Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[2moms2be]

Thank you, ladies! It's so nice to be able to come here and get your experience & help

I noted "sleep deprived/disrupted sleep" on the chart, which is why it's got the open circle... I did my usual 6am test, but I definitely went to bed later than normal, which can have an impact. The only test I did yesterday evening was the 5:30 cheapie OPK. Didn't use the digital, because it says only to do it first thing in the am. It was totally negative in the morning yesterday.... open circle, no smiley at all. It never even flashed a smiley at me! Went straight to a solid one this morning.

I'm going to do another cheapie this evening and figure things out. If its still looks promising, we'll do another donation tonight. Hoping the temp spike was a fluke, but if not, I think we may still be in it.

UPDATE: Took my cheapie OPK @ 4:20 because I couldn't hold my pee, LOL.... still positive. Fairly certain I didn't O yet! We'll get another donation tonight.

 

[JasmineAnne]

I'm 8dpo today and at 5am this morning I woke up with awful pain in my lower abdomen which lasted for a few minutes then I just went back to sleep then about an hour ago the exact same thing happened, lower abdominal pain which lasted a few minutes then disappeared. I'm not sure if they're symptoms or if its just in my head I don't want to get my hopes up over nothing as I haven't felt anything else other than that x

 

[laurac1988]

Fx jasmine!

 

[My_Baby_Dream]

Hello,

I have found a sperm donor here in my state that I will be meeting soon. We are considering doing a home insemination in Oct. I would be the full responsible parent w/ custody. The donor would just be able to have visits now and then, with yearly updates/photos, etc. The child at some point would know he is the biological father, and I fully want him be apart of my child's life. But he won't have parental rights. I really need to create some legal contact between both of us, just to protect both parties. But i'm not sure where to start or how to go about it. Do I have to use a lawyer, or is it a document that we can write up and have notorized? This is foreign territory for me. I've done IUI's in the past, but that was with donor sperm from a sperm bank, where the father was unknown. I never had to deal with any sort of contract. But, this is different.

Does anyone have any advice and input to share, that have been in a similar situation with a known sperm donor? I'd be so appreciative!

 

[oldnavygirl]

Hello,

I have found a sperm donor here in my state that I will be meeting soon. We are considering doing a home insemination in Oct. I would be the full responsible parent w/ custody. The donor would just be able to have visits now and then, with yearly updates/photos, etc. The child at some point would know he is the biological father, and I fully want him be apart of my child's life. But he won't have parental rights. I really need to create some legal contact between both of us, just to protect both parties. But i'm not sure where to start or how to go about it. Do I have to use a lawyer, or is it a document that we can write up and have notorized? This is foreign territory for me. I've done IUI's in the past, but that was with donor sperm from a sperm bank, where the father was unknown. I never had to deal with any sort of contract. But, this is different.

Does anyone have any advice and input to share, that have been in a similar situation with a known sperm donor? I'd be so appreciative!

We used a contract, if you click the link to our blog you can see a copy of the one we've used, however we live in the UK so the laws here won't be the same as where you are. Have you looked into the legalities of it? I know in some states it has to go through a doctor to be legal, so it may be worth looking into what the leagalities are to find out if it has to be done through a lawyer or if you can do it yourself.

As for Me....

We're now officially in the 2WW!!!! Today is ovulation day, we've done 3 insems for the last 3 nights, although I'm convinced I o-ed last night as I had some ov-pains

I think our timing should be spot on, and our donor was a dream to work with. We met up to sign the paperwork on Friday night, and spent a while chatting with him in person. We've been talking online for the past few months, but actually sitting down we all felt at ease and happy with the situation.

Fingers crossed this is our month! And lots of to everyone else trying!!

 

[jury3]

We went through a lawyer that specializes in family planning. I met her through our lgbt center. She sat down with all of us and we talked about all of our expectations. It was nice bc she knows the laws for our state, so she brought up scenarios we hadn't thought of. It's of course way cheaper to find one online and I'm sure that's fine too! We just wanted the peace of mind and wanted to make sure we had all the facts and we were all on the same page. Good luck!

 

[Nimyra]

State laws on parental rights vary wildly... I don't know about Oregon but it'd probably be wise to consult a family law attorney. If you decide to just do a contract on your own understand that there are legal risks to both you and the donor. Generally courts will rule based on what the judge thinks is in the best interests of the child regardless of what is in a contract. Things are a little more predictable if you have a partner and are doing a second parent adoption. It is complicated.

I did things without a lawyer but I'm married and my state laws are pretty clear about my husband having the parental rights.

 

[day_dreamer]

Quick question - those of you using FF, what detection method are you using? It recommends the Advanced setting, but I've also read about the FAM setting being best so am a bit confused

 

[JasmineAnne]

Quick question - those of you using FF, what detection method are you using? It recommends the Advanced setting, but I've also read about the FAM setting being best so am a bit confused

I've never even thought about changing the setting, mine has always been on Advanced.

What's the difference between them?

 

[c.30]

I think FAM (Fertility Awareness Method????) is from the Taking Charge of Your Fertility book? I started using that when I did it by hand lol, after reading the book but the advanced setting never did me wrong and over 12+ months allowed me to get a good grasp on my cycle

 

[laurac1988]

We just use opk setting as we don't temp x

 

[day_dreamer]

Quick question - those of you using FF, what detection method are you using? It recommends the Advanced setting, but I've also read about the FAM setting being best so am a bit confused

I've never even thought about changing the setting, mine has always been on Advanced.

What's the difference between them?

I found this on the FF website:

" The Advanced Detector is our recommended detector and the default for all charts. We recommend that you keep your chart on this setting. This detector takes all your fertility signs into account. It uses the computing power of our servers to actually scan for patterns of ovulation on your charts based on the many patterns that we have encountered through our years of experience. Once it has determined your most likely ovulation day based on all your fertility signs, it then determines a coverline (the horizontal line across your chart) with a reasonable value to show you your biphasic (ovulation) pattern. Our advanced detector simultaneously takes into account all signs and data you enter to determine the best interpretation.

The Research Detector is our cutting edge research detector. This detector includes all new patterns and improvements as we find them. With time and testing, we roll new findings into the advanced detector when appropriate. Since this detector is continuously under construction, it can be unstable. You should use it only if you wish to check for enhancements that are not yet rolled into the advanced detector.

The Fertility Awareness Detector is based on the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) as it is widely published (ovulation is detected after 3 temperatures above the previous 6) with some enhancements. This detector is best suited to those with regular chart patterns who are already familiar with this method.

The OPK/Monitor Detector relies solely on your Ovulation Predictor Kit (OPK) or fertility monitor data to determine ovulation. An OPK gives information only about the presence of Luteinizing Hormone (LH). Although in most cases a positive OPK will indicate imminent ovulation it is not always totally accurate. Similarly the fertility monitor gives you information about your estrogen levels and LH levels. Although more detailed than the OPK it still lacks the confirmation that ovulation actually occured. This detector is designed for women who are not recording their temperature but still would like to have a good estimate of their ovulation day."

I changed it again to Research and it says I'm now 8dpo, and it's solid lines rather than dotted, lol. Still none the wiser really!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Hiya ladies! Haven't been around in awhile, but the countdown is ON! My youngest daughter was conceived on the first try with a donor, and in 7 weeks, I'll be having a tubal reversal. 8 weeks after that, the same donor and I will be attempting baby number two (together). Oh, I hope I get an early Christmas present!

 

[laurac1988]

Fx brandi xx

 

[JasmineAnne]

GL Brandi x

 

[Mummylou23]

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[Mummylou23]

Looks girl
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[Mummylou23]

I did it I'm about 5+3 roughly well late for af am over 25 dpo lol

 

[laurac1988]

Congrats mummylou x

 

[Mummylou23]

thank you laura