CC/CIO Support and Information Thread

[ArmyWife1984]

Must of been teething because the last 2nights he slept through the night again!!!!!

 

[ArmyWife1984]

So, we've been doing CC now for about a week and its been going pretty well. Getting Riley in her crib is a lot easier, but we are still having difficulty getting her to stay asleep. The main issue is her feeding. She likes to stockpile food at night and not eat as much during the day and I'm at a loss on how to switch it around. I just stopped BF'ing, so I know she is usually taking in around 28-34 oz a day, but half of those oz are during the hours of 5pm-7am. Is that normal for a 6 month old? Or is she playing me? And most importantly, any advice on how to fix it? She is also a tiny little thing (about 15lbs) so I don't want to really deny her food. I think she'll do a lot better at night if I can get her to eat more during the day.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated

Hi hopingfor2v1! To get my Lo to stop eating at night I went cold turkey and then the following day he ate alot more. But he was a hefty one!!
But since she is about 15lbs maybe you just want to try offering less at night and hopefully she will make this up in the morning, that way you can slowly transition her over.

 

[CeeDee]

So, we've been doing CC now for about a week and its been going pretty well. Getting Riley in her crib is a lot easier, but we are still having difficulty getting her to stay asleep. The main issue is her feeding. She likes to stockpile food at night and not eat as much during the day and I'm at a loss on how to switch it around. I just stopped BF'ing, so I know she is usually taking in around 28-34 oz a day, but half of those oz are during the hours of 5pm-7am. Is that normal for a 6 month old? Or is she playing me? And most importantly, any advice on how to fix it? She is also a tiny little thing (about 15lbs) so I don't want to really deny her food. I think she'll do a lot better at night if I can get her to eat more during the day.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated

My daughter was the same way. She's in daycare and I still breastfeed. I've noticed when she has a nice amount of cereal during the day she does good at night. I also make sure to breastfeed every 3 hours for 30 minutes, so she gets a lot a milk at one sitting rather than snacks. I was wondering why on the weekend she didn't sleep as well as during the week and its because I didn't give her cereal and breastfed more often. HTH

 

[bananaz]

Well it looks like some CC is going to happen tonight I wasn't planning on doing it so soon but it's no longer safe for her to sleep in the rock'n'play and when I put her in her crib for the first time last night she woke up every 15-90 minutes because she kept rolling onto her back. She's clearly not going to learn how to sleep in there if I keep picking her up and nursing or rocking her back down every time it happens so I think I just have to let her figure it out on her own.

I'm planning to still nurse her to sleep when I first put her down just so her bedtime routine isn't destroyed, and then when she wakes I'll either sit with her or do timed Ferber checks. I kind of think my staying in there might actually be more difficult for her, so the checks are probably the more likely option.

I'm guessing this has been asked before, but I'm wondering about how to handle night feedings. My baby is EBF and she still typically has one or two night feedings. I don't have an issue with this and I do think she actually needs the calories because she's very distractible and difficult to feed during the day, whereas at night it's calm and dark and she eats really well. Should I just pick one waking in the middle of the night to feed her?

 

[Saphira]

Well it looks like some CC is going to happen tonight I wasn't planning on doing it so soon but it's no longer safe for her to sleep in the rock'n'play and when I put her in her crib for the first time last night she woke up every 15-90 minutes because she kept rolling onto her back. She's clearly not going to learn how to sleep in there if I keep picking her up and nursing or rocking her back down every time it happens so I think I just have to let her figure it out on her own.

I'm planning to still nurse her to sleep when I first put her down just so her bedtime routine isn't destroyed, and then when she wakes I'll either sit with her or do timed Ferber checks. I kind of think my staying in there might actually be more difficult for her, so the checks are probably the more likely option.

I'm guessing this has been asked before, but I'm wondering about how to handle night feedings. My baby is EBF and she still typically has one or two night feedings. I don't have an issue with this and I do think she actually needs the calories because she's very distractible and difficult to feed during the day, whereas at night it's calm and dark and she eats really well. Should I just pick one waking in the middle of the night to feed her?

Sounds similar to my daughter. We've tried staying in there with her but it does more harm than good, so to say, as she'll immediately stand in her crib and whine to get out. So, we go back in when we feel it's needed.
As for the night feedings, again just like my daughter. She usually concentrates on her night bottles much better than when having a bottle during the day. Often half of her formula intake is at night so I've been making sure if she wakes up and it's been over an hour I feed her or else she'd have a lot less and I'm already concerned about her formula intake as it's less than 17oz on most days. So, from my experience I would feed your LO if she wakes upset and it's been a while since she last ate. I know not everyone will agree with that but each case is individual of course so it really depends on what you think is best in the end as well.
Good luck.

 

[Mummy Bean]

Argh this so frustrating. i can get him to sleep for naps and at night in his cot fine. but every night like clock work he wakes at 11 and i cannot get him back to sleep. i have tried leaving him, feeding him, cuddling him, going in in intervals. some times he will go back to sleep but it only ever lasts an hour an he awake again. so after an hour or two of this i buckle and bring him into bed.

i have no idea what causing it...he never screams just wakes up and whinges/babbles.

any suggestions?

 

[I-want-1-2]

I think I'm going to try cc tonight, as LO is getting more and more difficult to settle to sleep. It takes at least an hour every night, and then she's up after 45 mins without fail. Cue another half hour of going in and shhhing her, before she finally goes down. She had then been sleeping 5 hrs, but now it's 2-3 and she wont settle after that Wish us luck! I hope DH can hold his nerve in the night....

 

[bananaz]

I think I'm going to try cc tonight, as LO is getting more and more difficult to settle to sleep. It takes at least an hour every night, and then she's up after 45 mins without fail. Cue another half hour of going in and shhhing her, before she finally goes down. She had then been sleeping 5 hrs, but now it's 2-3 and she wont settle after that Wish us luck! I hope DH can hold his nerve in the night....

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

 

[CeeDee]

Well it looks like some CC is going to happen tonight I wasn't planning on doing it so soon but it's no longer safe for her to sleep in the rock'n'play and when I put her in her crib for the first time last night she woke up every 15-90 minutes because she kept rolling onto her back. She's clearly not going to learn how to sleep in there if I keep picking her up and nursing or rocking her back down every time it happens so I think I just have to let her figure it out on her own.

I'm planning to still nurse her to sleep when I first put her down just so her bedtime routine isn't destroyed, and then when she wakes I'll either sit with her or do timed Ferber checks. I kind of think my staying in there might actually be more difficult for her, so the checks are probably the more likely option.

I'm guessing this has been asked before, but I'm wondering about how to handle night feedings. My baby is EBF and she still typically has one or two night feedings. I don't have an issue with this and I do think she actually needs the calories because she's very distractible and difficult to feed during the day, whereas at night it's calm and dark and she eats really well. Should I just pick one waking in the middle of the night to feed her?

I also EBF and my daughter only wakes once (sometimes) at night if she hasn't eaten enough during the day. I don't deny her food because she's tiny and doesn't eat well at daycare. I would still nurse your daughter, but shorten the duration and hopefully she'll start sleeping through without it. My daughters usually just sleeps all night. I also nurse her to sleep and if she wakes at night I wait 10 minutes before going in. She will either go back to sleep or start hunger crying.

 

[Saphira]

It went well tonight and I give most of the credit to her mobile projector, which distracted her a bit! Only had to go in once for crying then she was fine and after less than 1/2 an hr. she was asleep. Very minimal drama tonight if I can even classify it as that. Feel so much better than the past nights.

 

[I-want-1-2]

Well LO is asleep (touch wood!). I gave her a bath at 7pm, played for a few minutes on our bed after getting her pjs on, read her a little story and then gave her her bottle sat cross-legged on the floor in her room. Her nursery is so small there's no room for a chair, and I realised she's only ever in there to sleep, so figured if I associate her room with something good like eating it might help!!

Put her down awake, put her mobile projector on, stroked her face saying "night night" etc and left the room. About a minute later she was crying, I set my timer for 2 mins (can't believe how long that took!! It felt like about 10 mins!), then went in. Stroked her face again, repeated my words but didn't pick her up. She stopped crying and started jumping her legs when I appeared, but I stuck to my guns and walked out. 30 seconds later she was crying again. Set my timer for 4 minutes. A minute and a half later, she was asleep!! That has not happened for about 2 1/2 months! Usually it takes at least 45 mins and several visits. Plus, we're past the 45 minute point at which she usually wakes up - it's been an hour and a quarter. This feels like a tiny miracle, but I am dreading the middle of the night shenanigans. Fingers crossed we get some sleep tonight, but I am dubious!

 

[libbylou]

We are still happily seeing success - day 10!
The last few nights LO has gone to sleep within 5-10 mins of being put down at night with either no crying or just of a min of "hey I don't really want to be in my crib" crying
Nap times are still a bit of a struggle in terms of getting her settled, but she is taking two good naps a day in her crib where before she was a struggle to get any naps out of her and she would often only nap in her swing

At this point I put her down and leave the room as she usually plays for a bit before getting upset (if she does get upset)....if she does get upset then I let her fuss for a few mins before going back in to rock and nurse her until she's calm and then I put her down and leave the room again. Sometimes it takes a few times of doing this before she sleeps but she does eventually nap!

 

[ArmyWife1984]

Well LO is asleep (touch wood!). I gave her a bath at 7pm, played for a few minutes on our bed after getting her pjs on, read her a little story and then gave her her bottle sat cross-legged on the floor in her room. Her nursery is so small there's no room for a chair, and I realised she's only ever in there to sleep, so figured if I associate her room with something good like eating it might help!!

Put her down awake, put her mobile projector on, stroked her face saying "night night" etc and left the room. About a minute later she was crying, I set my timer for 2 mins (can't believe how long that took!! It felt like about 10 mins!), then went in. Stroked her face again, repeated my words but didn't pick her up. She stopped crying and started jumping her legs when I appeared, but I stuck to my guns and walked out. 30 seconds later she was crying again. Set my timer for 4 minutes. A minute and a half later, she was asleep!! That has not happened for about 2 1/2 months! Usually it takes at least 45 mins and several visits. Plus, we're past the 45 minute point at which she usually wakes up - it's been an hour and a quarter. This feels like a tiny miracle, but I am dreading the middle of the night shenanigans. Fingers crossed we get some sleep tonight, but I am dubious!

wow thats great! It's so hard to not want to run in and pick them up isnt it?? But seeing the rewards from it is all worth it.
I still deal with middle of the night shenanigans too! My LO is teething pretty bad at the moment though.

 

[ArmyWife1984]

We are still happily seeing success - day 10!
The last few nights LO has gone to sleep within 5-10 mins of being put down at night with either no crying or just of a min of "hey I don't really want to be in my crib" crying
Nap times are still a bit of a struggle in terms of getting her settled, but she is taking two good naps a day in her crib where before she was a struggle to get any naps out of her and she would often only nap in her swing

At this point I put her down and leave the room as she usually plays for a bit before getting upset (if she does get upset)....if she does get upset then I let her fuss for a few mins before going back in to rock and nurse her until she's calm and then I put her down and leave the room again. Sometimes it takes a few times of doing this before she sleeps but she does eventually nap!

Naps are still sometimes a struggle for me too. What has been working for me is keeping him up until he is wore out. Usually he lasts about 4-5hrs. He usually fusses for at most 5min in the crib and is out.

 

[I-want-1-2]

She lasted 2 and a half hours. I've just been in after waiting (felt like a horrible person ) and she is making small little whining noises on and off now, but appears to be dealing with this better than I thought (I hope I'm not jinxing this). DH went to bed at 8.30 to try and get a headstart!! I'm scared to go up just yet in case I disturb her. We're all so tired in this house at the minute!

 

[bananaz]

LO just had her first wake-up after being down in the crib for just 2 hours. I actually chickened out a little and decided that since she is just getting used to the crib I would try to rock her back to sleep if needed but I didn't want to nurse her down when I knew she wasn't hungry yet. Unfortunately the rocking didn't work and she seemed to get more upset if I tried to pat or rub her, so I finally put her in the crib and left the room. After a few minutes I went back in and gave her a few pats and rubbed her head a little before leaving again, then a few minutes after that I decided to try shushing her instead.

I thought I would be dying to pick her up and feed her to sleep but my instincts actually told me to just leave her be, and sure enough very soon after I started shushing her she curled up on her side and went to sleep. All in all the whole thing took around 30 minutes, and probably would have been less if I hadn't tried rocking her to begin with.

She's woken up and fussed a couple times since then but by the time I start going to her room she's quieted down already So I guess it's working? I feel awful hearing her cry but the truth is that she's always cried before sleep times no matter what I do. Hopefully this will help reduce crying in the long-run.

 

[hulahoop09]

I thought I had posted in this thread already but cant find it.

We have co slept pretty much from the start due to cmpi and silent reflux. Lo goes in her cot in the day for naps pretty well. Put her down awake and she will go to sleep. At night is a different story. We can put her down about 7pmish and sometimes she will go off to sleep anything from a 2-5 hours approx. Then she tends to kick off and so she will come down have a bottle sometimes goes back into her cot for another couple of hours or in with is depends really. We have had nights where she has slept in her cot from about 9pm til about 8am but we hadnt done anything different for this to happen. I have tried getting her into a routine which didnt help any to he honest and with me and hubby working can prove to be difficult. We tried controlled crying but if she was going me going in made her worse unless I picked her up. I had tried pupd and this just didnt work, she was kicking off even before I lay her down and it seemed to distress her. There have been times where I have keft her for 10 mins or so whinging and she has gone off but then theres other times it has just escalated and been a nightmare. I hate hearing her crying and not tending to her really upsets me but co sleeping is difficult due to space and I am struggling with pains due to fibromyalgia but because my body isnt resting properly. She has a cold and is teething atm and wont even nap in cot but when she is better what would you suggest? Has anyone successfully gone from bedsharing to lo in cot sleeping well?

I think one the the main issues is getting her to sleep for long periods also as due to bedsharing she hasnt had a night feed from v early on. Also she hates me rocking ger etc and I cant get her to sleep then put her down as sge snaps wide awake!
Xx

 

[CeeDee]

I thought I had posted in this thread already but cant find it.

We have co slept pretty much from the start due to cmpi and silent reflux. Lo goes in her cot in the day for naps pretty well. Put her down awake and she will go to sleep. At night is a different story. We can put her down about 7pmish and sometimes she will go off to sleep anything from a 2-5 hours approx. Then she tends to kick off and so she will come down have a bottle sometimes goes back into her cot for another couple of hours or in with is depends really. We have had nights where she has slept in her cot from about 9pm til about 8am but we hadnt done anything different for this to happen. I have tried getting her into a routine which didnt help any to he honest and with me and hubby working can prove to be difficult. We tried controlled crying but if she was going me going in made her worse unless I picked her up. I had tried pupd and this just didnt work, she was kicking off even before I lay her down and it seemed to distress her. There have been times where I have keft her for 10 mins or so whinging and she has gone off but then theres other times it has just escalated and been a nightmare. I hate hearing her crying and not tending to her really upsets me but co sleeping is difficult due to space and I am struggling with pains due to fibromyalgia but because my body isnt resting properly. She has a cold and is teething atm and wont even nap in cot but when she is better what would you suggest? Has anyone successfully gone from bedsharing to lo in cot sleeping well?

I think one the the main issues is getting her to sleep for long periods also as due to bedsharing she hasnt had a night feed from v early on. Also she hates me rocking ger etc and I cant get her to sleep then put her down as sge snaps wide awake!
Xx

I'm only on my 9th night, but it has not been so bad. I went from bedsharing to crib in her own room. I expected her to go crazy and she hasn't. The first night, I nursed her till drowsy than put her in the crib and I left the room and hopped in the shower. By the time I got out of the shower she was sleep. The second night same thing. The third night no tears and straight to sleep.

We had a little of a setback last night. We had to stay at my parents house Monday night due to the storm and she woke up twice last night, once after an hour and then 3 hours after that. I think she was hungry (EBF) so I just fed her and put her back in her crib. So far so good.

 

[lysh]

I thought I had posted in this thread already but cant find it.

We have co slept pretty much from the start due to cmpi and silent reflux. Lo goes in her cot in the day for naps pretty well. Put her down awake and she will go to sleep. At night is a different story. We can put her down about 7pmish and sometimes she will go off to sleep anything from a 2-5 hours approx. Then she tends to kick off and so she will come down have a bottle sometimes goes back into her cot for another couple of hours or in with is depends really. We have had nights where she has slept in her cot from about 9pm til about 8am but we hadnt done anything different for this to happen. I have tried getting her into a routine which didnt help any to he honest and with me and hubby working can prove to be difficult. We tried controlled crying but if she was going me going in made her worse unless I picked her up. I had tried pupd and this just didnt work, she was kicking off even before I lay her down and it seemed to distress her. There have been times where I have keft her for 10 mins or so whinging and she has gone off but then theres other times it has just escalated and been a nightmare. I hate hearing her crying and not tending to her really upsets me but co sleeping is difficult due to space and I am struggling with pains due to fibromyalgia but because my body isnt resting properly. She has a cold and is teething atm and wont even nap in cot but when she is better what would you suggest? Has anyone successfully gone from bedsharing to lo in cot sleeping well?

I think one the the main issues is getting her to sleep for long periods also as due to bedsharing she hasnt had a night feed from v early on. Also she hates me rocking ger etc and I cant get her to sleep then put her down as sge snaps wide awake!
Xx

I'm only on my 9th night, but it has not been so bad. I went from bedsharing to crib in her own room. I expected her to go crazy and she hasn't. The first night, I nursed her till drowsy than put her in the crib and I left the room and hopped in the shower. By the time I got out of the shower she was sleep. The second night same thing. The third night no tears and straight to sleep.

We had a little of a setback last night. We had to stay at my parents house Monday night due to the storm and she woke up twice last night, once after an hour and then 3 hours after that. I think she was hungry (EBF) so I just fed her and put her back in her crib. So far so good.

CeeDee- did you start CC while putting your LO in her own crib in her own room all at once or did you get her use to crib/room first? I am planning my long term goals with my dd and deciding how to do it. I was afraid doing it all at once would be too traumatizing.

 

[bananaz]

So an update... Elsie woke crying at 1am so I decided to feed her. She fell asleep immediately after that and then she slept until 6:30! There were a couple of squawks on the monitor at 4 and 5 and I was going to go feed her again but by the time I got out of bed she had already resettled herself, which is pretty amazing for her. Most nights those kinds of yells would turn into full-blown crying within a couple of minutes. So, fingers crossed that this trend continues!