December Dreamers 2010 mummies-keep in touch

[mummyclo]

Lozzy your so harsh about yourself! Im sure it wasn't bad at all!
I am a stripey saggy milky mess

 

[YoungNImum]

However TMI, TMI, TMI alert - I have developed a rash at the top of my thighs into my pubic hair line - originally I think it was a heat/sweat/pad rash but its infected in parts I have noticed and I SMELL. Thankfully midwife is due soon - do not envy her that part of her job! But I might need antibiotics to clear up both infections - hope not - am hoping savlon and frequent feeds will sort them out.

Turns out DH's sisters and his mother's hearing all started to deteriorate in their childhoods (DH is the youngest child) with 1 sister being diagnosed at 5 - I got a long moan about how awful it is not to hear, how mean the other children were to DH's sister, how she refused then to wear the hearing aid because of it, how its blighted Mil's social life to the point she refuses nearly all invites because even with the hearing aid she cant hear. How DH's other sister has it all in front of her and thank god none of HER children have the condition. Now MIL is a nice woman but rather relentlessly negative at times but my god by the end of it I was desperate for DH to take her home so I could have a good cry about my daughters potentially blighted life. DH didnt hear her but did sensibly point out that neither he nor his sister's would recognise their lives as being blighted and that his Mum does use the deafness as a reason not to socialise rather than the other way round but still - im a bit shell shocked and will be a nervous wreck at every hearing test from now on.

Sorry this turned into a mammoth post!

Mizze xx

On the 'TMI' front it sounds identical to what I had. The smell was crazy and I rang up about it but no one was bothered . The 'rash' is more like a discoloured messed up bit of skin which my mum has says she still has - I assumed it was from the delivery...but maybe not?

I was really itchy too and started treating myself for thrush - that seemed to work well. So I had thrush and a UTI

On the other front, times have changed - even if (God forbid) Caitlyn did have a gradual hearing loss, everywhere is a lot more diverse and accepting. I reckon she'd be fine. So long as everyone remained positive etc and your MIL cheered up a bit.
On the other note, if it is genetic, even if it was a dominant gene it would give her the maximum chance of getting it 50/50, it it's not a dominant gene chances are she would be completely unaffected forever.

But it doesn't help with it being discussed all the time and isn't the sort of thing a new mummy needs to hear x

Here is a pic of the red blotch on Eva's back, im so glad we have HV tomoz so i can show her it.

MIL n FIL arrive here in the morning from manchester to stay with us for 4 days, Kinda dreading it but could be better than im thinking

Did she have it from birth or has it just appeared? Sure the HV will put your mind at ease anyway

Anyone's baby making serious grunting noises all the time? She sounds like a trucker straining to poo! Or what I imagine a 40 year old 200 lbs trucker having a poo sounds like. And she does this to various degrees almost all day and sometimes even while she sleeps!

Yes - though i'm sure you don't want to hear that from me! He's done it right from birth though so I assume it's not related to his current aliments. They do suspect that possibly his left nostil doesn't actually go all the way back which they have given as an explanation for the grunting/snuffling, apparently it's relatively common, when babies have both nostiles like that they notice straight away, but just one can take years before anyone notices! You could ask just in case - it's probably a-ok but it'll confirm you don't have that to worry about . Some babies are just grunty I think!

Hey girls i really need some advice/help...

Imogen has started.. well i think having nightmares or something...
she suddenly screams in her sleep, and when i say scream, its high pitched really really loud (louder then her usual cry for food) last a few seconds then suddenly shes fine again...

i dont know why the hell its started happening... shes done it about 4 time now (not alot i know but its enough to upset me and make me wonder) but nothing ever bad has happened to her to make her scared of anything... so why the raqndome screams in her sleep....

Also have got wierd one-off noises in the night like screams, but he tends to go straight back to sleep like he doesn't notice. No idea, anyone elses LO do this?

Yea i think so i didnt really notice it well not that it was a problem, until the 2nd MW visit and she said to keep an eye on it then.


A Good friend from work calm an seen me n Eva today, she couldnt out her down an was even making all the funny nosies i make to her lol She treated us to lunch aswell, was really nice having a adult convo about work an stuff

 

[YoungNImum]

Well i must admit i didnt have a great body before i got pregnant, and loved just lettingit all hang out when i was pregnant, iv so many stretch marks youd think someone printed map on my belly, but i do still have flab, im hoping it will go in time with all the house work iv been doing lol

 

[samantha.xo]

My tummy was as flat as a pancake pre pregnancy, now it's pretty much flat with a bit of flab and LOADS of stretchmarks...oh and my belly button us totally disfigured lol. I reckon with a bit of exercise it'd go toned and flat again, but I kinda like the extra bit - OH seems to like it too when I stand up it kinda looks flat too, so I'm not really too fussed...just not overly keen on the stretchmarks

YoungNImum - I burp him after every oz and he usually if not always brings up a burp it just seems to be his rear end.

Mizzie - sounds like thrush hun, I had exactly the same kind of rash on my inner thighs but during pregnancy. I thought it was blocked pours, but the cream the GP gave me didn't work so I went back n said I thought it was thrush and they gave me a pessary and thrush cream and it cleared up in no time. Sounds like you're really enjoying being a mummy Congrats again!

Has anyone started to have you time? Like doing some things you did before having LO? sometimes during the day I have some free time when LO sleeps and really want to start reading my books again but I feel guilty kus I feel like I should be doing something baby related or cleaning or going out for walks With all the chaos that a LO brings it feels strange to want to do something...normal...that I used to do before he arrived? Does that make sense lol. Am I the only one?

 

[lozzy21]

Not harsh just truthfull lol the joys of being a size 22.

 

[- Butterfly -]

Samantha - the only me time I get I try to come on here to catch up!! Doesn't happen very often

 

[WILSMUM]

Can PND start at any time?
Ive just started feeling really down on myself and sad all the time (probably doesn't help not being able to go out much!)...not sure if its just normal tho

u sound like i did a bit with Wil and in hindsight i can see i was probably suffering with slight undiagnosed pnd. mine wasn't helped by an unhelpful oh and staying in staring at the same 4 walls def made it even worse!
speak to yr hv hun and try and get out to mum & baby groups as much as you can, they really were a life saver for me.

 

[WILSMUM]

i don't get much time to myself during the day by the time i've done the school run, made bottles, tidied up, done washing and fed A and when i do i've always got half an ear and eye on her, so dh is gonna A with him when he takes Wil to gymnastics in Sat so i get an hour and a half or so completely to myself to read relax chill out and recharge my batteries a bit!!!

 

[mummyclo]

Not harsh just truthfull lol the joys of being a size 22.

But your Oh still loves you! Mine is repulsed by me

WILSMUM - im not much of a social person..especially not with stranger iykwim? My OH isn't really helpful either which doesn't help!

 

[mrsbling]

Hi Ladies, I hope you are all well :flowers:

Sorry I havent been on for a while, so I havent really had time to catch up. I have been looking at Nurseries, and the one I wanted to go to is FULLY booked until SEPTEMBER 2012 !!!! So I am going round all of the local ones now to see which ones I like

LO hasn't pood in ages :/ it's coming up to two days now. I gave him 1oz of water the night before last and last night but it doesn't seem to be soon anything. He's really farting loads too what can I do?

Congrats everyone who's babies are putting on weight

ELoise was only going every other day, and farting loads too - which makes her cry so I have done some baby massage at the Post Natal class and it seems to have made her go everyday now..... although she still has the wind which Health visitor and Doctor have said is just one of those things?

Can PND start at any time?
Ive just started feeling really down on myself and sad all the time (probably doesn't help not being able to go out much!)...not sure if its just normal tho

I feel much the same hun xx

I felt like this at the beginning... was crying at everything ... DH only needed to look at me the wrong way. I told DH when I was pregnant that this would probably happen so he has been very good..... I started to go out a bit more and see friends, and also enrolled on the Post Natal baby group too and this has made me feel soooo much better x

Does anyone else feel embarrassed about their body in front of their OH??
I used to not care, but ive not let him even see my tummy since i gave birth! I look disgusting

Yeah I think most of us feel a bit like that. I am lucky that I didnt get any stretch marks at all, but my stomach still needs some work to get back to my non maternity size 10's though. DH is too tired to worry about how I look (and he wouldnt dare say anything anyway!!!!) x

 

[lozzy21]

Chloe im sure hes not

 

[mummyclo]

He is and i am! I can't even look at my tummy
I don't feel like me at all anymore, i just feel like a machine
DOn't get me wrong i love being a mum and i love Freddie but i just feel crap!

 

[Nessicle]

chloe I'm sure hes not repulsed hun but I know what you mean I feel really embarrassed by my body especially when OH calls me 'whale-ish' as a 'joke' - yeah hilarious....

I've been stuck in the house since November so totally understand and feel as fed up as everyone else, i cant get around the house properly and never have time for myself and still feel really down about the birth and not being able to beastfeed so you're really not alone but speak to your HV she'll be able to help xx

Sam i totally understand the guilty feeling that you should be doing something baby related! Or when Ava is awake if I'm not holding her and taking to her I feel guilty but seriously I cant sit there all day holding her

I'm so tired its unreal, i havent had a full nights sleep since July! Ava hardly sleeps during the day at the moment so its constant nappy changes and feeds and I do all the night feeds too and it takes me an hour to feed, change and settle her back down too so averaging about 4 hours a night...

 

[ducky1502]

Emydra I'm sooo sorry to hear that Sending you all the love in the world to you and your little one.

Chloe - Don't be silly, your OH won't be repulsed by you! I've been very lucky body wise but obviously my body isn't exactly what it used to be, saggier boobs and still got a lil mummy tummy but I don't care I let it all hang out still lol. All the changes are due to our little boy and I think my OH appreciates that and loves that I'll still walk around naked lol even though deep down I'm not 100% confident at all.

I was told that PND often doesn't kick in until 6wks+ so it's definately not too late to be feeling down. Just keep an eye on it, we're all still full of hormones and adjusting to a HUGE life change.

 

[Nessicle]

I've got awful period pains tonight and muscular pains in my tummy - I had to chase the cat and bend down fast to pick him up stop him getting on the baby stuff and think Ive hurt myself

 

[spencerbear]

Hi...

I'm 10 pages behind (which I will probably read) but this is the first time i've been on since the beginning of one of the worse ordeals in my life.

I thought I'd keep you all informed since the support on bnb is always a blessing.

On the 18th, Silas had just woken up for his roundabout midnight feed. He fed for only 5 mins, (which he does sometimes, then another 5 mins in an hour or so) then wouldn't settle. He had little intermitant cries but they didn't last for long and I dosed beside him till about 3.30am, when I decided he should probably take some more feed.

I noticed him arching himself to breathe, and he cried a little, it sounded weak. The scariest thing I've ever been through was to pick his little body out of his crib whilst his chest worked so hard to breathe, eyes half open, white as a sheet. The bit that got me was how floppy he was and I started crying, rang up my maternity ward to check with them - they said to ring an ambulance.

I rang my parents in a state of tears, who rang me the ambulance (I guess I refused to believe whatever was wrong with him could be so serious) and I held him (for the last time so far since) whilst the ambulance arrived.

He was given Oxygen and rushed to the childrens hospital. It seemed like ages before I got to see him, I was a wreck and in my PJs, slippers and a coat.

He had Xrays and I was told he most likely had Bronchitis. He had an IV in his head and was being given a high percentage of oxygen via a mask, I was told he was too sick to stay on a normal ward and he went off to intensive card.

It took the guts of two hours to get him set up on a million lines and a ventilator, also sedation. At a later stage he also got a catherter. The problem had been with his little nose - they couldn't get the tube up it for his air so it had to be strapped in his mouth. His little face is all covered in tape to hold it in place , they had managed to get a feeding tube in however and it wasn't long before I expressed and they started giving him my milk (I was leaking everywhere by that stage and expressed 8oz of milk ).

So he has physio twice a day to help get the gunk out of his lungs, one on one care and lots of machines all hooked up to him. There was another little 4 week old baby who had the same thing, he had actually stopped breathing when he was bought in...I'm so glad we were in when we were, Silas was tiring quickly. The other baby had been there a week, but was going down to a normal ward that day - which is encouraging.

He had two ultrasounds donw of his brain yesterday (through the soft spot) because he had some worrying movements apparently, so now the neuro people are involved. The scans looked normal though, which is good - but he's still on precautionary meds for meningitis. I'm hoping they won't have to do a lumbard puncture or a CT scan but it could happen. You spend all the time wishing it was you and not your baby.

I've been down as much as I can, I can't stand being away from him. I feel like a cold zombie and stupidly tired despite having more sleep than i'm used too. I'm going down again now - I'm sure you can imagine what i'm going through. I'm a wreck. A bloody wreck. The only comfort I have is that he's getting my milk so I keep on expressing, I just want to hold him but I am grateful I can touch him and kiss his head. They are taking him off one sedative this morning so the neuro team can observe his movements - I'm just hoping it'll be good news today.

Sending big to both you and silas. My eldest son had somethign similar happen and had menengitus when he was just 2 weeks old, so i know how frightening it can be and will be thinking of you both right now x x

 

[mummyclo]

chase the cat!!
Sorry

 

[lozzy21]

Chloe it gets better as they get older. Do you go to any groups or get to see friends much? I find that helps me feel more like me and less like a cow.

 

[mummyclo]

Well...im not really a group sorta person and im a bit ashamed to admit this, i have no friends (no close friends anyway)

 

[YoungNImum]

Lozzy is right, i seen a close work friend today havnt seen her from leaving work, and it was really good having a catch up and she held eva most of the time, she drove us down to town an bought lunch to bring back to mine it was really nice seeing a fresh face.