{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[NDH]

With my hcg as low as it is I'm not worried about waiting two weeks for a scan, though I may reevaluate and go in a week. Most ectopic pregnancies, especially if they're not actually growing much, just end as uneventfully as a normal early miscarriage, and they're almost never detectable on scan this early so most likely I'll just be re-scanned in a week anyway as they won't be able to make a diagnosis.
The mean gestational age for diagnosing ectopic via ultrasound is 7+2 and by waiting til 7 weeks I feel like I'm far more likely to actually get an answer than I am sooner without actually being at much risk of a rupture (1:1000 ectopics rupture and seldom before 8 weeks.
Plus by using my actual LMP date I'm not even 5 weeks yet.
But my gut says it's not ectopic anyway.

 

[coucou11]

Nat - I'm so sorry about this news. Thinking of you and hoping it is nothing serious like an ectopic. I saw in your other post that you said at least the doctor is taking you seriously, which is good - hopefully they will get you in for some tests and figure out what could be happening. I agree that all that in seven months seems is just too much.

Kate that butterfly wall sounds amazing!! Definitely want to see a picture. Of course we will be sticking around here! Nothing is certain for me by any means. My doctor called back today and said that "it's still early" but she wants to do follow up blood work tomorrow to get the doubling time... I'm not focusing on it now, it is what it is. Obviously it's too low now to be considered totally safe but we shall see. Anyway, I will be hoping for you this cycle!! I also think that taking a break helped me a lot, mentally and physically. Maybe if you don't start on birth control, you just take off trying for one month (totally don't think about it all). It's very refreshing! But until then, fingers and toes are crossed!

Kylee - not to worry about the turkey It's definitely a precaution, mostly I think because of the risk of listeria, which is insanely low, but if you do get it while pregnant, it can be bad. So one sandwich won't hurt at all.

Also, I must confess, I had to google Jimmy John's! I have never been, I will have to check it out haha. Terrissa, I totally also wanted a turkey sandwich after I had my daughter! I missed them so much!! It's a really good first meal. Champagne is also pretty awesome.

Will update more tomorrow or Friday when I get the doubling results...

 

[KTJ006]

Jimmy Johns is soooo good. I order the same thing every single time: 6 inch turkey sub with lettuce and provolone cheese with oil and vinegar. Add a side of salt and vinegar chips and I am good to go! Kind of a boring sandwich but I like things simple

Will definitely post pictures of the butterfly wall once I'm done with it! I need time to work on it when the kiddos are not around!

Leigh, glad your doctor is doing bloodwork. Hopefully that will put your mind at ease. Keep us posted!

Those of you who have used OPK's. I have never used them before because I have always been using the fertility monitor. I was planning to use the fertility monitor in the morning as I have been. When should I use OPK's? In the evening? Once a day? Twice a day?

 

[NDH]

From what I understand opks are best used between 10am and 6pm. If you have cheap ones definitely test twice a day, but

 

[jlw617]

Hi ladies! Sorry I've been mia, we've been moving and didn't have internet until today and oh my word, it's just been crazy! I'm almost out of my first trimester if you count week 13 as the start of the 2nd trimester so I'm super happy about that!

Leigh, congrats!!!!!!

I hope you get answers Katie, you'll have to post pic of your kids' rooms!

Natalie-when is your next appointment? I'm praying for you!

Kylee- I eat deli meat all the time, I know they say listeria is a risk but I've been told the bigger risk is just bacteria from meats sitting out for a while. You're just fine!

Hope everyone is doing well!

 

[KTJ006]

Jamie, hope the rest of your move goes well!! Happy weekend (a day early), everyone!! We're taking the kids on a surprise trip tomorrow...can't wait!!

 

[kdmalk]

Have fun, Kate! Where to?!

 

[coucou11]

Hi all!

Kate - enjoy your weekend! I'm sure the kids will be thrilled at a surprise trip, sounds like so much fun!

Jamie - welcome back! I hope the move wasn't too stressful, how do you like the new place so far?

Nat - I have been following a bit on your journal, hope you are feeling ok, sounds like you might know more next week - I hope you get good news!

Terrissa, Kylee, Fleur, and Zay - hope all is well!

I just got a call from my doc - hcg at 15 dpo was 90, hcg at 17 dpo was 175 - so pretty much an exactly 48 hour doubling time. I initially freaked out a bit because that number seemed so low compared to you, Kylee, but my doc says it's ok so... we'll go with that! I have to keep taking the progesterone (UGH) and have my first appt. June 4, which should be just over 8 weeks. Less than a month but seems like an eternity away. Hopefully it passes quickly. Wish I could celebrate with a glass of wine, but hopefully not until January!!

 

[zaycain]

Hi all!

No news from me.. but I wanted to chime in.

Katie - I have endometriosis. I would have the worst cramps that I would literally be on the floor in such pain. I had a big ovarian cyst last February that I needed surgery on and the doc went in and 'zap' a lot of that endometriosis tissue away. I understand the pain and annoyance. I had to go on BC for a few months as well.

Natalie - So sorry to hear the frustration girl. Jeez.. you've been through enough!

Leigh - Congrats girl!!

Hope all the baby bumps are doing well!

 

[KTJ006]

Hi Zay!!! I'm glad you popped on. I'm not glad you have endometriosis but I'm glad I'll have someone to relate with if I am officially diagnosed with it. I have an appointment at the end of the month where I might find out some more, but from what I understand I'll never *really* know unless I'm scheduled for a laparoscopy. I'm just so bummed about all this. I don't know how things could have gone so smoothly and then wham!! Post MC things take a downward spiral fertility-wise. Is getting pregnant with it so much more difficult? I guess it depends on the severity of it...

Leigh!! Yay for doubling!!!! I'm sure you're at ease. And that appointment will be here before you know it!

Happy Mommy's Day to everyone!!

 

[KTJ006]

Oh, we took the kids to Dan Nicholas Park today. It's a huge park with a train ride, splash park, carousel, aquarium, mini zoo, gem mining, playgrounds, mini golf, and a few more things. The kids loved it. We didn't even get everything in as we had to get back home. We came back and went strawberry picking.

Dinner now, then off to work on the butterfly wall!

 

[kdmalk]

Leigh, your numbers are totally fine! Mine were weirdly high for my dpo. I was terrified it would be twins, but I am over that because it seems that there are a few girls on my January board that had even higher betas than me! One has already had an early scan for some spotting and she has just one gest sac and yolk sac in there, so I am feeling better. As long as you are doubling, you are just fine!!!! Come join my January board over on PAL and our other group for this group!

Sounds like a blast, Kate!!!! I want to go there! Lol. You have inspired me to finish the last 6 rows of this blanket since you are working on your butterfly wall!

Hi, Zay! Sorry no news. Where are you at in your cycle right now? Hope life is treating you a bit better these days.

I will be having Chinese for dinner because that is about all I can think about today. My cravings consist of ranch and (strangely) sour cream. Our Chinese place has mostly sweet stuff, which I haven't really been craving, but it sure sounds good tonight! Trying to figure out how to get myself some sour cream without being gross and just eating it. I'm thinking chipotle will have my business tomorrow. Lol.

Also considering moving my desk to the bathroom at work because I seem to spend most of the day peeing.

 

[KTJ006]

Yes, Kylee, finish and snap a picture!! I really want to learn how to sew again or crochet. I used to know how to sew when I was little but it's been so long I can't remember anything. I have a friend who crochets and it looks so cool. We just had baby blankets made for both of our kids: we took their baby clothes that they obviously don't wear anymore and a friend of ours turned it into a quilt. So all the patchwork is there baby clothes. Absolutely love it!

 

[NDH]

So good to hear from you Zay


Afm I'm still getting lines on hpts but still no progression. I've decided to get one mote beta next week with the Dr I saw for my miscarriage testing as she uses another lab. If there is some progress but not as much as expected I will get an ultrasound the following Monday and hope for the best, and repeat the ultrasound after a week. If my hcg is unchanged I'll still get a scan to confirm uterus is empty and will probably take some herbs to bring on my period.
I'm also going to see a gynecologist whenever I can get in. If this ends up another loss I definitely need more than the basic tests the GP ran

 

[coucou11]

Great to hear from you Zay!! I'm so sorry you have endometriosis, what a bummer. Hopefully if you aren't able to get pregnant soon the doctor will have some ideas of how to help. How are things going with work these days? I remember it was quite stressful before. I hope it has eased up.

Nat - please keep us updated. That sounds like a good plan. Definitely getting tested again from another place seems smart since three of the same levels at the last lab could have easily been an error. Is the doctor you saw for your MC a GP or a gynecologist? I would agree that it's probably good to see a specialist and see if there is some other issue. I'll be thinking of you.

Kate that park sounds amazing! How fun It does seem terrible and annoying that after losing a baby you would have more trouble getting pregnant again - I wonder if that is common or not. I would be interested in statistics - I hated everyone telling me about how fertile I was supposed to be after there MC. I was like, THANKS, that really makes me feel great as I'm still not pregnant again. In reality I wonder if it is the opposite in some cases. Good luck, hope you have a nice relaxing weekend!

Kylee, thanks! Yeah I looked up early hcg numbers and they vary greatly so that put my mind at ease. How was the Chinese? That sounds delicious!

I'm off to get a mother's day facial soon so that should be fun.

 

[kdmalk]

In other news, apparently there was a bear loose in town last night. I guess it came up to the glass at Firehouse and a pasta restaurant next door. They were able to sedate it with no problems, but it sure makes a crazy story.

I just live in a smaller suburb outside of Little Rock. We definitely have some woods nearby, but this sighting was smack in the middle of town. Not sure how he wasn't seen until getting to Firehouse. Poor guy just wanted a sandwich.

 

[KTJ006]

You guys. I'm so convinced I have endometriosis it's not even funny. I was in so much pain today - getting ready to ovulate. I don't know if I can wait until the end of the month to see my GYN. Going to call tomorrow to see if I can be put on a list in case she has cancelations. I just want to feel normal and understand what's going on!!

Kylee, crazy about the bear. And freaky. Glad no one got in his way of sandwich hunting!

Leigh...how was the facial? I've never had one before but have always wanted one!

Natalie, keep us posted. Will be thinking of you this week and hope you get some answers. How are you feeling?

Terrissa, Jamie, Zay & Fleur, hope your weekend was fabulous!!

 

[tcinks]

Kylee, wow crazy things are always happening where you live! Haha.

Leigh, how was your facial?

Natalie do you have an appointment set this week?

Katie, I hope you can get in and get some answers

I have my 14 weeks scan tomorrow, I'll update on how it goes!

 

[NDH]

Leigh how was your facial?

Katie I'm sorry you're in so much pain I hope you manage to get a cancellation appointment and get in sooner.

I hope everyone had an OK mother's day. I know its a hard day when you've had a loss, especially for those who have no living children either. We are all mothers though and deserve to be recognized

I don't have an appointment yet. The clinic I'm going to (not the walk in one I've been going to but the clinic where I had my recurrent miscarriage testing done) has an app for scheduling appointments and when I checked last week there were no first thing in the morning appointments available with any Dr this week or any appointments between the time dh is home between work and school either (we only have one car and dh has to be at work at 9, and then is home from 1:30-3 and then back to school until 9pm). My mom is usually off work either Wednesdays or Thursdays though, so I'm going to wait and find out which day she's free so she can watch the kids. There are loads of appointments available those days so I'm not in a hurry to explain to mom why I need her to watch the kids so I can go to the Dr again. I do have a scan booked for Monday afternoon though.

 

[aphrodite29]

Hey ladies, just a quick update, my infertility consult went really well. I start my initial testing on Friday. So excited!!!