Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[Juniperjules]

Still no news

Really hope she is fine.

Thanks everyone for your worries Sorry I acted so immature when I know you were just giving your best advice from the heart. I think sometimes I am too stubborn and think I know what is best

I am fine just very sore today and don't feel like doing much. It wasn't what I expected. Maybe something good can come of it

Lisa, am so sorry that ur experience did not turn out as you expected & that you aren't feeling good today. Please look after yourself & know that the girls in here including myself wish the best for you & our concerns for you are real & genuine. If your experience wasn't what you expected or has upset you somehow, please consider talking to a friend about it or even calling an anonymous helpline just to talk it through if it could help. Just a thought.

 

[whlisa19]

Feeling better. Spotting a little and sorry if TMI but my jaw and bottom are still sore. Can't really walk right yet. But just got off the phone with DH and he is coming home early from his business so I'm really happy about that. Can't wait to hold him and tell him how much I love him!!

I'm a little worried because I'm sure he is expecting but I'll try my best. Not sure what to say if he asks about our donor?? He let me down so I want to find another instead. I'll think of something to say

 

[Tink80]

Feeling better. Spotting a little and sorry if TMI but my jaw and bottom are still sore. Can't really walk right yet. But just got off the phone with DH and he is coming home early from his business so I'm really happy about that. Can't wait to hold him and tell him how much I love him!!

I'm a little worried because I'm sure he is expecting but I'll try my best. Not sure what to say if he asks about our donor?? He let me down so I want to find another instead. I'll think of something to say

I'm truly sorry you had this experience. I believe in karma and these scumbags will pay for what they did; the universe will make sure of that. I pray for God to look after you

 

[c.30]

I'm so sorry this happened Lisa, it's made me incredibly angry at these guys and I'd like to kick your donor's ass for setting this up!!

I'm glad your DH will be home soon, that will give you some support. Take care and rest up.

 

[firechild30]

Lisa- perhaps you might consider ai? That way you and DH can conceive a child together and you will never be in a situation to get hurt. It can be very sensual and romantic. Just the way one would want to conceive a child.

 

[1wannabump]

Thanks so much for welcoming me!
First insemination done today and it went very well.

 

[whlisa19]

Thanks so much for welcoming me!
First insemination done today and it went very well.

Good luck! I know how exciting it can be and I'm super hopeful that the stork is kind to you two

 

[KelleyNJen]

Lisa- perhaps you might consider ai? That way you and DH can conceive a child together and you will never be in a situation to get hurt. It can be very sensual and romantic. Just the way one would want to conceive a child.

I tend to agree here. As I have said I am the one who is in your husbands shoes, I am not genetically related to my the baby we are expecting. However I was the one who pushed that plunger and put the sperm that got us pregnant into my wife. So technically I got her pregnant, I just had to borrow a little baby batter to do it. I think the fact that I was able to inseminate my wife made me a part of the conception of our child. I think, no I know, I feel more bonded than if she had done it with out me.

As far as NI being more effective. Our fertility specialist says this is not true. One well timed AI will get you what you want. There are plenty of girls on here who prove that. My Wife and I ended up going with IUI because we were using frozen sperm and she is 35. If she had been closer your age and we had some one willing to supply it for free (or just travel costs) we would have tried it at home a lot longer.

No matter what you choose, try to take care of yourself and your marriage. Your baby will happen exactly when he or she is supposed to happen.

PS. as far as being sore...try an ice pack on the girlie parts and take some advil. It should help.

 

[Juniperjules]

Need some advice girls... I'm really paranoid about when Ov is gonna happen this month bcos last month we missed it by a whole week!!

I'm using Clearblue digital Ov tests, & have used one this morning with FMU & it was negative. However literally 20mins later I used the bathroom & had THE hugest amount of EWCM I think I've ever had!! But with the negative OPK I'm not sure wot to think now??? In the past I would have gotten a positive on cd12 (today).

I'm thinking I should try another OPK later today around 4pm maybe???

Am wondering if any of you have experience with getting a negative OPK in the morning then a positive later in the day???

 

[whlisa19]

That sounds good for you. It took us a long time to figure out what to do and then DH liked me getting NI. And I felt it was natural and for our family so OK that it felt good. After those guys though I am thinking different. DH probably is looking forward to more NI but I can tell him your great idea of how it can be sensual between us to do AI instead.

And yea, I took Tylenol for my sore jaw and sat on frozen pees for some relief front and back.

Thanks everyone!!

Lisa- perhaps you might consider ai? That way you and DH can conceive a child together and you will never be in a situation to get hurt. It can be very sensual and romantic. Just the way one would want to conceive a child.

I tend to agree here. As I have said I am the one who is in your husbands shoes, I am not genetically related to my the baby we are expecting. However I was the one who pushed that plunger and put the sperm that got us pregnant into my wife. So technically I got her pregnant, I just had to borrow a little baby batter to do it. I think the fact that I was able to inseminate my wife made me a part of the conception of our child. I think, no I know, I feel more bonded than if she had done it with out me.

As far as NI being more effective. Our fertility specialist says this is not true. One well timed AI will get you what you want. There are plenty of girls on here who prove that. My Wife and I ended up going with IUI because we were using frozen sperm and she is 35. If she had been closer your age and we had some one willing to supply it for free (or just travel costs) we would have tried it at home a lot longer.

No matter what you choose, try to take care of yourself and your marriage. Your baby will happen exactly when he or she is supposed to happen.

PS. as far as being sore...try an ice pack on the girlie parts and take some advil. It should help.

 

[ebelle]

I agree with KelleyNJen, the month I got the we only did insemination the one time on O day. My partner has always been the one to insert the syringe and release the sperm. After that she helps me orgasm. This way she is part of the baby making process and its so asocial and loving.

I hope you will consider switching to AI as it feels so much more like baby making and not just sex.

 

[ebelle]

Hi Juniper, I did not use digital opks and used the normal strips instead. With those I could tell when the line was getting darker and closer to positive. Yes, I have had negatives in the morning, only for it to turn positive later in the day. I would also advise you to use second urine of the day instead of fmu for opks as that has higher concentration of LH.

Do test again later in the day. Hope you get your positive!

 

[whlisa19]

I agree with KelleyNJen, the month I got the we only did insemination the one time on O day. My partner has always been the one to insert the syringe and release the sperm. After that she helps me orgasm. This way she is part of the baby making process and its so asocial and loving.

I hope you will consider switching to AI as it feels so much more like baby making and not just sex.

That's so beautiful for you! We've been similar with the donor ejaculating into me and DH giving me an orgasm and then holding me afterwards. Its felt very exciting and loving

I think I just made a big mistake letting those guys arrange for multiple inseminations. I didn't think they would be so tricky and get aggressive since I was willing. And I was most surprised by them doing me in ways that won't get me pregnant

I'm going to talk to DH about considering AI again. He thought it would be creepy to have a guy leave a deposit and then unnatural for us to medically insert. Plus once he started watching me get NI and participating after then he really liked it. Me too But I'm not going to be in a hurry to make a decision. I'm sore all over from them doing me front and back and lots of oral too so I'm not feeling sexy at all!! All you guys are so awesome with your information and support. I'm sure that after I talk with my DH we'll have the best plan for us

 

[wantnum2]

omg!

 

[laurac1988]

Well ladies, despite only being 6dpo today I'm freaking out a bit. My bbs have been very sore since late night 2dpo. Got home yesterday and although I knew they felt bigger, I thought it was because they were sore and therefore I was more aware of them. Erm... No! First thing DP said when I was getting changed? "Jesus! What's going on with your boobs?" And I'm like "what?" And she's like "they're huge!" And I measure and sure enough am a cup size bigger! Then measured my waist and that was almost an inch smaller... So it's not like I've put on weight.

Maybe this time...

 

[LunaBean]

Hey girls Hope everyone is well!! Any new BFP's? (on my phone so cant scroll back pages and pages lol) We're moving to a lovely house next week, I cant wait! Noah will have a playroom and plenty of space outside for a swing set etc He's getting so big...8 months now!

 

[LunaBean]

Omg Lisa, did ur OH stand by and let those guys do that to you?!

 

[KelleyNJen]

Omg Lisa, did ur OH stand by and let those guys do that to you?!

No Luna, her OH was not present at the time. I am sure he would have put a stop to it

 

[ticking.clock]

Lisa, I think you got off lightly with just a sore jaw and lady bits!!!
What a stupid situation to put yourself in, and very very dangerous, NI is fine (I did it) esp if your partner is there and it's a safety net for you but Christ these new guys were strangers to you, very lucky escape from a situation which could have ended MUCH worse!!!

 

[Juniperjules]

Lisa, I can't speak for the other girls but I don't think I'm alone in saying that I'm kind of horrified at the thought of what appears to have eventuated between you & these men. You absolutely MUST NOT ever put yourself in a situation like that ever ever again. Even a baby is NOT worth what you appear to have been subjected to. As one of the girls has mentioned, you should really consider only doing AI from now on.