{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[kdmalk]

Oh, and Fleur. I am the same. I am basically convinced I will never have children. I have just been all down in the dumps lately thinking I will eventually get pregnant again and then lose a third. I think the step after that will be to take a few years off and adopt. Then go back in a few years and maybe try to have one of our own. I actually think about this a bit too much. I am just convinced something is wrong with me and I will never have my own kids. The mind is a horrible place. Lol

 

[jlw617]

Oh Kylee- try not to stay in that mindset, you will get pregnant again!

Katie-I wouldn't dream of getting off this thread just didn't want to bombard you ladies with pregnancy talk.

 

[coucou11]

Hi ladies!

Just saying hello, really nothing going on here. I have been checking in occasionally but trying to stay away to keep my mind off things.

Everyone looks like they are doing beautifully, Natalie I hope everything is ok! Probably just symptoms coming and going, I think that is normal.

Kylee don't worry! I feel every day like I must have secondary infertility and I will never have another baby. I went to a dinner party tonight and this mom had a 4 week old baby (her second) and I just couldn't believe how much I wanted another one. But whatever is meant to be will be, I have a lot of time and if I can't do it on my own then we will to IVF or whatever it takes probably.

This month is off for me, I'm going up to San Francisco this weekend to have a break with my girlfriends.

Big hugs to all you ladies and please stick around!

 

[jlw617]

Coucou-so good to hear from you! Have fun in San fran with your girlfriends! I'm super jealous!

 

[Fleur828815]

Natalie, how are you feeling ? Maybe your body is just used to it now and that’s why you don’t have that full feeling anymore? And of course, all pregnancies are different! I know you don’t want to get an ultrasound done but what about a Doppler just to hear the heartbeat and reassure yourself? Or is that a no-no too?

Jamie, “enjoy” the morning sickness! It’s not fun but it’s reassuring!

Kylie, I’m sorry you feel this way too, I suppose it’s normal when you miscarry during your first pregnancy. Ugh. BUT I’m sure you’ll have your BFP with your rainbow baby very soon and prove to yourself that you’re just being paranoid because of past experience! We need to work on being more positive.

Leigh, hi, good to hear from you! I’m glad you’ve got a plan of action and are willing to do what it takes to have another baby, you’ll get there! Have fun in San Francisco.

 

[tcinks]

Hi ladies!

Kylee, hoping it's just too early and you get that bfp soon!

Leigh, nice to see you drop by! A girls weekend sounds so fun, enjoy it!

Jamie I am totally fine with you starting a new thread for us over in PAL.

The day after I was worried about not feeling my symptoms, they came back in full force! Tired and nauseous all the time, still sore, and have this really gross taste in my mouth constantly. But I'm feeling good. The weeks are dragging on slower than they seemed to with my last pregnancy, I'm so ready for my next appointment already! I'll be ten weeks and will probably have another ultrasound if they can't find the heartbeat by Doppler (which they never could before).

I'm planning on starting an actual paper and pencil pregnancy journal to keep track of everything and write notes and prayers for my loved one to read when she or he gets older! I need to go find a cute journal when I get off work.

 

[jlw617]

glad you got your symptoms back Terissa! Lol yes the days are definitely dragging on for me as well! If you have a Tjmaxx or marshalls nears you they always have really cute and cheap journals there, I think that's a great idea!

Thanks Fleur- I am feeling overly reassured haha

 

[jlw617]

Ok so we are totally staying in this thread as well but I thought I'd create a new thread in the pregnancy after a loss forum, for those of us that have gotten our bfps and those that will hopefully be joining us soon! it's pretty easy to find

 

[kdmalk]

Still bfn today.

 

[NDH]

So sorry Kylee I didn't get my first bfp with this bean until 13dpo so thrre always hope.

Feeling.much more positive today. I was at a birth circle today and felt confident enough to share the news.
I have anxieties about it still of course, but a friend who is a foster carry gave me some wonderful advice I'm clinging to to Chase away the anxieties.- "love them while you have them". If she can have the strength to love a dozen kids that aren't even hers, knowing they may be three for a week it a year I can find the strength to love this baby for the time I have him/her even when I don't know if it will be a few short months of pregnancy

Fleur I'm also not interested in a doppler at this stage. It's actually a more powerful technology as ultrasounds as its a constant sound wave so actually carries a slightly higher potential risk. For very brief listens I don't mind but at this stage it can take 10 minutes or more to find a heartbeat which I'm not willing to expose bub to at this gestation.

 

[kdmalk]

Oh, Natalie, don't give me hope! Lol. I just need to accept at this point.

 

[tcinks]

 

[kdmalk]

Officially time to start dealing with the BFN. lol. 13dpo... I'm out.

 

[KTJ006]

Kylee! We've had several bad timing months. I am always relieved when AF shows so we can start fresh! Hoping January is your month!

Is anyone else testing soon? This time next week I should "know." YIKES!! I had a dream last night we were not pregnant. The past few months I've had dreams we WERE pregnant though in reality I had all BFNs. Maybe it's a reverse psychology this month?! Who the heck knows.

 

[jlw617]

Officially time to start dealing with the BFN. lol. 13dpo... I'm out.

Like Katie said, I know it stinks but I know for me I was relieved to think it is just a short time before we could start ttc again after af showed, I'm sorry Kylee

 

[Fleur828815]

Terrissa, glad your symptoms have come back. What a coincidence about the baby journal, I’ve also been doing some online research about which one to buy! Did you manage to get one?

Jamie, haha and yuck about feeling overly reassured because of the nausea…

Natalie, I love your friend’s advice, I will try to adopt the same attitude! From when do you think Dopplers are “safer”? I wanted to get one but maybe I shouldn’t because I’d probably be trying to listen to the heartbeat every day.

Kylee, sorry about AF January is a good month to have a baby so I hope it will be your month.

Katie, fingers crossed that your dreams ARE playing out in reverse!

Haven’t heard from zaycain in a long time, was she taking a break? Hope things are going better for her after the bad run she had.

 

[NDH]

It's up to you Fleur. Personally if I was going to use one I wouldn't try for more than a minute or two and if I couldn't find it I would wait a few days to try again. But it does depend on your own comfort levels. Lots of women do use them daily.
There aren't any proven risks but they aren't proven to be safe either (certainly not for regular home use) simply because there haven't been any studies, so it's not something I'm willing to risk. You may feel that the benefit of reassurance outweighs the potential risk.

 

[KTJ006]

Hi Ladies!

Leigh - I missed your post earlier. Good to hear from you! Hope your getaway was awesome and just what you needed!

Natalie - I forget, at what week will you go for a scan? I love your perspective on things - I've never thought about the scans or even using the Doppler that way.

Fleur, Terrissa, Jamie - how you pregnant ladies feeling?

Zay - are you still there?! Hope you're doing ok

I miscalculated when I should test. I originally thought it would be next Wednesday. However, since I O'd late and my LP is 16 days, I technically shouldn't test until Friday. I think I still might test on Wednesday and start to use up the 15 cheapie tests I have. I have 4 expensive ones I'll use come next Friday or Saturday. Might as well use them up now since if we are not PG, we'll be taking a break.

What are everyone's plans for the weekend? I'm getting my hair done tomorrow!! I am that person that cuts their hair once a year - I cut it short, then let it grow out until I'm ready for another haircut. I used to highlight and do all sorts of things to my hair when I was in high school and college. I finally got sick of the maintenance and quit everything altogether! I told my DH that he's lucky I'm not a high maintenance type as that stuff is so pricey! Plus, I figured I'm going to be doing all that stuff again once I get gray hairs, so I might as well enjoy being lazy now...ha. Enough about hair...can't believe I just typed a whole paragraph on that! HAPPY WEEKEND EVERYONE!

 

[KTJ006]

Oh...and my girlfriend/neighbor just had her baby today (her third). She's beautiful and I'm happy for her family, but yet again another trigger! We were less than 2 months apart from each other.

 

[tcinks]

Aww Katie that must be tough. Enjoy your haircut and I'll be looking forward to your testing update!!

Afm, pretty nauseous and tired like all the time. And have this gross yucky taste in my mouth *bleh* hopefully I'll have a relaxing weekend, sil is in town so we will probably see them a bit. Otherwise hopefully I'll get to sleep a lot I got my journal today,I'll post a pic later. It's actually really girly so if it turns out I'm having a boy I'll have to recover it somehow. Haha.