Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[sam#3]

yer it is hard we keep finding what we think are really ideal ones then they turn into not so ideal!!

 

[rosie5637]

how far in advance would you recommend starting to look for a donor? i aim to start ttc in august 2011, should i be looking now or is that too early?

 

[LunaBean]

Now's a good time, its better to know him very well before you start!

 

[sam#3]

we are looking now but wont be ttc yet

 

[jodie4805]

hi jodie4805 and rainbow mummy!

ooh someone else who's single like me. i have been single a long time too and i'm not sure how much time i have left fertility wise (early menopause in the family). i've been thinking about AI for a little while now but decided a couple of months ago that i'm defo gonna go ahead with it next summer. can't wait!

i haven't told anyone yet, only spoke about it on here so i'm not sure what reaction i'm gonna get! don't think it'll be great tbh.

wishing you lots of luck!

I told my mom on mothers day & was amazed how well she took it.

 

[rosie5637]

hi jodie4805 and rainbow mummy!

ooh someone else who's single like me. i have been single a long time too and i'm not sure how much time i have left fertility wise (early menopause in the family). i've been thinking about AI for a little while now but decided a couple of months ago that i'm defo gonna go ahead with it next summer. can't wait!

i haven't told anyone yet, only spoke about it on here so i'm not sure what reaction i'm gonna get! don't think it'll be great tbh.

wishing you lots of luck!

I told my mom on mothers day & was amazed how well she took it.

thats great, gives me hope! i'm due to go on holiday with my mum and son in may so i'm gonna wait til after that to tell her. i don't want there to be any tension when i'm stuck in a caravan with her for a week! need to tell her asap though so she can get used to the idea before i start ttc.

 

[sam#3]

good luck telling them to you all x
i already have 3 kids but we have tested the waters with vikkis mum to see what the reaction would be and just got the 'well its something you have to be really sure about etc etc'
good luck and i hope you all get the good reactions x

 

[Nimyra]

I found my donor rather quickly (within a month) but it depends on a lot of factors - we went with someone we found online (rather than a close friend) and were lucky enough to find a great match out of the 10 guys or so who responded. Bottom line - trust your gut and dont' use someone who you don't feel comfortable with or don't feel like you can trust.

 

[rainbow mummy]

hi rosie its great youve finally decided to take the plunge! why are you waiting till next year though?? im so impatient and couldnt wait that long!!
yes i have a donor ive been trying for 6 months already. i found him last may and started trying late september 2009. he is 47 and only donor i found near to me that wanted to help for the right reasons. he is willing to try for as long as it takes which is great.

one donor i found wanted to do it naturally so i said no
another one wanted me to pay for taxis for him to meet me and to pay £10 towards tests he'd already had that someone else had already paid for. if i wanted my own test i could request and pay but would still have to pay him the £10 for previous tests so told him where to go and stop taking advantage of people
another i asked to wait a month for me as was having bloods done and said no cos his wife didnt know he donated!! so i was like ok then!!

my donor has had great sucess in past and tries to help me as much as he can. hes understanding of my situation with regards to my ex and seems very open and honest with me. he even takes time off work to donate to me!!

i really hope doesnt take much longer but more relaxed knowing donor will help for as long as i want. i had all signs going this month: sore boobs, nausea, lots of cervical mucus, and now all gone but still only due period on thursday so although not hopeful trying to stay positive thinking maybe

i do fairy tarot too and all readings ive done have been accurate and they said i was pregnant or would be soon. i had a pregnancy dream and only other time ive had one was when pregnant with my son. and asked for a sign of whether i was pregnant or getting period and had a dream got my bfp but beginning to doubt it all and think is all wishful thinking!
someone else said they got same and got bfp a week later but its been a week since cards and dreams and still getting bfns.
when found out with my son wasnt trying and was 5 weeks before tested so just hoping my body hasnt enough hormone for a bfp yet but secretly think period is on way!!!

 

[rainbow mummy]

just wanted to ask girls
how often do you get donation per cycle??
i only get one at the moment right before ovulation as it always seems to fall on a weekend and neither me nor the donor can make weekends??
im planning on travelling to him after next month if not sucessful and getting at least 2 donations per cycle but wondered what your monthly plans were??
thanks x

 

[EpdTTC]

Hi girls!

Trippy-sorry AF got you. That's the pits. Hugs. Good practice round, sounds like timing was good. Next month!

Lizzie-Congrats! Sticky bean dust for you!

Welcome to Rosie, Sam #3, and Rainbow Mummy! and welcome back Jodie!

My update-had a scan on Friday & RE said follicle was nice and ripe. I initially had one dominant and two smaller but the other two don't look like they are going to do anything. So, on Friday he gave me a trigger shot and did an insemination. I wasn't keen on the timing. I had not had my LH surge yet but based on my follicle size he wanted to do an IUI Friday because he was afraid we could miss it. The hcg shot will make me ovulate in 24-36 hours from the shot. Went back in this am...still had not ovulated so did another IUI. I am really hoping I ovulate within the next few hours (it has been 5 hours since my insemination), I don't feel like I have yet. I would have preferred to do my IUIs today and tomorrow but Dr thought Friday and Saturday were best. I went with what he said, because, well he has been doing this for 26+ years with a really high success rate and I would have been bummed if I missed my O. Any old wives tales for bringing on ovulation? Tonight around 11:30 pm will be 36 hours from my trigger shot so hopefully I will have O'd by then. I go tomorrow morning for a scan to see if I ovulated yet. I probably could do another IUI tomorrow but I just can't afford to spend another $225 after already spending roughly $600 on TTC this month. So...I am going to do an insemination at home with my OH tomorrow as back up. Maybe I will try out that cervical cup gadget I bought a few months back! My donor already agreed to help me out for a third day, bless him. Fingers crossed that I O this afternoon! BTW...my follicle is on my right side, which is the side I have not ovulated from in three months and my ovary is not exactly where it should be. I may have endometriosis on that ovary, not sure as I haven't had a lap since 2006. I just hope that if I do O that my egg can get where it needs to go! I'd be more hopeful and excited if my egg was coming from my left ovary as that is the side I got pregnant from before...but ya never know! I will update in a day or so and let you know if I O'd.

Baby dust~
Erin

 

[Nimyra]

hi Erin!

Doing another at home insemination just to be safe sounds like a great idea - always nice to have the bases covered. Hopefully the egg will make it through okay. Doing some visualization couldn't hurt.

Emily

 

[RubyRainbows]

Hi Rainbow Mummy, Sam, & Rosie!

Good luck Erin -- sounds like you have a good handle on things and are great with understanding all this! Ha! I hope this is your month!

Lizzie -- How are things going there for you?

I asked Jayden today if he wants Mommy to have a new baby and he replied, "No, not a new baby... a new kid to play with!" Lol.

 

[rosie5637]

hi rosie its great youve finally decided to take the plunge! why are you waiting till next year though?? im so impatient and couldnt wait that long!!
yes i have a donor ive been trying for 6 months already. i found him last may and started trying late september 2009. he is 47 and only donor i found near to me that wanted to help for the right reasons. he is willing to try for as long as it takes which is great.

one donor i found wanted to do it naturally so i said no
another one wanted me to pay for taxis for him to meet me and to pay £10 towards tests he'd already had that someone else had already paid for. if i wanted my own test i could request and pay but would still have to pay him the £10 for previous tests so told him where to go and stop taking advantage of people
another i asked to wait a month for me as was having bloods done and said no cos his wife didnt know he donated!! so i was like ok then!!

my donor has had great sucess in past and tries to help me as much as he can. hes understanding of my situation with regards to my ex and seems very open and honest with me. he even takes time off work to donate to me!!

i really hope doesnt take much longer but more relaxed knowing donor will help for as long as i want. i had all signs going this month: sore boobs, nausea, lots of cervical mucus, and now all gone but still only due period on thursday so although not hopeful trying to stay positive thinking maybe

i do fairy tarot too and all readings ive done have been accurate and they said i was pregnant or would be soon. i had a pregnancy dream and only other time ive had one was when pregnant with my son. and asked for a sign of whether i was pregnant or getting period and had a dream got my bfp but beginning to doubt it all and think is all wishful thinking!
someone else said they got same and got bfp a week later but its been a week since cards and dreams and still getting bfns.
when found out with my son wasnt trying and was 5 weeks before tested so just hoping my body hasnt enough hormone for a bfp yet but secretly think period is on way!!!

i'm struggling to wait but i want to be completely debt free and add an extra bedroom to my house for the (hopefully) new arrival! i don't want to be worrying about money or living in a building site with a new baby. so frustrating!

i hope i can find a donor like yours, he sounds great.

wishing you a good result this month, lots of baby dust!

 

[MaybeMomSarah]

Hi All,

I just wanted to come back and say that I finally got my BPF on the 23rd of Feb!

Here's what I did this round:

1. New donor - the other gent became an issue, so we changed over to a new guy.
2. Clear Blue Fertility Monitor, and did the AI on a "high" day and a "peak" day.
3. Insead cup with equal parts Conceive Plus to sperm, left in me overnight.
4. Just prenatal vitamin - no herbs, additional vitamins, or other stuff.
5. No orgasm, or feet-in-the-air afterward. With the Instead, we insemed in the afternoon during my lunch break at work, and I walked around as normal right after it was inserted.
6. No alcohol or caffine for at least 3 weeks before AI.

Good luck!!

 

[jodie4805]

Hi All,

I just wanted to come back and say that I finally got my BPF on the 23rd of Feb!

Here's what I did this round:

1. New donor - the other gent became an issue, so we changed over to a new guy.
2. Clear Blue Fertility Monitor, and did the AI on a "high" day and a "peak" day.
3. Insead cup with equal parts Conceive Plus to sperm, left in me overnight.
4. Just prenatal vitamin - no herbs, additional vitamins, or other stuff.
5. No orgasm, or feet-in-the-air afterward. With the Instead, we insemed in the afternoon during my lunch break at work, and I walked around as normal right after it was inserted.
6. No alcohol or caffine for at least 3 weeks before AI.

Good luck!!

Congratulations. Good to hear that it does work.

 

[sam#3]

congratulations MaybeMomSarah xxx

 

[rainbow mummy]

wow congrats xxx
its nice to know walkign around after doesnt harm chances!! i remembered last night i forgot to use my concieve plsu this month but have used red clover so hoping will have worked anyway yikes!!
also tried not tkaing ym herbs this month but wasnt tgogin to ovulate so had to and plenty have concived on vitex. im just worried cos if i dont get bfp this month it'll be my fifth month on it next month and not sure if thats a good thing??

i understand rosie and at least when you do try you'll be relaxed not worrying about money and room etc. i really want boy so him and jem can share a room but ill see!!
x

 

[LunaBean]

5 months isn't that long in the grand scheme of things, you should only go to your doc for help/tests etc if you've been trying for a year and havnt concieved. I concieved 3 times the past 6 months tho...I just have trouble getting them to stay put!!

 

[Trippymama]

So happy for you! I haven't been on much this weekend, but wow! How exciting. I hope this next month is it for me, but I'm just going to try and relax and not worry. I'm on day 7 now, so I have another week or two before it all starts again. Loved the pictures of your weekend. I still hope we'll get to see each other some day. I'm going to try and figure out how to post pictures. It asks for a url, but I only know how to upload from my computer. Ugh.