Determined to get a sticky BFP?

[tas]

natopmt,
Its so confusing lol. I think Il pop along and have a chat with my gp and let him know what im doing. Just want to make sure im doing everything I can this time before we get preggers again... need my tests done and the results back too.

thank you x

 

[padbrat]

Hi NATO... you did better than me... I laughed my head off!!! He has a proper shiner and the dog is sulking ... think he might have a headache LMAO.

A&E wouldn't scan me... so no help.. GRRRR

Hubby is going to phone the maternity ward first thing tomorrow morning and see if they can be persauded to bring my scan forward to tomorrow so we can get things moving. I really hope they can as these cramps bloody HURT

 

[californiamom]

Nato, I read 200mg daily as well but that includes your diet. If you eat fruits and veggies, you are getting a good amount of B6 and you will probably find about 5-20mg in your prenatal multi. I did do 100mg until ovulation and then I just started to cut the pills in half. I also continued taking the 50mg (w/DRs permission) after conception. Too much B6 can be dangerous so I was playing it on the safe side. You can ask your DR if you're not sure.

 

[Allie84]

Good grief padbrat. I cannot even believe it! That is shocking. I don't understand how they couldn't squeeze you in for a scan while you were at the hospital!?

Like californiamom and kelster, I got scanned right in the ER. I'm assuming they have an ultrasound machine somewhere close to the ER and they could fit you in..... I sincerely wish you the best going forward this week. I hope you get that scan asap! It sounds like your OH is being really supportive and helpful, so that's good. Take care

 

[Allie84]

On the BFP note, I just got back from my post mc appt with my primary care doctor and he told me I could start TTC today if I wanted. He said since I was only 5 weeks there was no lasting effect on my uterus or lining or anything. He gave me an exam and said it all looked good, so that's good news. I'm ready to move on and try again...but then, I feel bad when I say 'move on' because I don't want to forget the bay I lost.
They're double checking to make sure my hcg has gone down to zero so once I get the phone call about that I'll know what to do. Part of me is worried it won't have gone down though yet (maybe something still in there?), so I'll guess we'll see.
Good luck to everyone for their BFPs.

 

[kelster823]

Hi ladies

just popping in to say HI and to see how everyone is doing?

Padbrat how are you feeling sweets? gosh I just feel so horrible for you

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I just had a REALLY bad day today-- 1 month ago today I found out I was pregnant and now I am empty...

My brother sent me a photo of their scan today with the lil bean.. I am SOO happy for them I TRULY TRULY AM.. that is my niece or nephew but it still just tore me apart inside

and of course this Sunday is Mother's Day here in the US..... UGH just another day to remind me of what I was to have

sorry for the but just a REALLY BAD DAY

 

[californiamom]

kelster, I am sorry you are having a bad day. When I first had my m/c in October a friend told me something that really helped pull me through. She said she had a m/c a few months before conceiving her daughter and now she is so glad that she did. Without the loss of that child, she would have never known Jada ... and she truly is an amazing little girl. Once you hold your baby, it will all make sense. Feel better, sweetie.

 

[Chimpette]

Hi Padbrat,

This seems to be a pattern with us, I went through the same kind of thing at christmas, I was in London shopping and noticed that I had some brown discharge, so rushed back home on the train (35mins longest time of my life) and rushed to A&E. Sat there for nearly 4 hours with them saying it's probably nothing, by the time I was seen the scan people had gone home and so I couldn't have a scan done for another 2 days... it really is shocking how they treat us. Also after we found out baby had actually stopped growing 3 weeks before, but because it was xmas and then new years I couldn't have my d&C until 2 weeks after we found out.

With this one we found out on the 13th April, after 2 weeks waiting to see if baby would come out naturally we found out on thursday that baby was still there and so I would need a D&C... and I'm now waiting for my operation date.......! I'm honestly going out of mind waiting! The baby stopped growing 6 weeks ago, so surely there's a risk of me getting an infection if it's left any longer....????

I'm sorry that the hospitals are putting you through this, I would ring them up today and demand a scan, they can't put you through this! My heart goes out to you and your hubby!

xx

 

[padbrat]

Oh Chimpette, we really are going through it aren't we? I am becoming very anti NHS!

Well, after explaining to the nurse in the maternity ward what had happened at A&E she felt sorry for me and got me a scan this morning. It confirmed I had completely miscarried and nothing was left apart from a few clots still to come. My emotions are all over the place, I cried at my hubby, got angry with the sonographer and then had a laugh and joke with the nurse! All in the space of about 10 mins...
The nurse told us she would refer us to the recurrent m/c unit straight away and she took loads of blood from me and some from hubby to start the investigations and she said I would have a pelvic u/s as well before I saw the specialist.

I am so scared that this is all too late and I am too old and I will need IVF or something and I will be too old to be allowed to have it.... GRRRR I dunno, it is all so confusing and I wish these hormones would bugger off!

Kelster I so understand what you are feeling. Everywhere I look there are pregnant women all blissfully large and happy... even on TV ... Americas Next Top Model (safe of all baby stuff or so I thought) had a Mamas and Papas special with pregnancy and babies everywhere!!! Even adverts for the World Cup happily state that there will be 11,000 world cup babies .... AAAHHHHHH is someone having a cosmic joke on me????? WELL STOP IT, IT IS NOT FUNNY!

 

[californiamom]

Padbrat & Chimpette,

This is a horrible situation to be in regardless. How awful that you have poor medical care on top of it all. Chimpette, I am really worried for you and hope you are able to have your D&C very soon. Can you exaggerate your pain or take any action for them to get you in sooner?

Padbrat, big, big hugs, sweetie. I know how devastating this is and you're being ridiculous by feeling that you may be too old. Just be proactive. If you feel that IVF may be your only way, talk to the fertility specialist about it and demand to know answers now. What's the maximum age? What's needed to be done? How long will it take? Get your answers now and have a plan ready. Maybe you can try it the "old fashioned way" until the end of the year? If nothing is working, start your IVF plan. Just know ahead of time what your options are and the steps that you need to take to be able to hold your baby next year!

 

[padbrat]

Californianmum I wish it was that easy to do things with the NHS! The cut off date for IVF here is 39... my next birthday gulp...

and whilst they are testing us I am not allowed to get pregnant otherwise they stop testing and we could just be right where we are now without the tests.

On a positive note they have already taken our bloods and they will do the referral to the recurrent m/c unit. I have to have a pelvic u/s and the labs have to come back with the results before I can see the consultant. I am just praying we can get to that point before we have to move and I will have to start again with another primary health trust (in the UK all of the different counties (UK version of states) do things differently for healthcare), so whilst Cambridge may be very proactive with m/c care with small waiting lists Surrey might be the opposite....

Just must remember to keep breathing, keep looking for the sunshine so I don't get sucked down and to take one step at a time...

 

[Sparky67]

I am sorry that things didn't work out this time Padbrat.

The care we got in the NHS was great - we were seen for a scan at 8.30am the day after going to the GP at 5.00pm with spotting (they usually refer the same day, but I'll let them off that given the time we saw the doctor).

The second scan was booked on a Thursday for the following Monday, but that wasn't an emergency one. We were offered management straight away, but asked for another scan in a week which they agreed to without a problem. I then rang and asked if I could be booked for the op straight after that scan so we didn't get sent home again, and they did.

I guess its just pot luck (which it really shouldn't be!)

I hope you get some answers with your tests - I am 42 so time has already ran out for me.

 

[NatoPMT]

ahh paddy, massive hug poppet - im so sorry

i know i said the same about age (and am still saying the same) but im nearly 39 and it WILL happen, a few bumpers all clamoured about their age when i said it a month a month ago too, and one has just had her scan and is doing well. Glad youre getting the right care now, all it takes is one nurse to side step all the crap - when you get answers then you can be treated. Look after yourself and dont go near the dog.

and is there a new series of america's next top model i am missing??

Thanks Cali, i am vegetarian and eat about 30 a day so will heed your advice and drop to 50mg tomorrow (should be ovulating tonight / tomorrow)

on that note, i phoned my sister today getting worried about the paint fumes, and she said 'thats the sort of thing mum worries about, just get on with it and stop being silly'

i felt all reassured and put the phone down, then remembered when she was pregnant 5 years ago and she screamed at me for standing 10ft away from her while having a cig. And we were outside, in the garden.

Dont remember her being all relaxed and earth mother about it back then.

Thats great news Allie, and im sure theres nothing left if they scanned you - dont worry lovey.

Big hug kel and chimp

 

[kelster823]

Hi ladies

Padbrat OH sweetie I am truly gutted for u... (( hugs )) from across the pond

Thinking for you all- Cali- Nato- Sparky- Chimp-Allie-Tas

 

[Allie84]

Wow, alot's happened since I was on here yesterday. Chimpette and padbrat, I am so sorry I'm glad they got your bloods taken and scanned you finally, padbrat. Hopefully you have some answers soon. Kelster, big hugs back to you and I hope today is a better day than yesterday. Take care everyone. My thoughts are with you all.

 

[padbrat]

ahh paddy, massive hug poppet - im so sorry

i know i said the same about age (and am still saying the same) but im nearly 39 and it WILL happen, a few bumpers all clamoured about their age when i said it a month a month ago too, and one has just had her scan and is doing well. Glad youre getting the right care now, all it takes is one nurse to side step all the crap - when you get answers then you can be treated. Look after yourself and dont go near the dog.

and is there a new series of america's next top model i am missing??

Thanks Cali, i am vegetarian and eat about 30 a day so will heed your advice and drop to 50mg tomorrow (should be ovulating tonight / tomorrow)

on that note, i phoned my sister today getting worried about the paint fumes, and she said 'thats the sort of thing mum worries about, just get on with it and stop being silly'

i felt all reassured and put the phone down, then remembered when she was pregnant 5 years ago and she screamed at me for standing 10ft away from her while having a cig. And we were outside, in the garden.

Dont remember her being all relaxed and earth mother about it back then.

Thats great news Allie, and im sure theres nothing left if they scanned you - dont worry lovey.

Big hug kel and chimp

Stay away from the dog LMAO Nato Hubby's shiner has really come out now... all purple and yellow... looks like he is wearing eyeshadow! Keeps telling the guys at work that I beat him up LOL

Also, blame the hormones.. not Americas Naxt Top Model, but Britans Next Top Model had the Mamas and Papas special thing.... NIGHTMARE!

At least they are looking at me now... so I do feel kinda comforted by that.... and of course the lovely Kelster's hugs from across the pond

 

[kelster823]

hi ladies :wave:

how is everyone this morning?

Padbrat--- how are you?


Nato, Cali, Allie, Sparky, Tas (oh how I am hoping I didn't miss anyone) you all have a wonderful day- just remember we all woke up this morning and it each day will get better. we have to be STRONG and be FIGHTERS.. I am BOUND AND DETERMINED to get a sticky bean and be the bestest mommy I can be....

 

[padbrat]

Hi Kelster. I love it when you come on because you make me feel so much more hopeful.

I am still tired and sore and bleeding... am feeling a bit sorry for myself really... but am dragging myself round to a friends house tonight to watch the footie in an effort to make myself leave the house... which I would quite happily not ever leave at the mo. Am listening to happy music ... Black Eyed Peas I Gotta Feeling... to lift my spirits.

I am lucky to have a wonderful husband who tries his very hardest to support me through this even though his heart is breaking too.

How are you Kelster? You and CaliforniaMum are the PMA queens xx

 

[Sparky67]

Hi Kelster

Today is not a good day! I came off the antibiotics yesterday and although I rarely drink, I felt like getting a bottle of wine and getting drunk... I thought it might be cathartic, but instead I just felt even more depressed. I woke up in the night and had a sobbing fit, then got to work this morning, cried for an hour and got sent home!

I am going to the doctors later (not sure what they can do) and I have left a message with the Counselling service I was given at the hospital.

 

[Sparky67]

Didn't mean to ignore you there Padbrat - cross posting!