I'm so sorry you are going through this, I know those words are not much comfort as all you want right now is to have a healthy baby growing. All I can offer is support in saying you are not alone in this. There are some lovely women who use this part of the forum who have been through exactly what you are. My loss didnt happen in this way, my waters broke & I gave birth 8 hours later. But there are some here who found out at their scan appointment.
You probably are experiencing huge amounts of emotions at the moment, but its also quite common to be feeling 'numb' like this cant possibly be happening. You have got tough journey ahead. Dont expect too much from yourself, its a case of trying to get through each minute, hour and day as best you can.
I dont know if anyone has explained to you what will happen tomorrow, I assume they have. I just want to give you some food for thought about the arrival of your baby. I hope what I am going to say doesnt upset you, but looking back I wish I had some time to think about what I would want to happen. I had no time to make decisions & had to go with my gut instinct at the time. Part of me wishes I had done things differently....but nothing in the world could have prepared me.
They will probably offer you to have photographs taken. If you think you dont want them it might be a good idea to have them taken but kept with your notes, as there may be a time in the future when you will want them. These are something that you wont get chance to have again. I had to ask them to take photos 2 weeks later - I have hands and feet. I regret not having a photo of me and my baby - again its all personal choice but something to think about as its horrible having regrets.
They will ask you if you want to hold your baby. If you do, then spend as long as you need, dont feel like you need to put him/her down too soon. I wish I had held mine longer. Again these are moments that you will remember forever....and they dont have to be sad memories.
They will probably take foot & hand prints for you too. These again are lovely keepsakes - mine have brought me huge comfort.
I also had moulds taken & then silver jewellery made from the imprints. (something I arranged myself a few days later)
I hope tomorrow goes smoothly for you. I hope what I have just said isnt insensitive at this time. In a way I wish I had known then what I know now about how to get as many memories of my much loved baby. I guess so many of us here have had regrets about not having photos etc.
Please know we are here for you, if and when you need us. I'll be thinking of you at this time xxx
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Gemma xx