{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[tcinks]

Natalie I can't remember, are you in the tww right now? When are you planning to test?

 

[NDH]

I'm about 5dpo I think. Planning to test the 17th though will also poas today and again in a couple days for negative result first.

 

[NDH]

Gingerbread hasnt happened. Yet anyway. Spent two hours locked outside on the balcony with the girls thankfully). Also thankful it didn't rain (it wad threatening to all afternoon) and it wasn't scorching hot and I didn't have to pee

 

[tcinks]

Oh no! how did that happen?

 

[NDH]

Apparently our screen door can lock on its own if not fully unlatched :/

 

[kdmalk]

Did anyone else catch the "doesn't look really cool"?

Terrissa- go back and look at your post about the gingerbread house on the last page. You accidentally said that it doesn't look cool. HAHAHAHAHAHA. Unless you really mean that, in which case you are mean. Lol.

 

[kdmalk]

I'm working from home today. Feeling pretty crampy and not really sure what to expect this first AF. Because I havent had any bleeding or spotting and this was a 37 day cycle, I anticipate scary things. I decided I would rather deal with today at home. Day two is historically awful for me, so I am assuming today will probably be the worst of it. Bring it on, AF.

 

[tcinks]

Hahaha. Thanks for bringing that up Kylee! Natalie I promise I actually meant it does look cool. Silly autocorrect.

It's nice that you can work from home! What do you do ?

 

[jlw617]

That doesn't look really cool Natalie, I've never made gingerbread. I'm not much of a baker, but I try

Kylee, so glad af arrived! You'll be ttc again in no time.

I'm feeling pretty good, though it's so frustrating that I totally feel from my CM that I'm ovulating and DH still won't BD with me unless we hear from a doctor. ANY doctor. Guess I'll be calling around all day tomorrow until I find one that says it's okay.

Ok here's what you do, go online and go to one of those ask a doctor sites and one of them is bound to say it's ok, then you can tell dh you asked and dr "x" told you it was totally fine!

We make sugar home made sugar cookies every year and I HATE it! Haha, it's so much work and so messy, but I have to say they are better than anything I have all year with a cup of coffee!

I haven't tested for the past 2 days, although last Time I was still getting a positive on both the OPK and HPT I will probably test tomorrow and I am hoping that my HPT will either be negative or a whole lot lighter!

 

[KTJ006]

Natalie, we should test together! I wasn't planning to test until the week of the 15th so maybe I can hold out until then?!?!

Also, I told you guys I haven't remembered a dream in a long time. Well last night I had an awful one that I remember! Long story short, I was pregnant and found out I had cancer and had to start chemotherapy treatments while still being pregnant. How awful and sad is that? And WHERE did that come from?! Seriously hope that isn't a sign of some sort...

 

[tcinks]

Oh no. I think it's probably just our anxieties and worries making us have crazy dreams.

I am babysitting two little boys ages 2 &5, while a friend is at work. She dropped them off at 5:45 this morning. I'm so tired!

 

[kdmalk]

I work for a hospital doing community health work. Basically I am the public health arm of our hospital. I work on things like obesity, reducing teen pregnancy, reducing suicide rates in the county, etc. When I am researching a new program or working on some stuff for one committee or another, I have plenty of things to do at home, so my boss is very flexible on that. If I tell him I want to work from home, he says yes! It is very rare for me to ask, so he doesn't have an issue with it when I do.

DH was out of town for a few days for work this week, so he is currently still in bed catching up on some rest. I'm STARVING so I hope he wakes up soon so we can eat!

 

[tcinks]

That sounds like such a neat job! I wanted to do something similar to that.

 

[coucou11]

Haha Kylee I totally had to go back and read again for the "doesn't look really cool." So funny how our brains switch things up for us when they don't make sense!

Oooh Natalie and Katie testing next week! I am super excited.

My temps are dropping way down and I'm hoping that means O is coming soon.... now I'm tempted to just dtd and see what happens... I don't know, I'm so torn! Feels too early but then again, if my body is ready its ready, right?

Katie that dream has got to be anxiety - I get all sorts of weird anxiety dreams that are awful. Not a sign there for sure.

Kylee working from home is great - my job is pretty flexible on that too. Once you have a baby, it's a great thing for if they are ever sick. Will you keep working once you have kids?

Jamie I hope that hpt is negative too!! Now you are making me want a cookie with my tea this morning.

Terrissa good luck finding the right answer! What did you midwife say (if she got back to you)?

 

[jlw617]

Terissa-I feel for you! on top of my own children when I have to watch multiple little ones, it is exhausting!

Katie and Natalie-you better post asap after you test!!!!

Katie-I wouldn't think too much into your dream...I know with all the strange ones I have, I I tried to analyze each one then I would probably go insane, especially since probably at least 50% end up being someone people trying to kill me lol! The other 50% are total nonsense like me flying/floating, jumping down multiple sets of stairs haha, you get the picture

Kylee- sounds like a very interesting and rewarding job!

Coucou-go for it, you're exactly right, if your body is ready, its ready, if not then it's not but at least if you are about to Ov, you'll have some swimmers in place, ready to attack

 

[KTJ006]

Kylee - awesome job! My hubby is in the medical field and one of his responsibilities is overseeing a nutrition/diabetes office, so he does a lot of similar things you mentioned. It does sound rewarding. I worked a corporate job for many years and climbed the ladder. Hated every second of it which is why I stay home now and do consulting work on the side.

Thanks all for the dream input! You're right - It's likely just nervousness/anxiety.

Terrissa - any luck on getting advice from a doctor?

My youngest is refusing to nap. Nap time to moms is precious so I'm definitely missing my quiet time today! Oh well...at least we can head off to bake Christmas cookies a bit early.

 

[Fleur828815]

Terrissa, did you manage to find a cooperative doctor to give you the go-ahead? How’s the babysitting going? Take a nap if they do, or put on a movie and “watch” it with them.

coucou, there’s no “normal” for the cycle after the D&C. My doctor said that many women don’t ovulate that cycle – but apparently loads do and fall pregnant straight away. I guess you can’t know unless you try! Go with your gut.

Natalie, your girls sound really sweet, I hope I’ll get to experience such moments some day. Do post pics of the gingerbread cabin when it’s done!

YAY Kylee!!!! That must be the ONLY time in our lives that we’re so excited for AF. Don’t worry if it’s heavier than usual or if you get clotting, it’s quite common. I hope it won’t be very bad.
Your job sounds really interesting by the way, and it’s a bonus when you’re able to work from home if required.

zaycain, on being able to BD soon.

Jamie, hoping your HPT will be negative when you test.

Katie, what a sad dream. I’m sure it’s not a sign of anything to come, it’s just the way our mind processes our fears when we sleep.

All this talk of dreams made me have a horrible (to me!) nightmare yesterday. I dreamt it was 2 days before my final high school exams and I’d bunked Maths class all year, so I didn’t know even the basics! All my nightmares about school revolve around Maths.

I’m giving up on this cycle, I’m definitely not going to ovulate (CD 18 today and OPK still negative). I’m hoping AF doesn’t come after ages though, I’m so impatient to be able to try properly. I’m just thinking I’ll be so miserable if I’m not pregnant by my due date… and better yet, past the first trimester because I’m not confident I won’t miscarry again.

 

[NDH]

double post

 

[NDH]

Kylee haha good catch. I think I do remember seeing that but just assumed that's bot what she meant or I read it wrong. I hope AF isn't too mean to you. I ,expected my first post partum one after DD2 to be a nightmare since it took 13 months to arrive and the first time it only took 4 and was excruciating. But it surprised me and was no worse than usual.

Katie testing buddies sound great! Why dont you test on the 16th and I'll test on the 17th as there are fewer hours different that way. The dream sounds awful I never look for ant meaning in my dreams. Ugh I hate no nap days.

Leigh good luck deciding whether or not to try again.

Jamie I hope your hpt is negative. Mine has been just barely there shadows all week.

Terrissa any luck finding a Dr to give you the go ahead?

Fleur when were you due? I certainly do hope you're pregnant before your would be due date rolls around - and the same for all of us - to soften the blow a bit.

 

[tcinks]

Oh my what a long day! The boys were fun but exhausting! And on the way to drop them off at home, one of them unlocked his seat belt and they thought it was soooo funny! I freaked out and had to pull over to get him buckled back in.

After that I went to the family practice I'd gone to for years on and off before I got pregnant. Let me just vent first. I asked her about trying to conceive again and she said we always say about 3 months. I asked why, if there was any research to back it up. She said research wasn't needed because it was science - the uterine lining needed time to rebuild. Then she says " you're young, you have plenty of time. We may recommend starting sooner if you're older or had trouble conceiving the first time". Okay....if the reasoning is "scientific" based on the need to rebuild the lining, how does age it infertility change that. Doesn't their lining need to thicken, too ? She also talked about how some women miscarry so early they don't know it happens. Clearly those women can't consciously think to wait 3 months to try again, and I'm sure get pregnant again with no problem. I was so annoyed. It doesn't make sense to make a blanket statement like this. If someone miscarried at 6 weeks and another at like 14 , another at 22, wouldn't the recovery time be different following this logic? I just want to be treated like an individual!

Okay, glad I got that out. Haha. I'm actually really glad I went to her though, she listened to me and my concerns and answered questions better than anyone before. My bleeding kinda started up again (super annoying) , so I was worried about that again. She said she thought it was normal, but ran some tests anyway to set my mind at ease, which it did! She took some swabs and felt my cervix and uterus and assured me everything seemed great. She said my fibroids seemed really small, so I assume they won't affect future pregnancy (hmmmm, not sure I ever told you ladies I have fibroids? I found out the day of my miscarriage. They don't seem to be in a place that could be a real problem, but I'm having another ultrasound tomorrow so maybe they can check them again). She went through my file very thoroughly, asking lots of questions and making sure she knew all of my concerns. She wants me to come back tomorrow because the other provider in the office will be there and she does a lot more OB work. So I'm looking forward to talking to her and hearing her thoughts on everything.

So while unfortunately it seems I'm out for this month, I'm glad I finally get someone who is really taking the time to ease my concerns and work with me. Hopefully January will be my month! If I conceive then, I'll probably deliver in October. That's the month of my birthday and of when my sweet Ronen passed. Maybe that's for a reason.

Side note...I'm starving! I ate breakfast but skipped lunch....just so busy I forgot. I'm making chicken tacos for dinner though....with guacamole! Mmmmm guacamole.