Christmas Card from MIL

[bump2be]

Just need some opinions on this...

My MIL always gives us a Christmas card addressed to 'our wonderful son and his family' onthe front. Am I being sensitive or is that a bit rude? I feel like the card is basically addressed to my husband and that I don't matter!!! She gives my son a seperate ' wonderful grandson' card.

 

[Wriggley]

If i recieved a card addressed like that i probably wouldnt have bat an eyelid

 

[cupcakekate]

No that wouldn't offend me tbh, before we had our daughter we used to get to our son and his fiancee.. I don't think there's cards (that I've seen) that say to our son, his wife and daughter so I would assume that that is the only option really...x

 

[Bevziibubble]

If I noticed, which I probably wouldn't as I'm not really into cards, I'd probably just think it was a card that she liked so she bought it. If it happened every year it might make me wonder but I wouldn't be too bothered

 

[shellie]

I don't think I would mind too much. The card acknowledges his family and is not just for him. I think it depends on the relationship between dil and mil though. If they don't get on then I could see how the dil would feel the mil wasnt including her. xxx

 

[bump2be]

Maybe I'm being too sensitive then. I just feel like the card is just for him and that the 'rest of the family' are an after thought!

My mum always manages to find a card that says to my daughter and son in law, which I feel is nicer because it includes my husband as well.

Ah well, I think I am pms'ing right now...so taking things the wrong way maybe.

 

[Eleanor ace]

How is she otherwise? If this is symptomatic of how she is towards you normally I'd be annoyed, but if she's fine with you usually I'd just assume she doesn't mean anything negative by it

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

That would bother me. Particularly if she gets your LO a seperate "grandson" card. Like she's purposly cutting you out.

I know for a fact they do "son & wife" "son & fiancee" "son & gf" cards, so if she's doing it every yr then it would bug me.

But then... she might be like my MIL, who got all her kids "son" cards & me a "from our house to yours" Even after I'd put my name in his "mum & dad" card. Felt a tad cut out there. But then she thinks her kids are still 5, so y'know. Pissed me off that she got Joshy a "grandson" card though. Like he's part of the family but I'm not.

Actually you've made me mad about this now

If she does it again next yr words will be had haha

 

[Ceejay123]

I don't think I'd take offense to be honest.. MIL usually writes me a separate card, but me and OH only get her one..x

 

[Tegans Mama]

Nah all of mine say that I wouldn't worry

 

[Baby France]

I wouldn't bat an eyelid either.

I agree with a PP that it depends on what your relationship is like.

 

[Princess Lou]

To be honest, I would be grateful that I got one, never had a birthday, anniversary or Christmas card from MIL but hubby gets birthday and Christmas. Anyway, different story.

If it bothers you, maybe ask her if you here is a reason. If you don't get along then that's your reason.

 

[smileyfaces]

I think its nice that she has got a card to her son and the rest of the family....pretty sure there isn't a card that individually lists everyone in the family?

She could have just got one to her son and then got you a normal regular card, but logistically, it seems much easy to combine you both on one, right?

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Mine says that, never thought about it. I just assumed she picked up the cheapest one with the word Son on it!

 

[lhancock90]

Is your relationship with her fine?
If so i wouldn't worry!

xx

 

[Mummy2B21]

I don't really see an issue hun x

 

[AmethystDream]

Would be a step up from the one we received one year... 'To my wonderful Son' on the front and my name very obviously squished in as an afterthought on the inside. Almost like she tried to completely exclude me but didn't have the balls to go through with it in the end or FIL pulled her up on it.

Lovely woman, as you can imagine

Don't know if your version would bother me but it does entirely depend on your relationship with her.

 

[bump2be]

Thanks for all the replies. It really helps to put things into perspective. I think I've been too sensitive and I shouldn't really be bothered by it.

I have an o.k. relationship with MIL. We're not exactly best friends, but we're civil to each other. We just don't have a lot in common except her son

 

[Lucasmum]

My mil goes out her way to find the most insulting card she can for me, not through nastiness or anything but more to remind me that I dont really bother looking at cards to much and that she wont let me forget I got her one from her son that once said "your like a mum to me" its a long running joke now

 

[monkee12]

Wouldn't bother me either i'd rather that then just my OH get one x