im just so hurt and angry that OH couldnt give a crap aswell. I have noone at all.

I think you should give somebody a ring today if you can. I know your GP and HV are probably not working on a Saturday, but how about your midwife service? Round here, they are 24 hours a day. I know MWs aren't necessarily the main people to deal with PND, but if you ring and explain the problem, I think they will help you and put you in touch with the right people today. Do have a go - you've got nothing to lose. Alternatively, try ringing one of the helpline numbers for postnatal issues - the NCT may well be able to help you. Their website is https://www.nct.org.uk/home They have lots of different helplines. I hope you start feeling better real soon. One other thing - could somebody help you with the kids for a couple of hours today to give you a bit of a break? xx

 

[littlekitten8]

I don't think OH is ever going to want to feed James again lol. He threw up his entire feed all over him. He ended up sat in a puddle of it while I mopped up James's mouth and nose cos it had all come out of his nose. They had a bath together and now James is asleep on my chest while daddy has gone to get McDonalds.

Taylorsmummy - sorry to hear your feeling so rubbish. I suffered from depression before I got pregnant with James so if you need to chat then feel free to PM me x

 

[sam76]

xTaylorsMummy, im sorry your feeling so low and down, pm if you want to talk, were all here to help each other xxx

 

[florabean1981]

Kris; great to see you back & those pics of Tommy are beautiful. From what you've said, he seems like the dream baby Sorry to hear Cav is being a bit uninvolved... Have you talked to him about it? I try really hard to involve OH is stuff like bath times, getting him dressed, getting the playmat out & getting OH to sit on the floor with Harry etc. The minute he gets in from work, I literally hand Harry over to him & say 'I need the loo' or something, then bugger off for a while so i have a break & OH can bond without me being around, lol. I dont give him much choice in the matter!!! (he doesn't mind though, luckily) I hope that once Tommy starts interacting more Cav will find him more interesting & want to do more stuff with him. I think maybe it must be a bit boring for dads sometimes, especially if your BFing, coz they dont really feel they have a purpose, as such.

TaylorsMummy: Kim, soprry to hear you're feeling so crap atm. Is your OH being a dick & not supporting you at all still? Are you eating & sleeping well? (that's kind of a joke while being a mum of 2 little ones I suppse, but you know what I mean). I agree with what the others have said; call someone asap & explain to them how you're feeling. PND will only get worse if you let it go on without having councelling or possibly even taking some anti-depressants. I was on anti-d's for 2 years while I was at uni & they were literally a lifesaver, coz those combined with talking to a counsellor helped me soooo much & helped me turn my whole life perspective around; I waited so long before I got help & got really messed up & I really regret it loking back that I didn't swallow my pride & get help sooner... Have you posted in the PND support thread on here? The girls there could put you in the right direction too; I have heard they are very supportive & helpful. I hope you feel better soon hun.

For those of you BFing: do any of you get pains in your nips when you get cold??? I feel like I'm being stabbed everytime I get cold & my nipples go errect, lol. Do ya reckon that's normal or am I just a weirdo?

 

[KrisKitten]

I don't think OH is ever going to want to feed James again lol. He threw up his entire feed all over him. He ended up sat in a puddle of it while I mopped up James's mouth and nose cos it had all come out of his nose.

Tommy did the same thing with cav earlier. Total nightmare coz id FINALLY got him to do his first expressed feed apart from one bottle he had from my mum wen we went to register him. He actually seemed to be enjoying it and i got rlly cute piucFlorabean i keep trying the same, asking cav to help me out by holding him so i can take stuff upstairs/clean up/make us some food etc. He usually just offers to do whatever job it is! I keep finding more annoying and arduous tasks to do coz hes a lazy sod and id expect him to want the easy job of cuddeling the baby?? I was rlly upsetting me the last few days and i was asking him wether hes happy with us and he sed yeh. I dont no wat the point would be with him lieing? Plus hes just started working 40odd hours a week with his new job (which he is loving) and im so proud of him in one way but if i ever ask him y he doesnt seem to want to hold tommy he just makes sum xcuse about being tired coz he works so much? Id understand if i was asking him to do night feeds or settle him or change his nappy but tommy is such an angel how does cuddling him count as effort? SHould it be an effort to cuddle his son? I have no idea wat to do, im so worried it wont work out coz i rlly do love him and Tommy is now the centre of everything. I just want the 3 of us to be happy
FX everything will work itself out in time.
TaylorsMummy im rlly sorry to hear you having a bad time of it, sounds awful and im sorry your OH is being useless. Im sure once your mum realises your serious she'll be there for you. She may just be of the old fashioned view that PND is a bit overblown and overdiagnosed, lots of people think its rare but once she see's you rlly r struggeling i hope shell help. Meanwhile im sure there r lots of people on here who would be happy to talk to you, theres a PND support thread in the baby forum in case u hadnt seen it. Otherwise im here if u ever wanna pm me, im probly a bit useless but ill allways listen
Anyway id better go give Tommy is prescribed cuddles - hes got a bit of a cold. Still being so sweet but getting whingy at times so im hoping plenty doses of TLC will have him right asap
https://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad235/KrisKitten22/IMG_0388.jpg
(Cav and tommy b4 he was sick..was going so well)
Love to every1 x

 

[KrisKitten]

Sorry the PND support thread is in Postnatal Support not the baby forum xx

 

[Maffie]

Evening all

Fleur I get pains in nips when they get cold. My nipples have been mores sensitive due to the thrush but cold hurts them anyway.

I'm still at mum's I go home tomorrow, bit worried as my stomach is still very painful from the section and if I do anything I bleed

 

[dom85]

Taylorsmummy - try and speak to someone about how you feel hun. Were u and OH having problems while u were pregnant or just since Dexter was born? He sounds like he needs a good kick up the bum. Dex is gorgeous and looks like he's doing really well.

Thought I would join in sharing pics of Brady. He's 11lbs now! Couldn't believe it when they told me, he was 8lb 6oz when he was born but they said that he hasn't put on too much, he's following the growth line in his book nicely. He's still fitting into some of his newborn clothes though, I'm kind of sad that I'm not going to be able to see him in some of his newborn clothes again though.

Does anyone else have a LO who is sick a lot? Brady seems to bring up A LOT after his feeds, I know they say it always looks like a lot but it isn't really but I'm sure it is a lot because he will keep being sick up to 2 hours after his bottle. I spoke to the HV yesterday and she told me to take him to the GP but that some babies were just like this. The GP basically wasn't interested and said that unless he stopped gaining weight then it wasn't a problem.

He was on SMA and I changed to Aptamil yesterday and he was fine with the first 3 or 4 feeds, hardly sick at all, but the bottles he has had through the day today he has been just as sick as he was on SMA. Is it just one of those things or I have I just not got the right milk for him yet?

 

[littlekitten8]

Dom hes gorgeous. James is also quite sicky and he has reflux. Perhaps try him on Aptamil Comfort. It's a bit easier for them to digest so he should send it down to his intestines a bit quicker.

 

[helz81]

Chaos, wow what a really lovely story,thanks for sharing! And I just love the pic u posted of little Autumn smilling!! I can't wait to see Ethan doing it- I'm sure he already has,I know it's early for him to be doing it already and everyone says its wind but there was expression in his eyes when he did it,felt real to me!

Taylorsmummy- I don't know what to say,just that I hope your ok,please get help and keep posting on here when you feel down. xxxx

I've been wanting to share with you lot all day that Ethan slept 10.30pm-4.30am last night..fed him and changed him then he went back and slept 5.30am-8.30am! I'm absolutley thrilled with this as he's only 11 days old!
He's been really fidgety today though and he's been constantly feeding..feel like all Ive done all day is sit and feed him,ah well,I've had lots of precious cuddles I'm worried though that my boobs won't keep up and I'll have no milk for him

Babylove- hope your ok xxx