Cycle 1 day 1. Who's with me? *update* It's a girl! Congrats baby_bray!!!

[mailcmm]

Twinkie... I am a bargain shopper too. Lol I love a good sale and my brothers wife says I am the only person she knows who can squeeze a nickel and make a buffalo fart. Lol are you breast feeding at all? I am not so thinking Finn will be ok with whatever I give him as it will be all he knows. With my first two I tried to breast feed but when I couldn't made the mad bottle run. This time am going to just bottle feed. I felt so bad when I couldn't breast feed. Don't want to go through that again. You are lucky that you got stuff at the shower. So far no one is shopping from my registry. I am so worried I will have to buy it all. Dhs family keeps calling or emailing me that they went to the registry and wan to get finn something special and ask what they can get. I direct them back to the registry and apparently they are mad at me. Dh says his family doesn't do practical. Lol I lost it completely and screamed at him and I quote... We're having a f***ing baby we need practical! He laughed at me and said I know but my family doesn't do that. So as I get wind of what they are buying I am really starting to panic. Fil bought a $250 hiking set up. I am sure that will be handy with all the mountains and hiking that occurs in south ga! 5 items have been bought off the registry. 3 by my mom who is also starting to panic. The other 2 were by my aunts. So next month I am gonna have another garage sale. My mom says she has stuff to donate to it. I raised $600 at the last one maybe I will have enough to buy what I need. Dh doesn't do returns. He thinks it's ungrateful. I may hit him with the hiking gear. Lol

 

[Twinkie210]

Maybe when they ask what you need you could suggest something that they can personalize to make it special. They could put his name on blankets, bibs, hooded towels, and burp clothes, that way it is special and practical??? I have a large family (there were about 25 people at my shower and they were all family) so I was lucky and got a lot of good stuff. Plus I am borrowing a lot from my SIL. You may also want to look into second had stores. My mom got a very nice exosaucer at a second hand store. They also check for recalls and stuff, so you know that the things you buy there are safe. I also tried to only register for things I really needed. Since I have had one before, I kind of knew what I needed and what wasn't necessary. I had so many things that I didn't use much with DS that I didn't want to waste the money this time around. Unless I get them today, I think I am skipping the diaper pail (I can tie the stinky diapers up in bags and put them in the regular trash), monitor (our house is small so probably not needed), I am going to skip the pack and play too I think (I never had one with DS and he survived, the only thing I am not sure about is when he is older and is in the floor with our dog more, I might need one then). Also I threw DH a diaper party and we got lots of diapers! You could look into throwing your husband one. I just had a BBQ and did hotdogs and brats and potato chips and beer and they played washers and bags. They guys had fun and it was pretty inexpensive. I also sign up for all the mailing lists I can so I can get coupons. I used so many coupons with DS! One of my friends took me shopping yesterday to buy a gift for the baby and I was telling her what I needed and where it was the cheapest, LOL. They when she went to pay, I was like "Wait I have a coupon for that!" I thought she would kill me

I am going to try breastfeeding at first, but I think I will switch to bottles after a few weeks, if I last that long. As big as this baby is going to be, I am not sure that I will breastfeed exclusively or now even in the first couple weeks. DS was a big guy and came home from the hospital eating 3oz at a time. I didn't breastfeed him, but I am not sure I could have kept him satisfied and kept my sanity! I want to try it, but I am not going to beat myself up if it doesn't work out.

 

[mailcmm]

I only registered for the necessities too. Dont want a pack and play either. Don't want a monitor but mil is so angry about me not cosleeping I registered for a video monitor lol don't care if we don't get that. Not worried about towels or blankets I have those and my mom/grandma have already knitted some. I need car seat, bottles, crib mattress, stroller (I will use that daily) pacifiers, bedding, changing table mattress, tub, high chair, since I can't afford a big spend at once will just start buying things each week now. Gonna get the crib matress today. This wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so close to Xmas. I am going to be so broke. Lol I just don't see how a stroller cars eat combo isn't a great gift? Lol

 

[television]

is anyone else thinking about a home birth im really wanting one

 

[Twinkie210]

I only registered for the necessities too. Dont want a pack and play either. Don't want a monitor but mil is so angry about me not cosleeping I registered for a video monitor lol don't care if we don't get that. Not worried about towels or blankets I have those and my mom/grandma have already knitted some. I need car seat, bottles, crib mattress, stroller (I will use that daily) pacifiers, bedding, changing table mattress, tub, high chair, since I can't afford a big spend at once will just start buying things each week now. Gonna get the crib matress today. This wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so close to Xmas. I am going to be so broke. Lol I just don't see how a stroller cars eat combo isn't a great gift? Lol

We lucked out, babies r us was doing a trade in thing where you could take in an old item and get a coupon for 25% off. We were given an old carseat from a friend of a friend, but I wasn't comfortable using an old one, especially from someone we don't really know, so we took that in and got 25% off the car seat. We didn't get the travel system, because we really didn't use the "big" stroller that much. We are opting to just do without a stroller for the first couple months (he won't go many places anyway) and just get a nice umbrella stroller (DS had a heavy duty jeep brand and we loved it) they fold more compact and are easier to take places.

Maybe you will find some nice gently used stuff at garage sales/second hand stores? I agree it sucks being due so close the Christmas when money is tight anyway. Maybe family members will get him some stuff he needs for a Christmas present

 

[Twinkie210]

is anyone else thinking about a home birth im really wanting one

Home births aren't that common here in the U.S. It is hard to find a midwife that will do one here and many times insurance won't cover them. I have never even considered it, but I am planning on getting an epidural anyway I had an assisted delivery with DS (forcep) and so far this baby is breech, so I am not really a candidate for a home birth anyway.

 

[moter98]

I agree with dh. If he's willing to help then go for it. Rest as long as you can and make a decision in oct at your scan. I wish they were scanning you every 2 weeks. Maybe nothing changes but if it is healed then you would know. Regardless of rest I still wouldn't lift anything. Wouldn't want to strain anything. I thought it would be awful but with laundry I do smaller loads. I load the washer and transfer to the dryer and then dump clothes into the basket in front of dryer. THen I tell dh that the basket needs to be moved and he moves it to a spot that I can sort and fold. Then when he can he puts clothes in the rooms and I put them away. My doctor is big on rest for high risk. All I hear is how I should take it easy.

I bought some stuff today. Toys r us had diapers 2 mega packs for $25. And the bottles I wanted (tommie tippie) were $7 dollars off of a 3 pack. I saved $27 dollars. Always looking for specials. Lol

i've decided to push for a scan for late next week. that would put me at 2 weeks since the last scan. most posters on google with this problem have scans every 1-2 weeks to check progress. i think it's only fair to let me know what's going on in there. i mean, this can be a dangerous thing and i should know where i'm at. if he says no, then i will request a referral to a perinatologist. i did some research and found that there is a perinatology clinic at the hospital. if he won't give me the referral, then i will try another dr. would rather not have to go that route as this whole thing is stressful enough as it is. will see how it goes on friday.
if this does heal, i still plan to be on modified bedrest, no laundry except folding it, no lifting, no sex, no exercise etc. but i will at least care for ds.

isn't it fun getting great deals? i love it. i used to be a couponer and have a whole closet full of diapers i got at half price. didn't expect them to be sitting there so long, but oh well. i have them ready!

 

[moter98]

I only registered for the necessities too. Dont want a pack and play either. Don't want a monitor but mil is so angry about me not cosleeping I registered for a video monitor lol don't care if we don't get that. Not worried about towels or blankets I have those and my mom/grandma have already knitted some. I need car seat, bottles, crib mattress, stroller (I will use that daily) pacifiers, bedding, changing table mattress, tub, high chair, since I can't afford a big spend at once will just start buying things each week now. Gonna get the crib matress today. This wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so close to Xmas. I am going to be so broke. Lol I just don't see how a stroller cars eat combo isn't a great gift? Lol

i'm still using my baby monitor lol! ds's room is right next to ours, but when we switched him to his toddler bed i had to dig out the monitor so i could see what he's doing in there. thought he would get out of bed and wonder the house but so far he stays in bed.
have you considered having a close friend through you a shower? my best friend got wind that my mom wasn't doing one for me and she set up a friend's couple's shower. everyone just got together for a bbq and we played lawn games etc. we got so much from our registry from our friends. i was really touched that they all came and did that for us.

 

[moter98]

is anyone else thinking about a home birth im really wanting one

i am the absolute opposite from you lol! give me drugs and give them to me ASAP!

 

[moter98]

I only registered for the necessities too. Dont want a pack and play either. Don't want a monitor but mil is so angry about me not cosleeping I registered for a video monitor lol don't care if we don't get that. Not worried about towels or blankets I have those and my mom/grandma have already knitted some. I need car seat, bottles, crib mattress, stroller (I will use that daily) pacifiers, bedding, changing table mattress, tub, high chair, since I can't afford a big spend at once will just start buying things each week now. Gonna get the crib matress today. This wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so close to Xmas. I am going to be so broke. Lol I just don't see how a stroller cars eat combo isn't a great gift? Lol

We lucked out, babies r us was doing a trade in thing where you could take in an old item and get a coupon for 25% off. We were given an old carseat from a friend of a friend, but I wasn't comfortable using an old one, especially from someone we don't really know, so we took that in and got 25% off the car seat. We didn't get the travel system, because we really didn't use the "big" stroller that much. We are opting to just do without a stroller for the first couple months (he won't go many places anyway) and just get a nice umbrella stroller (DS had a heavy duty jeep brand and we loved it) they fold more compact and are easier to take places.

Maybe you will find some nice gently used stuff at garage sales/second hand stores? I agree it sucks being due so close the Christmas when money is tight anyway. Maybe family members will get him some stuff he needs for a Christmas present

i agree. we used the big stroller for maybe 2 months, then bought a more compact one and we still use for ds today. when they are so small it's easy to just carry them anyway.

mail- a space saver high chair will save you money. we have one and love it. it just attaches to your kitchen chair. and it saves room too!

 

[moter98]

anyone have aching lower legs? i'm having this problem lately. only thing that gets rid of it is compression stockings. i've had it before pregnancy also. just wondering if this was a normal thing or yet another thing i should worry about, lol

 

[Twinkie210]

I only registered for the necessities too. Dont want a pack and play either. Don't want a monitor but mil is so angry about me not cosleeping I registered for a video monitor lol don't care if we don't get that. Not worried about towels or blankets I have those and my mom/grandma have already knitted some. I need car seat, bottles, crib mattress, stroller (I will use that daily) pacifiers, bedding, changing table mattress, tub, high chair, since I can't afford a big spend at once will just start buying things each week now. Gonna get the crib matress today. This wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so close to Xmas. I am going to be so broke. Lol I just don't see how a stroller cars eat combo isn't a great gift? Lol

We lucked out, babies r us was doing a trade in thing where you could take in an old item and get a coupon for 25% off. We were given an old carseat from a friend of a friend, but I wasn't comfortable using an old one, especially from someone we don't really know, so we took that in and got 25% off the car seat. We didn't get the travel system, because we really didn't use the "big" stroller that much. We are opting to just do without a stroller for the first couple months (he won't go many places anyway) and just get a nice umbrella stroller (DS had a heavy duty jeep brand and we loved it) they fold more compact and are easier to take places.

Maybe you will find some nice gently used stuff at garage sales/second hand stores? I agree it sucks being due so close the Christmas when money is tight anyway. Maybe family members will get him some stuff he needs for a Christmas present

i agree. we used the big stroller for maybe 2 months, then bought a more compact one and we still use for ds today. when they are so small it's easy to just carry them anyway.

mail- a space saver high chair will save you money. we have one and love it. it just attaches to your kitchen chair. and it saves room too!

We got one of those too! Of course I haven't used it yet but the one I have reclines for smaller babies and sits up more for older ones. It was one thing that I really wanted because we have no room in our dining room for a full sized high chair.

 

[Twinkie210]

anyone have aching lower legs? i'm having this problem lately. only thing that gets rid of it is compression stockings. i've had it before pregnancy also. just wondering if this was a normal thing or yet another thing i should worry about, lol

I haven't had this in my lower legs. Are you retaining water? Maybe that is it? I have heard other women complain about restless leg syndrome, but I don't know if pregnancy can cause it or if you have to have it already for it to be aggrevated by pregnancy...

 

[Twinkie210]

I said I was going to skip the baby monitor, but I actually got one at my shower today, so I guess I will have one after all

 

[moter98]

I only registered for the necessities too. Dont want a pack and play either. Don't want a monitor but mil is so angry about me not cosleeping I registered for a video monitor lol don't care if we don't get that. Not worried about towels or blankets I have those and my mom/grandma have already knitted some. I need car seat, bottles, crib mattress, stroller (I will use that daily) pacifiers, bedding, changing table mattress, tub, high chair, since I can't afford a big spend at once will just start buying things each week now. Gonna get the crib matress today. This wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so close to Xmas. I am going to be so broke. Lol I just don't see how a stroller cars eat combo isn't a great gift? Lol

We lucked out, babies r us was doing a trade in thing where you could take in an old item and get a coupon for 25% off. We were given an old carseat from a friend of a friend, but I wasn't comfortable using an old one, especially from someone we don't really know, so we took that in and got 25% off the car seat. We didn't get the travel system, because we really didn't use the "big" stroller that much. We are opting to just do without a stroller for the first couple months (he won't go many places anyway) and just get a nice umbrella stroller (DS had a heavy duty jeep brand and we loved it) they fold more compact and are easier to take places.

Maybe you will find some nice gently used stuff at garage sales/second hand stores? I agree it sucks being due so close the Christmas when money is tight anyway. Maybe family members will get him some stuff he needs for a Christmas present

i agree. we used the big stroller for maybe 2 months, then bought a more compact one and we still use for ds today. when they are so small it's easy to just carry them anyway.

mail- a space saver high chair will save you money. we have one and love it. it just attaches to your kitchen chair. and it saves room too!

We got one of those too! Of course I haven't used it yet but the one I have reclines for smaller babies and sits up more for older ones. It was one thing that I really wanted because we have no room in our dining room for a full sized high chair.

ours does that too. and the back rest thing comes off for when they are older and converts to just a little booster seat. i love all in one type baby products. saves so much money. and i got it for $37 during black friday!

 

[moter98]

anyone have aching lower legs? i'm having this problem lately. only thing that gets rid of it is compression stockings. i've had it before pregnancy also. just wondering if this was a normal thing or yet another thing i should worry about, lol

I haven't had this in my lower legs. Are you retaining water? Maybe that is it? I have heard other women complain about restless leg syndrome, but I don't know if pregnancy can cause it or if you have to have it already for it to be aggrevated by pregnancy...

i seem to be just a little yeah, since i've been laying down so much.

 

[moter98]

I said I was going to skip the baby monitor, but I actually got one at my shower today, so I guess I will have one after all

oh great! it just might come in handy. i'm still using mine for a 2 year old lol

 

[Twinkie210]

anyone have aching lower legs? i'm having this problem lately. only thing that gets rid of it is compression stockings. i've had it before pregnancy also. just wondering if this was a normal thing or yet another thing i should worry about, lol

I haven't had this in my lower legs. Are you retaining water? Maybe that is it? I have heard other women complain about restless leg syndrome, but I don't know if pregnancy can cause it or if you have to have it already for it to be aggrevated by pregnancy...

i seem to be just a little yeah, since i've been laying down so much.

Well if you are retaining water, then it makes sense that the compression socks help then It sounds normal that you would have a little fluid retension since you are being less active and spending a lot of time laying down. I would mention it to you Dr. though, just incase. Remember to drink lots of water, which will help flush some of that fluid out (seems counter intuitive doesn't it?).

 

[moter98]

Yeah. I have been drinking 8-10 glasses a day. Before I was peeing every 1-2 hours, now I don't really have to go that much. I don't know what that means, but hoping its just a sluggish digestive system from lack of movement

 

[colta]

Yeah. I have been drinking 8-10 glasses a day. Before I was peeing every 1-2 hours, now I don't really have to go that much. I don't know what that means, but hoping its just a sluggish digestive system from lack of movement

Generally the less you move around, the more you retain. Plus, since your body is working to fix the tear, it means more of your fluids are being moved into your bloodstream to help you out... pretty normal stuff. I think you'll be okay.

AFM - I haven't been to my doctor since my last mc. I had asked him about getting testing done, finding out what was wrong and he said that both times were just flukes and he didn't want to test. So, we've since moved towns... so now I'll be looking into a new doctor and I'm going to be asking some questions, just for my own comfort. AF for anyone is not fun, but mine are miserable. I'm in a lot of pain 90% of the time, it's very heavy and (sorry if tmi)I have a ton of clots. It's awful... and each time has been getting worse. Luckily this time I haven't lost any time off work because of it, but last AF I did... I was in pretty rough shape.
I don't know what it is either? I'm beginning to think endo, which... if that's the case... maybe they can take care of it and me and DH could have a sticky bean? I'd love to be able to start my family with a bouncing baby and a bouncing school age kid... life would be perfect then.
Unfortunately, I can't simply request tests... I have to be referred from by ob/gyn... which to get an ob/gyn, I have to go to my family doctor or a clinic to be referred... which I have to go to a clinic to be referred a family doctor. As awesome as it is not having to worry about paying for tests/hospitalizations/treatments/etc... the circles you have to sometimes go in can be a pain.