Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[msarkozi]

yeah I am not sure exactly what they have in mind for when writing people off of work; like how far in advance. I know I was written off with Kash, and it was one month prior to his due date. I am guessing depending on circumstances and healthwise they might write you off sooner?

 

[msarkozi]

So I had a crap day yesterday. Gord's grandmother passed away, so we spent all morning trying to get him a flight out from here, and then from Edmonton to Saint John, NB. We finally managed to get it all sorted out and got him on his way. Then that evening I had to deal with trying to get a rental car and everything for him, which I told him would have been alot easier to deal with during the day then that evening, especially if I needed to run back out to work to use the scanner or fax machine at all (thankfully I didn't have to this time).

While I was picking up Kash from daycare, my phone rang yet again, and it came up as unknown. I actually answered it this time for some reason (I never answer those calls), and it was his younger sister. She told me she was in the hospital because she tried to kill herself! FM! I really wasn't sure what to say at all, and it was the worst time to try and talk when I was trying to pick Kash up. I moved around the corner so I had a bit of privacy, but dealing with Kash wasn't as easy and he started screaming at one point because he was upset. So she let me go and unfortunately I couldn't hear her say which hospital she was at to call her again. I phoned Gord and told him when I got home. I was stressed all night from everything, and was so exhausted!

I managed to track down the phone number for where she is at, and will be phoning her on my lunch break to check in with her. Still really not sure what to say at all, but hopefully the words come when they need to. I am guessing she needs to talk more then anything.

I was talking to the clinic this morning as well for Gord, and while I had them on the line I asked if my GD test results were back already from Tuesday, and they are, and they are positive! So I guess it's time to make sure I start following the diet (bye bye sweets - so depressing). I don't actually see the doctor until Wednesday, but I shouldn't continue on pretending I don't know.

Hope everyone else's day is going better

 

[vickyd]

Mel what a day... Sorry to hear of Gord's grandma passing and OMG his sister..... Are they close? Does his family know she attempted to take her life? I can only imagine how worried you must have been...
Bummer about the positive GD test...Will you at least be written off work sooner again?

Not much going on here, i didnt do anything for my birthday as still on antibiotics. They are starting to make me nauseated and i cant wait till sunday when im done. Alex did get me flowers and a cake though, and we had some sexy time which was good. I guess im just to used to partying on my birthday lol!

Hero is now at the "mummy whats this?" phase! I thought it wouldnt start for another year at least! Its funny but also a bit tiring lol! She can also now sing 2 songs if you can believe it! Where has my baby gone? Its so scary how fast time is moving...

 

[Round2]

Mel, I'm really sorry to hear about DH's grandmother and your SIL. What a crappy day indeed. It sucks about the GD too. Hope things are going better for you today.

Vicky, awee...that phase is cute. A little tiring, but cute. Wait till you get to the "I don't care what you say and I'm doing it anyways" phase. Fun time, can't wait for what is next!!

My other kid seems to be going through an obsession with bathrooms. Is this a boy thing? Everytime he hears the door open to the bathroom he makes a bee-line for it. If he beats me (which often does) I find him attempting to drink toilet water or sucking toilet paper. My daughter NEVER did this!!

I'm happy to report that we're now on night 4 of only getting up twice a night for feeds. He's doing so well!! He goes down at 7pm, gets up at midnight and 3 am for a quick feed. Then he gets up for good at 6am. Next week, I'm going to try to wean him down to one feed. As much as I'm happy about the sleep, I have to admit I am missing breast feeding him so much. He barely feeds durring the day and definately prefers his bottle. It makes me sad that my days of BF'ing mom are coming to an end. I know, I'm such a sob...I just love staring down at his beautiful little face!!

 

[VGibs]

I really missed breast feeding too. I was more attached to the quiet cuddle time then anything.

Mel - Holy crap. I'd tell ya to crack a king can *only if the mountains are blue* but the whole "pregnant" thing. Did you have any GD symptoms?

 

[Sparkly]

Bloody Hell Mel, What a horrible day Sorry about the GD too hun I was tested for it last week and passed, but I do have another at 28 weeks as I'm high risk to develop it. Did you have it with Kash?

round - glad to hear that you are getting better sleep honey, but sorry about the BF'ing coming to an end.

Vicky - when you're off the tabs you can have a belated birthday piss up

AFM - I'm doing good, bump is growing big now and both babies have started giving good hard kicks these days, I don't feel twin 2 as much as her placenta is anterior, but no doubt as she gets bigger I'll feel her more. I've started to get some backache if I do too much, but as I already get sciatica I kinda expected it to happen sooner or later. We've been doing lots of buying and have started to prepare the nursery....it's scarily starting to feel real now!!

 

[msarkozi]

Kash has been doing the "what's this" and "who's that" for a bit now. It does get tiring. But now he is starting to repeat what I say too, so I need to watch myself. One thing he says all the time that is so annoying is "huh?"! it's is driving me crazy!!!! but after I caught myself saying it to Gord the other day, I realized that came from me :/

Hope you are feeling better soon Vick!

LMAO to drinking toilet water! The only obsession for Kash in the bathroom, is every time I go to the bathroom. I can't have piece and quiet as he has to be in there with me every time! He doesn't do it to Gord, just me.

I talked to my SIL this afternoon and it's the relationship with her husband and her feeling alone that caused her to attempt it. She is in meetings at the hospital and hopefully that helps. I told her I will call each day to check on her. Only some family members know right now. Her parents divorced when she was just a couple years old (her father was abusive), and so none of them have a relationship with their father. And only the oldest one has a relationship with their mother. The only time his mother ever talks to us, is when she wants money. So the family life is pretty messed up as well. None of the siblings really talk either. They all went their separate ways when they were younger, and they all live in different areas of Canada. Gord is going to try and see her while he is there for the funeral, so I hope he is able to. It might help her.

To be honest, I am not sure if I have any of the symptoms lol! This is what got me off of work last time, so it will get me off work this time too It's funny though because with having it last time, I still only had a 7 lb baby. It did nothing to affect Kash at all. And even so far with this one, he is measuring a week behind. So for me, I think it's more of an overweight thing to begin with, and I just need to control my diet.

 

[msarkozi]

oh I meant to say about Bryce too....way to go Bryce for the sleeping at night

 

[VGibs]

Yay for getting off early, boo to Gord's family not being "happy".

So, I just got my marks back for my "Studies in Aboriginal and Native Culture" class....99.7%. I was floored. I was so happy and I worked so hard. And it comes on the cusp of a reserve in Northern Ontario calling a state of emergency because there is such a high rate of suicide. Hopefully when I finish my courses I can be of some help to someone, somewhere.

 

[msarkozi]

ok, someone needs to break the silence again, so here it is

Gord is flying home today, thank goodness. He left New Brunswick yesterday and had to overnight in Edmonton, and then will be home this afternoon. I think Kash will be very happy to have daddy home.

I have been talking to his sister, and she seemed a lot more chipper yesterday when I was talking with her. Her aunt wants to bring her out to Alberta, which I think will be a smart move. If it's like she says, and her husband is the cause of her hurt and pain, then she needs to walk away from him and start over, and coming out west will be a good change.

Other then that, I have my prenatal appointment tomorrow and I am praying that they will give me a delivery date!! I have a feeling I am going to be extremely disappointed though, yet again!

I have been following the gd diet that I was on last time, and so far so good. Even lost a pound since last week! Hopefully I can stick to it.

Hope everyone else is doing well

 

[Sparkly]

Hi Mel, glad the diet is going well for you. Is it easy to follow? I saw your latest bump pic on FB and you look great

I don't know if I've ever put a bump pic in here, I'll post one I took the other day....

Twin bump @ 22 weeks.....

 

[msarkozi]

that is such a cute twin bump how are the twins doing? and how are you feeling?

Yeah it is pretty easy to follow. They had given me a chart listing how many carbs, proteins and fats I am supposed to have at each meal. So I am writing it all out in a journal with each meal and snack, and how many of each for the meal.....then I use my categories with foods to pick for each meal. For example, lunch and supper are the same - 4 carbs, 3 proteins, and 2 fats. So for lunch today I had a turkey sandwich (bread = 2 carbs, turkey = 2 protein, mayo = 2 fats, pickles = free food), an orange (1 carb), a banana (1 carb), and cheese (1 protein). And then I added red/orange/yellow peppers on the side as well for a free food. With planning it out, it makes it a lot easier.

 

[Round2]

Ah Sparkly, you look beautiful!! So, so happy for you. I can't wait for these girls to get here!!

Mel, glad to hear things have settled down a bit. The diet sounds like it's going well.

Been a busy week here. My mom is in the hospital. She has dementia and lives in a basement appartment alone. She's not taking care of herself or remembering to eat. Her room mate found her heading out the door at night time for a job interview! There was no interview, she just imagined it. Anyways, that freaked me out so I took her to the ER. They're finally taking her condition serioulsy this time and are keeping her till they can find a good place for her to live.

Things are still okay sleep wise. Bryce feeds twice a night now, but he gets up around 5:30 am each day. I've tried everything to get him back down, but he just seems really awake at that time. Think I just have an early riser on my hands.

I've decided that I'm not going to wean Bryce before our trip to SoCal/LV in June. The thought of it was stressing me out so much, that I wasn't looking forward to our trip. I think it's best if I just pump and continue to feed him in the morning and bedtime once we get back. That way I can still BF when I go back to work and maintain some closeness. I'm going to need it emotionally. I just hope he still wants to BF when we get back! I'll be devestated if he doesn't.

 

[LucyJ]

Mel so sorry to hear about gords family must be so hard for everyone glad his sister is doing better. Good luck with your appointment hope you get a date.

Sparkly you look fab how are you feeling?

Round that's seems like a good plan I found weening really stressful good your getting a bit more sleep. Sorry to hear about your mum that's good they are taking it seriously.

Vicky that's so cute Benjamin is saying what's that now but tends to answer himself especially if he can hear something "what's that?.... bird tweet tweet" very cute.

V sorry about not being able to get signed of work early.

Afm: I'm exhausted at the moment not sleeping at night just feel wiped out have been having with my breathing since Saturday so went to drs today had an appointment with the nurse but she wanted me to see the dr my oxygen levels are ok, not wheezing and lungs sound clear so she thinks it could be anemia I then had to have blood taken to check which was a slight disaster as when I was walking home my arm starting bleeding and it now really hurts. I've got my 20 week scan on Friday seeing the consultant as well.

 

[msarkozi]

My doctor appt got cancelled on me this morning, 10 minutes before I was supposed to go. I wasn't too happy. They told me they would get me in on the 6th and I said no that's too late, as I still need to be seen about the gestational diabetes (as I only knew because one of the workers there told me the results) and get the prescription for the testing supplies. As well, I should be seen every 2 weeks and it's been a month now since my last prenatal appt. So she said to go in with Gord Monday morning for his appt.

Round - sorry to hear about your mom. We went through this with my grandma (she passed 2 yrs ago this July from it). The police had to be involved as she kept calling them saying my grandpa was stealing from her and everything. Once the police were involved, they pushed harder to get her the treatment she needed. They ended up having a nurse go into their house in the afternoons to help her out with bathing and stuff. They also put the push on for her to get into a home. It's so sad really that it happens. I hope your mom gets the care she needs!

Luce - I hope you are feeling better. It's hard to believe you are at the 20 week mark already. Halfway there!!

Yogi had her baby as well, a baby boy. I am sure most of you seen that on fb already. The pictures she posted of Ali and Ben were pretty cute.

About Gord's sister, I think I am withdrawing now. I tried phoning her yesterday at the usual time, and they told me she was no longer there. I was dumbfounded when they said that. Finally last night I managed to track her down, and she is at home. She was talking gibberish in her message, and made a comment that she is at home but she should still be in the hospital. So I asked her why she is home then, and this morning she said that she got kicked out of the hospital because she got upset at a nurse. It totally does not make sense to me at all.

First of all, if you are admitted to the hospital, you wouldn't be kicked out of it. If you were there voluntarily, then yes I could see it happening. She also said that she was not allowed to go back home to her husband.....well that's where she is! So this is just not starting to add up at all. I'm not really sure the attempted suicide even happened, and that she faked it and went into the hospital on her own to try and get help. She keeps making comments to me about coming out west, and so I am starting to think she is hinting to me that she wants us to give her money so she can get here. I feel bad for not believing her much anymore (even though I will not tell her that), but I can't be involved with the drama now at this point.

 

[Sparkly]

Mel - the diet looks okay to follow, glad it's going well for you.

Round - Sorry about your Mom Glad they're taking it seriously though.

Lucy - good luck for your scan on Friday, you're nearly halfway there hun Sorry about the crap sleeping

AFM - The twins seem to be doing great, they're giving me some good hard kicks these days...I it I have my 24 week growth scan next week, so fingers crossed they are growing well. I am starting to feel the strain of having 2 babies in there, I used to have bad sciatica some years ago, and it has raised it's ugly head again with the weight of the girls on my back so it does cause me pain when I've been on my feet for a bit, but as soon as I rest I'm okay. As for sleep, well I am never sure how well that I will sleep, usually 2 nights a week are spent with me lying awake for hours, sometimes for no reason, other times my skin is itching all over and sometimes I'm just hungry plus I have to pee every 2 hours through the night but I just see that as good practice for when the babies arrive! My husband is totally in love with my bump and talks to the babies all the time lol! We have started to get the nursery together and both keep walking into the room just staring around, so amazed and happy that we have got this far at long last

 

[VGibs]

Mel- ya I would be backing away from that situation completely. I have ZERO contact with my SIL for the same reasons. She faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage and blamed the miscarriage on me. Well her technical answer was "I want to blame it on you. But I'm not. But you caused it." *say WHA?* It's so not worth it to have any drama at all let alone invite it to your province!

 

[msarkozi]

awe that is so cute Sparkly. Good luck at your scan as well

Gord was telling me last night too when I was talking to him about it, that this isn't the first time she has done this either and that's why her family doesn't talk to her much. I told him I was done with it. I see she keeps posting stuff on fb now too, and so I go back and check every now and then to see what drama she is posting on there. At least when she comes to Edmonton (if she does actually come), it is still just over 900 km away from me. So it's not like we are going to see each other often either.

 

[LucyJ]

Sparkly that's so sweet about your hubby and yay to getting things ready. Hope your back doesn't get to bad plenty of rest.

Mel sorry about your appointment being canceled so frustrating. Hope gords sister is ok sounds like a difficult situation not a stress you need at the moment.

20 week scan tomorrow and I'm nervous please keep us in your thoughts.

Hope everyone's ok.

 

[Allie84]

Hi everyone! I'm back from California. I had a LOVELY time with Amanda and Delilah!!! They were so hospitable and it felt so fun and natural to be with them. We had a lovely picnic in the park and hung out at their house. Amanda and Delilah are both beautiful inside and out. Wow, I was gone 10 days in total so I've maybe missed a lot ....anyways, I will post more later when I've read back.