{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[tcinks]

Sounds like you have a fun, busy time ahead of you Jamie!

Kate that sounds so fun! I love frozen! I've seriously watched it too many times to count.

Fleur, sorry you're feeling so pessimistic. I hope that goes away and you can get excited about ttc again soon.

I'm going to try get out of the house today. I've basically been moping around here all week, but now I'm feeling pretty good so maybe I'll go join the world again.

 

[coucou11]

Hi ladies! Feeling a bit better today, yay weekend!

Fleur - I should have guessed! Where did you live? It's such a beautiful country. We were in Paris. I hope this is just a down day for you - I think you're chances are good, and they always say fertility is higher after a MC!

Terrissa - Methergine is a medication they sometimes give to women after birth to stop the bleeding, when it is excessive/lengthy. That is what I read at least But I am bleeding a bit more today so it's obviously not a perfect solution...

Kate - Frozen on Ice sounds amazing. What a powerhouse that movie is. My daughter loved meeting Anna and Elsa at Disney.

Jamie - yes, totally overwhelmed! My plan is to buy all Christmas presents this weekend. We also just ordered our Christmas cards so those are gonna be late... sigh. You're right, the MC really throws everything out of whack this year.

 

[zaycain]

Hi girls!

Sorry to be MIA. Work has been insane, which is good cause I've been able to hide the crazy a little.

Today is 4 week anniversary of my d&c! I started working out again and I am feeling so much better. Physically and mentally. However, I started bleeding red pretty heavy on Wednesday night and it's on and off. It feels like AF with a little cramping, but my friend said after her ms she went for a run and bled heavily too. Might be more shedding.

Every time I think I'm done the bleeding starts again. I was in a cycling class today and I bled right through a tampon and a pad! Crazy!

Also, I took another hpt and opk test. Hpt has a squinter line and my Opk is still really dark! What the heck is going on??

Anyway.. I hope you ladies are well.


T - That ceremony sounds beautiful.

 

[tcinks]

Wow it's been kind of quiet here today. I hope everyone has been having a good day.

Zaycain, good to hear from you! Glad you're getting back into working out. I started my gym membership back up this week and it's been good, but it's going to take me a while to get back to where I was a few months ago. I'm so out of shape! Haha. About the bleeding, it could be af or more shedding. When did your bleeding stop before? Or has it been going since the d&c?

My bleeding has slowed SIGNIFICANTLY! Yay! Still had some cramping earlier today but that's gone away. I went to the mall today with a couple of friends. It was nice to get out of the house and see the world again. Haha. But now I am so exhausted! Only get to rest for a bit though, have to get dinner together quickly and then off to church for small group and to decorate for Christmas!

 

[coucou11]

Zay I'm sorry about your bleeding too! I'm only two weeks in but it is so frustrating - one day on, then it will be off, then it will start a bit again, then it will be red, then just brown spotting.... ARGH.

Terrissa that is so great that your bleeding slowed!! I guess maybe that does mean it was AF?! How exciting Oooh I can't wait to be there again.

Another busy work day for me. Christmas party tomorrow night! Really have to be getting to the gym more with the holiday coming up, ugh.

Hope you all are well!!

 

[tcinks]

Oh Leigh I know how frustrating that is, with the off and on. Hopefully it'll be over soon!

 

[jlw617]

Yay, we finally got our tree up today and this may be tmi but dh and I have decided to start ttc again starting today!
Terissa, I'm so glad your bleeding has slowed down so much!

 

[KTJ006]

Terrissa - YAY for your bleeding being much slower. Hoping it's a trend!

Happy weekend everyone!! I've decided that I hate Target!!! Why? Because I buy way too much every time I go in that place! Someone stop me!!!!

 

[NDH]

Sorry for not responding to posts. I caught up on the thread in between customers at the markets this morning and now that I'm home I can't remember all the details.
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I hope everyone has a grwat weekend. I have to go clean my house and redecorate the tree (I removed the bottom half of the decorations yesterday as i had do much market prep to do i couldjt discipline every time they removed them so just took the temptation away. Broke one of my lovely ornaments from my "faith hope love believe rejoice " set with bible verses on the back. I think it was my hope one

Going to go to Carols in the park this evening.

 

[tcinks]

Jamie, so great you're trying again!!! Can't wait for that day with my DH!

Natalie that sounds really fun. Is it just like it sounds, people singing carols in a park? What's the weather like there?

 

[NDH]

Yep pretty much! There are a few different bands and choirs that sing on stage and a couple big screens set up to display the lyrics and then its 3 hours of singing on a big field where circuses etc set up so quite a big space. there's a city hosted one and a church hosted one every year and this is the church hosted one tonight. usually somewher around 800-1000 people show up I think. there are always fireworks too. we'll be having a picnic dinner out there.

its been raining all week so the ground is a bit soggy and we'te hoping not to get rained out. ltd been pretty mild as a result - avout 25^C.(don't know what that translates too sorry. high 70s as a guess?) But also lots of mosquitoes...



I had right ovary pain yesterday but yesterdayss and todays opks only had faint lines so either my surge endeed soon after popping an egg (usually its dark for a few hours either side for me) or the ovary pain wasn't ovulation. I am usually able to tell exactly when and from which side I ovulate from though so for now I'll assume I'm in the tww.

oh on the frozen theme from earlier, the market hired a party place to have kids entertainment so there was an Elsa, a face painter pitting snowflakes and glitter on kids faces, and frozen colouring pages. my 3 year old spent the whole morning glued to Elsa's side lol. at 11:30 when she was finished and left my husband said he couldn't find Sara. apparently she followed Elsa out and was found sobbing in the parking lot screaming "Elsa come back!" Bless.

 

[tcinks]

Oh my , your daughter sounds so precious.

That's great about ovulation! How do you know what ovary pain feels like? Lots of women talk about feeling it but I guess I never paid much attention? I've been learning so much more about my body over these past couple of months. Whenever I had pains or cramps during or around my period, I never stopped to think whether it was ovaries or uterus or what. It was all just pain! But I'm trying now to distinguish.

 

[NDH]

For me it feels like a stitch in my side, but down low and to either side of where my uterus is. I only put two and two together when I started tracking for ovulation when ttc my first.

I way underestimated numbers at carols - it's more like 6-7000 lol. I'm so not good at judging crowds lol

 

[Fleur828815]

jlw, sounds like you've got a busy week ahead but it's good not to have so much time to think (my DH calls it MOPING ). on deciding to TTC again, hope it won't be long till you get a BFP.

coucou, I lived in Montpellier in the South but have been to Paris on holiday a few times.

zaycain, if I remember correctly my AF started just after I'd been to a high intensity gym class too. Have you been bleeding all this time since the D&C? They say you're supposed to have stopped bleeding for 20 days after the D&C for it to be a proper AF when it start again, but I had less than 20 days between the two. Your HPT and positive OPK sound weird though, hope someone else will have more advice. (I had a faint BFP just 2 weeks before AF but didn't test again after that).

tcinks, yay for the bleeding slowing down! Hopefully it will stop completely within the next few days.

Sorry about the broken ornament NDH Carols in the park sounds just fab. Hope it won't rain before or during the event. Your little girl is so cute, glad she didn't go off after Elsa!

tcinks, I've never had ovary / ovulation pain either, I always feel so left out and not in sync with my body. I have no idea where my ovaries are lol.

The only ovulation sign I usually have is EWCM and this month I'm totally dry, today's OPK (CD 14) is still negative so I'm guessing I'm not of those women who are more fertile after a miscarriage

Have a good weekend everyone!

 

[tcinks]

Hey ladies, I had a quick question/poll.


What do you think about making this a closed group?

When I started this thread, it was because I wad getting lost in the other ones with like 50+ posters and not really getting to know everyone's story and be able to follow along.

We are about 12 right now, and I know some ladies are having a hard time already keeping up.

I just think we are a good sized group and we are really starting to get to know each other and it'll be hard as newcomers try to join in. Does that sound bad? I'm not trying to exclude anyone, it's just kind of hard to keep up with so many people and really be able to encourage them.

And then as we get our bfp, we can all head over to the pregnancy board on the same thread together so we can continue along with one another.


Thoughts?

 

[jlw617]

Terrissa-I actually think that is a great idea there are a lot of forums on here if someone needs support but it is kind of nice having a smaller close knit group like this!

Okay ladies I need your help I wasn't going to test with an HPT or even OPK but today I thought well maybe I should at least do an HPT to see if it still registering as a BFP so that later on if I test and it is a BFP (I'm talking A few weeks down the road if I feel the need to) then I won't have it in the back of my mind that maybe it's just residual hCG so here is my question I decided to test and it obviously is still positive although the line is faint, it's definitely there and it's not a squinter, I also simultaneously took in OPK and that line was actually pretty dark, I would basically feel confident saying it was positive but I've also heard of women using OPK's to test for pregnancy so I'm just wondering if the only reason why it's registering so dark positive is because I have enough hCG left in my system to register positive on an HPT...thoughts on this and has anyone had something similar happened to them how long did it take for you to get a BFN after mc?

 

[jlw617]

Okay one more question for you ladies and thank you so much for bearing with me through all of this I'm just so excited at the possibility that I could possibly be ovulating now or very soon! I talked to my friend that had her rainbow baby right after her miscarriage and she strongly believes she got pregnant right after she was completely done with MC I have also read that Though MC can mess up your cycle, a lot of women will continue to have their cycle around the same time if not almost exactly the same time and if that's true then I actually should be ovulating right about now...thoughts?

 

[kdmalk]

Sorry I have been quiet. Took myself on a 4 hour road trip to visit family yesterday after work. Was so excited to hang out and play games that I didn't take the time to check in on everyone!

Zay- so glad to see you back. I was getting worried about you!!!

Natalie- that park thing sounds SO cool! Your daughter is too precious!

Terrissa- I am all for a closed group. It would be impossible to keep up if 5 new ladies joined. For my O pain, like Natalie, I never put two and two together until I realized the timing always lined up. Mine is just a dull ache on one side or the other. Might last up to 20-30 mins or so... Almost like a pulling or tugging. Not painful, but noticeable. Mostly notice it if I am not doing anything at the time it happens.

Jamie, I hope you get your bfp soon!

Ugh. I just want AF to get here so I can get excited about ttc again. Still having lots of weird aches and pains, but no AF. Still having some cm and usually don't right before AF, so likely at least a few more days. I really thought things would be pretty normal because I only bled for like 3 days (including day of) and lightly spotted for 2-3 more after d&c and haven't had a drop since. Guess I am still playing the waiting game. Hope those of you who are now ttc catch your egg quickly!!! Can't wait to stalk pictures of your hpts.

 

[zaycain]

The ovary pain is called mittleschmertz and only 20% of women actually feel it. I feel it very strongly. I also think because of that sensitivity I was was very sensitive to my uterus expanding. I knew 2 days after conception that I was pregnant. My body was cramping so much!

T - Yes.. Let's make it closed! I feel bad because I haven't been able to catch up on everyone's stories.

Fleur - That's good insight! I have been working out a lot and the bleeding is always really heavy after I do. I don't want to stop. Started Wednesday night. My AF's usually don't last longer than 4 days but who knows now.

So 20 days of brown bleeding is probably more accurate. Does that count?

Week 1 - Heavy bleeding
Week 2 - Brown spotting
Week 3 - Brown spotting lightened/Completely Stopped
Week 4 - Heavy bleeding

Hpt has gradually going down
Opk still dark

I will test again tomorrow.

jlw - Congrats on trying again! It's hard to tell. I've been feeling like I've ovulated and my OPK was very dark.. but then every time I tested both HPT and OPK it's been dark. (This has been a week and a half)... so I think it's more HCG that's muddling the results. But of course.. I have no idea what's going on in there anymore!

 

[Fleur828815]

tcinks, good idea about the closed group, didn't know you could do that. I feel a bit bad about not offering the same support to newcomers that I've had here but honestly, I've tried dipping my toes into existing groups and it felt like they've all known one another for ages so I felt totally out of place.

jlw, I don't have any experience with using OPKs to test for hCG but here's my story. D&C for missed miscarriage on 20 October, tested 3 weeks later and got a faint BFP, AF arrived 2 weeks after that (so just under 5 weeks after D&C). Didn't test again so I don't know when I would have got a BFN. As for cycles after miscarriage, this is my first one but I don't seem to be following my usual schedule. Most of the time I used to ovulate between CD 14 and CD 16. Today is CD 14 and OPK is still negative, don't have any sign of ovulation so I believe it's going to be delayed, unless I have an annovulatory cycle (I really hope not!).

kdmalk, I was also SO impatient for my AF to come back so I could start thinking about TTC again! Hope it won't be long now.

zaycain, I don't know if brown discharge counts as bleeding or not. I should have tested again just to see when I got a BFN, but I wasn't expecting AF to turn up only 2 weeks after that faint BFP.
After my D&C, I bled heavily only on that day, then light bleeding for the rest of the week.
2nd week : brown discharge (increased after working out) and just 1 day of bleeding again at the end of the week.
3rd week : beige spotting / CM (I would have ovulated at the end of the week, AF came 2 weeks later).
4th week : light beige spotting
5th week : nothing
So by 20 days without bleeding I don't know if they mean just fresh blood or no discharge at all. It seems like there are so many different ways bodies react after a miscarriage, the hardest bit for me was not knowing what to expect, and when.