{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[tcinks]

Oh no Katie, sorry about the ticket! :/ But glad the trip was otherwise good. I've heard of women using softcups to help! I've never tried it though.

I'm on cd 10, just waiting to ovulate and trying to get enough BD in! I'm so excited and nervous at the thought of being pregnant again. We are still doing the foster care training, almost halfway through. I'd love to start caring for kids right away, but dh thinks it'll be best to wait, because once I do get pregnant it's likely I'll end up on bedrest at some point. And he's right, I suppose. We just so want little ones in our house right now!

We are about to meet some friends for dinner who are expecting a little girl two weeks after Selah would have been due. I haven't seen her since the loss and had honestly hoped not to for a while. But I guess it needed to happen at some point.

 

[jlw617]

Oh no Katie, sorry about the ticket but yes it will all work out! I've never tried using the cups but I did always try keeping my hips elevated for a bit afterwards

Terissa-I love your new pic! You and your hubby look so cute! I think he's probably right not to rush the process of getting foster kids in right away, I still think it's awesome what you're doing though! I'm sure it will be difficult meeting your friends for dinner but you are a strong woman, you can do this! Take time to let your emotions out if you need to though.

Hope everyone is doing well!

 

[KTJ006]

Terrissa, how did dinner go? I'm sure it was hard. I can only hope she was supportive and didn't talk about her pregnancy the entire time, knowing what you guys went through.

I have been trying the Soft Cups and unfortunately they won't work. I'm on AF now so I thought it would be a great time to practice them. Welllll....I forgot I have a tilted uterus so the fit of the soft cup just won't work. I've tried over and over and I just can't get the right fit. So I am going to abandon using them after we DTD. At this point I'm too afraid I'll end up blocking the cervix. Which leads me to think maybe DH and I haven't been using the best positions when TTC, knowing I have a tilted uterus. So I'm just going to stick with Preseed and perhaps try laying on my belly after we DTD. I *hear* that helps if you have a tilted uterus. At this point if they told me to hang upside down wearing a clowns suit I'd do that too...

 

[jlw617]

I'm sorry you couldn't get the cups to work Katie, I would have never though a tilted uterus works have such a big effect! You gave me a chuckle though about the clown suit bit

 

[jlw617]

So I finally sewed my crib skirt and got it on, here it is! I have no idea why it's upside down!

 

[kdmalk]

Someone definitely walked by my office while I had my head tilted all funny trying to look at the upside down crib pic. I didn't even try to explain.

Sorry you had a bad end to vacation, Kate! I don't think I have a tilted uterus, but I once tried to switch to softcups and I had a real issue with them. I never ended up leaving the house in one because I was terrified it would leak or pop out when I sat down. So that summarizes my experience there. lol. We did use preseed, and I hope it brings you guys some good luck! Good plan on laying on your tummy. Can't hurt to try something different! I also read that if you have an orgasm AFTER him, your body will actually like.... suck the swimmers up in there better. Just another thought. That was really awkward to explain.

Good luck this cycle, T!!!!!! Ps- loving the pic of you and hubby.

Hi to everyone else!

We started painting the nursery this weekend. The dresser arrived in the mail yesterday at a mere 125 pounds. lol. I am hoping to finish painting this week or over the weekend and get the dresser put together!

Andy Grammer is in town tonight, so E will be going to his very first concert. Don't know if you guys are familiar with Andy Grammer at all.... if you aren't, you should be. Just my friendly tip for the day.

 

[KTJ006]

Kylee - How did you use the preseed? Did you use the applicators? If so, did the stuff leak out of you at all? I've never used it so this will be a first.

Jamie - LOVE the crib skirt! I tried to zoom in on it - did you sew the lines/waves or is it part of the fabric?

We got hubby's SA back. All completely normal. Motility was 89% which is awesome. Even his actual sperm count was considered pretty high (132 million per mL). If I had to nit pick anything, it would be his morphology. Normal is considered anything over 30%. His was 32%. So it's on the lower side of normal but still normal. I've read he can up his amount of vitamin C, but I'm also wondering if something like Fertilaid would help? But I don't want him to take it and have his sperm count increase even more, which could eventually be a bad thing.

 

[kdmalk]

Glad the SA looked good, but hate that it doesn't bring you closer to a definitive answer. I guess it has to be those veins causing the trouble???? I don't know anything about sperm morphology, so I will leave the supplement advice to someone else! Lol

As far as the preseed, I did use the applicators. It was super messy and gross, so We always put a towel under me because it did leak out all over by the time it was all said and done. Lol. Hopefully it works for you! It did for us!

 

[jlw617]

Haha that's funny Kylee about tilting your head to see my upside down picture oooh what colors are going to be in your nursery?

Katie-thanks! No I would have died before having to sew all those lines on the fabric! DH and I picked it out together, in fact he spotted it first and I don't think it could have been any more perfect...as far as the fertil aid is concerned, I don't think it could hurt and there are formulas that are made thT are specifically just to help with morphology, but I'd say he's probably fine without it...my husbands numbers were all lower than that so I'm thinking it's probably the veins maybe? There is a fertil aid for women though and I just happened to have started taking that along with fermented cod liver oil when I got my second bfp after my mmc...

 

[KTJ006]

Ohmygoodness....They say things happen in threes, right? First DH got a speeding ticket. Today his car breaks down (no surprise as we're waiting for it to die before we buy a new one). Wonder what the third thing will be. This has been a very expensive week! Oy....

 

[zaycain]

Katie - The three rule is scary but I hope you're the exception. How are things going on your end?

That SA is fascinating. I don't anything about it. Does it make you feel better that there are no problems? Or do you wish you had more of an answer.

T - How are you doing? How's is the dinner at the BDing going? .. such an odd question for someone.


AFM... I finally got to see my doctor yesterday, but get this.. they didn't have me down for the appointment AGAIN! The worst part is the attitude. "Well we don't the appointment you THOUGHT you had." I'm usually not snarky but I said "I didn't THINK I had the appointment. I HAD the appointment and this is the 4th time you guys have messed it up" Luckily, my doctor was so sweet he gave me his cell phone number the last time because I was so upset. I texted him the issue and I have a call with the head of the office on Monday. I would never leave my doctor.. but man his office makes it hard to stay.

ANYWAY... The chlamydia was a false positive which I 100% knew. Thank goodness. Baby's heartbeat was 143 and all seems right with the world again. Started telling people and it's getting real and I'm finally able to be optimistic.

Sorry for the insane post last time.. I only saw fury!

 

[KTJ006]

Zay - I truly wish I had more of an answer. I'm afraid they are going to diagnose me with secondary infertility. I'm afraid they will have no answer and I'll just never know. We're coming up on the one year mark where I found out I was pregnant the last time. I can't believe we're at that point and I have nothing to show for it. I'm trying not to think about it and focus on my kiddos and the fact that my oldest will be in KINDERGARTEN on Tuesday. Holy moly. I'm glad the chlamydia test was a false positive, but not glad you went through all that. That doctors office sounds like a joke. BUT the important thing is you like your doctor. I think that's the most important thing.

Well...I am on CD6 and my period only lasted 4 days. That seems super short. How long does everyone else's AF last? Mine was short last month too when it's normally 6 days. Not sure if that's a big deal? I have my post op appointment on the 9th and we will definitely be talking about this infertility stuff too. I'm not sure what the next steps are besides checking my egg quality and possibly IUI if nothing comes after that. *Sigh*

Hope everyone's weekend is fabulous! I have cream puffs in the oven/fridge. Right after I ran a 7 miler. Oh yes...that how I do it

 

[NDH]

Zay your doctors office has serious issues! I can't believe they're still messing up your appointments!

Katie my Aaf prior to my MCs was 2 days with 1-2 days of spotting after, so was always done by cd4. Since the MCs they would last 5-7 days, but I only had two real cycles in that time too as my other bleeds were all mic bleeds.


Last week I started my first ever crochet project to make a rainbow blanket for my rainbow baby. Took a week to get the first row satisfactory and I pulled out the row a dozen times, and have had to redo several other rows since but still finally making good progress. I finished the first rainbow stripe last night . There will be I think 8 rainbows repeating to make up this baby blanket.
https://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a175/Roshinda/Mobile%20Uploads/IMG_20150823_091215_zpssgdlxzik.jpg

 

[tcinks]

Zay, so glad it was a false positive! But sorry about all the drama at the office, I can't believe that would keep happening.

Natalie, how sweet! The blanket looks great!


I think I'm going to be taking a break for a little while. Everything is so uncertain right now and it's just hard to be on, to keep getting my hopes up and be let down. It was this time last year that I found out I was first pregnant, with Ronen. And just thinking back to how excited I was, and then how this past year has turned out. It's hard. I'm trying to find things to distract myself, mostly things around the house and some volunteering. We'll see how it goes.

I'll come back and check on you ladies after a while. Hope everyone is doing well.

 

[NDH]

We completely understand

 

[zaycain]

Natalie - the rainbow blanket is beautiful. I love the thought. Such a gorgeous tribute. It looks really great! Mine would be all over the place, so I don't even try.

Terrissa - I understand the need for a break. The rollercoaster you've been on is just insane. I mean.. if you list it out to someone it's like.. how can someone endure so much in a year? Somehow we get through.. and a break is sometimes necessary. Please check in. We want to know how you're doing.

AFM - I was in the ER saturday night cause I started bleeding. I was so scared and it turns out after DTD and working out I got my self a small hematoma (SCH). The baby is fine and heartbeat is strong thank the Lord. No more orgasms or working out until it's resolved.

The worst part is we started telling everyone the night before and the morning of.. so while we were in the hospital I got all sorts of congrats texts and phone calls. :/

 

[jlw617]

Zay-I'm glad you're ok! I agree, I would have a hard time staying at that office but it sounds like your doctor is worth it!

Katie-I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, I know if I hadn't gotten a bfp by now, I would probably be in the same boat as you my youngest also starts kindergarten tomorrow, I homeschool for kindergarten though and my oldest starts 4th grade, she attends a private school through our church. It's crazy, when we first moved to Maryland, my youngest was barely a year old and now she's starting kindergarten, the time sure does fly!

Terissa-we totally understand Hun, take your time and say hello every now and then

I got my maternity pictures done today, my avatar has my favorite one! although I don't look 7 months pregnant I got some pictures where my bump actually looks like a bump though haha and I'll have dh take some candid shots when I'm really huge

 

[KTJ006]

Terrissa - Totally understand. You guys have been through a lot within the past year. I hope the break helps. I think of you lots and hope you check in with us. We are all routing for you!

Natalie - that is interesting about your cycles! Makes me not as paranoid about mine being shorter. I Looooooove the blanket you're working on. I wish I knew how to do that stuff. One of these days I'll look at some youtube videos and learn

Jamie - your picture is so cute! You have a beautiful family. I'm sure you guys are over the moon excited about adding a little guy to the picture. We send my DD to a private school at our church too. I was super excited about it, but this month has been hard money wise with all the incidents we've been having, so it's making me second guess sending her there (because it's expensive!). Everything will work itself out though.

Kylee - how are you?

Fleur - hope you're doing well!

Zay - how are things with the bleeding? How are you feeling? Holy moly that would scare me quite a bit, but I'm glad things checked out ok. Hoping they continue that way!

Leigh - thinking of you!

Time for kindergarten!! Here comes the tears...

 

[KTJ006]

So AF was only 4 days long, and now I'm O'ing on CD10. Does that seem too early? Usually AF is 7 days and I O on CD13. Technically the days from the end of AF and O are the same. It just seems early. Thoughts?

 

[jlw617]

I felt like my af was unpredictable while ttc, I think under stress it real cal and does change things up, I know ovulating on cd10 is not unheard of though...sorry I couldn't offer more input Katie!