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Desperado167
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Indigo,u are amazing ,I seriously think u know more than my doc and mw,I am seriously in awe of you,you can always provide the info anyone asks ,it's so helpful having u here for us all,xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Indigo,u are amazing ,I seriously think u know more than my doc and mw,I am seriously in awe of you,you can always provide the info anyone asks ,it's so helpful having u here for us all,xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Good luck bubba and try not to stress too much ,remember it just takes one spermie for it to work ,and the sperm can stay there for a few days,I know a few women on here have got their bfp after a few tries in one cycle,so stay strong and relax,
just figured out how to do this 
Thank you masses Desperado , more hugs from hubby and feeling better now. I'm becoming a total loon
hope your not too tired ?I'll second that and I'm really grateful . Amazes me how much support is here even when your trying to cope with your own stuff .
Well first opk was too feint to read had had a lot to drink . So second two hours later stronger wee , def still poss , not as strong but same shade . Think will forget tonight and try again tomorrow .sorry for constant updates 
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Desperado167
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Well first opk was too feint to read had had a lot to drink . So second two hours later stronger wee , def still poss , not as strong but same shade . Think will forget tonight and try again tomorrow .sorry for constant updates
Bubba I love your updates,
Keep going u are nearly there ,
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Desperado167
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Well how is everyone today,please keep me updated ,I miss u guys ?
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Desperado167
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Amazing Hun,eating like a pig,not doing much housework and dh is really looking after me ,kids and family dont know yet but my two closest friends do,don't really want much fuss and don't want to upset anyone by having to tell them I have mc so am praying I get to twelve weeks and can spread the news
Otherwise I feel blessed ,I really do Hun and I hope all of you can join me soon ,I pray for each and everyone of you ,well I hope to join you soon too!!!
Glad all is going well and I agree with you...I am not telling anyone other than you gals at BNB until after all tests are done and all is good (so about 12 or 13 weeks, maybe as far as 16!
Glad all is going well and I agree with you...I am not telling anyone other than you gals at BNB until after all tests are done and all is good (so about 12 or 13 weeks, maybe as far as 16!
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Indigo77
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Oh, if it happens, if I could, I would not tell anyone and just show up with the baby! It seems it would be impossible to keep such exciting news on the down low, though....DH wants to wait until 24 weeks...Being able to share it with the ladies here may offset the urge to tell others sooner...
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Macwooly
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DH & I have said if we get out BFP then I am allowed to share on here (said I would set you ladies on him) and we may tell my mum but otherwise no-one is being told till a minimum of 13 weeks and at least one scan done!
This when to tell is a really tricky one and a very individual choice . I'm terrible a bit of an open book but too much so sometimes. Last time I decided i needed to quell my urge to tell , it's so exciting you want to burst. So our rule was that we only old a few who would be the ones if things went wrong then we would need / welcome their support . I totally understand being wary but the danger is we leave ourselves vulnerable to isolation if this go wrong . This was just our thinking . When it did happen I was so glad for the love of those who knew. It was like a little journey they went on with us from the beginning. I found people who didn't know until after were very careless and dismissive . But it didn't matter so much as we had a good network .
Enough of my rambling. The thing that cracks me up is I'm writing this with two pillows under my bum
had a little dance ( my temp spiked up this am ) and hubby left for work . Can't think of a better way to pass 20 than chatting with you gals
Enough of my rambling. The thing that cracks me up is I'm writing this with two pillows under my bum
had a little dance ( my temp spiked up this am ) and hubby left for work . Can't think of a better way to pass 20 than chatting with you galsPuleeeese tell us
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Desperado167
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Go bubba goThis when to tell is a really tricky one and a very individual choice . I'm terrible a bit of an open book but too much so sometimes. Last time I decided i needed to quell my urge to tell , it's so exciting you want to burst. So our rule was that we only old a few who would be the ones if things went wrong then we would need / welcome their support . I totally understand being wary but the danger is we leave ourselves vulnerable to isolation if this go wrong . This was just our thinking . When it did happen I was so glad for the love of those who knew. It was like a little journey they went on with us from the beginning. I found people who didn't know until after were very careless and dismissive . But it didn't matter so much as we had a good network .
Enough of my rambling. The thing that cracks me up is I'm writing this with two pillows under my bum
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Desperado167
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Well my mother is coming down today with my daughters late birthday present,been up all nite with worry as every time she comes she makes me feel so bad and I am trying to think of the lo and not get upset,she loves to target my weight and compare me to my sister ,even thou I have lost 38 pound she refuses to say I have done well just that I am too fat and need to stop eating,she isn't coming for ten hours and here I am already fretting ,sorry for the rant.................hope all my lovely ladies are well and in high spirits ,
Well Desperado that's just plain wrong . She s the person who should love you no matter what . Unconditionally , without question. No one has the right to make you feel this way .
Try and work out some sort of mantra maybe like " this too will pass " I only suggest this because obviously a stiff drink isn't on the cards right now. Or maybe stick fingers up when she can't see
:finger I only say this because you've got precious cargo going on , you can't be stressing .
Maybe she does it to make herself feel better , I don't know , but I do know you shouldn't have to put up with it. Hold your head high lady , you doing an amazing thing and she can NEVER take that from you
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Desperado167
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She s the person who should love you no matter what . Unconditionally , without question. No one has the right to make you feel this way .
Try and work out some sort of mantra maybe like " this too will pass " I only suggest this because obviously a stiff drink isn't on the cards right now. Or maybe stick fingers up when she can't see
I only say this because you've got precious cargo going on , you can't be stressing .
Maybe she does it to make herself feel better , I don't know , but I do know you shouldn't have to put up with it. Hold your head high lady , you doing an amazing thing and she can NEVER take that from you
Bubba thank u so much and I love u for saying that and u know wot u are right and I am now laughing ,I feel much better and I am going to keep reading this thru the day to keep my spirits up
Sorry , that was really opinionated of me actually . She's your mum when alls said and done. Mine let's me down at times but I still love her. That's not to say I want to be the same parent as her. Our job is to big them up , give them the confidence to love themselves not knock them down . I just wanted to say surround yourself with good people and just grin a and bare the rest .
Desperado... I so know how you feel as I am on the same boat with mine... just try not to take things personally for they are only deflecting their feelings of themselves on us. I personally stopped or limited my communications with my family for that reason...the criticism was just too much and I had enough of it...they got the hint and got better, and if and when we do talk if they start with the criticism I suddenly "have to go" or "another call came in" or whatever...I cut it real quick.
Try to enjoy her visit as she is still your mother BUT quickly switch subjects if the critical nonsense starts...either get up to do something (have to go pee) or mention your daughter and how pretty she is...bring her into the conversation etc...
Best of luck and HUGS!
Try to enjoy her visit as she is still your mother BUT quickly switch subjects if the critical nonsense starts...either get up to do something (have to go pee) or mention your daughter and how pretty she is...bring her into the conversation etc...
Best of luck and HUGS!
