christmas

[Rhio92]

What are you lot doing in regards to LO/FOB?

I'm not sure what to do.... Do I let them take Connor for the afternoon, like after dinner? Or do I let them have him all day boxing day? Knowing that next year, they'll probs expect all day Christmas day
Dunno what to do.... I'm selfish, if I had it my way, they'd piss off and let me have Connor all to myself! x

 

[sazzyb1985]

Hiya, not sure what your situation with FOB is but maybe talk to him and compromise so you're both happy?My lo's dad only sees her twice a week for an hour and a half each time, and as i'm making an effort for my daughter i've offered to change the day christmas week so he can see her for 2 hours christmas day.He will come to our home in the morning to see her open her presents, which i think she will be pleased about.He has never had unsupervised access, maybe if i trusted him more i would suggest he has her at his for a few hours but i dont so 2 hours christmas day it is

 

[MummyJade]

Maizie will (if he is still around) see him either xmas day from 4:30pm till boxing day 12pm... or boxing day 11am till the following day x

 

[Ginger84]

Im going to aviod this one with FOB for as long as possible, but there is no way in hell he is getting him on Christmas day for a long time. I will try to compromise with him having him on boxing day maybe.

 

[xSophieBx]

We'll still b at a contact centre then so he won't be seeing her. Shes all mine x

 

[iyawo]

Siiiigh....just thinking about how i'm probably going to have to navigate things like these makes me sad.....meh.

 

[wishuwerehere]

Fortunately told fob several months ago that we're going to australia this christmas so tough shit (i would feel guilty but he's currently travelling in africa for an undecided length of time, so bollocks to him, i deserve a holiday too!)
I did have this dilemma last year though, and i posted pretty much this thread on here lol. In the end i decided that he could see her for a day christmas week, but christmas day is mine - i do the hardest bits so i get the best bits too!

 

[AbbynChloe]

Have no idea, but FOB has not spent any part of Xmas week with Chloe so far, I don't think its gonna be an issue tbh - sad but yeah she's mine all mine xxxxxxxxxx

 

[littlekitten8]

I'm so glad i don't have to deal with all of this. I would say give him boxing day. My sister has this with her ex and he has their daughter on boxing day, never on christmas day.

 

[stevon111]

the way i think ill work xmas will be that i will work xmas day and new years day...full 12 hour shifts possibly...just becouse i can say all the money i earn on them days will go towards buying my little faye the best presents i can give her and the best 1st exmas i can show her
and take her the night time of xmas after 8ish possibly

 

[Kacie]

FOB has LO on Saturdays.. he hasn't brought up the topic of christmas but I have just assumed that, as Sat is Christmas eve, he will have her as usual that day and that will be it.. in fact, I've already made plans around this. Last year he made some comment about having her all day this christmas.. but it wont happen, I think that is just one of the compromises he has to make when he has an affair (or many!) and treats his real family so badly!)

Hes never been one for celebrating christmas anyway so it'll mean much more for her to be with my family on the actual day. I guess it depends what kind of visiting hours you already have in place xx

 

[Snowball]

I'm assuming he's not going to see them xmas day this year so we'll probably all spend it with my parents

 

[Laura2919]

Well our arrangements are every other weekend and it happens to be his weekend, luckily Christmas Eve is a Saturday so FOB will have Chloe and Jaycee 23rd,24th and 25th in the morning and at 12pm will bring them to my mums and then they will be with me all that week and then the next weekend too.

I dont comprise at Christmas, thats how it is. I spend Christmas with my girls and my family every year so I plan to stick to that

 

[SophiasMummy]

Well last christmas FOB still hadnt bothered to meet his daughter for the first time he came a couple days after, didnt bring her any presents or even a card, if he suddenly decided he wanted her christmas this year then he will get a lengthy argument from me alongside a catagorical NO, shes staying with family that love her and care about her esp on the first xmas she will remember. Infact im waiting to see if he even remembers her first birthday in 6 weeks time which I highly doubt he will xx