{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[Fleur828815]

It's funny because up to about 50 years ago lots of women were still home birthing in my country, but now it's swung in the opposite direction totally. I believe it doesn't happen at all nowadays (unless the baby comes too fast I suppose). Although I like the idea of it, I don't know if I'd actually be able to go through with it if the pain gets too much!

Jamie, I've read that cramping is totally normal as the uterus stretches, and it's not your first pregnancy so you probably feel it more.

Terrissa, thanks, hope all's going well for me too. When are you planning on asking for your first scan? I think I might go back to the gym next week, do aquagym and light weights / cardio.

 

[kdmalk]

Hi all! Had another round of snow and ice here. Sigh. Sitting in the lobby waiting on my first chiropractic appointment as we speak (or as I write). Guess I am going to go ahead with the x-Rays.

Congrats Jamie! I can't believe all the bfps lately! Lucky time for our group I guess.

So.... Interesting news in my world. We may be taking that break after all. We have been discussing moving to Seattle for years and just haven't taken the plunge. I came across a PERFECT position for me the other day quite by accident when talking to my brother on the phone and scrolling through seattle jobs for kicks and giggles. Spoke to DH and took a few days to think about it and we decided to go ahead and apply and see what happens!!!! I can't believe it. I submitted the application last night and it has me all worked up and nervous. If they move me forward in the process (like to a first interview), we will quit trying for now, but if I am out of the running for some reason then we will probably keep ttc and stay in Little Rock for a few more years. Fingers crossed!

But honestly the whole thing is making me a bit anxious. I'm not sure if I want the job or a baby more! I am trying to think to the future. I am only 24 and still have plenty of time for kids... And I would love to raise my kids in an environment more conducive to health and wellness. That is so hard in the south. I know it is the right thing for us long term, but I hate putting the baby thing on hold. Guess we will see what happens.

Hope all of our preggos are having a healthy early pregnancy!!!! Grow, rainbows, grow!

 

[tcinks]

Wow Kylee, that would be exciting! Keep us posted! Is your husband looking for a position there, as well ?

 

[NDH]

Jamie - keep in mind I got to 7 weeks without knowing I was pregnant! Full feeling in my uterus and twinging cramps are the only symptom I have really. My boobs have even SHRANK! (I didn't exactly have much to start with lol :/) I had no symptoms with my first but frequent urination and later heartburn. With my second I had a few weeks of very mild nausea and heartburn.

Fleur I know some who have freebirthed for their first, but it wouldn't have been for me either.

Terrissa, I can understand those feelings.

Kylee good luck! A move sounds exciting! But I can see how you would be quite torn about the job vs the move.

 

[kdmalk]

T- Yes, he will look, but not right now. If I get the job he will probably stay behind for a while and wrap some things up here. We just bought our house last year and don't have enough equity in it to sell, so we have to get a property manager and hopefully find someone to rent our house before he leaves. I will be living with my brother in the meantime so I can save up money for when DH joins me. We haven't worked out all the kinks yet... just kind of winging it until we find out if I even get an interview. We will make more detailed plans from there. This feels completely crazy, but also totally right. I'll keep you guys updated. It is either a move or a baby for us right now. Interesting few months to come!

Oh! LOOOOOVED the chiropractor. I think we will mesh well. She also has no shortage on nutrition recommendations, which I love. Can't wait to go for my first official appointment on Monday.

 

[jlw617]

Kylee-that sounds awesome! you are an adventurous woman!

 

[coucou11]

Hi all! Happy weekend!

Jamie I think you are definitely early for symptoms, a lot of people don't start with morning sickness anyway until 6-7 weeks. I had no symptoms with my first pregnancy! But I am sure it is worrying too. You could always go in just for a blood test, and tell them because of your prior miscarriage you want to have your numbers checked. That might be reassuring. I agree about wanting to avoid early scans if/when I get pregnant again.

T definitely ok to keep working out! It's good for the baby!! Hope you are feeling well!

Fleur how are you? I will be testing tomorrow!

Kate I took Vitex with my last BFP. I started because my luteal phase was so short. I got my BFP the same cycle I started it. I kept taking it until my first scan, when we say a heartbeat, then I weaned off over a week. As I now know, the baby passed just after my first scan. I'm not sure if there is a connection, but I wouldn't take Vitex again without first talking to my doctor. Good luck!

Kylee that is so exciting! I have heard great things about Seattle. Just don't become a Seahawks fan! (haha). That sounds like such a fun adventure and great that you found such a good job there. Please keep us posted!! And you definitely have so much time for kids even if you take some time off now to move, etc.

Zay how are you doing?

AFM, 10dpo. I will test tomorrow FMU and Wednesday FMU and if nothing then I will stop the progesterone. IF something I will have to call my doc and see what the next steps are. I am feeling some symptoms but it's hard to know if its the progesterone causing them. So I'm trying to just not think about it (HA). I will update tomorrow!!

 

[tcinks]

Yay Leigh! So exciting! Keep us posted, hope this is it for you

 

[jlw617]

Thanks Leigh,that is reassuring about the symptoms, unfortunately I already had a scan! I was having really bad cramping that was only on one side so I was really worried it could be ectopic, I didn't want the scan but the dr said she really wanted to get one just to be sure along with a "48" hr beta, I got the first one on Friday and obviously can't get in to a lab until Monday for my 2nd blood draw so we will see, fortunately I'm not having the really bad cramping any more but it lasted for about 3 days so I don't know what it was? Oh well hopefully with the lack of symptoms I'll get back good lab results-hoping you get your bfp soon!

 

[tcinks]

Can they actually seen anything on a scan that early?

 

[NDH]

Well this isn't going to be a nice relaxing pregnancy that's for sure. Aside from the paranoia after having had a loss I started spotting last night and I have flow this morning and a dull ache. This is the time I would expect my period and since my last one came as normal but all was still fine I'm hoping that that's what's happening again. You do hear occasionally of women who got their periods all through pregnancy so maybe that's all that's happening to me this time. Unless it becomes apparent that its over I'm assuming that's what's happening though. Today I am pregnant and love my baby

 

[tcinks]

Oh Natalie. Glad you're staying positive.

 

[jlw617]

Praying Natalie!

 

[coucou11]

So sorry Natalie! I hope everything is ok!

BFN here at 11dpo, FMU.

 

[Fleur828815]

Kylee, that sounds exciting! If you get the job, you’ll only be putting TTC on hold for a bit longer AND you’ll get to raise the baby in an environment you like. When are you expecting an answer? Glad you liked the chiropractor. Let us know how the appointment goes.

Jamie, did you get your first blood test results back? How are you feeling now?

Terrissa, last time I had a scan at 4 weeks and 4 days and the scan just showed a thickened lining. But I suppose it can at least rule out an ectopic pregnancy.

Natalie, I’ve read that some women do bleed around the time they expect their period each month. My sister-in-law had her “period” for 5 months and really freaked out but everything was OK. Would a scan not put your mind at ease?

Leigh, sorry about the BFN. Could it be too early to test?

AFM : I’ve booked an appointment with the OB/gyn for Friday when I’ll be 7 weeks but I don’t want to go, I’m so scared! DH is suggesting I postpone it till next Monday or Tuesday, I might do that.

 

[coucou11]

Fleur - it could be. I looked back and my last BFP was at 13dpo, and it was faint but not a squinter by any stretch - clearly pink in the pic. My first BFP back in 2011, I check FF and I tested negative at 13dpo... but I was such a newbie back then that I could have had a faint and disregarded it, not realizing that it was actually a bfp haha. Today's was completely white. So to go from nothing at all to a decent faint two days from now... who knows. I am trying not to get my hopes up too much.

 

[jlw617]

Fleur, just had second blood draw today so the earliest I'll get results back is tomorrow, I'm actually not having any more cramping but with that being said I'm also still not having any real symptoms but I feel better about that too now. I think you should go when you're ready!

Coucou-it definitely could be too early! I was seriously shocked when I got my bfp at 10 days! Ive never gotten a bfp that early, hope it's soon for you

 

[tcinks]

I have my appointment set up for next Monday! I'll be just over 6 weeks. And they actually will do an ultrasound! That will definitely set my mind at ease. I'm so glad she will get me in early instead of waiting until after 8 weeks.

Leigh, sorry about the negative but like everyone else said, it can just be early! When do you plan to test again?

Fleur, why would you prefer to put it off until next week?

 

[NDH]

I'm really not comfortable with ultrasounds in pregnancy, certainly not prior to 12 weeks, though I will go have a quick one at 12-14 weeks, hopefully for reassurance. I've previously ha scans (4 in my first pregnancy, more than a dozen in my second) but I wasn't really comfortable with having them, but didn't really have a reason to decline them. Since DD2 was born I've learned that there have been zero studies proving their safety in pregnancy, and a few studies in the 80s that suggested there may be risks associated with scans lasting longer than 3 minutes as the sound waves heat up tissue and bone, and other risks of frequent scans etc.
Obviously ultrasounds do have a purpose and can diagnose serious problems that would never have been identified prior to birth otherwise, but I believe that its up to each woman (couple) to weigh out the risks and benefits and we have decided we are not comfortable with the potential risk vs the potential benefit, certainly in the first 12 weeks where development is most critical.

 

[Fleur828815]

Leigh, I don’t want to get your hopes up either but some women don’t get a BFP till 15/16 dpo. Still got my fingers crossed for you.

Jamie, it’s good that you’re feeling better about things. It’s still very early for symptoms. Let us know when you get your results back.

Terrissa, your doctor sounds like she’s very understanding, getting you in for an early scan! At least that will avoid you 2 extra weeks of stress. I’m not looking forward to Friday’s scan because last time I had a scan on Saturday, learnt that the baby’s heart had stopped and had to wait till Monday for the ERPC. I’m really anxious that Friday will be a repeat of last time and that I’ll have to spend the whole weekend knowing I’m pregnant but not pregnant.

Natalie, thanks for explaining, what you’re saying makes sense. My scans lasted less than 1 minute each time so hopefully that’s not long enough to do any harm.