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so iv wanted this baby for years and now we are finally approaching the time when we start TTC and im wondering - how do you know when it is the right time. for all this time til now it clearly hasnt been - but is now the right time - or is next year or later...? for the first time im dithering one half of me screams NOW NOW NOW and theres a bit of me for the first time, now its becoming real that says...uurm actually maybe we should wait a bit more. so heres where we are;
1. married 3.5yrs - together 8yrs
2. just bought our first home 4 weeks ago - moved from rented to a new house which is family size.
3. both working full time - OH looking for a new job..but has been looknig for over a year with little sucess, my job is secure but comes only with SMP not CMP (so the basic rather than any extra) - there is little chance of this changing anytime soon, both jobs are decent wages and we could afford for me to cut down to 3 dasy a week after mat leave (dont give me a lecture i have no intention of giving up work all together even if i could afford to)
4. fair amount of credit card debt but reducing each month and could afford to repay minimums if on ML
5. im 26 (nearly 27) & OH is 35.
BUT
if we waited...
OH could have a new job (better pay)
i might have a new job (although unlikey) - with CMP
we whould have less debt
..but its all maybes...
so i dont know - january 2014, mid-late 2014 or early 2015? should i shop dithering and get on with it?
iv been on the pill 8 years and never missed one but recently i keep forgetting - its like my subconcious is trying to trick me into getting preg now (iv only totally forgotten 1 - as i always double check later that i actually took it) but i dont want it to be an accident - even a deliberate-accident!
has anybody else got close to TTC date and started to get cold feet?
1. married 3.5yrs - together 8yrs
2. just bought our first home 4 weeks ago - moved from rented to a new house which is family size.
3. both working full time - OH looking for a new job..but has been looknig for over a year with little sucess, my job is secure but comes only with SMP not CMP (so the basic rather than any extra) - there is little chance of this changing anytime soon, both jobs are decent wages and we could afford for me to cut down to 3 dasy a week after mat leave (dont give me a lecture i have no intention of giving up work all together even if i could afford to)
4. fair amount of credit card debt but reducing each month and could afford to repay minimums if on ML
5. im 26 (nearly 27) & OH is 35.
BUT
if we waited...
OH could have a new job (better pay)
i might have a new job (although unlikey) - with CMP
we whould have less debt
..but its all maybes...
so i dont know - january 2014, mid-late 2014 or early 2015? should i shop dithering and get on with it?
iv been on the pill 8 years and never missed one but recently i keep forgetting - its like my subconcious is trying to trick me into getting preg now (iv only totally forgotten 1 - as i always double check later that i actually took it) but i dont want it to be an accident - even a deliberate-accident!
has anybody else got close to TTC date and started to get cold feet?