{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[Fleur828815]

I need to vent! A friend of mine (born on the same day as me coincidentally) is pregnant (by accident of course) and due in April. Today she's complaining about her weight gain (+1 kg over 3 weeks) - she finds herself fat and is unhappy that her belly is showing... A neighbour she hardly knows even congratulated her on her pregnancy. I won't say anything of course but I am so irritated. She doesn't know about my miscarriage because the day she announced her pregnancy was the same day we learnt that mine wasn't progressing as it should. I'm sure she'd be more sensitive if she knew but still

 

[KTJ006]

Did I read someone was from Australia on here? I have a friend who is bringing home a new puppy. She wants to give it an Australian name, but a name that is not a human name if that makes sense. They currently have a dog that they call Roo. Any ideas?

 

[NDH]

What breed of dog? Male or female? Did some brainstorming and this is what ICs come up with so far.

City names:
Sydney (Syd)
Melbourne (or Lord Melbourne to be specific and fancy )
Darwin
Brisbane (Brissie)
Bendigo

Animals:
Croc
Emu
Bilby

Beer:
Tooheys
Boags (this is my brothers dogs name )
I can't name any other Aussie beer but you can look them up for more ideas. Aussies love their beer kol.

Miscellaneous:
Drover (one who transports cattle)
Blue (slang for someone with red hair. Or blue heeler breed of dog)
Darling (darling harbour in Sydney)
Cricket


Oh no my memory is slipping I had come up with quite a few more I can't remember now.
I'll see if I can think of them in the morning.

The most popular chain of steakhouse here us called Hogsbreath or Hoggies for short.

 

[jlw617]

No still just testing out the residual hcg. I'd be ovulating about now +/-2 days if this was a normal cycle do just a bit curious whether I will or not.
I have no idea what my cycle is going to do. I'm still breastfeeding which can affect cycles in the first place. No idea what a miscarriage plus breastfeeding is going to do to it...

Before kids I was 23-26 days. After my first was 28-30 days. I only had two cycles before getting pregnant with the one I lost and they were 35 day cycles. The one I conceived on would have been about a 28 day one though as I got a bfp on day 26.

Oh ok, I see-wow, sounds like a lot is going on! Well I believe there's definitely a possibility even with a little bit of hcg left over-will you try and test around the time you think AF might be due again or are you going to just wait it out and see what your body tells you?

 

[jlw617]

Fleur-I would just be DTD every other day! I've always understood that it's the first day that you have the bright red blood and it's heavier and that's the day that you count as your first CD. I always end up having the brown spotting a daybefore I actually get the bright red blood and then my flow is also heavier that day as well. HIpe that helps, keep us updated!!!

Thanks, usually I don't count the days I spot but this time it was enough to fill a pad, just brown instead of fresh blood, that's why I wasn't so sure. Not that it makes a big difference anyway!

The month I did manage to fall pregnant we DTD almost every day for 10 days but I was pretty sure of my fertile period. I won't be able to do that every month! So every other day should be more manageable.

Oh yeah, that would be confusing because on the day I get the brown blood, it's normally just spotting...I would still think though because it's brown and with the mc, that's its probably still old blood that is getting pushed out before your actual 1st cd but I'd mention it to the OB if you end up getting a bfp this cycle.
I know what you mean about dtd every day! DH and I have had an ongoing deal when it comes to ttc-1 month we do it his way and dtd every day, and the next month we do it my way where we dtd every other day

 

[tcinks]

Oh yeah, that would be confusing because on the day I get the brown blood, it's normally just spotting...I would still think though because it's brown and with the mc, that's its probably still old blood that is getting pushed out before your actual 1st cd but I'd mention it to the OB if you end up getting a bfp this cycle.
I know what you mean about dtd every day! DH and I have had an ongoing deal when it comes to ttc-1 month we do it his way and dtd every day, and the next month we do it my way where we dtd every other day

every day for the whole month?! That just sounds exhausting!

 

[tcinks]

Fleur I'm so sorry, that has to be tough. I've just has to avoid some pregnant women/those who just had babies around me. I feel bad but it's just too hard for me sometimes.

 

[jlw617]

Oh yeah, that would be confusing because on the day I get the brown blood, it's normally just spotting...I would still think though because it's brown and with the mc, that's its probably still old blood that is getting pushed out before your actual 1st cd but I'd mention it to the OB if you end up getting a bfp this cycle.
I know what you mean about dtd every day! DH and I have had an ongoing deal when it comes to ttc-1 month we do it his way and dtd every day, and the next month we do it my way where we dtd every other day

every day for the whole month?! That just sounds exhausting!

Haha no! Oops-I should have clarified, everyday starting at cd 9/10 up until cd 22

 

[tcinks]

Oh that makes sense. Still sounds like a lot to me

 

[jlw617]

Oh that makes sense. Still sounds like a lot to me

Oh it is! Thanks for laughing at me haha

 

[Fleur828815]

Definitely not everyday for a whole month!!! My friend is a doctor and told us to DTD everyday that month from CD 10 to CD 20 to maximise our chances, we didn't quite manage it (still did 8 days out of 10) but NO WAY could I keep that up for a whole month, or even do it every month. As it is some days I did it just because we had to follow the "prescription".

jlw, youre probably right, it must have been leftover blood from the miscarriage. I'll stick to DTD every other day if I can be bothered! I wouldn't mind doing it more often for TTC purposes but DH doesn't like it when it's too business-like

Thanks tcinks, usually I'm not too bothered by other women's pregnancies, I just feel sad for myself, but this time I just thought it sounded so ungrateful of her complaining about a measly 1 kg gain.

 

[kdmalk]

Can't respond to everyone right now, as I have just a quick break between meetings... My doctor did tell me that she would prescribe progesterone when I am pregnant again just because of having a mc. I'm not certain I am totally comfortable with it because I never had any bleeding during the pregnancy, but I trust her... So I will probably do it. I like the idea of a more natural option. Maybe I can get her to go for it. Hmmm...

I'll post more later! Hope everyone is having a nice day/evening!

 

[KTJ006]

I need to vent! A friend of mine (born on the same day as me coincidentally) is pregnant (by accident of course) and due in April. Today she's complaining about her weight gain (+1 kg over 3 weeks) - she finds herself fat and is unhappy that her belly is showing... A neighbour she hardly knows even congratulated her on her pregnancy. I won't say anything of course but I am so irritated. She doesn't know about my miscarriage because the day she announced her pregnancy was the same day we learnt that mine wasn't progressing as it should. I'm sure she'd be more sensitive if she knew but still

Sorry This is hard, but it's totally normal. I can't tell you how many friends have recently posted they are pregnant and I feel so selfish for wondering "why not me?!" This is a reason why when I did have a successful pregnancy I was so cautious with how I "expressed" things as I wasn't sure if there was someone else out there going through what I did. Don't be too hard on yourself - I like to think of it as a stage of mourning and something that we'll get through

 

[jlw617]

Fleur-I tend to dislike the complaining about being pregnant a little irritating no matter what's going on, if Someine asks me how I'm feeling and it's not good while I'm pregnant, then I'll say that but otherwise I think it's almost become a topic of interest/attention ploy sometimes with pregnant women to complain to anyone who will listen. Sorry you have to go through that-it's a tough time already.

Kdmalk-you really should look into it! I really think it's worth it and its good you trust your doctor, I really like mine and trust her but I know that the majority of drs tend to not be too natural sided so I'm not even telling my dr that I'm taking it.

 

[tcinks]

Oh I am really starting to consider the progesterone. Bleeding hasn't tapered off yet, so I called my doctor and am waiting to hear back. I'm willing to try anything that might help! Starting to lose hope.

 

[Fleur828815]

Thanks for the support. Honestly I don't usually mind being around my pregnant friends (going to see 2 of them tomorrow), I don't even mind when they complain about the usual pregnancy niggles so I don't know why this rubbed me up the wrong way.

I have a few friends who are struggling to fall pregnant so I did worry about how to announce mine (before I lost it) but this particular friend probably doesn't really realise that it might be hard for others. She had already bought the baby's cot and other things by the end of the first trimester, I wish I could be as confident as her!

kdmalk, if your doctor is prescribing the progesterone I would take it. My friend lost a baby at 19 weeks and for her next pregnancies she was prescribed progesterone for the whole of the first trimester. She's a pharmacist and said it doesn't hurt to take it, even if you don't really need it. I wish my doctor was less "go with the flow", he refuses to get my levels tested next time despite the missed miscarriage, he said "come back when you're 8 weeks pregnant and just relax in the meantime". Lol yeah!

tcinks, hope the doctor will get back to you quickly and that you'll have some answers. Don't lose hope, everyone doesn't recover in the same way after a miscarriage

 

[jlw617]

Oh I am really starting to consider the progesterone. Bleeding hasn't tapered off yet, so I called my doctor and am waiting to hear back. I'm willing to try anything that might help! Starting to lose hope.

Since I started taking it 2 days ago, my bleeding has really really lightened up and I really feel like it may have "encouraged" my body to pass that last large clot yesterday- I feel very confident today or tomorrow will be my last day of bleeding, this morning I woke to no blood on my pad and its been extremely light throughout the rest of the day so far, and I've only been taking the morning dose and not 2x a day-although I think I'll start that tomorrow...so that brings me to my next question because I believe you said you were also going to ttc before your AF...I'm wondering how soon we can start? I read about a lady who got a bfp before AF and she actually started dtd while she still had light bleeding, I'm not so sure I'd want to do it that soon all though dh has hinted at it! But seriously would you start dtd as soon as you felt confident you were done bleeding?

 

[tcinks]

Oh I definitely intend to start ttc as soon as I stop bleeding and my body feels well (I've been having some cramping). I have already waited way longer than I thought I'd have to, I don't want to wait any longer than necessary. I wouldnt try while still bleeding though, although I'm sure it wouldn't hurt. It's just weird to me. But I think lots of women go on to have a healthy pregnancy without waiting for af.

 

[jlw617]

Ok thanks Terissa, I was just wondering what your thoughts on it were because I was a little concerned about possible infection but I think with what I've read so far about some Women getting their BFP before AF I feel better now.

 

[KTJ006]

What breed of dog? Male or female? Did some brainstorming and this is what ICs come up with so far.

City names:
Sydney (Syd)
Melbourne (or Lord Melbourne to be specific and fancy )
Darwin
Brisbane (Brissie)
Bendigo

Animals:
Croc
Emu
Bilby

Beer:
Tooheys
Boags (this is my brothers dogs name )
I can't name any other Aussie beer but you can look them up for more ideas. Aussies love their beer kol.

Miscellaneous:
Drover (one who transports cattle)
Blue (slang for someone with red hair. Or blue heeler breed of dog)
Darling (darling harbour in Sydney)
Cricket


Oh no my memory is slipping I had come up with quite a few more I can't remember now.
I'll see if I can think of them in the morning.

The most popular chain of steakhouse here us called Hogsbreath or Hoggies for short.

THIS IS AWESOME!! Thank you so much. It's an Australian Labradoodle. I had never heard of them until she brought her first one home