lol - Kyla gets everyone to sign up for KDR!
I will say that at home tries with frozen sperm are REALLY tough. It's all such a science and you could be killing at the sperm if you thaw it at the wrong rate, or suck it into the syringe too quickly, or anything really. And then the sperm have longer to travel while they still don't live for very long. It's tough. I think we tried at home ICI for two months before deciding that it wasn't worth the money and moved on to IUI with my ob-gyn.
But yes, a fresh donor is definitely best.
Kyla got me to sign up for the KDR... last spring, I think (was it really that long ago?) when we were preparing to start trying again. Just watch out because, while there are legitimate donors on there, there seem to be a fair amount of scamming too. We blocked anyone who reached out to us, and focused only on us seeking out people. From my memory, it was pretty easy to differentiate who was legit vs who wasn't pretty quickly. We ended up finding someone we liked, but he only works with one family at a time and had a few families waiting in the wings already. I respect him honoring each family individually, we just didn't want to wait until he was available.
Sorry to hear the witch got you.
Congrats on the house, though! That's super exciting!