Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[BrandiCanucks]

She is gorgeous, ticking. Congratulations!

 

[Nimyra]

Congrats Ticking! Welcome Aubrey!

 

[CristynShell]

Hello,
My partner and I are trying at home. We are getting a shipment Sat. Super excited but also nervous after reading many of the posts in this thread.

Welcome to the group!!

Thank you

 

[CristynShell]

Thank you!

 

[CristynShell]

HP123- Loved your story! That's hilarious!

Dodgegirl- I'm with Nimyra. The book I've read to prepare for all this, "The New Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth" basically says the same thing Nimyra said, or at least very close to that. If you want to save money and get started soon, I would say try the home version.

Ticking- Hope you have a healthy baby by now! Can't wait to hear about it

Cristynshell- I'm pretty new to all this too. Last night was our first insemination. You can read about it below.

Nimyra- Wishing you good luck with the sticky I'm sure once we get the , I won't be able to keep it a secret for long either! Also, I wanted to say thank you for the suggestion to use the Clearblue Digital. If I was still using the Wondfo, I probably wouldn't have started inseminating yet because they still haven't really looked positive. I'm sticking with the digital from now on!

Ok, ladies, we did our first insemination last night after getting a smiley yesterday morning. Sorry ahead of time if there's any TMI in here, I'm pretty open about this stuff! We went to our donor's house and ate dinner together, hung out for a little bit. After a while he went in and did his thing (we used an artichoke hearts jar) while we watched TV. As soon as he finished we took the donation and left, drove to our house about 10 minutes away. We got all set up, pillows under my bottom and a towel. We put a large suitcase at the botton to rest my feet on. I inserted the syringe, my wife pushed it in very slowly. I then removed the syringe very, very slowly so I didn't pull everything back out. The whole thing was just nerve-racking because we wanted to do it the right way! We tried to be intimate afterward for a big O, but it was just too weird and I wasn't relaxed. I did eventually have one though. After that, I rotated to each side for about 20-30 minutes (still propped up). Then I went to sleep. I checked my cervix this morning and it's still open, so we are going to do another insem tonight. After that we will be in our 2WW! Wish us luck!

GL

 

[HP123]

Just as a note of encouragement. My professor at school is 44 and just had a baby 2 months ago! This was 16 some years after her last pregnancy. I hope I'm still fertile at 44!

I hear of and know of all these women who have had babies in their 40's and I think "why can't that be me?" I seriously did not think at age 36 that I would have stopped ovulating. Some days I'm hopeful and some days I'm pessimistic.

 

[HP123]

HP123- Loved your story! That's hilarious!

Dodgegirl- I'm with Nimyra. The book I've read to prepare for all this, "The New Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth" basically says the same thing Nimyra said, or at least very close to that. If you want to save money and get started soon, I would say try the home version.

Ticking- Hope you have a healthy baby by now! Can't wait to hear about it

Cristynshell- I'm pretty new to all this too. Last night was our first insemination. You can read about it below.

Nimyra- Wishing you good luck with the sticky I'm sure once we get the , I won't be able to keep it a secret for long either! Also, I wanted to say thank you for the suggestion to use the Clearblue Digital. If I was still using the Wondfo, I probably wouldn't have started inseminating yet because they still haven't really looked positive. I'm sticking with the digital from now on!

Ok, ladies, we did our first insemination last night after getting a smiley yesterday morning. Sorry ahead of time if there's any TMI in here, I'm pretty open about this stuff! We went to our donor's house and ate dinner together, hung out for a little bit. After a while he went in and did his thing (we used an artichoke hearts jar) while we watched TV. As soon as he finished we took the donation and left, drove to our house about 10 minutes away. We got all set up, pillows under my bottom and a towel. We put a large suitcase at the botton to rest my feet on. I inserted the syringe, my wife pushed it in very slowly. I then removed the syringe very, very slowly so I didn't pull everything back out. The whole thing was just nerve-racking because we wanted to do it the right way! We tried to be intimate afterward for a big O, but it was just too weird and I wasn't relaxed. I did eventually have one though. After that, I rotated to each side for about 20-30 minutes (still propped up). Then I went to sleep. I checked my cervix this morning and it's still open, so we are going to do another insem tonight. After that we will be in our 2WW! Wish us luck!

That's awesome! Sending positive thoughts your way!

 

[HP123]

WANTNUM2 CONGRATS!!! Wishing you a H&H 9 mos Hun!


CRISTYNSHELL GL FXD! Welcome! for your journey!


BRANDI YAY for booking and planning insems!!!


NIM YAY! as though lines continue to get darker! Excited and will be thinking of you on Friday for that early scan Hun! I know the anxiety you are feeling....


TICKING the suspense.... updates???


LESBIANMYSTIQ and HP123 I hope that my processes can be of some help. And yes, we are all different, I have used more than one method. We have used IUI and we have used frozen shipped sperm. I go into much greater detail in my journal, feel free to read in there and take whatever information and links that you want. Although the journey has been rather long, the journal doesn't reflect that length at all. I will ask LESBIANM this, I understand that you are using OPKs, but how do you know for certain you are OVg? OPKs only indicate the OV surge, which is indication that you MAY OV within the following 12-36 hours. Are you also using temping, an U/S by doc? OV pains, CM and CP are not enough to know alone. I used the CBFM, which was used with inserting sticks into the monitor (they are pricey but I purchased mine on eBay for much less) this monitor was recommended by the FS that we use. We also used OPKs and internet cheapies at the same time and let me tell you, they often did not agree. The temps however 9 out of 10 times matched the monitor results and for a period of time I was also receiving monitoring and U/S by our doc that also matched the monitor 9/10 times. I am something of a statistics person so I believe in doing all the things and letting the majority rule That being said, the doc informed us that during an IUI we insem the morning after a + on the OPKs, and the following day. However, when insem naturally or using at home method, he said that the best was to do 2-OV, 1-OV, OV and OV-1.... Those are the best days because of the travel the sperm have to do. You only need one. Also to note is that your vaginal fluid could be rather hostile which would make it a little more difficult for the swimmers.

I would be elevated pretty high in the docs office for 15 mins after IUI (they get placed further up) but at home I would elevate for 30 minutes. This is AFTER I inserted the softcup immediately after removing the syringe. I have also gotten a BFP by transferring the swimmers directly to the softcup and inserting. I have gotten an Org right after and at times, not done that. I have gotten preg 4 times, we have a beautiful DD, 2 MCs (various stages/reasons, none related to the method of insem) and now this preg. Because I have never just insem'd one time, I cannot pinpoint actual fertilization, I can say that 2 of times, I only had 2 donations, one time, this time, on the actual day of OV! Again, I have written in depth, TMI, pics, links, etc on my journal and I think you can get more info as well as the daily tracking, vits, items, etc that I used. I don't mind stalkers at all so stop by.... I hope I helped some, and I am positive that with the experience of the other ladies here, you can get some great info that will work for you. NIM and LUNA were some people that I followed when I joined the site and DW and I had already been trying by then for about a year so, take in anything, try everything, and you will see a BFP no doubt!GL FXD!

I will be reading your journal! I really appreciate you sharing the short version of your story. It just opens up more and more possibilities and options.

 

[HP123]

Anyone use fresh donor semen that has been shipped?

 

[Mummylou23]

congratulations ticking clock shes gorgeous well done xxx

 

[Nimyra]

HP, I haven't but have heard plenty of success stories. Success rate is lower than with fresh, but still reasonable. Best to use a donor who has shipped successfully in the past ( some sperm can handle this better than others) also best to have your timing down very well. Shipped sperm won't live as long so you want to have it shipped the day of pos opk for inseminating the day after.

 

[HP123]

HP, I haven't but have heard plenty of success stories. Success rate is lower than with fresh, but still reasonable. Best to use a donor who has shipped successfully in the past ( some sperm can handle this better than others) also best to have your timing down very well. Shipped sperm won't live as long so you want to have it shipped the day of pos opk for inseminating the day after.

Thanks Nim! Do you think frozen is better than fresh shipped? Currently we are ready to purchase from the sperm bank but are having second thoughts about using an anonymous donor. I have been looking on the KDR for reference and talking to several donors exclusively about the shipping process. I know fresh is best, but when that's not an option which is better??

 

[Mummylou23]

I just done a opk test to see what it says and it looks negative to me think u will have to enlarge the photo to see . its dark controle line and light test line xx https://postimage.org/image/4lf4tfrlz/

the test line is on ur left an control on ur right the test line looks line in person xx

 

[LunaBean]

aww shes gorgeous!!! congrats!!!!

 

[LunaBean]

Mummylou..its aaaalmost positive..maybe tomro?

Noah is 1 next week, eek! The shopping centre had a deal on today, £10 for a pix and 4 keyrings, so had this done!!

 

[Mummylou23]

everyone as said negative hun and I don't have fertitle muscus and temps suggest ovulated cd 17 which was Wednesday haven't done anything since then wud have to see if he can do tonight. and tomorrow

 

[c.30]

LOVELY photo Luna! Happy birthday to Noah for next week

 

[Nimyra]

Frozen is worst. Fresh shipped is much better than frozen, but fresh local is even better.

Fresh shipped with a donor with a history of success with shipping is better than fresh shipped with donor with history of failed shipping or no history. Not all sperm is equally hardy, able to survive less than ideal conditions.

Here's a rough estimate of probability success:

Frozen at home ici: 3-6% success rate
Frozen Iui: 6-15%
Fresh shipped with good timing: 8-20% (higher with some donors than others)
Fresh ai/sex: 20% (give or take based on age)
Fresh Iui: 15% (give or take)

I'm not a doctor, but this is based on my research and what I've seen being around this community a while.

 

[LunaBean]

Started my TTC number 2 journal if anyone wants to follow Starting in June!!

Baby Number 2!!

 

[HP123]

Mummylou..its aaaalmost positive..maybe tomro?

Noah is 1 next week, eek! The shopping centre had a deal on today, £10 for a pix and 4 keyrings, so had this done!!

So cute!