{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[KTJ006]

Zaycain - that's great! And don't get me started on OPKs....no clue how to use them over here!! Hence why I love the fertility monitor.

Terissa - get to !! Hope you don't get tired out like I did

We all took naps in this house. Feeling much better! I got 8 hours of sleep last night, which is great, but I woke up really groggy like I needed a few more hours of sleep. I think that's why I was in such a funk. DH is making dinner and I'm hanging out in bed. Loooove it!! Also, my pregnancy tests all came in this weekend. Waaaaay earlier than I anticipated. I'm still not going to test until the week of 12/15. About 1 week to go! I don't have any feeling one way or the other. I usually don't really *know* until I get implantation bleeding, which is right around the time I test (I take WAY longer to implant than the average). We shall see!

How was everyone else's weekend? I randomly groomed our dog this evening and it actually came out pretty good. We usually pay $50 for a grooming so I just saved us some $$! Maybe I will go out and buy a pair of shoes

 

[NDH]

Had my third lot of bloods done today. It won't be negative (<5) because I just took a hpt and still got he barest hint of a shadow. I'm going to guess it will be about 18 when they call tomorrow with the results. They also decided to check my rubella immunity and my thyroid with this test. I'm definitely satisfied hcg is going down sufficiently and wont have another one. if i got one next week it would almost certainly be higher I hope

Negative OPK (barest hint of a line)

 

[kdmalk]

I am home from my trip! I had a nice time. Looks like everyone else had a good weekend... aside from Kate's brief time out!

I WANT to start again right away, but I would also feel bad if I ended up pregnant when my doctor didn't want me to. I'm sure everything would be fine because obviously my BODY would be ready... But I would still feel super guilty and like she would be upset with me. I have told you guys I am a rule follower! You have been warned! Lol. I really doubt it matters at this point anyway because I feel pretty confident that I already Oed and now just waiting on AF. You guys are going to hear about it the second she arrives. After her departure, I will get busy with the .

So super jealous of everyone else that is already trying. Good luck!!!!

 

[kdmalk]

I am useless at writing about myself for the first page.

24 year old bookworm in Arkansas ttc #1. mmc story: Baby measured small, but with a heartbeat at 7+6. Fund out the baby was no longer growing at 8+5 (baby still measuring 6+1 and no longer had a heartbeat). D&C on Nov. 4 at 9+5. BFN 22 days post D&C. TTC following first post-d&c AF.

 

[tcinks]

How was everyone else's weekend? I randomly groomed our dog this evening and it actually came out pretty good. We usually pay $50 for a grooming so I just saved us some $$! Maybe I will go out and buy a pair of shoes

Haha. Sounds like a good idea to me!

Kylee, so glad you had a good trip this weekend!

Natalie, I hope you get good results back from the tests! My hcg was 4 last week but my doctor wants me to do another test this week. I that's low enough...:/

I didn't have a particularly busy weekend, but I just feel so exhausted! It gets dark so early these days, I'm always ready for bed at like 7pm

 

[coucou11]

Hi ladies!

Hoping everyone had a nice weekend! I am totally pumped for everyone who is starting ttc again. It just feels right to be moving forward, and even though I think I'll wait, it's just so nice to see everyone healing and it gives me hope when others get their bfps. So let's get on it!

As for the first page, let's go with:

Leigh: 33, DH 41, one daughter, almost 3. TTC #2. MMC - heartbeat at 6w5d. Baby passed away shortly after that. D&C Nov 21 at 12w3d. Waiting one cycle, hoping for a BFP in January!

Two newsworthy items this weekend. First, I'm definitely down to spotting. Hooray! Really been very light bleeding this weekend and I'm hoping this is the end.

Also, had my first moment I have been dreading. Had an acquaintance come to do some work on the house and we were catching up, chatting kids etc. And he said, "So, you going to have any more?" I was so afraid of this moment, thinking I might just burst into tears. But instead I just said "Maybe." So I felt that was a small victory, ha.

Natalie I hope your bloods look good!

Katie - definitely go for the shoes Christmas sales too!!

Terrissa - I feel you on the early nights. It's depressing that it gets so dark but at least it gives it a feeling of winter around here, where it is still usually about 70 degrees during the day, ha.

Kylee - I feel exactly the same way. Like I would be disappointing my doctor or something if I got pregnant again! Ugh. I should just let it go but I know I'll suck it up and wait.

 

[kdmalk]

Good news: I have a progress report this evening.... Unfortunately it isn't AF, but it is something that means she is close! Sore boobs! I usually have sore boobs within a week of AF and they will stop hurting before she arrives. Was overly aware that maybe they were beginning to get a bit tender a couple days ago (but wouldn't have noticed it 6 months ago probably) and this evening noticed that they have reached their pre-AF soreness level. Hoping this means she is on the way.

Gripe: I have honestly just had so many weird aches and pains and twinges that I have never had since the d&c. And even during pregnancy. Has me wondering if I am always going to feel this stuff now, or if it is all related to pregnancy and recovering from d&c and my body starting back up with regular cycles. Who knows... I really hope I don't feel like this all the time now. That would be really annoying.

That was my good news slash complaint of the day. Guess I like to pair the good news with the bad. Lol

 

[coucou11]

Kylee that's great news! Yay for AF on the way

I took an OPK this evening and it was pretty light. But I tried to check my CM and it felt like EWCM. Is it possible to have that while still bleeding? I mean, my bleeding is light but still there so it's hard to tell.

I'm also now paranoid that I did something by checking my CM. I am feeling somewhat crampy now since checking it. Ugh! Kylee I agree that the feelings are different now - so much more awareness of all the aches and twinges. Sigh.

 

[Fleur828815]

Thanks Jamie, I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m even close to ovulating though. I usually get increased CM and EWCM for a few days before, this month I&#8217;m totally dry, and the OPKs are still negative &#61516;

Nice pic Natalie! Lovely dress also, I&#8217;m sure your daughter was so excited.

Hannah, I&#8217;ve never had counseling, hope it goes well and you like your counselor.

Katie, glad you&#8217;re feeling better now. So tempting to have all these tests in the house! That&#8217;s why I only ever buy one at a time. When I got my BFP I forced myself to wait till I was a few days past expected AF. Good job on the grooming, and go get those shoes

zaycain, it would actually be simpler if the OPK was like HPTs, a line = ovulation, no line = no ovulation! This is the first time I&#8217;m using them, I&#8217;ve been getting very faint lines but that only means I&#8217;m not ovulating.

Kylee, I also would have felt too guilty not following my doctor&#8217;s orders! That&#8217;s why I made sure to ask him if there were any risks to TTC after my first AF, and he said I could go for it if I wanted to. Good news on the sore boobs, hope your AF turns up soon. My body has gone the other way, I&#8217;m totally out of sync. I usually have sore boobs too before AF, this time I didn&#8217;t.

Terrissa, in my country night falls by 7 pm so we always feel it&#8217;s much later than it&#8217;s really is!

Leigh, don&#8217;t worry, you can&#8217;t have done anything! It looked like I had CM mixed with blood/brown discharge a few weeks after my D&C but it was all so weird that I&#8217;m not sure.

I&#8217;m Fleur, almost 33, married for 3 years. Started TTC #1 in July, BFP in September, MMC & D&C in October at around 9 weeks. AF came 5 weeks after that.

I have a question : how come AF can show up even if you don&#8217;t ovulate? My doctor said that the first cycle after a D&C (or maybe miscarriage in general) can be annovulatory. I&#8217;m feeling I&#8217;m not ovulating this month either, so will AF still turn up?

 

[NDH]

Kylee I hope sore bombs means AF is on the way!

Fleur I'm bot sure why but it sure does make things confusing. Some women have 3+month long annovulatory cycles and others have normal length and others have super short ones when they don't ovulate.

My #2 was conceived on a cycle I thought was annovulatory as I didn't have difinitive o signs and I got a bfn for two weeks after AF would have been due. After second missed AF I tested again and turns out I was 5+3 weeks pregnant and had ovulated three weeks late unbeknownst to me.


Im exhausted. Have just spent all evening in the kitchen peeling and cutting up 3kg of peaches (almost half unusable) and strawberries that I got at an absolute bargain to freeze for smoothies, as well as making freezer meals for a friend who just had a baby. I cut up tonnes of veggies which are freezing flat on cookie sheet to bag later, made up a couple sauces which are freezing in ziplocs, and cooked rice which is also freezing on a cookie sheet. Should make some quick and easy meals for her just cook and eat. Making tamale pie for her in the morning as well after I go buy some beans as I didn't realise I was out.

 

[tcinks]

Kylee I totally understand about the twinges and aches. I get them randomly too.


Natalie that's so kind of you to make meals for your friend. I should really learn to make freezer meals. I know it saves time and money , I'm just so bad at planning ahead. Also...what time is it where you are?

Well ladies, it finally happened. DH and I dtd last night and it actually took quite a bit of persuasion. And , as of last night, no more bleeding! Not even a little spotting. I'm trying not to believe it until I get a full day or two without it, but I'm just so excited. I feel NORMAL again. Like I can actually move forward and my body is ready again. Since this af lasted so long, I'm not sure when I ovulate. It should be in a day or two, but it might be later. I'm not temping or testing, just checking my cm which has always worked before. If it doesn't this cycle, I might try other things.

 

[jlw617]

Katie-how sweet of your husband and I know that funk feeling you're talking about-sometimes you just need a nap! It reminds me of a funny shirt I've seen that says "dear naps, sorry I was such a jerk to you as a kid" lol! Let us know when you test!

Natalie-I hope your blood comes back with good results! Btw that does sound exhausting but well worth it! Tamale pie sounds delicious!


Kylee-sometimes rules are meant to be broken!!!! Haha seriously though I fekt the same way but I was like ok you know what, I am a 32 year old woman, if I want to start ttc and there's so much information out there that says there's really not much of a reason as to why it would be ok then I'm not going to wait just because my OB reccomended I wait, I say go for it! It's your body and your family! Either way, I hope AF comes soon for you and I know what you mean about the aches and pains, there were some days where my whole body ached all over! Plus my arms have been super sore/sensitive for the past 2 weeks...

Coucou-I Definitely think it's possible! I wouldn't worry about thinking you did something.

Fleur-not sure why we still can have AF without ovulating but I know for some women it's actually quite common, and lots of things can effect it, especially with all our bodies have been through!

It's been nasty here too, I hate how early it gets dark here, 5 pm! It does make it seem much later than it is, combine that with the freezing cold and rain and I feel like doing absolutely nothing! I have not had any more bleeding at all for the last 2 days! Took an HPT and OPK today and both came back positive again, sigh. I'm still holding out hope and praying I get a bfp before the 1st of the year! I had a dream I got my bfp but it was the weirdest dream lol-you held a toy baby and if the baby started turning brown, it meant you were pregnant...don't judge lol! Must have had some bad pizza or something haha!

 

[Fleur828815]

Natalie, thanks for the info, hope I'll be ovulating soon though. So thoughtful of you to prepare meals for your friend, that's probably the most helpful thing you can do for her at the moment.

Terrissa, congrats on DTD ! I was so scared that it would hurt when I did it the first time but nothing had changed lol. It must be so good to finally stop bleeding after such a long wait.

Jamie, yeah I'm definitely feeling the changes, it's like I'm starting all over again. I'm just keeeping everything crossed things will go back to normal soon, I'll be so depressed if I don't even ovulate or have crazy cycles.

Just had to share this. I had a very close friend who I've known for 15 years. He got married last year to a girl I'd only met once for a few minutes (because she's very possessive, automatically hated all his female friends and refused to meet me). Since the wedding I've never met him and he hasn't kept in touch but I was expecting it. Recently, right around the time I was going through my miscarriage, he texted me to inform me they are expecting a baby, I texted back and didn't hear from him again. Last Friday, he texted again to say "I dreamt of you, you had a big belly, good news for you too!!! We're having a baby boy". So weird. Texted back to say congrats and told him about the miscarriage. He's just replied saying "Sorry to hear that. These things are so volatile. X is at 6 months in a few days. How's work going? And DH?"
I'm so shocked... these things are so volatile! And then telling me his wife is at 6 months.. I don't care, I'm never going to meet that baby. I can't believe we used to be so close and now it's come to this.

 

[jlw617]

Kylee I totally understand about the twinges and aches. I get them randomly too.


Natalie that's so kind of you to make meals for your friend. I should really learn to make freezer meals. I know it saves time and money , I'm just so bad at planning ahead. Also...what time is it where you are?

Well ladies, it finally happened. DH and I dtd last night and it actually took quite a bit of persuasion. And , as of last night, no more bleeding! Not even a little spotting. I'm trying not to believe it until I get a full day or two without it, but I'm just so excited. I feel NORMAL again. Like I can actually move forward and my body is ready again. Since this af lasted so long, I'm not sure when I ovulate. It should be in a day or two, but it might be later. I'm not temping or testing, just checking my cm which has always worked before. If it doesn't this cycle, I might try other things.

Yayyyy!!!!! So happy Terrissa! I definitely feel more normal again now as well-it's such a different feeling than what We've been feeling as of late huh? So happy for you!

Fleur-i'm so sorry about your friend that really stinks I had a friend that I was extremely close to she definitely felt more like a sister than a friend but as soon as she got married to a guy that I personally didn't care too much for because he displayed abusive behaviors she basically stopped communicating with me other than the very occasional hi how are you doing, we haven't really been what I would call friends for about eight years and it still stings sometimes just because we were that close of friends but I guess you just learn who your real friends are but it's definitely still sad.

 

[kdmalk]

Natalie- you are a doll to make meals for your friend. I am so jealous of your initiative. I suck at meal planning.

Fleur- that is horrible about your friend. So sorry your relationship has come to such a point. My husband and I have a male friend with a similar situation, but we still try to stay in touch. It is hard because she only cares about her own friends. She makes no effort to get closer to his friends. It has really made hubby feel alienated from his friend.

Jamie- I was going to say something and now I can't remember what! Ugh!

 

[Fleur828815]

Thanks girls, it's so disappointing when you can't even count on your close friends anymore. Oh well.

Kylee, I suck at cooking so meal planning is always such an achievement for me when I do it (every couple of years lol).

 

[Fleur828815]

It's been nasty here too, I hate how early it gets dark here, 5 pm! It does make it seem much later than it is, combine that with the freezing cold and rain and I feel like doing absolutely nothing! I have not had any more bleeding at all for the last 2 days! Took an HPT and OPK today and both came back positive again, sigh. I'm still holding out hope and praying I get a bfp before the 1st of the year! I had a dream I got my bfp but it was the weirdest dream lol-you held a toy baby and if the baby started turning brown, it meant you were pregnant...don't judge lol! Must have had some bad pizza or something haha!

Lol it's funny what weird dreams we have sometimes! Let's hope it's premonitory and that you'll be getting a BFP soon - although that toy baby pregnancy test doesn't exist!

Maybe it's possible to ovulate while you still have some hCG in your system? Everything I thought I knew about fertility etc. has flown out of the window. I'm not sure I ovulated after my D&C, but if I did, then it was around the time I got a faint BFP, because AF showed up exactly 2 weeks after that.

 

[jlw617]

It's been nasty here too, I hate how early it gets dark here, 5 pm! It does make it seem much later than it is, combine that with the freezing cold and rain and I feel like doing absolutely nothing! I have not had any more bleeding at all for the last 2 days! Took an HPT and OPK today and both came back positive again, sigh. I'm still holding out hope and praying I get a bfp before the 1st of the year! I had a dream I got my bfp but it was the weirdest dream lol-you held a toy baby and if the baby started turning brown, it meant you were pregnant...don't judge lol! Must have had some bad pizza or something haha!

Lol it's funny what weird dreams we have sometimes! Let's hope it's premonitory and that you'll be getting a BFP soon - although that toy baby pregnancy test doesn't exist!

Maybe it's possible to ovulate while you still have some hCG in your system? Everything I thought I knew about fertility etc. has flown out of the window. I'm not sure I ovulated after my D&C, but if I did, then it was around the time I got a faint BFP, because AF showed up exactly 2 weeks after that.

It is very funny, I had multiple dreams before I losy this one that I gave birth in my sleep and my husband forgot where he put the baby!

I do believe it's highly possible, all I know is my very good friend is 99% sure she literally got pregnant within that first week after her mc, her dates add up and surely at that point she had to have some residual hcg leftover...she did some research and found from it that women tend to be most fertile after mc and after giving birth (not that I'd necessarily recommend that lol) I don't want to sound like a nut but she was suggesting that it almost seems that because your hormones are all still there from the pregnancy, it's almost as if our bodies are in a constant state of ovulation...if that's even possible but to me it sounds posdible because before all this, I didn't even know you could get pregnant until you had your first cycle...I don't know but it's like you said-things are so crazy, that I wouldn't rule anything out!

 

[kdmalk]

I feel like I remember reading somewhere that your cervix is softer and a bit more open for a while, which makes it easier for the spermies to get up in there. Lol

 

[jlw617]

That makes sense