Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[soon2bemoms]

Hello to everyone. We are a lesbian couple TTC. We decided to use fresh sperm because we believe it's better and cheaper than frozen sperm. The problem with this decision is that we both don't have good relationships with men so to speak. We have searched for donors on the net but our lucky was probably somewhere else in those moments ,maybe having a margaritas . The donors we found were just weirdos. But then our lucky star decided to come back and helpus.We did find the right donor ...a woman! Ok ok not exactly a woman but...we met a very nice woman at the spanish course we were taking. We became friends and we told her about our desire to get pregnant.One day she told us that she could help us making our dreaming come true. She offered us to use her husband has a donor !! We accepted and now we are trying to conceive with their help . It's great because we deal with her and it's much easier for us than to deal directly with a donor no pun inteded, we just don't get along well with men) . She is very supportive with us and she' helping as much as she can giving us advices ( she's the mother of a wonderful girl) and last month we tried to conceive with three donations from the couple. As soon we were ready for the insems we phoned her and in less than 20 minutes the fresh sperm was delivered to our door! We are TTC using a cervix cup. We feel very positive that we will soon get pregnant. We have been very lucky to have this woman by our side ( and of course to have her hubby by her side lol).We do believe ( do you think we are naives ?) that being relaxed will help us to get pregnant soon. Dealing with this very nice woman it's easier than with the donor directly. W e were wonderin if there's someone here who had the same experience. Baby dust to everyone!
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[RubyRainbows]

Hi soon2bmoms! :wave: Welcome!

Glad you found the "perfect arrangement" for the two of you!

Sounds like it's meant to be! Staying calm, relaxed, & positive are certainly good things!

Hope you get your BFP soon!

 

[dodgegirl]

good luck soon2bmoms ! I believe things were meant to be and you were meant to meet that lady ! muy bueno ! haha

 

[LunaBean]

Well it's all go for me..hopefully meeting my donor on Tuesday..then again on Wednesday if I havn't ovulated yet!! Good luck everyone!!! I ovulated CD12/13 last month, and Tuesday is CD11, so hope the timing works out and I dont ov CD17 the way I usually do!!

 

[dodgegirl]

OMG I took my very last OPK today and i was positive !! Thought I missed my OV day....so now I'm super excited !!! Called FOB (to be) and he will come over today and we'll insem for the 1st time !!!! I'm nervous and excited !!!!!!!!

 

[LunaBean]

Yaye! Thats great news! Good luck!

 

[Babeforever14]

i have a qq yall how many times do u inseminate when u get pos opt? and also am excited try again should start my period next week!!! yay!!!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Luna & dodgegirl -- GOOD LUCK! Fingers crossed for both of you!

Babeforever -- We usually only get one donation/one attempt per cycle just bc that's how it has worked due to distance. One cycle we got 3 donations. Personally, i think the more the better during your fertile period! So, once you get that +OPK... insem, and then again the next day or two. Is your donor willing to give a few donations? You are also fertile a few days before you get the + test... and the can live in your body for up to 5 days. Good luck!

 

[dodgegirl]

my donor thinks that every day is not recommended? I'm not sure where he heard that? My doc said every other day? I would like to insem again tomorrow since he won't be available the rest of the week ! what do you think ?

 

[Babeforever14]

ruby rainbow-- thanks i need all the advice i can with insem also he will be willing to stay with us for a full week as long as we need him.. last month i insem 2 times a day 3 days prior my insemin postive test.. might been too much i want try different i also use instead cups too

 

[RubyRainbows]

my donor thinks that every day is not recommended? I'm not sure where he heard that? My doc said every other day? I would like to insem again tomorrow since he won't be available the rest of the week ! what do you think ?

Well your doc knows much more than me but my understanding is if there is male factor fertility issues, it is rec'd to have sex every other day so he has time to build up a good ejaculation...

For a guy who does not have any "issues," every day is fine...

I think if he is only available two days in a row... you should go for it!!

 

[dodgegirl]

my donor thinks that every day is not recommended? I'm not sure where he heard that? My doc said every other day? I would like to insem again tomorrow since he won't be available the rest of the week ! what do you think ?

Well your doc knows much more than me but my understanding is if there is male factor fertility issues, it is rec'd to have sex every other day so he has time to build up a good ejaculation...

For a guy who does not have any "issues," every day is fine...

I think if he is only available two days in a row... you should go for it!!

cool thanks RR ! on mothers day of all days ! that must be good mojo haha !
plus i'm meeting FOB's mom tomorrow too ! that will be weird, she will think we are dating cuz she thinks his bi. weird, but she will know soon enough when we get PG !

 

[SpudsMama]

Good luck with your first insems Dodgegirl! xx

 

[RubyRainbows]

Happy Mother's Day to all of you beautiful Mommy's & all of you preggo Mommy's-to-be! Enjoy your special day!

And a special Happy Mother's Day to all the TTC ladies... you work so hard planning & preparing for motherhood everyday... the love & devotion you have for your future babies is amazing! I hope some day (very soon!) they will be here in your arms!

 

[LunaBean]

Well I'm ready this cycle..hopefully nothing goes wrong! Packed my 'kit' there now, thought Id take a pic to show you girls first tho

We have...Concieve Plus (same as pre-seed, never used it before tho, I usually use egg whites!)..'donation' pot...two 5ml syringes (one for the concieve plus and one for the donation)...Instead cup (Ive only ever used this once before and it did work, but I found it uncomfortable..but gona try again anyways!)...an OPK to do just before to check how positive it's getting...my rose quartz 'fertility stone' bracelet I made with 'believe' charm...believe stone for good luck..my piece of rose quartz for an etxra help..and finally my 'angels' charm I made, so I have my angels with my for luck! If all that doesn't work, nothing will! lol

https://i55.tinypic.com/2dma4vt.jpg

 

[topazicatzbet]

the perfect kit there luna, i hade a fertility braclet and stone under my pillow the month i concieved. i still have the charm in my purse, i cant bring myself to take it out incase something goes wrong with lo.

your not supposed to feel the instead cup once its in so maybe you didnt have it in quite right last time.

good luck hun and hopefully we will be seeing that bfp soon, and you have your appointment with specialist soon right so they will be able to take care of lo when that bfp does pop up.

 

[LunaBean]

Yeah I must have put it in wrong! My appointment is on Tuesday, I'm so nervous!! You don't have long to go now!!!

 

[topazicatzbet]

i know, finish work in 4 weeks time, 10 shifts left to work.
think i have nearly everything sorted now. gonna set the moses basket up today to the cats get used to it and i can teach them not to sleep in it.

 

[dodgegirl]

Well I'm ready this cycle..hopefully nothing goes wrong! Packed my 'kit' there now, thought Id take a pic to show you girls first tho

We have...Concieve Plus (same as pre-seed, never used it before tho, I usually use egg whites!)..'donation' pot...two 5ml syringes (one for the concieve plus and one for the donation)...Instead cup (Ive only ever used this once before and it did work, but I found it uncomfortable..but gona try again anyways!)...an OPK to do just before to check how positive it's getting...my rose quartz 'fertility stone' bracelet I made with 'believe' charm...believe stone for good luck..my piece of rose quartz for an etxra help..and finally my 'angels' charm I made, so I have my angels with my for luck! If all that doesn't work, nothing will! lol

https://i55.tinypic.com/2dma4vt.jpg

I love your good luck charms !

 

[SpudsMama]

Good luck with catching that eggy LunaBean!!

16dpo today and had a temp drop of .5 along with a BFN (FRER). AF is definitely on her way now. So we're onto cycle #9 of TTC!

On the plus side I'm already organizing my donations in a couple of weeks time. They should be pretty straightforward this month which makes a pleasant change I work fast!

xx