{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[coucou11]

Hi all!

Jamie I hope O comes soon! So confusing and annoying things adjusting after the MC. My temps seem to finally be back to a normal pattern but it definitely took a few cycles. So hopefully your O is just still adjusting a little and will come soon.

Thanks for the welcome Kate! Are you in the TWW also? Good luck if so! And congrats on the countertops! So nice to have your friend helping you out, otherwise that stuff can be so overwhelming (to me at least!)

Fleur that is so funny about your DH - I like his attitude! Seems like you might have gotten some BD in on the right days. Probably good to have a relaxed cycle anyway! And your comment about French teenagers eating habits makes me feel so much better! You are so right that there is "McDo" everywhere there

Kylee yes we should compare notes on French Kids Eat Everything, that will be motivation for me to start reading it I keep telling myself that work will quiet down soon and that I'll stop taking on as many projects, and then it never happens. But I will make it happen soon (ha!) Glad you are more relaxed this cycle too, hopefully that will be a successful strategy!

AFM, got my crosshairs on FF today so I am 3dpo. My temps are good and high this cycle so I am relieved - I was so bummed last cycle when they never really went up, all concerned about low progesterone etc. So I'm hopeful that was just a fluke. Nothing to report so far. I want to wait until AF is late so I'm going to try to hold out until Vday (would be 14dpo). We shall see!

 

[jlw617]

Oooh I'm praying for all you who are in your tee! I still haven't gotten a positive OPK but you ladies are giving me hope it will maybe just be late!
Cou-How exciting you got your crosshairs!
Fleur-how funny about your dh, mine has definitely taken over a few times during this whole ttc thing!
Katie-yay for the new counters/backsplash! I really considered a career in home interiors, I love to decorate!

Hope everyone is doing well!

 

[NDH]

Girls please DON"T LET ME TEST! About 9 dpo today and I'm really feeling the urge to POAS after being suddenly overwhelmed with the feeling like a bean just implanted. I feel like I'm nuts but I can't shake the feeling. I really want to be done with early testing but it's so tempting (even though I there wouldn't be a line for another two days even if I am right). I'm holding out til Valentines day...

Oh Kate you Had asked about probabilities a while ago. I finally remembered to ask my DH and he said if there's a 15% chance every month then at six months there's a 38% chance (based solely off the 15% statistic not any other factors)

 

[Fleur828815]

Leigh, my DH was a French teenager not so long ago and he’s obsessed with McDo! Other than that, he appreciates finer cuisine and eats healthily so I suppose a bit of everything in moderation won’t do any harm.
Good luck for the TWW! Do you have a link to your chart (not that I’d understand much)? This is my first month temping and I have to say mine looks really messed up compared to others I’ve seen, I’m clearly not doing it properly.

Jamie, yes, don’t worry if you ovulate later this month.

Natalie, wow, imagine if your gut feeling was right. I’d be so tempted to test too… Be strong!!! Wait till the 14th if you can, you and the other ladies can have a group testing session! By the way, I’m the one who asked about the probabilities, thanks for asking your DH! I used to know how to work them out when I was in school but I’m totally stumped now. Any idea how your DH did it? 38% chance after 6 months doesn’t sound like a lot, ugh. I found this online https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/age_fertility_calculator.php and it’s giving higher odds per month, weird.

Not sure if yesterday’s OPK was a true positive, and today’s also was confusing. DH’s taking over = “tell me when you’re ovulating and when we should BD”. Uh no! He’s decided to just go for it as often as possible but I’m not convinced he’s doing it for TTC purposes

 

[KTJ006]

Interesting link, Fleur! I wonder why the odds go up each month?? Looks promising, but too good to be true. If that's the case, I have an almost 50% chance of becoming pregnant this cycle since this would be my 4th month trying.

Natalie - HOLD OFF!! It will drive you nuts if you test now and it's a BFN. Try to keep yourself busy with things. And remember, the end result won't change if you test today or 9 days from now.

I'm starting to seriously wonder if we're just not meant to have more than 2 kids. I'm trying not to look into "signs" too much, but I keep analyzing stuff. Maybe the reason I had a miscarriage was a sign that I wouldn't have any more. Maybe the fact that the recovery was so hard was another sign that we shouldn't have anymore. Maybe the fact that we're still trying to get pregnant when we've always become pregnant on the first try is another sign.

I haven't been able to workout at all this week as my back is still a mess. I feel yucky because of it. Working out has been a way I can refocus on other things, and the fact that I can't even do that just stinks. Hoping I can rest up this weekend and be back at it next week.

What is everyone's plans for the weekend?

 

[NDH]

Ah sorry Fleur it was long enough ago that I forgot wrong!
I have no idea how he worked it out - something about diminishing returns? The countdown to pregnancy calculator looks more like the stats I would have expected though so I bet he did it wrong


Definitely going (trying) to hold off testing. So true Kate. And I'd much rather see a dark line than try to guess if a line is starting or if its my imagination lol.

I sell cloth nappies I make at a local market every second month, and this saturday is market day so that's what I'm doing this weekend.

 

[Fleur828815]

Katie, I don’t remember how to calculate probabilities! Do you know how to do it by any chance Terrissa? I’m not sure the percentages in that link are correct (they’re much higher than Natalie’s DH’s stats), although they do make me hopeful that I’ll get a BFP in a few months.
I know what you mean about signs, I also ask myself the same questions but I think our judgment is clouded by what we’ve been through. I also fell pregnant very easily the first time, and although I’m feeling despondent about ever having a successful pregnancy, I can’t believe that the road stops here for me. A few months seem like forever when we’re TTC but our bodies need time to recover after a miscarriage, however much we hate having to wait, and it can take up to 1 year to fall pregnant for a couple with normal fertility. Don’t give up yet, I hope that this time next year you’ll be holding your children’s baby sibling.
Sorry to hear your back hasn’t completely recovered yet. I’ve also thrown myself into working out. If I can’t fall pregnant yet then at least my body will be as fit as possible when it does happen.

Natalie, your DH does seem to have an inkling of how probabilities work, so maybe that link’s figures are wrong? I have to say that I hope your DH is the one who’s wrong, for our sakes I didn’t know you make cloth nappies! If we have a baby I’d like to use cloth too but everyone thinks I’m crazy.

My OPKs are getting fainter again so that “maybe positive” 2 days ago was probably positive after all. I wasn’t expecting it that early so we’ve missed most of my fertile window despite DH’s good intentions. Before the miscarriage I used to be able to predict ovulation just by watching out for watery CM/ EWCM, now I hardly get any CM. This morning I had sticky CM.
Last night DH watched TV till really late and then went straight to sleep so we didn’t BD. Although I’d told him I want a break this month, I was really annoyed at him for saying he’s taking over TTC but not going through with it, especially since last night was the end of my fertile window. Had a cry fest this morning, he didn’t know what hit him! I told him that I don’t share all my feelings with him because he just says I’m obsessed, impatient etc, and that “it will happen when it happens”. He said he didn’t realize I was still hurting about the miscarriage (umm ok) and as from next month he’s going to be more involved in every aspect. Soooo he’s apparently going to set his alarm for 5 am and wake up with me to temp (I never manage to sleep till my alarm goes off and my temps are very rocky), and he’s going to note down my fertile window on his calendar so he knows exactly when we must BD. We’ll see how that goes!

No major plans this weekend, gym, catching up with friends, seeing my family (I see them every day so no change there haha)

Have a great weekend ladies

 

[KTJ006]

Fleur - that's good that you're having a relaxed approach. And sometimes I think guy are so oblivious to stuff. They aren't the ones who actually go through the pregnancy physically, so I think it's hard for them to relate. Hence why I'm on BNB!

AF should be here in a day or two. We're going to try a different approach this month. I noticed all the other times we got pregnant, we DTD every other day, then again on my peak. So it's somewhat like SMEP. We're going to attempt that this month, then see what happens. If we're not successful, I'm not sure what else to do. I still really think something is up with my right ovary pain, but I don't know what else to do about it. My LP is shorter this month, so my cycle is still trying to get back to where it was, 4 months later. Oh, and here's been my day:

-"Mommy, when are we going to have another baby?" - says my daughter who actually knew nothing about this past pregnancy
-"I'm due May 18th" - says the mother at our preschool. This is 2 days after my original due date
-Get a bunch of baby coupons in the mail today
-"You guys having any more kids?" - says a friend who I haven't seen in a while as we were at dinner last night

Gotta love triggers!

 

[jlw617]

Katie, I can totally relate on the kids asking when your going to have another baby, my 8 year old grasps the idea that when it happens, we will tell her (although I think this time we are going to wait until Im at least 8 weeks along) but my 4 year old asks all the time when we are going to have another baby and when she prays she says "thank you for mommy to get pregnant" lol like its a current event haha.

So My body has been doing some weird stuff lately...still havent gotten a positive opk, but yesterday I noticed my urine had blood in it when I peed in the cup to do my cheapie ovulation test, it of course scared me because Im not due for af for 10 days and yesterday that would have obviously been 11 days so I called my nurse friend and she said it sounded like a classic uti and to just buy an over the counter uti test (I have had no symptoms of uti btw) but I bought one and it was positive, it must be flushing out of my system fast though because yesterday I took a cranberry supplement and 4000mg of vit c and drank water until my belly ached and today the uti test came up with only trace amounts so thats good buttttttt heres the weird part, I started spotting very lightly yesterday (only when I wiped) Im still spotting today but its only when I wipe and its only about maybe 50% of the time, Im wondering if it could be IB but that means I would have had to ovulate pretty early, but Im hopeful either way because maybe its like a mini period (lol) and if I havent ovulated yet this month maybe I still have chance to...I dont know, it could be so many things but my friend did say that the uti could have been interfering with ovulation so maybe my body is just trying to get back to normal...who knows, thanks for listening to me ramble

 

[coucou11]

Hi all!

Jamie I'm so sorry about the UTI! Ugh, I hate those. I am glad it's clearing up quickly. I do wonder if that interfered with the opks - calling Dr. Google! It would be so awesome if you were having IB bleeding! I really hope so!!

Kate those triggers, oy. I can't stand it, it feels like they are everywhere. I have a friend who had a baby in early Dec, right after my loss, and I literally have not been able to get in touch with her since. She's not a close friend and I just don't know how to be like, yeah so I can't really handle babies right now. I started an email to her the other day and started to cry in my office... sigh. I hope that the new approach works for you! I can imagine how hard it is, we also have gotten pregnant easily in the past and it will be really sad and frustrating if it takes a while now.

Fleur it's great that your husband is on board now - I know the fights are hard but sometimes it just takes a real breakdown to get them to notice anything, ha. I think they just don't realize how much this stuff affects us.

Natalie - let's stay strong together and hold out until Valentine's day! Think we can do it?

I had a rocky end to this week - one of my supervisors is just notoriously last minute about everything, and we had something due today and of course he leaves everything until today and then it all falls on me to get his edits in and field his calls and put everything together and get it in the mail on time - great way to start the weekend! I guess it took my mind off the TWW though - I have had no urge at all to test.

I haven't been having many symptoms (only 5dpo so that's normal). Diarrhea (sorry), some lower back pain and some weird cramping. I definitely had cramping all through my TWW last cycle though so I'm not putting much stock in it.

This weekend we are going on a wine tasting / bike tour (haha - I'll probably just stick with the biking mostly). Not much other than that! Hope everyone has a great one!

 

[NDH]

Fleur I've been making cloth nappies for 2 and a bit years and selling since July, and have used cloth exclusively since my daughter was born I didn't know any real life cloth users when I started (though some of my RL friends in Canada used terry flats years ago before I had kids) but I soon found myself in circles with lots of other cloth users.

There were so many pregnant bellies at the market today. Certainly there's always a high volume of pregnant women at a market geared for babies, but there seemed to be far far more than usual. My last market was just two weeks after my mc and was really hard. But today they just made me smile. Even if I'm not pregnant now I have hope I will be soon

Intuition is making me pretty sure pink lines are in my near future. I am peeing hourly, have mild nausea, and had a vivid labour dream last night.

Kate I'm sory for the triggering day

Jamie sorry for the uti. I hope it doesn't affect your chances this month.

Leigh not a chance will I end up waiting til Valentine's ... Lol. A test is calling my name in the morning

 

[jlw617]

Coucou -sorry you had a rough week at work, sounds like that guy is a selfish jerk, but good thing it kept your mind off of things! Hoping for a bfp for you!

Natalie-sounds promising! I know that intuition is definitely a good sign, I feel like I never really felt that with my last bfp, I think that's because deep down I knew something wasn't right from the get go-keeping you in my prayers for a bfp!

So the uti is basically gone already, I drank water like a camel and took therapeutic doses of vit c along with a cranberry supplement, the bleeding turned into a full on period this am (so if you count the day my bleeding started, af came 11 days early!) but like I said before I'm actually hopeful because I feel like my body knew something wasn't right since I havent ovulated since mc in November and is resetting, this actually happened before I got my last bfp-i started the low carb diet which definitely effects your hormones and af came early resetting my cycle and the next time I ovulated, I got my bfp! So it's possible I could still get pregnant this month even though I wouldn't get my bfp until early March!

 

[KTJ006]

So, Natalie did you test?!

 

[NDH]

Its inconclusive. Theres a shadow but I can't tell if it has colour and I hate cheapies lol. Will test again tomorrow and if its also inconclusive get a proper test.

 

[jlw617]

Woohoo Natalie, I hope you get a more conclusive test soon!

 

[coucou11]

Yay Natalie! Let us know how it goes / went today!

Jamie I hope this all means a BFP for you this cycle! Definitely sounds like you are on the right track!

Nothing new here - 7DPO and I feel pretty out. No symptoms except my tummy troubles. Oh well, we will know soon enough!

 

[NDH]

Line is barely there but I'm calling it a bfp

 

[coucou11]

Hooray!!! Congrats Natalie!!!

 

[jlw617]

Yayyyyyyyy!!!!!! congratulations Natalie! Sooooo happy for you!!!

 

[jlw617]

Thanks coucou! I really do too, I bought a supplement called fertilaid for women that I'm hoping will help me! I read something pretty discouraging that said after 30 you only have 12% of your eggs left but my Dh who is so encouraging said not to think of it the way I was but that it's more like an hourglass and yes I may not have as many eggs but my chances of getting pregnant are still fairly high, I'm just praying he's right and I will get my bfp soon! Sorry you are feeling out this month, you never know though-with my last bfp, I was completely convinced af was on her way-even after I got my bfp I kept telling myself she was still coming lol