Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Allie84]

Lucy, cautious optimism it is! How are you feeling? You don't have a ticker so how far alone did you think you were? Does 5 weeks 6 days sound right? Your doctor sounds really positive so I hope you are as well.

Vicky, didn't they check your spine as a teenager in school? As a lifelong hypochondriac, I was worried about scololiosis as a teenager because they checked us all in school one year and I was convinced they had missed it! It seems late to find it and it is weird they didn't mention it before? Oh, well, it sounds so common and treatable but I'm sorry you're in pain!

Nato, woo to getting some extra time off and an amazing doctor. It's refreshing to have a doctor make things happen for you like that. So they will count a chemical as an MC? I feel like I heard that chemicals don't always count towards your numbers of miscarriages, so I'm glad that your doctor is letting you get seen by the recurrent clinic.

Gibs, hope you got some BDing in last night!

I guess I'm the only one other than Cesca not TTC or already pregnant? Last week I had a very obvious ovulation and it felt wrong to skip it! However, I refuse to get pregnant this fat and I was feeling uneasy about my marriage recently. I hope I'm pregnant before I'm 30, though. That gives me over a year to get my life and my fat behind in order.

 

[LucyJ]

Allie I should be 6 weeks by the date of my last period so yeah it does seem right. I feel abit off but not pregnant apart from bein hot and my skin flaring. Had my first accpuncture appointment last night which was good.

Im not sure I feel positive but dont feel negative if that makes sense. I do feel less anxious now.

 

[msarkozi]

glad you had a good ultrasound Luce. Your next one is going to be even better

Allie, you shouldn't let weight stop you from what you want doll. I can bet I weigh more then you. I did lose some weight first before getting pregnant again, but you don't seem to gain as much the second pregnancy. It must be because you are too busy chasing after the first one lol!

Vick, hope your doctor doesn't agree with google either

Nato, I am not sure it is just Canada that believes in it...it just appears that way in our group lol! I was smacked as a child too, with the belt on the bare ass, as well as a hand on the bare ass....I've been slapped across the face as well and what not. I don't do that to Kash. I don't think a beating is the answer. There is a line between abuse and discipline, and I will never cross it.

Allie, are you over the flu yet? I am still dying with my sinuses! I tried the cinnamon/honey thing last night and will try again tonight too. I am going to see a healing person tonight to get my sinuses drained, and I am hoping that helps. I couldn't sleep last night at all because I couldn't breathe. Today is going to be a long day!

 

[Allie84]

Mel, you poor thing!! It sounds awful! My flu hasn't been sinus-y at all, thank goodness. For me it's been a fever and horrible weakness and fatigue and muscle aches. I'm feeling better today thankfully. I still feel week when I am up and moving though, and it's been a week! I just want to feel better already. I hope we are both 100% soon.

Mel, I bet I weigh more than you right now...I'm sure of it. My problem isn't what I gained while pregnant, it's what I've gained in the 14 months since Alistair was born. By the numbers... I weigh 35 lbs more than I did when I got pregnant with Alistair, and I was 15 lbs overweight then, so I am technically right now 50 lbs overweight! It's horrible. And I onlly gained 25 lbs while pregnant, so I'm actually heavier than when I gave birth. Depressing.

Lucy, it sounds spot on to me! When is your next appt or scan?

 

[msarkozi]

Hope you feel better soon! I can't handle the sinuses at all.....I'm used to popping pills for them whenever I get sick, but it's so hard when you are pregnant and can't

oh god, according to the BMI chart, I am almost morbidly obese lol! I'm 5'5" and weigh 208 lbs right now. Weight is a very depressing thing for sure. I have struggled my whole life with it, and even had an eating disorder for awhile (which happened on it's own without my doing). I don't know if you have heard of it down there, but the Visalus shakes really do help. I know it is big in the USA as well as Canada (not sure it is anywhere else, other then Jamaica now). But if you can afford it, it helps. I had lost almost 40 lbs on it over 5-6 months. I still have shakes now, but not for a weight loss tool. I will be using it again for weight loss after baby though.

 

[hoping:)]

Vgibs-too funny about him being too old to do it. TTC is demanding!

Vicky- Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I actually have scoliosis but it is minor. What are the treatment options?

Sparkly- 8 weeks with twins is exciting! When do you go for your next scan?

Nato- how wonderful you get an extra month with Eloise! Will they run a miscarriage panel on you since you have been referred? Did you not have that done before conceiving Eloise?

Lucy- I responded in your journal but I am very optimistic for you! A gestational sac and yolk sac at that stage is great!

Allie- I’m not TTC either. Or do I consider my self trying since we are doing surrogacy? We may be a while off from doing IVF. 30 is a good goal and give you more time with Alistair! You are making positive strides so I’m sure you will be where you want to be as long as you keep it up.

Afm- Still no period! I’m two weeks late. I didn’t know birth control could mess it up this much! I hate birth control and only went on them (I had the copper IUD before) because I need to for the surrogacy. I’ve been cramping on and off for two weeks but nothing. I took a pregnancy test last week and it was negative… I was slightly worried because I was not very regular when taking the pill especially in the beginning.

 

[Allie84]

Amber, birth control DOES suck, I'm so sorry!! Yeah, I considered you TTC because of the surrogacy. You'll be pregnant after all. But I know what you mean, it's different than conventional TTC!!

Mel, I will look into the shakes! Yeah I am 5/5" and 197. Close to you and I'm not even pregnant! I was 165 when I got pregnant and 190ish when I gave birth. Wahh wahh. I can't seem to get into exercising anymore. I used to love dancing and zumba and yoga and now I'm like a whale who can barely move and breath when I exercise haha! The thing is I've never had a weight problem before. I became 'slightly' overweight (like 165-170) after marriage and it seems like there's been no going back! Can I blame marraige and a baby???? Please?

 

[msarkozi]

lol you absolutely can I was down to around 170 when I met Gord, and then it started going up up up! It was depressing. When I got pregnant with Kash, I was 208. This time, I was 197 when I got pregnant. I want to be back down to 170 again at the very least. I find I have a much easier time being active during the summer, then I do during the winter. I hibernate in the winter, especially since it is cold. I haven't been on my treadmill or doing yoga since September I think Once the weather warms up and this mountain of snow is gone, I will go for walks again. I am one of those people that uses the excuse as well that I just don't have time to exercise.

The weight will come off though. I think one of our biggest problems with it, is we obsess about it too much instead of just trying to be healthy. I know I need to start drinking a lot more water, and stop having a diet pop once a day!

 

[heart tree]

Just checking in for Lucy's scan results. Sounds positive. How far along do you think you are? How are you feeling?

Vicky, I don't have scoliosis, but know many people who do. Haven't read back to see what the other girls are saying as words of encouragement.

Allie, I'm not preggo or TTC! How are you feeling?

Nato, what a nice gift from your little bean.

Too shattered to read or write more. I was up every hour with Delilah. I don't know what is going on with her, but she is sleeping terribly. She kept farting every time she woke, so I'm wondering if she was in discomfort from trapped wind. She didn't poop yesterday. I just put her in her bouncy chair and turned on cartoons. Bless the TV! I think I'm going to lose it if I don't get some sleep soon. Going to try transitioning to her crib this weekend. Hoping that will help.

 

[VGibs]

I am one of those "fat" people. I've been a big girl my whole life. I've done dieting and working out like crazy. But I always look the same, I just have extra padding in places sometimes. I've come to love and accept all my wobbily bits. I know when I need to lay off the snacks and eat more healthy but I am determined to never be on a diet again. I eat better when I follow my own lead. And I don't get obsessed with my food. I'm very active and have a very physical job. I don't have diabetes and my blood pressure is perfect. But because I have a high BMI my doc says I am "high risk" for pregnancy. Which annoys me to no end. That is why I went with a midwife. Because they didnt judge the health of my pregnancy on my weight.

 

[msarkozi]

Hearty, hope you get some sleep soon. She definitely could have had some gas pain if she didn't poop yesterday. This happens with Kash at times too. She could be teething as well? Have you tried any solids yet? She might be getting hungry at night as well.

 

[vickyd]

I went in for a consultation with the ortho after work. He isnt to concerned based on te x-ray, although he suggested an MRI in the near future to have a clearer picture. There are some osteophytes present and some stenosis which is most likely the cause of the pain rather than the slight scoliosis. He didnt suggest any treatment as such, i need to correct my posture and start excersize and maybe change my bed matress to something a bit firmer...

Hearty i have no advice, Hero is still a terrible sleeper. Tonight i will be attempting sleep seperation as shown by the supernanny! Im so not looking forward to it but Hero needs to start learning to fall asleep on her own, in her own bed rather than me cuddling her to sleep in my bed. I love our routine but since she has never learned to self soothe when she wakes at night she needs me to repeat the whole process.

The weight issue, lets not go there. im 5.3 and now 150 pounds and my doc thinks I should loose at least 10 pounds before i get pregnant again. I guess every doctor has a different opinion. I hate dieting, I seriously get dpressed when im deprived of tasty food. Today ive eaten broccoli, cauliflower and 2 boiled eggs for dinner WITHOUT CHEESE!!! I love my cheese....

 

[hoping:)]

Amanda- I'm sorry you are havng a rough time! Everything is so much harder when you are tired. I hope the crib transition helps

Vicky- I'm glad they are not concerned. I hope the posture and bed change provide some relief.

Regarding the weight issues- As long as you are all following healthy eating habits and exercising regularly (I'm sure our LOs provide plenty of that for all of us!) you will get where you need/want to be. I went through a time where I had to deal with eating disorders. In highschool would have to run x amount of miles or do x amount of weight lifting before I allowed myself to eat. In college I was bulimic. Body image weighs heavily on all of us and can impact every part of your life. A good friend of mine always used to say "when you feel good, you look good!" So true because we are the harshest critics of our selves. Just remember that little steps are progress too but consistency will help you reach your goals. I highly recommend reading The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson... it is a fantastic book to motivate you in all areas of your life. Good luck to all of you!

 

[Round2]

Too shattered to read or write more. I was up every hour with Delilah. I don't know what is going on with her, but she is sleeping terribly. She kept farting every time she woke, so I'm wondering if she was in discomfort from trapped wind. She didn't poop yesterday. I just put her in her bouncy chair and turned on cartoons. Bless the TV! I think I'm going to lose it if I don't get some sleep soon. Going to try transitioning to her crib this weekend. Hoping that will help.

Bryce has been sleeping like that for last two months!! I get the odd night of relief when he'll do a 3-4 hour shift, but for the most part he never sleeps more than 1.5 hours at a time. I just don't know what to do either, everyone in our house sick and I'm at the end of my rope. I've been looking up CIO methods as I'm starting to think it's bahvioural. I hate the idea of letting him cry though. He seems too little for that.

Yay Lucy!!! Sounds good so far!!

 

[vickyd]

Ok so i lasted a total of 7 min of CC. Also Hero climbed out of her cot in two simple moves so the sleep seperation isnt gonna work out. I cant stand to hear her cry and scream like that. I feel like im torturin her!!!!

 

[LucyJ]

Hearty I think I should be 6 weeks. Im feeling ok I dont feel pregnant as such but I do feel more positive which is a good sign. Everything feels a little tender but she external and internal scan she couldnt get the best of view with the internal as mine uterus is tipped forward so the external scan with the high frequency prop gave a better picture. We had such a long wait and by the time we got home after had some food Steve decided not to go back to work, the freezing rain put him off so Ive been able to rest and Benjamins had his daddy around which he loves.

Sorry about the lack of sleep hope the transition into the crib helps and you can get some sleep.

 

[LucyJ]

I couldnt cope with cc either vicky I used bits of all the different sleep techniques and created my own. We did get there in the end but it was hard and Benjamin didnt climb out of the cot which would of made it impossible. Do you think Hero would settle in a big bed?

 

[msarkozi]

Hero might be ready for a bigger bed? I know they tend to say if they can climb out, then it's time to move them. I was lucky and Kash never climbed out of his crib, but he is doing fantastic in his big boy bed. It's hard to get him up from it some mornings lol!

The crying is definitely hard to deal with. Everyone has to do what will work for them. I did the crying method when he was young, and still do it every now and then. I know the difference in his cries too, so I can tell if something is truly wrong or not when he is crying, and I will go in right away if it is. Otherwise I let him be for a period of time before I go comfort (if he hasn't fallen back to sleep before).

I have a friend that her daughter is turning 3 next month, and she won't go to sleep without her mom in the room. She has resorted to faking sleeping in there by making it look like a person under the blanket on the chair, but her daughter has caught on and will call for her in the night. My friend is completely exhausted.

You will find something that will work for you, and then things will go smooth Hang in there, as it will take some time for any routine. You are doing a great job

 

[vickyd]

Mel i was kinda hopin by the time she turned 3 she would'nt need me anymore...Guys im pretty sure Hero is reactin much worse than most kids. She screams till she is blue in the face, veins poppin out and her whole body becomes very rigid and i cant even pick her up. Its like she is havin a seizure or something....
I was actually thinkin of getting a toddler bed, Alex thinks she will be climbing into our bed or wandering throuhg the house (she also opens doors)...

Lucy its ood that you arent as stressed, I didnt really have any symptoms with Hero until 8 weeks and i was a mess lol!!

 

[msarkozi]

awe poor Hero. She really gets upset. I wish you luck with it Vick! In time it will work out with whatever method you try.

I have heard lots of people put baby gates up in the doorway of the bedroom when they switch to toddler beds. That way they can't just get up and roam around. I have always closed Kash's door because of my cats, and I am lucky he hasn't figured out how to open a classic knob yet lol!