VGibs
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Here is a long one ladies...hope you'll stick with me.
So we have all heard about my crazy SIL. Well she went for her invitro consult the other day and big shocking surprise they told her because she is not in a relationship, and she does not make a lot of money, and her mental health is in question, they don't see it as being a good idea to carry on with in vitro. I sighed a huge breath of relief and I know that sounds harsh but honestly if she did ever have a baby that poor child would never have a shot in life. So I asked her what the next step was, and she said she pushed the doctor to do more tests and she has to go for a psych consult. Then she started talking about adoption. I said if you think the consult for invitro is rough adoption is way tougher and they would never consider a single parent. She said and I quote "Well I can't get one of those chink babies. My family would not recognize a chink, and there are already to many chink's walking around this country" I WAS SPEECHLESS!!!!!!!!!!! I just said "Well I guess you are not ready to be a parent if you do not see how badly an ASIAN child would need a loving parent" and she kept going on about "chink's" so I spoke loudly and said "well that is how a lot of people think about french people" because my OH's family is Quebecquois. Before I knew it I had tears pouring down my face, and was quietly sobbing. And because she lives in her own world she didnt even notice that I was crying on the other end of the phone. All I could think was, I DO NOT want this woman anywhere near my children. My OH is not racist. Not in the tiniest bit. I can't understand how she would think it would be ok to think like that! I was so saddened and hurt by it. So then she goes on to describe how she has everything for a baby. Which is true when her son died she put away all of his baby stuff and has not looked at it once. Which mildly chaps my ass because she is being told she probably can not have children and she has not even offered to let us borrow her crib. Her words "I got all that stuff on my own. Im sure you guys can find something. It won't be as nice as mine though" Well in retaliation of that comment my mother has plans on buying the biggest fanciest crib of all time. So after this little phone chat I looked at my OH and said "I am done with that woman." and he said "what do you mean?" I said "I do not want her near me. I do not want her near my children and I do not consider her part of my family" He kind of smiled and said "Well whatever you think babe." I just can not keep living with her craziness invading my life. So I am offcially cutting her off.
So we have all heard about my crazy SIL. Well she went for her invitro consult the other day and big shocking surprise they told her because she is not in a relationship, and she does not make a lot of money, and her mental health is in question, they don't see it as being a good idea to carry on with in vitro. I sighed a huge breath of relief and I know that sounds harsh but honestly if she did ever have a baby that poor child would never have a shot in life. So I asked her what the next step was, and she said she pushed the doctor to do more tests and she has to go for a psych consult. Then she started talking about adoption. I said if you think the consult for invitro is rough adoption is way tougher and they would never consider a single parent. She said and I quote "Well I can't get one of those chink babies. My family would not recognize a chink, and there are already to many chink's walking around this country" I WAS SPEECHLESS!!!!!!!!!!! I just said "Well I guess you are not ready to be a parent if you do not see how badly an ASIAN child would need a loving parent" and she kept going on about "chink's" so I spoke loudly and said "well that is how a lot of people think about french people" because my OH's family is Quebecquois. Before I knew it I had tears pouring down my face, and was quietly sobbing. And because she lives in her own world she didnt even notice that I was crying on the other end of the phone. All I could think was, I DO NOT want this woman anywhere near my children. My OH is not racist. Not in the tiniest bit. I can't understand how she would think it would be ok to think like that! I was so saddened and hurt by it. So then she goes on to describe how she has everything for a baby. Which is true when her son died she put away all of his baby stuff and has not looked at it once. Which mildly chaps my ass because she is being told she probably can not have children and she has not even offered to let us borrow her crib. Her words "I got all that stuff on my own. Im sure you guys can find something. It won't be as nice as mine though" Well in retaliation of that comment my mother has plans on buying the biggest fanciest crib of all time. So after this little phone chat I looked at my OH and said "I am done with that woman." and he said "what do you mean?" I said "I do not want her near me. I do not want her near my children and I do not consider her part of my family" He kind of smiled and said "Well whatever you think babe." I just can not keep living with her craziness invading my life. So I am offcially cutting her off.