Have you ladies announced it yet? We're probably going to announce it on fbook this weekend. I gave my mom the ok to tell people yesterday and she called half of India in like 15 minutes lol. Starting to feel more real now!
We've been announcing gradually since the beginning. Our immediate families found out the same week we did (parents, siblings). We told them early because of some issues with infertility that they already knew about -- we didn't want to maybe lose the baby really early and miss out on the chance to celebrate some good news finally with family; plus I had a surgery scheduled that ended up being cancelled because of the pregnancy, and it didn't feel right not telling them why. Then over the next few weeks we slowly told a few close friends and my DH told his co-workers, which means that their families found out, too. We didn't tell our extended families (grands, aunts and uncles) until the beginning of the second trimester. I still haven't announced anything on Facebook, although at this point all the people we're closest to already know. I think I'll probably do the Facebook thing at 20 weeks.
My sickness pretty much stopped at just over 13 weeks. However I did have few days of dry gagging instead! In my first pregnancy I only had that the nausea and that tapered off at just over 10 weeks. So unfortunately every pregnancy is different.
I only had a period of about three weeks of feeling nauseous during the first trimester, and I thought I was SO lucky. I only threw up once the entire time and within a week of that, I started feeling so much better. By 13 weeks I thought I was out of the woods. But it seems like now, in the second trimester, the sickness has come baby. Mostly my nausea now kind of comes and goes, but it's usually coming when I'm at work! I just started a new job last week, and on the fourth day or so, I barely made it to a bathroom where I had to throw up. So I dunno what's going on. But so far, I still feel mostly fine, and I do think my energy has returned with gusto. But still having sporadic nausea which I hoped to be done with by now.
Has anyone made any big purchases yet or sorted out maternity leave? Anyone started thinking about xmas?? xx
We haven't bought anything with the exception of a few pregnancy books. We ALMOST bought a crib the other day from Ikea -- the price was too good to pass up -- but we didn't think it would fit in the car so we didn't buy it.
My maternity leave options will suck so bad, and I'm really struggling with it. Because I won't have been at my job for a full year, I won't qualify for leave under FMLA (which would give me 12 weeks off with the baby). Instead, I'll only qualify for the standard 6 weeks, and the only part that will be paid will be the days of paid time off I manage to save until then. I'd always thought I'd be a SAHM when my children were very young, and had only recently decided to continue working. Now I'm totally second guessing that.
Anyone else struggling with whether to work or SAH after baby comes?
I don't know how Christmas time will be for us this year. It's a little overwhelming to even think about!
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Mammtotwo:
How many weeks are you? 17 weeks tomorrow! I can't believe how fast time seems to be flying -- I'm almost 20 weeks!
How many other children do you have? This is our first baby
Are you going to find out girl/boy or leave it a surprise at your scan? We're planning to be surprised when the baby is born. (We're also not planning to share the name with anyone until then)
What do you think you are having -boy/girl/no idea? My gut is saying it's a boy, but who knows if I'm one of those women who have 'mother's intuition'. I'm basing it mostly on the fact that I think DH and I had sex the day before I ovulated, so I assuming the boy sperm got to the egg first. Can't wait to find out if I'm right or not! I'm happy either way.
Next scan date? We haven't scheduled our anatomy scan yet (the big one at 20 weeks) but I think it's going to be in about three or four weeks. We have the next appointment with our midwife on Thursday.
How are you feeling? Pretty good. I think I felt the baby move a couple times this week, but I've also had some ligament stretching so it's hard to separate the two sensations sometimes.
What are you most looking forward to? With the pregnancy: holding DH's hand to feel the baby move. Having a big ol' baby belly in the third trimester. Decorating the nursery. Giving birth (haha -- mostly for the prize at the end) I can't wait to meet our little boy or girl!
What are you most worried about? Giving birth
I want to go naturally at the birth center near here, but I feel like so many people are skeptical of being able to do it. Part of me feels like I have something to prove, and I hate feeling that way. I hope it goes well, but it worries me that so much is out of my control.
What sort of birth are you hoping for? A natural, un-medicated water birth at the free standing birth center we're attending.
